M51
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November 26 2010
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RHP User
15 years ago
Perhaps they are: Rude Too busy Offended by what you say Lazy Not online very often etc, etc Lots of reasons ! I try and reply but have been guilty of not reply particularly if the message is offensive. Cheers, Miss Saturn
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RHP User
15 years ago
Experience has shown that a no thanks often results in abuse. Maybe thats the reason??????? I like to reply but sometimes life just gets to busy as Miss Saturn said.
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Mr_Invisible
15 years ago
I usually get repliesAnd its nice to be told.... rather than ignoredWhat bugs me is when they don't even get read
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RHP User
15 years ago
the shoe fits on the other foot too you know. I think everyone is guilty of it, and some would rather not offend someone by saying 'thanks, but no thanks' I've only been here a little while, and have coppped some flack for just that! Otherwise, simply because of the ratio of men to women on here, they tend to get inundated with messages and flirts and such, and can't keep up? Meh, I dunno, but really you shouldn't take it personally.
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RHP User
15 years ago
Some do reply, each and every time. I never get abused at all. If I am not interested I say so.
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RHP User
15 years ago
IT SAYS IN MY PROFILE (IF MEN AND OLD MEN BOTHERED TO READ) THAT I COLLECT THEM....I GOT 55 UNOPENED 1'S, ALSO SAYS I AINT LIKELY TO GIVE MY EMAIL ADDYS....SO WHY DO I HAVE HEAPS OF THEM IN MY INBOX? ALSO SAYS MY AGE REQUIREMENTS WHICH OLD MEN NEVER TAKE ANY NOTICE SO I ADDED ON 2 DECADES TO MY AGE N NO LONGER GET OLD BOYS MESSAGING ME...JUST YOUNG GUYS THAT WANT A COUGAR. PERSONALLY FLIRTS ARE FOR PPL THAT CANT AFFORD MEMBERSHIP OR CANT WRITE...NOT WHAT IM INTO OH AND I HATE THEM" I THINK YOUR HOT WHAT DO YOU THINK OF ME" THEN THE SILLY WANKER HAS NO PIC UP
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RHP User
15 years ago
When I first joined some 2 years ago I always use to reply to all of them (gosh even flirts !!! ) Now I try to reply to most ...even if it's a thanks but no thanks ,(then they usually write back and say oh go on, give me a go ......what the !!!!!! The ones I don't reply to are the ones that still send messages when they don't fit the description of what I am looking for for.......... eg I have a real thing about height and I have an age criteria (no crime in that I don't think)......... yet I constantly get messages from men that don't fit that.......... I feel that is a sign of disrespect towards me........ they either think ,who cares I will send it anyway and wooooooooooe her with my charm ! Or perhaps it's something else.........they haven't even bothered to read what I have said in my profile....... I know it's hard guys, but I hate cut and paste messages, at least try to make it look as if you have written to ME ........ and finally, well ............. sometimes we just are too busy - I know that's somewhat rude, but just being honest........
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RHP User
15 years ago
A simple reply.Thats all....It cant be that difficult... Even a template reply if not interested...... Basic Manners i say.
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RHP User
15 years ago
....the older the lady, the more likely she is to take the time to reply. And if guys take the time to write out a decent message the more likely it is they will get a reply.
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'smilesandfun' Who cares I will send it anyway and wooooooooooe her with my charm ! So...that is where I came undone when I sent you a note? My apologies...I thought that barrage of suggestive four letter words that I had used and taken the time to misspell withwith such creative flair surely would have gotten your attention? Charm? Isn't that something hot chicks wear on their bangle bracelets? Oh well, at least I managed to spell the four letter words correctly and now I understand why no one ever replies to me. Where do I enroll in charm school?
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RHP User
15 years ago
It's life... Why can't you just view your being here like being at any other gathering of people...there is no guarantee of success.. When a woman goes to a club or a big party you might be approached by 10-20 guys... If you stop with all of them-you won't get to the bar-let alone catch up with all your friends that you had planned to meet there...or your date that's waiting patiently outside the toilets or by the bar for you... And although maybe the majority that have approached you are probably great-you just can't go with all of them...can you? Don't take it personally-how can you-or why would you when we don't know you do we? I'll admit we may make the wrong choice of who to stop and talk with...or even our dates.. Oh well there's always the next party, club or event...isn't there? Grown ups know this-that if it's going to happen it will...if it doesn't it doesn't...there's a reason....it's just life... Resilience, tenacity and internal fortitude are very attractive traits in a man...more so than the muscles, tight abs and great hair actually...well to me and my female friends... When you go to bed with a man-you want to know it's a MAN!!!!! not a child or a girl... I wonder do you pout like this when you are walking through the city...see a girl you like say "Hi" and she doesn't say "Come now into the alley with me?' It might happen-very occasionally it does... However it could just be she's busy-on her way somewhere especially at 2 o'clock on a Tuesday afternoon... Surely, you've heard of at least one story where a woman may have met B while she was with A- however ended up with B? Or when B was finally going to meet her he met X, and he and X hit it off better than ever? Do you think he'd even have a look in with either if he'd ever said to either *insert whiny tone* "but she didn't go for coffee with me when I asked!" If you met a woman at a party you really liked-maybe even exchanged numbers but didn't hear from her.....if you happened to run into her months later-what would you do? Take this opportunity to see how things could go forward now as whatever happened then was dealt with or go up to her and abuse her? What does a stranger owe you really? I feel some of the men on here lose touch with reality....do women in the street usually act wantonly around you? No-well the fact you get a response at all should astound you...shouldn't it? Just because there are more men than women-does not mean that the quality of the men runs in proportion to the quantity of them on here... If you want to choose between desirable and undesirable for yourselves-surely we deserve the right to be discerning also? NymphetamineDrm
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RHP User
15 years ago
Ive spent a bit of money on this site and others like it. Ive noticed a pattern that has put me in a low mood.When I send a message that has been open and read, I do not get a reply. I get the occasional profile look but that's it. The majority of messages that I have sent out were not even look at. I'm constantly overlooked. What makes it even more frustrating is I put a lot of time and effort into writing the messages. Its not a copy and paste job. Am I the only one that this is happening too? Is there a reason I'm being ignored?
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RHP User
15 years ago
musiclvr, coming from someone that you messaged: i read your message and left it for a day to have a think about whether you were someone i might be interested in or not. when i saw this thread during that time, it was very off-putting - you will be receiving a polite thanks but no thanks reply. well, actually, here it is right now. please see Nymphetamine's post above as to why - she's put it well. there are three types of messages, to me: some are immediately attractive - i can tell there's a connection pretty quickly, through factors like the thought put into it, the personality and wit as well as spelling and grammar (i can't help it, i'm a language nerd). they'll get a reply so that we can start a conversation back and forth. the second type is fairly obviously not my type. i look at their profile, or lack of care in the message, or clear indication somewhere along the line that we're not compatible. they'll get a thanks but no thanks straight away. the third type is harder. the person may seem really cool - but i don't have enough time to meet someone new. or they ask a question that needs a bit more thought because it's outside the square. or i just can't figure out whether we're compatible. sometimes i'll wait a while to see if that person pops up on forums, for example, to see if i can get a better feel for their personality. that third type of message may not get a response. because, to be frank, i just don't know what to say yet. or i don't have time to think about it right now. although rhp is often open in my browser, believe it or not, i have a lot of other, 'real' stuff to attend to in my life - so i'll leave some messages to deal with later, when i have a clearer idea of what to do about it. this has turned out to be a really long answer. so i'll summarise: for god's sake, man up.
