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When Someone is just too big
May 12 2017
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Seachange73
9 years ago
Just saying that sex with skinny or less than large people, does not guarantee to be good. Had sex with many 'skinny' people as well as those average (or well built) or large. All I can say is this - ' A Dud root is a dud root'. 😝 Being skinny or fat does not mean you know your way around pleasing your partners. Lol 😜
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RHP User
9 years ago
mroptimist put your name aside when taking what is said on profiles. If you take it that whatever size is specified, if there's no body shots take it as one higher, you'll probably do ok. Optimism on sizing does abound here. Even on many profiles with body shots it's at least 10 to 1 between those who are using rose coloured glasses and turning 'large' into 'a little extra padding' versus overly critical and putting a size that's undeservedly worse. For guys, from couple profiles looked at, many seem to confuse athletic as what they do, versus how they look. Now all body shapes are fine, lest any of that is taken as a pot shot, but dishonesty about your appearance is still dishonesty. And dishonesty is not sexy at all. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
I am going to take my extra padding and go get some popcorn brb!!!! 😯 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
Didn't you yourself say you were a bigger girl? I might be getting you mixed up with someone else, I just seemed to remember you saying that. Doesn't look like it in your main pic. Regardless, I guess that doesn't necessarily influence what you are attracted to. Just wondered though after reading your comment 😃
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RHP User
9 years ago
And one person's dud root is the next person's best fuck fest of all time, never forget that 😉 we should never assume it's them, that would be just plain ignorant/arrogant. I've never left one encounter, even a few not so great ones, assuming every woman would be equally disappointed. We're all different re stimulation/attraction/chemistry etc so one male lover isn't going to 'fit' with every woman, and vice versa. And thank God for that. It's exactly that x factor chemical thing, animal attraction, before anything else even starts, it's the 'x' in sex that we chase and that which will never be identical with the different dynamic between that other person paired with a different partner 😃
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Seachange73
9 years ago
Who said it's them only? Not stupid nor arrogant to assume I'm gods gift to man. My quote was applicable to anyone. Myself included. We all have our bad days too. We have dud moments. Some more than others. 😁 I can.recall some days, thank God very few, when I'm stressed out and exhausted from work and kids, and ex hubby was frisky. . Hard to get excited. So took one or two for the team. Are you there yet? 😜 A starfish is born 😊
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Seachange73
9 years ago
With your replies to the posts, please address your posts to whomever raised it as we have no idea who you are responding to. This gives the person to reply accordingly and puts your answer in context. The lag or resulting mismatch is due the fact you do not have Instant Posting (IP) rights and may show up minutes or even hours after you have submitted your post. this results in the non synchronous replies popping all over the place. 😕 Just a suggestion so the thread flows better. Cheers
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RHP User
9 years ago
Quoting 'mroptimist' Lily orchid When you make an appointment and someone invites you into their home , tending to get to know someone first not jumping them straight away. I would think it to be impolite to just say " Your too big not like your profile stated" so instead I was respectful and pleasured them anyway. just being courteous If you're "tending to get to know them first and not jumping them straight away"...why do you feel that you HAVE TO pleasure them?!? Like you're doing them a favour or something??If it's a getting to know you meet, surely you can find a polite way of saying thanks for the coffee (or whatever) but I don't think we have any chemisty, etcHow are you respecting them by fucking them even if you really don't want to but you're sucking it up and doing it anyway?? And then most likely ghosting them straight after...I see absolutely no respect in that.
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Seachange73
9 years ago
Exactly my thoughts. OP, if yoi find anyone disdainful for any reason at all, don't fuck them and then come on the forum and complain about it because the experience was not fun for you. It doesn't look good for you. Surely you are mature enough to say NO thanks and before you even meet, set the premise of the meet. Like you both walk away if there is no chemistry or connection. Just the respectful, HONEST and mature approach to meeting people on this type of site. I wonder how your friend feels about your post?
