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Lets get Real...
March 12 2014
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MsSuperFoxy
12 years ago
I believe a lot of people have different views on a range of Topics and it's great to see that. We may not agree on what some people have posted, but it's great to see people post and have a say rather than not say anything. Foxy
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RHP User
12 years ago
I have had many arguments on this topic. Innocuous statements may seem trivial at the time but those same statements can perpetuate mainstream opinion of LGBT people. I have no problems with you at all. I will pull anyone up on their words (and a lot of forumites know that). I don't just do it here either. In my real world Im a strong supporter of LGBT. Hopefully people will come away from this thread realizing that the most simple of words can affect other people greatly. Me being to precious or PC? No I don't think so. So SweetGEm. I have nothing against you but I stand by my words. Krissy
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madotara69
12 years ago
Quoting 'gazpacho51' Quoting 'madotara69' God. (brilliant) Mado, Im typing this slowly so that it gets a chance to settle in when you read it..... You my friend, fortunately, will never be normal. You're a weirdo. It's a condition that should be embraced and delighted. Nothing upsets me more than to be branded normal. HugsGazpacho I'm sitting here calm as a cucumber, just trying to show that us men can have it in them the senses including sensitive, surely the real man for all is the man who is happy just being the man he believes he is meant to be from the voice within his self, the man who can look in the mirror and see what the man has to say. Something like this that is worth the read once again it comes to mind, why? must be from that real man inside. When you get what you want in your struggle for self, And the world makes you king for a day Then go to the mirror, See what the man has to say For it isn't your Father, Mother or Wife, Who's judgement upon you must pass The fellows verdict counts most in your life, Is the one staring back from the glass Some people may think your a straight shooting chum, And call you a wonderful guy But the man in the mirror says your a bum, If you can't look him straight in the eyes He's the fellow to please, Never mind all the rest, For he's clear with you to the end And you have passed your most difficult and dangerous test, If the man in the glass is your friend You may fool the whole world, Down the pathways of years, And pats on the back as you pass Your final reward will be heartache and tears, If you have cheated the man in the glass
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RHP User
12 years ago
You missed my point. I have never been straight or monogamous. Just as some people may find a gay or bisexual lifestyle hard to understand I find the heterosexual and monogamous lifestyle hard to understand. To me it not natural. Ok so maybe my words are coming across a discriminatory. Ok your hetero, but are you monogamous ???
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madotara69
12 years ago
Quoting 'EuropianBliss' You missed my point. I have never been straight or monogamous. Just as some people may find a gay or bisexual lifestyle hard to understand I find the heterosexual and monogamous lifestyle hard to understand. To me it not natural. Ok so maybe my words are coming across a discriminatory. Ok your hetero, but are you monogamous ??? There seems to be different views to monogamous. Some seem to think it means one only ever has sex with the partner. By what monogamous means to us, it is we don't seek partners for sex outside of our relationship. We don't need sex as some sort of missing link in our life, we are happy just together and if and when we have sex with another or others, it is something we still do together, never apart from each other. So monogamous being we live our life together and all things we experience including sex we do together and there is no secrets, Yes we are monogamous. EB just because these words are black on white and have no color for feelings and moods, this to me is just a conversation, one thing to me as a man to what is real, is doing what I have to do whenever it is due, it is not the easiest and can make of things uncomfortable, though doing the respectful thing is what means a lot to me as respect is that no one is better than another, I think we all mean the same to that just got different ways for showing it. Some just don't have a grip on respect. I'm not upset just pointing out something I can't and don't have it in me to just let it fly, people mean too much to me, sure they do to you too.
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precious142
12 years ago
Just to let you know.....I luurrvvee real men AND Mentos!!!! May the supply of both never run out..........