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'DeVirginizeMe'Ive spent a bit of money on this site and others like it. Ive noticed a pattern that has put me in a low mood.When I send a message that has been open and read, I do not get a reply. I get the occasional profile look but that's it. The majority of messages that I have sent out were not even look at. I'm constantly overlooked. What makes it even more frustrating is I put a lot of time and effort into writing the messages. Its not a copy and paste job. Am I the only one that this is happening too? Is there a reason I'm being ignored?Could be your age or it could simply be that your profile does not say enough to inspire me.
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RHP User
15 years ago
Must be getting towards the end of the month: A guy posts a thread about not getting a reply and all the women jump on and swear on a stack of bibles that they all reply all the time. Well there are at least two on this page that I know don't reply! And all my msgs contained were compliments to a post they made, but yep both not opened. Their loss! Now to the subject at hand. Yes women have it over the men here, they can pick and choose, they can suddenly become high and mighty (and demanding), way above what would happen in reality BTW. Us poor males of the species are so far behing the eight ball on this site it isn't even funny anymore. We have to pay for starters, I wonder how many women would still be members if they had to fork out their hard earned? We just have to accept that a majority of RHP women will treat men with distain, unless your profile photo fit their ideal criteria you won't even get your profile read most times. Yet some of these same women will chase someone so far away from their criteria in a chat room or here in the forums, seems being fussy can be turned on and off pretty quickly. Personally, I no long expect a reply now, hell I rarely bother contacting anyone. It use to upset me that when I did send a POLITE message to a woman who I met every aspect of their criteria I would get a reply probably 1 time out of 10. Now, hell their loss, they missed out on meeting a rather nice guy, I think I dodged a bullet or three by them not replying. Whilst I agree there are some men here who can't handle rejection and send an abusive msgs back, the same goes with the women, I have received a couple of pearlers because I had the hide to say no (again the bullet dodging bit). For you women who do receive an abusive msgs after rejection, do you take any action, do you block the guy, report him to the admins or just get into flaming email war with him? Personally I would love to see a 'REPLY PERCERTAGE' on everyone's profiles, lets see how many messages a person gets when their percentage is in single figures!! mooka
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Mr_Invisible
15 years ago
Mailbox Stats I have sent 140 messages Reply Rate: 56% I have received 79 messages I have sent 338 flirts Reply Rate: 25% I have received 83 flirtsProbably fairly regular info for the guysOh... and I've been here about 6 yrs... so I'm not a prolific flirter or messager either
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RHP User
15 years ago
I suspect the ratio of men to women results in women getting so many messages they don't have the time. But I could be wrong. One person's profile mentioned 50 messages a day.
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'NymphetamineDrm' It's life... Why can't you just view your being here like being at any other gathering of people...there is no When you go to bed with a man-you want to know it's a MAN!!!!! not a child or a girl... I wonder do you pout like this when you are walking through the city...see a girl you like say "Hi" and she doesn't say "Come now into the alley with me?' It might happen-very occasionally it does...Hit the nail on the head - some guys think that becuase you are on a sex site you will screw them all. Not true.
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RHP User
15 years ago
Hi Mooka My response rate is 168% no idea what that means though? Because I have read so many of these threads where men ask about this I have made an effort to reply to all messages. Eventually. Even with a no - and I have only had one abusive email in return. In fact most men reply with a thanks and wish me luck. It is all in the delievery. xx Meeka
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RHP User
15 years ago
Honestly - what does it matter? - do you really need a reply? I think getting no reply is a pretty clear message. ...i.e not interested. If they were interested you'd be getting a reply back quick smart. Not replying just saves the non-sender a message, time spent on someone they are about to tell they have no time for, and the reader a polite or not so polite decline...sure some people are more friendly and polite and others are more ruthless, but really I dont think it matters much and I'm surprised people are so sensitive as to expect replies, or even worse that they are entitled to them.
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'mooka' Must be getting towards the end of the month: A guy posts a thread about not getting a reply and all the women jump on and swear on a stack of bibles that they all reply all the time.....WPersonally I would love to see a 'REPLY PERCERTAGE' on everyone's profiles, lets see how many messages a person gets when their percentage is in single figures!! mooka Mooka,I like your posts...I think you're very nice...however you are in Salamander Bay... and I think I would be too strange and possibly too young for you ... I don't understand why there is no queue to your door actually...then again women seem to love to suffer....and then complain they have not faired well when they tie themselves to the railway tracks...and collected by runaway trains... You are quite right in your assertion-it is their loss...in passing on you... I think you are also correct in your assertion that possibly some women on here take advantage of supply versus demand...they overestimate their popularity or attractiveness... However you will find that also in particular scenes ie swingers, fetish, or other sub-cultures...or even in certain careers...as you are always socialising together eg finance, police, hospital staff... they don't realise that it's because they are "there" that they are popular... If you can not transfer this popularity into other settings ie from rhp to when you are at the shops or at the beach or in a club etc...it's not real. I know I'm not a supermodel-I know I'm not everyone's type...however I get by ok...I'm a realist... I estimate that maybe I may like maybe 1 in every 10-15 people...and it may be even less than that that may feel the same about me...and then you have to see how that's going to go outside the petrie dish... As experiments don't always work out...in fact sometimes they don't get past the planning stage... I understand that maybe someone may tick all your boxes-but if you tick none of theirs-they really don't tick the most important one-which is being into you...or able to be with you...whether the obstacle be geography, insanity or duplicity... There's nothing more disappointing than thinking-seems nice but then you try to talk to them on the phone and you want to do a Rusty as they can't string two words together-as it doesn't place much confidence in their other abilities does it?!? Further, if you are after a particular goal in the long term--which a lot of people here say they are not but in general humans are social creatures and generally have life partners ie so if ideally-you don't want to be alone or lonely forever-there comes a time when you really do have to re-assess yourself, your situation and compare it to reality-whether you be male or female and if what you are doing is going to get you to what you what you really want... Insanity, truly is believing you can do the same thing over and over and believing you will get different results... I put it in one of my other posts...it could happen that you will find a 25 year old gymnast or swimsuit model when you are 64 year old man but unless you are a billionaire-it usually doesn't happen...and if it did would you talk about?!?! All the music you like was popular before they were born....what do you have in common their going to pilates and you're going to get your hip replacement (male or female). You may find a partner or a f*** online-but the reality is it may not happen...expect the worst and be pleasantly surprised by a good result-just as one did when the internet did not exist... As far as cost-consider it like many times you would have had to go out to a pub or club or any other event where females would be...likely you would pay petrol or fare to get there, food, drinks, admission surely? Probably cost you a lot more... I don't understand why some people don't just decide what it is they actually want, and if what they are doing is not working to deliver it-even then they do not consider it may be time to try something else or modify what it is they are doing...or even do what someone I know said "change the bait"...perhaps modify themselves in some way...haircut, shave, perhaps even toastmasters so they are more confident when they speak?!?! The reply percentages is an interesting concept however it wouldn't really work because we get inundated with "hey baby let's f***" messages...so if we don't reply that wouldn't really represent the people behind the profiles... If you don't believe me set up a female profile even without a photo and see what happens... Also-just to give you the jump on the month thing...it runs with the moon...so if you really want to be across the mood of the female population I would look up the lunar calendar...if she has a natural cycle it runs with the moon...so you will find the week leading up to a full moon is the best week to try to get lucky...as it's usually before this happens that women are the most fertile and thus the most racy... I thought it hilarious when I met a doctor training to be an obstetrician and he had no idea about the lunar cycle...or how it influences a woman's body-he'll be the one that won't work out why he's so busy the weekend of the full moon delivering babies and why his mates have put in for leave... NymphetamineDrm
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'fionabee'Could be your age or it could simply be that your profile does not say enough to inspire me. its definitely not an age issue, those i write to are looking for someone in my age bracket.
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RHP User
15 years ago
It is an old, old chestnut. And it must be as frustrating as hell for the poor guys that take time to write out a decent message. If I get a nicely written message I give a nicely worded reply. If the message is of the "let's fuck" type I give a "let's not" type of answer. Maybe they should give out a score like they do on Ebay. Then you would know whether to bother sending messages.