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RHP User
9 years ago
I didn't mean for my post to sound like a lecture, unfortunately that's how it came across. I also thought about it more during the day and to be fair, or unfair to some past acquaintances, some are so lazy and self indulgent, I have wondered if they've ever experienced the heights, due to lack of effort, you know they won't get any more than they're prepared to put in, but who knows? The other starfish might think he's amazing lol 😀
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RHP User
9 years ago
Off topic there. To get back on topic, I have to agree with comments above re going ahead when you didn't want to. That right there could have been the problem. I'd rather a guy told me and it stopped right there 😃 and yes there was one like that, I wasn't feeling he was really into me. I decided to go ahead with that one though, his body was too good to pass up 😀😇
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RHP User
9 years ago
another one who nearly drove over my foot trying to get away 😂😂😂 I swear to God, it was like a drive-by appraisal lol
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RHP User
9 years ago
If gut girth was really the root cause of this problem *giggle* you'd think there would be a heap of slim girls complaining about how painful sex is. Regardless it is always fun to watch an OP savaged by the hordes. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
2 major warning signs with quote above (and soz but I do agree with the ladies here) 1. Why is she inviting you to her home on the first (?) meeting? Dangerous for you or dangerous for her? Whoa there, desperado. Remember, you are not, even if she is... 2. Base standard = non-sexual friend first and anything else is a bonus. Not your cup of tea? Politely end the evening as soon as you can, so you both can get on with your lives without each other. @Lilyorchid - glad I got a giggle out of you with your mouth full in the middle of your work day! If only it were full of something else and not at work 😋 hope you catch a hottie's eye and smile at him like you were thinking of something else and look away... such a cheeky feeling 😉💖 makes your work day more entertaining - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
No I'm not big... I've been the same size since I was 12 yrs old which is kind of a blessing for me 😊 I still get carded at the bloody casino 😠 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
My heart goes out to you that you took offence to Inspirit's comments. She has had her tough moments too. She did apologise to you, I hope you have some space in your heart to forgive and accept her apology. Unfortunately, what's done is done. You can't be anymore careful that what you have been and she didn't mean it. She puts up a hard exterior only because she has been hurt as well. I remember she was 100yrs old and no photo like me once when Forums did get too much, if you remember my hard times. You have a circle of great friends IRL it seems, so don't worry about one little thing people say. You've just let it build up inside. I think you look great, have even sent you flirts saying your profile looks great and I'm not even bi 😉 I think others are right though in saying that being thinner will give you more confidence but doesn't necessarily improve your sex life. Your personality/style is what the attraction is about and how playful you can be 😉 how much of that you let out will bring out the real you and your real desires. To back that statement, have you ever seen a hot guy and then he opens his mouth or smiles and suddenly... he's not so hot anymore? Or you find out he bats for the other team... *sigh* disappointing all the same... you know the sex wouldn't be good then. So it is about how you hold yourself and what people see in you, not what you think people might think is attractive. Being self-confident is all the hype. Change your story. Yes ok lose weight for you and your confidence, but don't be disheartened if the sex is still the same. I don't want you to put all the hard work in to be disheartened. I just hope that you are doing it to feel good about yourself. Sex like anything needs compatibility of energy and a certain level of skill, time and effort. Of course, if losing weight makes you feel sexy then do that. Some people love their curves. I hope you learn to love your own and if not, then work them off. Me? I dislike when my muffin top grows eeeek!!! Oh yes and sometimes I do love my food all too much! :) it all comes from inside, out ;) if you let it. Keep it real, girlfriend :) - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
Because I even confused myself after re-reading LOL My point was looks aren't everything. Your personality is everything, it's your soul and spirit and also to add... remember to be a little vulnerable and feminine. Battle of the ego will never win. Being vulnerable does not mean that you are weak, it means that you are showing your compassion, in hopes to connect with someone. But I get that if someone rubs you the wrong way, you have to just agree to disagree and avoid each other. Ok back on topic now, sorry to diverge. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
Stingy words. Ouch. Must this hate continue? Someone treated you like that so you have to treat others like that. When will it end? By harshly telling that someone to do something? The buck stops with you. Are you really teaching someone a lesson by arguing and instructing, let alone giving anyone with opposing beliefs to you any sort of meaning to your experiences with your delivery because they have probably shut down half way through. The popularity of 7 likes on your backlash comment brings no surprise that it's the same group of old hand forumites that love to usually put in their heated 2c - maybe you stepped in on their day off. Guess what? I had my own Mum say that I had thunder thighs when I was 17! My OWN MOTHER - the one person I loved dearly and looked up to because of her generosity to others and strength to stay with my abusive father but my strength came from my inner voice - I wasn't gonna let anyone put me down - Fuck that! She always kept changing her tone with me. I had to be my own rock AND hers. I had more grounding things to worry about like my traveling and starving people in 3rd world countries...but now I am grateful for the men that love my body that hasn't changed since 12. Let's just be grateful for what we do have, shall we? Why do you have to change just because of other people's thoughts. Focus on your own strength and what you want for yourself. Who cares what other people think. Let's just all chill. It's not like it's a new topic in the scheme of things.