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'Funlover71' Real men wear green jumpers, drink pints of beer and have Peter Pan complexes. Well said sir, Long live the PPC! (A term hurled at me in disgust during at least three breakups, I was taught to embrace It and look for my Wendy instead of Captain Hooks haha!!! )
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RHP User
12 years ago
What makes a person REAL? Every one has their own opinion and is entitled to it. BUT, this post is starting to bring out the worst in a few people, even some of the comments that were made tongue in cheek! Personally I'm sick of the grey ghosts with all the "ask me" sending me flirts. Are these REAL people?
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MsSuperFoxy
12 years ago
Maybe the "Grey Ghost" is a REAL person, who does not take responsibly at filling out their profile properly, is too lazy? It makes me sad, when they do post, because I think they are afraid or shamed of showing their "REAL" self/personality. Foxy
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RHP User
12 years ago
I guess that means I'm an artificial man 'cause I really can't sit through a chick flick especially if Sandra Bullock or Hugh Grant is in it.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Ok I bought Vodka today and Im so loving my mix...lol Wow and this thread didnt get cannedd........lol I love it so went this way then that way then wow I got what sweetgem meant she wanted to discredit the real men theory with men = penis not sexual orientation. Eblis you know you can react so there was that and sweetgem you always want everyone to play nice....but this is good people life, thoughts, real opinions. not moderated.....thank you As was said real people with real feelings and real emotions and real input............... YES YES YES free speech. sorry I mix that vodka strong
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'SuperFoxxxy'Maybe the "Grey Ghost" is a REAL person, who does not take responsibly at filling out their profile properly, is too lazy? It makes me sad, when they do post, because I think they are afraid or shamed of showing their "REAL" self/personality. Foxy I wish you hadn't said that.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Real men read the instructions on how to put IKEA furniture together
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RHP User
12 years ago
No we don't. That would be like asking for directions.
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RHP User
12 years ago
I am a real man, my dad taught me how to be a mans man, my mum taught me how to treat a lady right, and my grandma taught me how to put it all together and be a good person, after reading this thread i think my balls have just fallen off..........im gona go check!! it takes a real woman to make a real man and vise versa.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Treat you right...Speak to you properly...Open they're hearts and tell you they love you, even in front of their friends...
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'Funlover71' No we don't. That would be like asking for directions. I am starting to think I am a man. A REAL MAN.... and my beard is coming in and everything! I read the map... til I get to half way to where I am going, then I get bored. Nah, I will just wing it from here. What is the worst that can happen. LOL
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MsSuperFoxy
12 years ago
Q never came into my head when I posted that, so now I am thinking opps-a-daisy! Now Q has jumped into my head...thanks! *feels bad* Foxy
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MsSuperFoxy
12 years ago
The "SISTER"....was what I was more directing too. Foxy
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RHP User
12 years ago
In a less cynical world a man would be admired for having "all the right traits" but in the world of online dating things like chivalry, consideration, generosity and compliments seem to be generally seen as "just another player trying to get into my pants. While ever women treat genuine gestures of kindness and gentlemanly behaviour as a ploy they'll never allow themselves to see any man as a "real man." Over 50% of the women on this site in my opinion don't deserve a "real Man" because they don't even have the common courtesy to reply to friendly messages and engage in a dialog to see if he is a man of substance.If men conformed to every idea of what women think is the "real man" we'd get dumped or overlooked for being boring. There's nothing like being the nice guy, listening to a woman talk about her life dramas and hardships, offering assistance or advice where appropriate to have her say she's not going to be able to meet this weekend because she's met a gorgeous younger guy hung like a rogue elephant then a week later she's sobbing in your ear because he won't return her calls and she feels used. Scoff all you like but it's reality.That's my cynical 2 cents worth.