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RHP User
15 years ago
My response rate is 168% no idea what that means though? The response rate that you see on your profile is the amount of response that YOU have recieved back from the messages and flirts that you have sent out. I think. Mooka...I think it is a good idea as well. A response percentage for all those to see would save alot of trouble. Then I wuld know wether or not to expect a response for my flirts and/or messages. Yes Mistress T. It must be frustrating as hell for the guys who send out all the flirts only to get nothing in return.
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RHP User
15 years ago
I specifiy on my profile I will respond to all emails but am not able to respond to all flirts. I still receive an extremely time consuming number of flirts. I do not respond to them. Does this then mean I am considered to be rude? Or does this mean guys are sending me flirts without having read my profile, which in it's own way is rude?
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RHP User
15 years ago
To be honest I don't even look at my flirts let alone reply to them. Am I bad Just too many.... xxx Meeka
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'Meeka100' To be honest I don't even look at my flirts let alone reply to them. Am I bad Just too many.... xxx Meeka Meeka, Nope, to me flirts are a total waste of time and if anyone, male female or a combination of both expect a serious reply to a flirt then they are on the wrong site! The only good use of a flirt I can see is as a filter, if a guy is sending flirts then there is a good bet he isn't a member and couldn't send a msg anyway. The only other use for the flirt is between friends. I tend to use them to let someone online here know that I am on MSI but hiding off-line, and visa a versa :D Mooka
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RHP User
15 years ago
Personally I've never felt a perfect stranger on a sex site owed me any kind of explanation at all. If they don't reply then tuff titty. Its good to see the power in womens hands.
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RHP User
15 years ago
"Well there are at least two on this page that I know don't reply! " You make yourself out to be the all round good guy, the champion of the underdog. I do know of at least one woman who was a rhp/msm friend of yours who was upset when you just stopped replying to friendly chat, no response from you saying why you didnt want to chat anymore. Beware of people who throw stones living in glass houses, it can come back to bite you on your arse. chomp
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'petticoats' "Well there are at least two on this page that I know don't reply! " You make yourself out to be the all round good guy, the champion of the underdog. I do know of at least one woman who was a rhp/msm friend of yours who was upset when you just stopped replying to friendly chat, no response from you saying why you didnt want to chat anymore. Beware of people who throw stones living in glass houses, it can come back to bite you on your arse. chomp Ms Petticott, thank you for the personal attack, seems no one is allowed a view of the subject unless it corresponds with your personal paradigm. I think I know the lady in question you are talking to, and I did send her an email explaining why, not that it is any, repeat any concern of yours. I stand by what I said here, I believe I have the right, or does that not fit into your world? mooka
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'MsValkyrie'The third type is harder. the person may seem really cool - but i don't have enough time to meet someone new. or they ask a question that needs a bit more thought because it's outside the square. or i just can't figure out whether we're compatible. sometimes i'll wait a while to see if that person pops up on forums, for example, to see if i can get a better feel for their personality. ...and interesting. It is always helpful to understand how the much fairer amongst may take time to answer and why. Not at all unlike racing a Ducatti against a Bugatti Veyron... | ...it's not where you start, but where you finish that counts?
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RHP User
15 years ago
just like I have the right to point out that you shouldnt throw stones in glass houses. The lady I am speaking about assures me she never received an email or msm from you with any sort of explanation as to why your friendly chats just stopped dead. You say you think you know the lady in question, to me, that reads you have done the same to other women as well. What a gentleman you are! *chomp* that one is from me *chomp* that one is from her *chomp* that one is for the others you have done the same to
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RHP User
15 years ago
Stats mean nothing really if you consider we also swap messages between friends... I don't get why people don't have the manners to reply aside from the fact that people see 'manners', 'differently' as topics in general ARE seen differently by the the many different people that make up RHP. Our reason for not replying atm is that our profile does make it clear that we are not looking, buuut we go thru every now n then and reply to all our messages... like Meeka we have only ever had one abusive email. And a cpl of idiiots that we learned it was just not useful to get into anything with, so have to agree with Meeka that it's all in the delivery. So many ways to choose to reply using auto-replies, templates, quick answers... etc!!! So many ways to make a difference and in my opinion, not replying teaches NOTHING aside from leading many RHPers to post new threads in the forums on topics that have been done many times because they are ignored and frustrated. I see that the OP has deleted their account, something I'm always sorry to see in the forums. I agree with Mooka on the discrimination towards men and the likelihood of women being members if they had to pay lol... but have admiration for the many women who do pay their own way... Way to take your power!Mmm and Meeka, something I'd love to see as would many of us over time have posted on the forums is the re-introduction of a thanks but no thanks flirt. Tick the box at the top to answer the whole page. We use the 'thanks flattery will get you everywhere etc'... and do say we will send that as a simple thanks in our profile but still get mix ups lol... All in all, I wonder how much about us... or... our possible effect...Hugs all... Mrs P
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JessicaRabbit
15 years ago
Because you don't meet our criteria, for example a very common one...NO single males. The amount of messages that I still receive from single guys hoping that they'll be 'the exception to the rule' is unbelievable. Therefore, I figure that they can't read or they're intellectually impaired, so replying would be wasting my time, as well as wasting theirs. Miss Didactic xx
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RHP User
15 years ago
How annoyed and upset some women get (on behalf of other women!) when a guy doesn't reply? Mind you, I think that if someone doesn't reply, then obviously they're not interesting in talking. Why would you bother hounding them to PULEEZ give me an answer!!! Or even wasting time and energy worrying about it?
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RHP User
15 years ago
Your thinly veiled comment, at least I point out who shouldnt throw stones in glass houses, I wasnt 'attacking' mooka, merely pointing out a fact.
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RHP User
15 years ago
I just commented that it was interesting because what happened when it was the other way around. I didn't say you were attacking anybody, merely observing that you were upset because a guy didn't reply, not to yourself, but to another woman (in fact you seemed to be upset on behalf of women generally). I thought that was very interesting. Please don't take it personally.
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RHP User
15 years ago
I was simply pointing out in my original post that is does happen "the other way round" where there are men on here that dont reply. There seems to be many posts from the males over time whinging and whining about no response to messages and flirts. Just thought it was time for someone to stand up for ladies who are no longer here for all the times the 'men' who were so interested in them, then just disappear into thin air, no manners at all if you ask me. At least give the females the heads up why you are no longer interested. I have also found out how much fun it can be to *chomp* Yes, you are right, you didnt say anything about attacking, I was just quoting mooka.
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RHP User
15 years ago
I'm a guy with a couples profile. It clearly states in my profile that we are new to this all and are looking to start out with a female play partner.I have 40+ msgs in less than 3-4 days? I think every one of them were guys apart from one with were a lovely couple, but still outside our boundaries ( for now :) ).So guys, use your eyes and your brains and read a bit about what you are aimlessly flicking your cock pics at....Just my 2c from a guy on here.Deejay
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JessicaRabbit
15 years ago
As I said in my previous post, single girls get it endlessly. "ur pix r hot - wanna fuk?' Why should I bother replying to that when they clearly can't be bothered reading my profile and seeing that they don't meet my criteria?? Was on here previously as a couple and found the same issue too. Guess it's just wishful thinking, they figure if they message 100+ couples/single girls they might eventually get one that says 'sure, why not.' Miss Didactic xx
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RHP User
15 years ago
And some just don't get that if you do what every average joe blow does, you'll be treated like the average joe blow. No-one, male or female, wants to be with someone who is average, boring and the same as countless others you could find any day of the week. We want exceptional!