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RHP User
9 years ago
Quoting 'FlyGirlC' My heart goes out to you that you took offence to Inspirit's comments. She has had her tough moments too. She did apologise to you, I hope you have some space in your heart to forgive and accept her apology. Unfortunately, what's done is done. You can't be anymore careful that what you have been and she didn't mean it. She puts up a hard exterior only because she has been hurt as well. I remember she was 100yrs old and no photo like me once when Forums did get too much, if you remember my hard times. You have a circle of great friends IRL it seems, so don't worry about one little thing people say. You've just let it build up inside. I think you look great, have even sent you flirts saying your profile looks great and I'm not even bi 😉 I think others are right though in saying that being thinner will give you more confidence but doesn't necessarily improve your sex life. Your personality/style is what the attraction is about and how playful you can be 😉 how much of that you let out will bring out the real you and your real desires. To back that statement, have you ever seen a hot guy and then he opens his mouth or smiles and suddenly... he's not so hot anymore? Or you find out he bats for the other team... *sigh* disappointing all the same... you know the sex wouldn't be good then. So it is about how you hold yourself and what people see in you, not what you think people might think is attractive. Being self-confident is all the hype. Change your story. Yes ok lose weight for you and your confidence, but don't be disheartened if the sex is still the same. I don't want you to put all the hard work in to be disheartened. I just hope that you are doing it to feel good about yourself. Sex like anything needs compatibility of energy and a certain level of skill, time and effort. Of course, if losing weight makes you feel sexy then do that. Some people love their curves. I hope you learn to love your own and if not, then work them off. Me? I dislike when my muffin top grows eeeek!!! Oh yes and sometimes I do love my food all too much! :) it all comes from inside, out ;) if you let it. Keep it real, girlfriend :) - Posted from rhpmobile well said
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RHP User
9 years ago
I don't think Elke hates anyone, your words were way harsher than hers, and if a bunch of people 'like' a comment, it's not a group effort 😉
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RHP User
9 years ago
@Haemoglobin - glad you concur with my heart to heart. I was hoping it came out ok. @ITM2 - you're right and my sincerest apologies to @ElkeM, I feel very sensitive when people make/take things personally on here. *gulp* ouch. Lump in my throat. 😅 When people make things personal at me, I remember not to take it personally because what's personal to me is when close family and friends give me "advice" that I don't ask for. Nothing is harsher than that and nobody is a worse critic than ourselves. We can change our own language towards ourselves, if we realise how badly we hurt ourselves. So we don't need more outside critics to back our critical selves, really. Love yourself, forgive yourself, go easy on yourself. Take a moment, breathe and feel your heart, be grateful. For some, even that is hard to do... We all just need to take it easy, remember that we live in a first world country and we have our basic needs met to survive and love each other. If we get bored we should really put our energies into something more productive then pointing the finger at someone. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
I'm sorry that you read my post as being hateful. It really wasn't my intention to come across that way. The gist of my post was point out that people (Pure_Peony in this case) should be less quick to judge people's weight issues, and for her to understand how hurtful her words were. I acknowledge that I have serious issues when it comes to body confidence, so it hits me hard when I read judgemental comments about body size no matter who's making the comment. I try not to let it affect me, and most times I shake it off. Guess I was just feeling vulnerable that day. I get equally worked up about topics on height, boob size, cock size etc. It's fine to say you have a preference for a particular body type/look as long as you don't malign the people who don't fit that preference i.e. "I love people with purple hair, but people with pink hair gross me out". Sorry, clumsy analogy - I hope you get what I'm trying to say, and that no offense is taken by anyone with pink, purple or any other colour hair 🙂 Finally, the last part of your post where you talk about us all needing to "take it easy etc."... wise words and sound advice 👍
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RHP User
9 years ago
A welcome breath of fresh air, and although I dont know Flygirl I know Elke very well and she is a diamond of a lady. Its been too long Elke! Great posts without nasty digs, attention seeking or judgemental comments, thank you xx
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precious142
9 years ago
All I can say is .......Blah! Blah! Blah! Blah! Come - lets open a bottle of bubbles and celebrate all that is good in our world!!! P xx
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RHP User
9 years ago
I made an objective comment, and if people want to turn that into some personal attack thing, it's their choice. You can't go around blaming everyone else for your own lack of self confidence. It's very easy to pin the blame on someone and hate someone instead of doing something to turn things around.