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MsSuperFoxy
12 years ago
Quoting 'Leanne6825' Real men read the instructions on how to put IKEA furniture together Even tho, sometimes it maybe in another language, YEP - real men can put IKEA furniture together! Foxy
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'SuperFoxxxy' Quoting 'Leanne6825' Real men read the instructions on how to put IKEA furniture together Even tho, sometimes it maybe in another language, YEP - real men can put IKEA furniture together! Foxy You mean IKEA comes with instructions????...Well I'll be buggered! No wonder my girl's bed looks sorta funny
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RHP User
12 years ago
Do REAL men get out of the shower to have a pee? Or is that the definition of a gentleman? God, now I'm confused :-)
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'discreet_liasons' In a less cynical world a man would be admired for having "all the right traits" but in the world of online dating things like chivalry, consideration, generosity and compliments seem to be generally seen as "just another player trying to get into my pants. While ever women treat genuine gestures of kindness and gentlemanly behaviour as a ploy they'll never allow themselves to see any man as a "real man." Over 50% of the women on this site in my opinion don't deserve a "real Man" because they don't even have the common courtesy to reply to friendly messages and engage in a dialog to see if he is a man of substance.If men conformed to every idea of what women think is the "real man" we'd get dumped or overlooked for being boring. There's nothing like being the nice guy, listening to a woman talk about her life dramas and hardships, offering assistance or advice where appropriate to have her say she's not going to be able to meet this weekend because she's met a gorgeous younger guy hung like a rogue elephant then a week later she's sobbing in your ear because he won't return her calls and she feels used. Scoff all you like but it's reality.That's my cynical 2 cents worth. and I get your frustration. But when you've been screwed over so many times it's hard to believe that a man can be any different especially when they continue to live up to that same standard. So you can understand why after a while women are very sceptical and cautious. No offence intended.....just saying
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RHP User
12 years ago
Can't I just be myself? I don't see how having a prerequired set of qualities makes a person "real" to someone else. Being real with yourself makes a far more genuine person. And why is it only men that need these qualities to be real? It would be good to see these qualities in everyone. Be realistic though, no one is perfect. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
Spicyandpassion I'm sure IKEA comes with some instructions (prob Swedish)... but to be honest I have never bought anything from there.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'discreet_liasons' In a less cynical world a man would be admired for having "all the right traits" but in the world of online dating things like chivalry, consideration, generosity and compliments seem to be generally seen as "just another player trying to get into my pants. While ever women treat genuine gestures of kindness and gentlemanly behaviour as a ploy they'll never allow themselves to see any man as a "real man." Over 50% of the women on this site in my opinion don't deserve a "real Man" because they don't even have the common courtesy to reply to friendly messages and engage in a dialog to see if he is a man of substance.If men conformed to every idea of what women think is the "real man" we'd get dumped or overlooked for being boring. There's nothing like being the nice guy, listening to a woman talk about her life dramas and hardships, offering assistance or advice where appropriate to have her say she's not going to be able to meet this weekend because she's met a gorgeous younger guy hung like a rogue elephant then a week later she's sobbing in your ear because he won't return her calls and she feels used. Scoff all you like but it's reality.That's my cynical 2 cents worth. good for you
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RHP User
12 years ago
and then there is RHP online stuff distorts things a great deal. the women here including myself, get a false sense of reality due to the hundreds of men that feed a woman`s ego on this thing. Worshiping at the feet of the cyber goddess. The average guy has three fifths of fuck all chance of ever being real, he has to be a six pack god, or some Mr Darcy again that's just the same stereotype of a man just without a computer In movies , women are fed the unreality of normal relationshipsin porn men are fed the unreality of sex so how on earth can we be real with each other? you cant, not unless you meet a person in the street, or work or at some social functionand you sit down and talk to each other face to face over a cup of coffeeand you do that for hours then days then weeks then years and then perhaps they may become your reality. this place is like the Mac donnalds of sex and relationshipsits cheap, its quick to get, and it has no substance, it cant nourish you and pretty soon you are going back for the same cheap crap and wonder why your getting bloated with a jaded perception. what you can find are snippets of what you need, but you cant hold it, unless your able to hold smoke in the palm of your hand. LadyT reality cheque please