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RHP User
15 years ago
I used to reply, but it starts something you never want to start .. you say no thanks, some respond thanks for ur time, some say why ? & send 10 messages asking the same question, some will say what not good enough for you , then get abusive ...... my main thing is my profile clearly states what i am looking for & yet i get messages from ppl way outside of this & I dont appreciate it at all................ lately the whole thing is getting to me u get messages from guys saying thanks for the message or thanks for the flirt yet u never msg or flirt them , i mean shit commmmon guys do u think we are stupid ! my advice read the profile carefully, fastest way to piss a woman like me off is to send a message when ur not even close to what im looking for .
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RHP User
15 years ago
Flirts ...some!!....messages...hmmm guilty of some no replys...yes,yes.....i jst replie to the ones i'm attracted to first ....so jst incase i'm in the shit with any men concerned....'sorry there was no attraction'...but thanks for the thoughtxx...
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RHP User
15 years ago
Flirts ...some!!....messages...hmmm guilty of some no replys...yes,yes.....i jst replie to the ones i'm attracted to first ....so jst incase i'm in the shit with any men concerned....'sorry there was no attraction'...but thanks for the thoughtxx...
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RHP User
15 years ago
normally id say "yes you should reply to every wink and message , thats good manners" who wants to play or meet anyone whos rude and lazy? however, since we ticked single guys on our profile...we are experiencing HEAPS of idiots from hundreds of miles away, or no pic and guest member, saying "your just what iam looking for"?????????????? wake up guys...unless you are travelling interstate and SAY THAT on your profile, why bother? read the profiles!! your giving single guys a bad name.. i WISH RHP would include a simple wink answer "YOU ARE TOO FAR AWAY" have added a note on our profile - PLEASE include RECENT face and body pics of guy and girl, like we have . :) Sorry but we will no longer answer messages or winks without pics available... will this work? Bernie
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RHP User
15 years ago
I suppose I really should pay my bills on time, but I don't. It's not intentional, I just forget. Then I get a reminder - sms these days! And if I still don't pay my bill, they send me another letter threatening to cut my service off - which causes me to think....do I really need electricity??? Yeah..of course I do :) It's a bit of a moot point really, I will pay if I want to play. Morticiaaa...xxx
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RHP User
15 years ago
Putting myself in the ladies shoes for a moment. They must get sick and tired of receiving the same old do you wanna fuck, do you like my cock, do you wanna suck my bla bla bla. Show some imagination and a little flair. If you are going to take the time to send an email make sure it is worth her time to read it. Look at the profile, pick out your interests and base it around that. At least she knows you can read and take the time to check you are at least somewhat compatable. I have a fairly good strike rate for replies so I must be doing something right. A little dignity and respect will get you a lot further than all the other crap combined. The inuendo and flirty chat can develop from there. Well, there's my bit for what it is worth. Maybe a little self indulgent, but who cares.
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'mooka'Personally I would love to see a 'REPLY PERCERTAGE' on everyone's profiles, lets see how many messages a person gets when their percentage is in single figures!! mooka Brilliant idea. RHP staff are you listening???
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RHP User
15 years ago
It's a tricky situation, a reply would show some manners yes. However, I'm sure women are inundated with contacts as men far outnumber them and are more likely to approach. In saying that, I'm bemused by people who are online yet do not even read their messages, very odd. I think any Guest should reply as they are freeloading (no offense guys, perhaps freeloading is a bit harsh) and don't understand the limit of contacts paid members are entitled to. In summary: Get over it, don't stress and keep plugging along. Take the time to reply or simply block members who make unwanted advances.
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RHP User
15 years ago
Well I've had guys message me, I reply with no thanks. Then they message me the same copy and paste message 2 more times. Do I need to reply every time? Or should they at least check the message history and realise, I've already said I'm not interested?
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RHP User
15 years ago
I think courtesy of a reply should apply to all. And if members are concerned with receiving the same old message from someone who doesn't take there interest then there is something called the block button. It's all getting to hard. Ladies sometimes you need to take a compliment and reply and some other times you simply have to say no thank as courtesy is a great tool. Just the same I send messages and expect a reply even if it's one I don like or agree with. Good luck to all.
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RHP User
15 years ago
... Why I am weighing in on this shitstorm, but perhaps if my reply here is read, it will save me having to reply to a few messages. I have always tried to reply to all messages, but there are currently a pile of them sitting in my inbox that I am yet to get around to replying to. Even though I am in total agreement with Mooka and believe it is impolite not to take the time to reply to a guy who uses up one of his messages on me, I have gotten frustrated in recent times. This is because my profile clearly states I am not interested in meeting anybody new at the moment and that I am here for the forums ONLY. I took the time to write an honest profile and can tell the moment I open a message whether or not they took the time to read my profile first. I reserve the right to totally ignore your message if it is totally obvious to me that you didn't bother reading my profile. This automatically tells me we will not be compatible. I will always read your profile in full before I reply to your message and the following things I confess I will discriminate against you on the following points: Safe Sex - If Required .... Sorry, nope, not interested. I value my sexual health and this attitude to safe sex tells me A LOT about your intelligence and attitude toward sexual health. Grammar .... Call me what you will but I am also a language and grammar nerd. I like people who can construct a sentence and whilst I am not so conceited to assume everyone knows how to spell, correct grammar stands out to me.Couples .... Not looking for them, not interested at the moment. For the record, you can be bisexual around here without feeling the inclination to be a party of three.Age .... Seriously! It's the clearest of all of the criterias on the profile!Profile Content .... If your profile and its content doesn't catch my attention, tick my boxes, then what would be the point in wasting both of our time?Message Content .... If you are silly enough to pay for membership and then waste a message on me when you could have saved yourself the time and money by reading my profile, then I make no apology for assuming you aren't terribly smart - once again, no compatability.IF HOWEVER, you read my profile and this is evident in the content of your well-constructed message, then not only will my interest be sparked, but I will make an effort to reply to you in kind.I'd love to reply to all messages regardless, and there was a time when I could do that but in reality I am very busy and very happy with my significant other (who, incidently, impressed the pants off me with a fantastic profile that ticked ALL of my boxes!) and figure the first line of my profile should state quite clearly how much patience I have for ignorant people.Ahhhh ... feeling better already!
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RHP User
15 years ago
That I had so many messages there was no time to reply to them all - I might have to send myself a message
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RHP User
15 years ago
Originally from flirty_bi_fem "Safe Sex - If Required .... Sorry, nope, not interested. I value my sexual health and this attitude to safe sex tells me A LOT about your intelligence and attitude toward sexual health." Safe sex if required to me means always for new partners. If you are in an ongoing relationship with some one you trust and have agreed to unprotected sex, I hardly see that as being haphazard about sexual health. I take offence to you questioning my intelligence as that is what have listed, I never have unprotected sex with random people or new partners. Perhaps you should rethink how some people define certain terms as the is no "always for new partners" option. I'm not having a dig at you but you really should think about connotations before throwing around statements question peoples intelligence or intent.
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'Tigers_Eye'Perhaps you should rethink how some people define certain terms as the is no "always for new partners" option. I'm not having a dig at you but you really should think about connotations before throwing around statements question peoples intelligence or intent. Fair call actually, point taken! I hadn't stopped to consider this angle, and whilst I still wonder at its prevalence in these parts, I'll be sure to take this into account in future.
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RHP User
15 years ago
I think alot of it comes down to having a decent profile with atleast basic information and a picture and also lookin at what the person your messaging is looking for. if the max age they are looking for is 30 and your 50 why would they bother replying when you havent bothered to look at what they want. obviously it would be nice to reply to everyone who bothered to take the time but sometimes it seems pointless!
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RHP User
15 years ago
I agree it is frustrating but you gotta just move on. It's a bit like those people who hand out those fliers(the guys) and the person receiving it(the girls) would get pretty frustrated and i've learned that. I admit when I first started out on this site a few months ago I was a bit like those people who handed out fliers/promotional material but if I don't hear from them within a day or two then I know they're not interested. So sorry if I sent too many messages to you or didn't read your profile properly! lol. But yeah I always appreciate it when they do reply. Just don't have high expectations or you'll be disappointed lol.