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RHP User
9 years ago
Of course I'll stick around and make comments against narkiness, cattiness and bitchiness. I'll always do that, but only when I'm taking a break from work and life. No point in us addressing each other anymore. Different worlds, different points of references, different value systems. Let it remain so.
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RHP User
9 years ago
Quoting 'PurePeony' I made an objective comment, and if people want to turn that into some personal attack thing, it's their choice. You can't go around blaming everyone else for your own lack of self confidence. It's very easy to pin the blame on someone and hate someone instead of doing something to turn things around. Seriously? Where in my post did I say that I hated you, or that I blame you for my self confidence issues? You completely missed the point I was trying to make in my post, and I honestly can't be bothered to try and explain/defend myself again. This is the last I'll say on this topic. Feel free to carry on judging me and making assumptions about me, but I will not engage with you any further.
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RHP User
9 years ago
Like I said, do what you must, we are indeed in different worlds 😉
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RHP User
9 years ago
Nice response 👍
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RHP User
9 years ago
For goodness sake, please be nice. There are so many nice people here and we all have off days.... tomorrow is another day xx
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RHP User
9 years ago
Please take a breather... you admit that you are sensitive to these issues and you keep telling yourself that, so then you will find things to be sensitive about. There's plenty of everything in this world. So, imagine if you change your perspective "I will only absorb positive support about body image, so that I can focus on my own health and move forward. I will ignore what I cannot change." or something. Responding again @PurePeony just shows that you are still vulnerable, not just that day. Your reasoning becomes an excuse, harbouring negativity. Don't fight till you're black and blue. Your energy is better spent elsewhere feeling good! Get this straight... NOBODY is putting pressure on you, except yourself. Shut off social media, or go onto a support group or watch cute animals videos. Catching yourself is a skill. We constantly tell ourselves we are not this or that, trying to fit into a box and define ourselves so we can be consistent. When we are not aligned, that's when we feel alone, different, depressed, stressed - all internal. Just be mindful that the other person you direct your response to also could be susceptible to such. Tell those shitty thoughts to go fuck itself hahaha it hurts nobody and feels so freaking GOOD! 😉 remember the person on the other side must have a good heart. Benefit of the doubt. @PurePeony has a right to express her thoughts, which have no right or wrong. She is right that she has been singled out and she asked it to stop... slightly resembles bullying when I put it like that. Please recognise this. You weren't the only one to come in all gung-ho. I know you don't mean it. But if you can't handle the truth then stop asking for more. I think you are just seeking to understand yourself? If you want change, don't try to change one person. Go big and go for the corporations. If you don't want to do that and only want to influence your circle, then be the change you want to see, as cliché as it may sound. Eg, I used to put my judgements on my friends about global warming issues but realised it was ruining the friendship because they don't have the same beliefs. I thought climate change was a fact. Never thought it could be a "belief". My bad. We project what's inside, out. Be and show your loving self as much as you can. Remember what's important. Bigger picture vs small detail. Each have their place and time. Which reminds me that we've completely gone off-topic. Naughty me. Oops. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
i have extra padding only had one problem and that is to keep them last longer! i guest it all comes down to foreplay and position position position! doesnt matter if you are skinny, fat, well hung or not if you know the best position that works for you then youll have the best sex ever! always find doggy or on top is the best option, if you think that the sex part is a dug then spice it up! let them explore, let them do things to you, make them feel sexy use toys to lossen up, then youll see the difference! if its still bad sex then move on thats just mean no connection there and it will never work! hope this help😉😘 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
Pissing down in Perth today, sunny all this week and I'm inside painting ceilings, rain comes and my job is fixing roof tiles. Typical. Guess I'll have to file receipts or something Now play nice.
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RHP User
9 years ago
There is more then just a penis to use , plenty of ways to please a so called larger lady never had an issue and i aint large in that area pretty much average , plenty if foreplay always helps 😜😜😜 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
That have worked well in OP's situation? I've heard from one circumstance from a friend that he's done it once in doggie. What about scissoring? 😋 at least you can see the face then? - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
Thanks. Duly noted.