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RHP User
12 years ago
On the button?Or buttons have been pushed?! @ discrete_liasons..... Im sure youre probably a decent sot of a guy...... so please accept that Im only referring to your comments to play devils advocate with the topic. You know, as we all do that people can disappoint us... whether in here, or beyond the warm sticky walls of RHP. So if we are to be falling into the trap of of debating what defines "real" men..... then surely the behaviour of a man in here, should be the same as that man... beyond here. And the way I see it, being affected by the shortcomings or disappointments brought on by total strangers... doesn't qualify as "real man" behaviour. Dont deny that you play the RHP Game too.You chose a specific name, and donned a snappy suit and tie to portray a particular persona. Is that real? Is it genuine, or merely marketing?! This shows us how quickly and easily the topic can be skewed. Again, I am only using your comments to prove a point. Im not seeking to challenge or offend. SO... my preference is to forget discussions on what defines a real-man... .... and identify those elements that make a GOOD MAN. DG
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RHP User
12 years ago
and a good man is my husband a guy on top of the food chain who has never run when the chips are downwho can hunt for our food, and does who would read to my girls still in his fire mans uniform and be so tired he would fall asleep before them who does not take shit from any man or woman for that matter who has impeccable taste cause he married me who thinks the internet is pathetic and would not in a million years bother to chat up women that way. reason is he is not a man of words, he is a man that acts good men are all men, give the right set of circumstance, and same for bad men its how we act in life that defines as all, and how we act when things get sticky that is the test of every person, man and woman.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'EuropianBliss'You missed my point. I have never been straight or monogamous. Just as some people may find a gay or bisexual lifestyle hard to understand I find the heterosexual and monogamous lifestyle hard to understand. To me it not natural. Ok so maybe my words are coming across a discriminatory.Ok your hetero, but are you monogamous ??? perhaps "it is not natural for me" would have been clearer wording for what you intended? "innocuous statements" and all that.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Foxy read an article and asked a simple question.........jesus give the woman a break !! Gazpacho.............always a pleasure. Nothing further need be said Ubethejudge...........good for you gorgeous !!!.......Don't stop doing what works with women who have a bit of class and style. up_in_smoke..........spot on baby ...........!!!
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RHP User
12 years ago
Aren't all these comments 'tongue in cheek?'I take everything said in here in jest. Real men are flesh and blood. They come with flaws, as do women.It's up to you whether you accept these flaws and enjoy the person for who they are. We can all be heroes online... Love what you have and accept what you cannot change or move on I say So, Real Men are those that are themselves both on here and in person.Just my opinion.
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RHP User
12 years ago
I think that Tuscan meant that instead of immersing yourself in self help psycho babble you should consider immersing yourself in some different knowledge.Perhaps read some classics,Ovid for instance wrote the Arts of Love over a thousand years ago,Tolstoy ,Dickens,and Jane Austen will tell you more about the human conditionthanDr.Phil.But if you want superior pyscho babble then try Carl Jung....Andi understand he was into polygamy.I loathe the so called Self Help industry with a passion...it should be called the self flagellation industry or 50 thousand ways to make you feel like crap.....why do we feel we are never good enough,why do we feel the need to constantly change and improve?.....if we just sit still and think well of ourselves then maybe we will feel happier about ourselves and the men in our lives.What is a real man?.....a real man is simply a man....I don't have a list,we are who we are,with all our flaws and imperfections we are human,yes even the grey ghosts among us:-) We are real,we laugh ,we,cry,we hurt ,we think,we lust,we love,sometimes we hate.Some of us are articulate silver tongues,some of us can barely string two words together,not because we don't wanttobut simply because we son,know how.We all have our gifts and talents,we all have our flaws.Whether it is a friend or lover of any gender,or sexual orientation, my pretence is to spend time with people who live their lives with purpose and integrity.... nothing else really matters. Quite frankly if a man showed toooo much interest in my menstrual cycle I would begin to wonder if he was addicted to the Twilight saga or True Blood.......So to all the men who just adjusted their profiles,change it back,women aren't gonna believe you anyway:-) Q
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madotara69
12 years ago
Real men drink Solo!