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RHP User
15 years ago
go to a pub or club, at least your self-esteem is sheltered here. . I don't get the whole 'wish I got a knockback message' thing. When I send a 19yo hottie who's profile says she is looking for women aged 18-25 a message along the lines of "Hey babe, great tits and your pics are hot. I'm all you've ever wanted, you probably just won't know it until my tongue is teasingly working it's way up the inside of your thighs" and she doesn't reply I can at least tell myself she's really busy, shy or running Windows Vista and her computer crashed. . Heaps better for my self-esteem than a "Fuck off creep - I don't see our planets or naughty bits colliding any time soon, and by any time soon I mean when dionsaurs walk the Earth again." reply. . Although I usually take that sort of a reply as a 'maybe' anyway.
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RHP User
15 years ago
Yesterday I received an email with a subject title 'up for fun?' and a message content total of ''. Normally I would send my very polite template no thank you response but I thought this particular message required an equal amount of effort put into the reponse as was put into the original. So I responded 'no' He came back to me about 30 seconds later with this: 'f**k off you bogan' The majority of people on the site are polite but these are the ones who are memorable and possibly inspire some women to not respond to certain messages...
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'flirty_bi_fem' Quoting 'Tigers_Eye'Perhaps you should rethink how some people define certain terms as the is no "always for new partners" option. I'm not having a dig at you but you really should think about connotations before throwing around statements question peoples intelligence or intent. Fair call actually, point taken! I hadn't stopped to consider this angle, and whilst I still wonder at its prevalence in these parts, I'll be sure to take this into account in future. thats how I think about it tooLS
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'SWEETIEPIE2010' Quoting 'Tigers_Eye'Originally from flirty_bi_fem "Safe Sex - If Required .... Sorry, nope, not interested. I value my sexual health and this attitude to safe sex tells me A LOT about your intelligence and attitude toward sexual health." Safe sex if required to me means always for new partners. If you are in an ongoing relationship with some one you trust and have agreed to unprotected sex, I hardly see that as being haphazard about sexual health. I take offence to you questioning my intelligence as that is what have listed, I never have unprotected sex with random people or new partners. Perhaps you should rethink how some people define certain terms as the is no "always for new partners" option. I'm not having a dig at you but you really should think about connotations before throwing around statements question peoples intelligence or intent. We have an open marriage, we date on a regular basis. When i look at a profile i need to see always for intercourse at the very least. The nature of swinging and open marriages is often that we have a number of sexual partners, safety is paramound with new lovers or otherwise considering how much we get around. I don't care where you've been i just don't want a souvenier of your journey. xx Sweetie" I don't think I really felt the need in my initial post to justify or explain how I formed my view on safe sex, but it certainly did originate from our open marriage and from previous employment in the sex industry, and for all of the same reasons Sweetie mentions.Based on my understanding of STDs, I confess to even being cautious in considering the "Always For Intercourse" people. The scariest and least obvious of all the STDs are largely transferred through oral sex, not intercourse.The profile criterias are limited and this is unfortunate. Tiger Eye showed me a different take on how people interpret the meanings of the options available to us all when creating our profiles. Perhaps people's sexual health choices aren't so much indicative of their intelligence, but possibly a naivety or ignorance to the health dangers assocaited with their sexual behaviour. Contrary to how my original post may have sounded to some, I am not really so black and white in my judgement of others, naturally, there are grey areas, but I make no apology for having an educated opinion on this issue in particular. I don't believe your profile should state "Always For All Activities" unless you are using both dams and condoms when you have sex with someone. And yes boys, I guess that means condoms for oral sex too. Not ideal in terms of sensation perhaps, but I suppose awkward discomfort comes in many forms, not all of them treatable by a course of antibiotics.However, this is a digression from the original topic. Yes, replies are nice to receive and it is good manners - but so is reading a profile before sending a message. I was merely offering an explanation or opinion as to why I may reply in a negative fashion to some people who send me a message. I doubt that it is common for attitudes on sexual health to come up in the first conversation you have with someone in a message anyway.
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RHP User
15 years ago
for the same reasons that guys who have no hope of ever joining them continue to flirt and send messages. we don't respond to those that are obviously outside our search criteria, as they've already wasted our time and we are giving them any more. don't see this as arrogant, just how it is. call it whatever u like tho.
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RHP User
15 years ago
Look you dont get relpies because you have done nothing or said nothing that is is remotly interesting. If you act like a jerk and your profile is boring what do you expect. Go show up at a pub wear a safari suit and say Hi feel like a fuck to every woman in the bar and see how you go. Just make a fucking effort to carry on a conversation...Make an effort to have an interesting profile...don't be biggoted...don't be a jerk. Just today i have two new flirts one from a 25 year old and the other a 43 year old both read very well...I never flirted them or sent them messages. My profile grabbed them. When I responded with a message to their flirts I didn't ask for their MSN or Their Phone number or mention sex at all. Come on make a real effort to be interesting. LC
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RHP User
15 years ago
Some of you are making broad and sweeping generalisations, (LC, guilty). I can assure you, I go to no effort to make for interesting reading/conversation, so there you may be right. However to say it ISN'T interesting is wrong, I quite simply ooze with literary and verbal prowess that should warrant at least a thank you. My messages are open, honest and tailored to each recipient. I do not get abusive to anyone not replying or saying no thank you, What do I or the people I have no acquaintance with owe each other, probably nothing. still If I write to some one with an well thought expression and a warm heart at some length, I'd hope more than a 20% reply rate. At the end of the day I sit in the grey area, freedom of choice ranging to common decency. It seems some angry butt-nuggets have ruined the RHP experience for others who are now tentative to respond, it's that simple and this thread is relentless in rehashing the same tit-for-tat. Anyway, don't state that there may be a lack of effort to evoke response, as you are not to know what some people are writing. Please don't take this as offensive, but do consider the fact that some of us have half a brain. Cheers, Az. (And a note to RHP, your spell-check is American English. Shame, shame).
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'Tigers_Eye'Some of you are making broad and sweeping generalisations, (LC, guilty). I can assure you, I go to no effort to make for interesting reading/conversation, so there you may be right. However to say it ISN'T interesting is wrong, Yep I was making generalisations, and you are correct it is not the right thing to do. I had a look at your profile it is actually quite interesting...I am surprised your response rate is 20%... Let be honest tho my comment was not leveled at some one like you who makes an effort. Mike
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RHP User
15 years ago
Lets remember the ratio of men to women on this site. There in lies the problem.
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RHP User
15 years ago
it gets frustrating. how many times do we have to say no? to young guys,married guys,smokers,ugly old fat dudes,guys who are rude,guys who want weird sex,guys who are not what we want,guys who send 23 flirts and still send follow up messages tho we have indicated we r not interested,guys from Perth,Sydney,Melbourne as we are wanting locals (short notice) etc etc etc etc etc
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RHP User
15 years ago
Boys - I have a question for you. When you send a message that doesn't really ask a question are you expecting a reply? For example I get one liners such as, "Hi", or "You have beautiful eyes/lips", "your hot", one I received recently was "You are so hot you would make the devil sweat" hehehe So I reply with Thanks usually but do I really need to reply to messages that are not asking me anything or are not leading up to anything??? Why do you send messages like that? Over to you boys......