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RHP User
9 years ago
It's not the womens size that makes it difficult I reckon, if your hung at least 5-8 inch and know what ya doin you should have no worries with any size chick. Just experiment with positions until you find a good angle to mount her from. I'm 6 foot and slim (80kg) and only a little over 7 inches and with bbw I find one of the best ways to get full depth inside her and stay inside her and give her a good shag is with her laying on her back id lean over and hold both or one of her legs up around her head, slide inside her, then thrust up and down using my body weight to pound deep into her hard and fast until you both blow. I've been with skinny chicks, medium chicks, larger chicks and even big boppas, and I'd rather get into the bigger chicks with love handles and some cushion for pushin over skinny chicks anyday. Everyone thinks differently but for me I find the bigger she is the more I want her. Some may find it hard to believe (I used to), but once you give it a go you will realise what your missing out on lol.. But it's not just the sex thats better, it's everything else as well. Cant Shag Skinny chicks the same way as with big ones, too much bone bashing. With bigger babes you got the cushion so you can fuck as hard as you want and you can get a nice flow going 😜 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
So should your name be just_over_7_Inches 😉 Just kidding, stupid mood tonight. Good for you, good for them, from where I sit, same dynamic I look for, guys who prefer older women, as opposed to using me as gap filler 😀
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RHP User
9 years ago
And I've only had this problem with men with very small cocks Please advise if this is you, OP - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
well for me i dont have that problem as i have 8 inc plus cock very thick as well doggie or on her back with her legs wide open the best for me deeper penetration
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RHP User
9 years ago
Well tried most positions obviously missionary and doggie. Legs ie ladies over the shoulders is a good one .I did really struggle when trying to keep it in when stood up in a hammock.
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RHP User
9 years ago
eiliethiya You have a point there I think that is or would be a better way to handle it
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RHP User
9 years ago
Quoting 'Eiliethiya' eiliethiya You have a point there I think that is or would be a better way to handle it Quoting 'mroptimist' Lily orchid When you make an appointment and someone invites you into their home , tending to get to know someone first not jumping them straight away. I would think it to be impolite to just say " Your too big not like your profile stated" so instead I was respectful and pleasured them anyway. just being courteous If you're "tending to get to know them first and not jumping them straight away"...why do you feel that you HAVE TO pleasure them?!? Like you're doing them a favour or something??If it's a getting to know you meet, surely you can find a polite way of saying thanks for the coffee (or whatever) but I don't think we have any chemisty, etcHow are you respecting them by fucking them even if you really don't want to but you're sucking it up and doing it anyway?? And then most likely ghosting them straight after...I see absolutely no respect in that.
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RHP User
9 years ago
We are just sexually incompatible.This is sometimes due to size but not always,and it's not always possible to predict ..What floats one persons boat can sink another's .Q
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RHP User
9 years ago
words that is 😀 stand by for a lecture. The woman's body is a beautiful thing, in all forms. It is some to behold, or just hold 😉 The greatest lovers are the ones who appreciate our bodies, good days, bad days, fat days, skinny days, bloated days, size has nothing to do with whether you can keep it in or not, and it certainly has nothing to do with how sexy that woman is, and the success of your encounter, not the size of the woman anyway. I think your comment was disgusting, seriously, start looking a bit closer to home for your answer 👎
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RHP User
9 years ago
My experience is fat chicks are lazy in bed......happy to be proven otherwise. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
All women of all shapes are wonderful and full filling just work on it man and communication is always the key - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
erosfunkster You will go far I think you might be the lazy one Not taking the time to find out what makes them tick More worried about yourself by the sounds of it - Posted from rhpmobile
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pomidave
9 years ago
I'm forever confused why people have problems and blame there partners. If things don't work you should always look at your self it's not rocket science and to put it down to a size thing is silly unless you have a microdick, every woman is different but the same yes there are some things you can't do with a real big woman so you just need to think about what will work for your partner then your self, from a personal experience I have been with ladies from size 0 to 32 I'm not that big maybe a little more than average but in the great skiing of things it must the same. Thinking what and how your doing and go for it - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
Quoting 'Loverwanted2017' erosfunkster You will go far I think you might be the lazy one Not taking the time to find out what makes them tick More worried about yourself by the sounds of it I suspect that you may have missed their joke
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