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'Meeka100' Boys - I have a question for you. When you send a message that doesn't really ask a question are you expecting a reply? For example I get one liners such as, "Hi", or "You have beautiful eyes/lips", "your hot", one I received recently was "You are so hot you would make the devil sweat" hehehe So I reply with Thanks usually but do I really need to reply to messages that are not asking me anything or are not leading up to anything??? Why do you send messages like that? Over to you boys...... sometims I just like to compliment someone... I dont really expect a reply... often times I might be thinking that they are probably not interested in me (their profile is slighty off centre to my profile) or they might be out of my league (perception I guess) but I like to receive complimnts so when I see something I like Im happy to compliment someone without expectation of a response...A simple "thanks for the compliment :)" or something is fine I would think if youre unsure?LS
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RHP User
15 years ago
Why are guys getting abusive or persistant if they do get a reply saying 'thanks but no thanks' who else have we got to blame. As people have said women have the upper hand and so be it so they should if this is the type of messages they are getting! Maybe RHP should put a percentage of returned messages on your profile then they can ask why does one person get more responses then another and then we can weed out the aggressive abusive types on here.
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting '69dinnerfour2' Why are guys getting abusive or persistant if they do get a reply saying 'thanks but no thanks' who else have we got to blame. As people have said women have the upper hand and so be it so they should if this is the type of messages they are getting! Maybe RHP should put a percentage of returned messages on your profile then they can ask why does one person get more responses then another and then we can weed out the aggressive abusive types on here. or maybe a rating system similar to ebay where there are a few criteria scored out of five as a vote by other members?communication:profile matches first impressions:Abusive? Y/Nidk...there must be a way to "rate" these kind of interactions and normalise how people are viewed.... its a fairness measurement - if I put effort into something I would like to think that effort is respected - fair?LS
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RHP User
15 years ago
I think it's a little bit sexist to say that "women have the upper hand". I mean sure, to some degree, I'm sure they do - But it implies that they have the final say and get to pick and choose who they sleep with and us men have no control over it. Come on guys, surely you think of yourselves higher than that. If you don't, then no wonder you're not getting replies. Sure, the messages that aren't replied to are semi-rude but life is busy and if you don't receive a reply and you'd really like one - Message them again, politely -- If they are worth one message, why not two? I know it has happened to me where I've thought I had replied to someone and I simply hadn't. I know it tell's you in the inbox but when you just quickly open it and scan through (Yup, life is busy) -- You don't always look at that part. And guys, get some class. Telling a girl or a couple that the chick has "an awesome ass" isn't a compliment, as much as you think it is. It's derogatory and simply makes the chick feel like meat (At least, that is what my missus says and 9/10 she'll delete the message without a glance at the profile). Sure, we're on an adults site - But it doesn't mean you can act like prepubescent 16 year olds.
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RHP User
15 years ago
most single guys are single for a reason. our theory is that its usually not a good one. if you send us a flirt/message, we WILL NOT RESPOND as we believe you HAVE NOT read our profile. be respectful. read what it says and if you feel u match 100% then fire away. we don't flirt with or message people we don't match with, what would be the point?
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RHP User
15 years ago
Having never written on one of these forums but for me it is important to say hello and to let people know why sometimes you just even know how to reply. I reply to all messages, maybe not as soon as I see it but there will be a reply. I try to be polite especially when I am saying no because I think that someone has maybe taken some time to write to me even though in some cases the message is "Do you want to F... me this afternoon". What I don't understand is when you do reply, and the response is no, for whatever reason, and I think we are all entitled to say no once in a while, that you then get an abusive message back from that person. I had this happen to me recently - got a message, checked the person out, decided that for me there was no interest/spark/inspiration (whatever you want to call it) and then sent a message back saying I appreciated the message, going to say no thanks and good luck in your search for some fun. The response I got back was "who the hell do you think you are, you aren't better than me". Maybe I gave that impression in the delivery and I was going to respond and say that but this person blocked me. I like to think I have manners and treat people with respect but yet this sort of behaviour puts you off responding if it is a no (I still do and figure that the odd nasty is better than not replying at all). But maybe this could explain some actions of the women on here especially if they are inundated with messages.
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RHP User
15 years ago
I don't blame some of them especially when some guys write "Hey" in the subject and then "Wanna FucK?" If i was a woman i wouldn't reply to that shit either.. Men forget that women get literally hundreds of emails a week and you can't reply to them all..it's Impossible..If the shoe was on the other foot we'd be doing the same..don't deny it! And when did we men start having to get some sort of a comfort email from a woman "Saying Yeah sorry umm i'm sure your a swell guy.. but no thanks" to make us feel better.. If she doesn't reply back..It means she's not attracted to you and 9/10 it will be because you said something or didn't say something in your email..not on what your looks. So just move on...
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deanna_rose
15 years ago
when i started on the site, i thought i should be nice to everyone... but i well since learn my lesson. i categorise my emails 4 ways; ones i'm interested in straight off, ones i want to know more about to decide, ones who i'm not interested in and finally those emails from lazy men who never got past my photo and didn't bother to read my profile. the first 3 will always get a response, the latter though gets the same effort they put in... zip.
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'deanna_rose'...and finally those emails from lazy men who never got past my photo and didn't bother to read my profile. the first 3 will always get a response, the latter though gets the same effort they put in... zip. interestingly, since i put up a public photo for the first time a week ago, i've had to say 'no' a LOT more often. i'm getting a huge number of views compared to before (when i had private gallery only) - but the quality hasn't gone up at all. and so many more of them have NOT bothered to read my profile. i'm very much considering taking the photo down again - have since changed it to a fairly 'nothing' one while i figure this out. Quoting 'mikeandshel'most single guys are single for a reason. whoa! that's a bit mean, don't you think? i'm recently single (my choice to get rid of a terrible relationship), and i'd hate to be judged as harshly simply because i'm single??
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RHP User
15 years ago
A piece of advice to guys..READ WHAT THE WOMEN WRITE!..Don't just look at photo's. I look at photos i'm a guy so firstly that my attraction..i'm a guy that's how we work..But after, i scroll down to read what the woman has writtten, normally there is a tonne of information there that will tell you weather i'm/ your what there looking for!.. Don't just look at photos and then email away..who knows..the woman might want to stick a snorkel up your arse and ask you to sing Christmas carols as this is what she likes! ha ha ha..Read, Read and re-read!! And if your not what their looking for..at least have the common knowledge to not email them.and if this concept baffles you and you email anyway..at the very least don't be suprised if they don't email back..And if this still baffles you..and they don't email back..Don't be abusive..Where is that going to get you?..A girl says "oh my god this guy is really abusive and manly, I wasn't sure before..but now he's abused me..I think i must have him!"..
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'Naz88' ..who knows..the woman might want to stick a snorkel up your arse and ask you to sing Christmas carols as this is what she likes! well, i can only speak for myself...
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RHP User
15 years ago
Tiger _Eye makes a good point..I checked out of sheer curiosity one day at who was online and the ratio is consistent as i checked since..do it your selves..When i checked it was a weekday evening about 8pm or so..Men online was something like 1,200 and women online was something like 194. You do the math
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'Ruggedly_Rugged' Personally I've never felt a perfect stranger on a sex site owed me any kind of explanation at all. If they don't reply then tuff titty. Its good to see the power in womens hands. Have to agree with you, Rugged.A good way to approach this site, or others like it, is with high hopes, if you like, but low expectations.No-one owes anyone anything here. It's a microcosm of life - a bit like 'the real world' I mean, what are the chances ? Just because you might 'like' someone, based on a few pics & a few words, why expect that they feel the same way. More especially for the guys; I have no idea of the ratio, but there must be far more women than men on here, so why would you expect that everyone you contact would or should reply. I can only imagine many of the 'popular' ladies here would be inundated with flirts, messages, etc. I, of course, don't, but I kinda know what it might be like just from dealing with daily emails, ebay stuff, etc. etc. It becomes a time-sink.I agree it would be nice to receive at least a "no thanks" or even a "Fuck off" but, as others have implied, I think you can take no reply as a form of answer...Cheers :-)
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RHP User
15 years ago
If that's case this is for you.."Deck the halls with bells of holy..ful-la-la-a-la-la-la"
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RHP User
15 years ago
Flirts as well as emails. It is a matter of courtesy. Even if the message is crude I still reply. I get as many messages and flirts as the younger girls or the couples. I have one friend who was way outside my criteria and his profile had no picture and read like shit. There was little to no information. The message he sent me just read "want to play" As I was in a real cheeky mood at the time I thought I would play mind games with him. He turns out to be the most wonderful person and I am so glad I replied. One can never tell.
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'LeoSteve' Quoting 'Meeka100' Boys - I have a question for you. When you send a message that doesn't really ask a question are you expecting a reply? For example I get one liners such as, "Hi", or "You have beautiful eyes/lips", "your hot", one I received recently was "You are so hot you would make the devil sweat" hehehe So I reply with Thanks usually but do I really need to reply to messages that are not asking me anything or are not leading up to anything??? Why do you send messages like that? Over to you boys...... sometims I just like to compliment someone... I dont really expect a reply... often times I might be thinking that they are probably not interested in me (their profile is slighty off centre to my profile) or they might be out of my league (perception I guess) but I like to receive complimnts so when I see something I like Im happy to compliment someone without expectation of a response...A simple "thanks for the compliment :)" or something is fine I would think if youre unsure?LSLS,I wrote something almost identical to your message here, but it hasn't shown up. Maybe later ?But I absolutely agree. I further said that as one of the 'freeloaders' here, I sometimes send the "I just wanted to say I loved your profile" flirt & it means exactly that & nothing more, & I certainly don't expect any reply to that, ever.Too often, it seems, women are looking for 'the angle', assuming we're after something. Many can't accept a straight-out gratuitous compliment for what it is & wonder what we're REALLY trying to say, or what the deception is, or whatever. Perhaps because it's become so rare. Not every man is always after something - sometimes it's nice to just hand out a compliment & wish for nothing in return. So, if you like, you can think of it as me being selfish because it makes me feel nice... There's your 'angle'.Cheers :-)
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'LeoSteve' Quoting 'Meeka100' Boys - I have a question for you. When you send a message that doesn't really ask a question are you expecting a reply? For example I get one liners such as, "Hi", or "You have beautiful eyes/lips", "your hot", one I received recently was "You are so hot you would make the devil sweat" hehehe So I reply with Thanks usually but do I really need to reply to messages that are not asking me anything or are not leading up to anything??? Why do you send messages like that? Over to you boys...... sometims I just like to compliment someone... I dont really expect a reply... often times I might be thinking that they are probably not interested in me (their profile is slighty off centre to my profile) or they might be out of my league (perception I guess) but I like to receive complimnts so when I see something I like Im happy to compliment someone without expectation of a response...A simple "thanks for the compliment :)" or something is fine I would think if youre unsure?LSLS,I wrote something almost identical to your message here, but it hasn't shown up. Maybe later ?But I absolutely agree. I further said that as one of the 'freeloaders' here, I sometimes send the "I just wanted to say I loved your profile" flirt & it means exactly that & nothing more, & I certainly don't expect any reply to that, ever.Too often, it seems, women are looking for 'the angle', assuming we're after something. Many can't accept a straight-out gratuitous compliment for what it is & wonder what we're REALLY trying to say, or what the deception is, or whatever. Perhaps because it's become so rare. Not every man is always after something - sometimes it's nice to just hand out a compliment & wish for nothing in return. So, if you like, you can think of it as me being selfish because it makes me feel nice... There's your 'angle'.Cheers :-)
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RHP User
15 years ago
I'm seeing a lot of generlisations here mainly along the lines that its single guys who are guilty about sending inappropriate messages to people...if I have said this once I have said it I dont know how many times (and yes for the forum regulars and those who have been around for a while please skim over my post because you know where I am going) it isnt just singly guys who do this but everyone!!!!! Guys (single married or otherwise) Girls (single married or otherwise), Couples and Groups so please give the single guys a bit of a break here, they are not all iliterate scums of the earth that they are so regularly portrayed as being... Like Fionabee I respond to every message and evry flirt even if they are well outside my preferences (read age, couples, groups, smokers and guests with no pics - male and female I'm not that fussy but I could be considered shallow for that one ) as I feel a simple No thanks is much nicer than being ignored..however if I get constant messages from someone I have previously responded in the negative to (whether it be flirt or message) then they do get blocked as I liken that to a form of harrassment but most respond politely with a thanks and good luck message.... Kisses Focus
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'flirty_bi_fem' ... Why I am weighing in on this shitstorm, but perhaps if my reply here is read, it will save me having to reply to a few messages. I have always tried to reply to all messages, but there are currently a pile of them sitting in my inbox that I am yet to get around to replying to. Even though I am in total agreement with Mooka and believe it is impolite not to take the time to reply to a guy who uses up one of his messages on me, I have gotten frustrated in recent times. This is because my profile clearly states I am not interested in meeting anybody new at the moment and that I am here for the forums ONLY. I took the time to write an honest profile and can tell the moment I open a message whether or not they took the time to read my profile first. I reserve the right to totally ignore your message if it is totally obvious to me that you didn't bother reading my profile. This automatically tells me we will not be compatible. I will always read your profile in full before I reply to your message and the following things I confess I will discriminate against you on the following points: Safe Sex - If Required .... Sorry, nope, not interested. I value my sexual health and this attitude to safe sex tells me A LOT about your intelligence and attitude toward sexual health. Grammar .... Call me what you will but I am also a language and grammar nerd. I like people who can construct a sentence and whilst I am not so conceited to assume everyone knows how to spell, correct grammar stands out to me.Couples .... Not looking for them, not interested at the moment. For the record, you can be bisexual around here without feeling the inclination to be a party of three.Age .... Seriously! It's the clearest of all of the criterias on the profile!Profile Content .... If your profile and its content doesn't catch my attention, tick my boxes, then what would be the point in wasting both of our time?Message Content .... If you are silly enough to pay for membership and then waste a message on me when you could have saved yourself the time and money by reading my profile, then I make no apology for assuming you aren't terribly smart - once again, no compatability.IF HOWEVER, you read my profile and this is evident in the content of your well-constructed message, then not only will my interest be sparked, but I will make an effort to reply to you in kind.I'd love to reply to all messages regardless, and there was a time when I could do that but in reality I am very busy and very happy with my significant other (who, incidently, impressed the pants off me with a fantastic profile that ticked ALL of my boxes!) and figure the first line of my profile should state quite clearly how much patience I have for ignorant people.Ahhhh ... feeling better already! Thank you for sharing that (seriously) I agree with much of what you say. Frustration is what gets us as well.
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'different' LS,I wrote something almost identical to your message here, but it hasn't shown up. Maybe later ?But I absolutely agree. I further said that as one of the 'freeloaders' here, I sometimes send the "I just wanted to say I loved your profile" flirt & it means exactly that & nothing more, & I certainly don't expect any reply to that, ever.Too often, it seems, women are looking for 'the angle', assuming we're after something. Many can't accept a straight-out gratuitous compliment for what it is & wonder what we're REALLY trying to say, or what the deception is, or whatever. Perhaps because it's become so rare. Not every man is always after something - sometimes it's nice to just hand out a compliment & wish for nothing in return. So, if you like, you can think of it as me being selfish because it makes me feel nice... There's your 'angle'.Cheers :-) LOL why havent I thought of it like that!! hahaha its perfectly true. I wonder if her ego would be bruised knowing that I just used her in that way?Super funny way of thinking about it... thanks for sharing :)LS
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RHP User
15 years ago
Is there not any chance for a guy who simply wants a casual root. Surely girls have needs too. No strings. No bulshit. Or do I just go pay for it. A mutually satisfying, sex only, no strings quickie from time to time with a regular fuck freind. Is this too much to ask...... If so I will go away quitely. No stress. Just new to this stuff Merry Christmas all....
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RHP User
15 years ago
yea we started out being nice and polite, but by the time you say "no thanks, you arent what we are looking for" for the fifth time to the same guy, its beyond reasonable. we had one guy (allegedly with the 'biggest' cock on RHP) send 14 flirts, we said no to each, but he still sends messages and adds us as his friend. I mean come-on, FFS, how polite do you have to be? we get abused for saying no, to guys who dont match and will never match. I receive phone calls and when I say hey thanks but no, I get abuse hurled at me over the phone. we say no to a couple, because hes got a head like a smashed melon and get called names. If you expect a response when its patently obvious you haven't read our profile, or dont care if you dont match, then dont, as none will be forthcoming. expect contempt if you ignore our profile wants etc and go away happy when we deliver.
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'flirty_bi_fem' ... Why I am weighing in on this shitstorm, but perhaps if my reply here is read, it will save me having to reply to a few messages. I have always tried to reply to all messages, but there are currently a pile of them sitting in my inbox that I am yet to get around to replying to. Even though I am in total agreement with Mooka and believe it is impolite not to take the time to reply to a guy who uses up one of his messages on me, I have gotten frustrated in recent times. This is because my profile clearly states I am not interested in meeting anybody new at the moment and that I am here for the forums ONLY. I took the time to write an honest profile and can tell the moment I open a message whether or not they took the time to read my profile first. I reserve the right to totally ignore your message if it is totally obvious to me that you didn't bother reading my profile. This automatically tells me we will not be compatible. I will always read your profile in full before I reply to your message and the following things I confess I will discriminate against you on the following points: Safe Sex - If Required .... Sorry, nope, not interested. I value my sexual health and this attitude to safe sex tells me A LOT about your intelligence and attitude toward sexual health. Grammar .... Call me what you will but I am also a language and grammar nerd. I like people who can construct a sentence and whilst I am not so conceited to assume everyone knows how to spell, correct grammar stands out to me.Couples .... Not looking for them, not interested at the moment. For the record, you can be bisexual around here without feeling the inclination to be a party of three.Age .... Seriously! It's the clearest of all of the criterias on the profile!Profile Content .... If your profile and its content doesn't catch my attention, tick my boxes, then what would be the point in wasting both of our time?Message Content .... If you are silly enough to pay for membership and then waste a message on me when you could have saved yourself the time and money by reading my profile, then I make no apology for assuming you aren't terribly smart - once again, no compatability.IF HOWEVER, you read my profile and this is evident in the content of your well-constructed message, then not only will my interest be sparked, but I will make an effort to reply to you in kind.I'd love to reply to all messages regardless, and there was a time when I could do that but in reality I am very busy and very happy with my significant other (who, incidently, impressed the pants off me with a fantastic profile that ticked ALL of my boxes!) and figure the first line of my profile should state quite clearly how much patience I have for ignorant people.Ahhhh ... feeling better already! If you are only here for the forums, then what does it matter whats written in a profile? Seems contradictory doesn't it? To qualify something that you state quite categorically doesn't interest you seems like a waste of time to me. On the basis of a poorly constructed and grammatically incorrect message you'd choose to not answer some one? Glad its not my wife messaging you, as she struggles with the written word, like so many on this site and others. But hey, that's just my opinion. (just saying. lol)
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'Naz88' If that's case this is for you.."Deck the halls with bells of holy..ful-la-la-a-la-la-la" Don't you mean; Deck the halls with boughs of holly?
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RHP User
15 years ago
I try to say no thanks but it gets taken as an invite so dont reply the only way to get the message out there and when your negative flirts are sent they take it as a positive.agree with focus - ive been here a little while and have just started reading forums
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'mikeandshel' Quoting 'Naz88' If that's case this is for you.."Deck the halls with bells of holy..ful-la-la-a-la-la-la" Don't you mean; Deck the halls with boughs of holly?Touche..Thats exactly what I meant. :)
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'Naz88' Quoting 'mikeandshel' Quoting 'Naz88' If that's case this is for you.."Deck the halls with bells of holy..ful-la-la-a-la-la-la" Don't you mean; Deck the halls with boughs of holly?Touche..Thats exactly what I meant. :) cheers lol. merry xmas.
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'hereforsumfun' Is there not any chance for a guy who simply wants a casual root. Surely girls have needs too. No strings. No bulshit. Or do I just go pay for it. A mutually satisfying, sex only, no strings quickie from time to time with a regular fuck freind. Is this too much to ask...... If so I will go away quitely. No stress. Just new to this stuff Merry Christmas all.... I personally feel that the part you refer to as bullshit - the getting to know a person to determine if you like them or not - is critical for attraction to form. For me, attraction is mental as well as physical. I also personally don't find a 'no strings quickie' to be mutually satisfying. I would also send a polite no thanks to a profile with no photographs, no matter how nicely worded the introductory email was. (My two cents worth. These opinions are mine alone and I do not speak for other women on here)
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RHP User
15 years ago
Sorry to the original poster, but even as a male, I have to laugh at this topic as it comes up at least once a month. Some guys not getting enough replies, any replies, or that 1 girl he thought he had a chance with doesn't seem interested. Seriously.... try lightening up and just living for the sake of living. Could be worse, you could be in a country plagued by famine, death, war or disease, instead, you are in a country that's pretty much got it made. Great beaches, usually pretty good weather.... note i said usually and most other countries in the world wish they could move here as we are supposedly such a happy bunch of people :) You don't get replies, messages or flirts read, shrug it off, thank the stars you've at least got the ability, even if you do have to pay for membership to be able to afford such frivolities and not wonder if your next breath will be your last, or where your next meal will come from, so on so forth. *gets off soap box laughing*
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'mikeandshel' Quoting 'Naz88' Quoting 'mikeandshel' Quoting 'Naz88' If that's case this is for you.."Deck the halls with bells of holy..ful-la-la-a-la-la-la" Don't you mean; Deck the halls with boughs of holly?Touche..Thats exactly what I meant. :) cheers lol. merry xmas.Merry Christmas to you and Mike too.
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'hereforsumfun' Is there not any chance for a guy who simply wants a casual root. Surely girls have needs too. No strings. No bulshit. Or do I just go pay for it. A mutually satisfying, sex only, no strings quickie from time to time with a regular fuck freind. Is this too much to ask...... If so I will go away quitely. No stress. Just new to this stuff Merry Christmas all.... I'd like to help a bit as i think you may have it all wrong..Firstly a woman is not going to just sleep with you because your on a sex site.. a woman is not going to sleep with you unless they are attracted to you..Same rules apply as in the real world.. you still have alot of work to do..yes girls have needs too as much as men..but women are wired differently to men..Attraction for a man is physical first but attraction for a woman works differently..it's deeper than that..A woman is very rarely going to sleep with you without some sort of attraction.. and 9/10 that attraction has very little to do with what you look like and more of who you are which you can't fake by the way..Don't just dissapear quietly..learn some things about how women work..what their after..how attraction works for women..and you'll be fulfilling yourself as well as what ever woman your with sexually and otherwise.. Google a guy called David Deangelo..Log onto his site..and look at the things he writes..he a guy who helps guys understand women better ..and if you think he's going to give you a quick fix..your wrong..but check it out anyway.. And merry Christmas to you too!
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'Naz88' Quoting 'mikeandshel' Quoting 'Naz88' Quoting 'mikeandshel' Quoting 'Naz88' If that's case this is for you.."Deck the halls with bells of holy..ful-la-la-a-la-la-la" Don't you mean; Deck the halls with boughs of holly?Touche..Thats exactly what I meant. :) cheers lol. merry xmas.Merry Christmas to you and Mike too. hey thanks lol happy new year!
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