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RHP User
12 years ago
a real man do cry . But we perfers not to show our emotion to others ... I remembered a couple of years before when I had to cope with a cascaded problems with family, job redudancy, relationship etc. I wasn't showing my emotion to either party thus my reply to anyone who was just " simply fine ". However I did cry in isolation with tears running down my face . It was tough and I did a though of committing suicide at some points .. With a broken heart with a failure relationship, I embarked with my search and soul healing by backpacking for more than 2 years. It was great experience and lucky I did that or else I will not have survived.
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MsSuperFoxy
12 years ago
Lady T and myself have discussed outside this forum. Yes, I understand what she was coming from. :) Foxy
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'SuperFoxxxy' Lady T and myself have discussed outside this forum. Yes, I understand what she was coming from. :) Foxy the forums of late seems that every time I open my mouth its to change feet. the break should have stayed a longer break .
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RHP User
12 years ago
Love your response Q, and I agree the self help industry often preys on those with low self esteem.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Zippit....... come on do your worst. I can handle it.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Will always show that he appreciates how you care for them. A great example from my ex was he would hang my jacket up for me when i visited. If I stayed over he would put a glass of water on the beside table for me. Just a couple of the things he did that made me fall in love with him.
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RHP User
12 years ago
I want you so bad right now words just don't cut it lol
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RHP User
12 years ago
I quoted Zippit, sooooo on the money!
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RHP User
12 years ago
real adjective 1. actually existing as a thing or occurring in fact; not imagined or supposed. synonyms: actual, existent, non-fictional, non-fictitious 2. (of a thing) not imitation or artificial; genuine. synonyms: genuine, authentic, bona fide, sincere That kinda works, a real man is one that exists, and he's even more real if he is genuine and not imitating anyone or any established image or anybody else's idea of what he should or should not be or do e.g.1 a man that feels like crying, and cries despite the audience, situation or consequences is real, and a man that feels like crying but doesn't to save face, or holds it inside for some reason, well he is not being a real man. e.g.2 a man that likes chick flicks and is open and honest about that is real, equally so a man that hates chick flicks and lets it be known that he hates chick flicks is just as real. BTW I hate generalisations, like some chick flicks and hate others, it usually depends on aspects like the plot, the characters and the actors.
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RHP User
12 years ago
"Manish Boy"
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RHP User
12 years ago
oh yes here i am girls :)
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'Meeka100' Love your response Q, and I agree the self help industry often preys on those with low self esteem. A person doesn't get to be 99 without learning a thing or two.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'Hungry_tiger28' oh yes here i am girls :) Step aside, plebs. The alpha male has arrived.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Bruce Morcombe (Daniel's Dad) spent over ten years in emotional agony trying to bring his son's killer to justice, and stayed true to himself and his family the whole time.
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MsSuperFoxy
12 years ago
unzip and come back out to play.....Please Foxy
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RHP User
12 years ago
Zipped out for a zip less fuck with a reel man:-) :-) :-) :-) xx Q
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RHP User
12 years ago
When women ask about REAL men I always wonder what a REAL woman is. Who is the Barbie to this mythical Ken?
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RHP User
12 years ago
I agree with these lists are personality traits over being a real man. These traits apply to both sexes equally and what makes a person attractive to me is a person/ man who is true to them selves and honest with themselves first and fore most Lucy
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'discreet_liasons' I want you so bad right now words just don't cut it lol if your into Rust
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'LadyTuscan' Quoting 'discreet_liasons' I want you so bad right now words just don't cut it lol if your into Rust There's some great lubricants available for rust, don't sweat it
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RHP User
12 years ago
Just want to say how I judge a real man/woman. Simply by how they treat those people and creatures that can do nothing in return for them. If you wanted to see the real man in me just put me with a sick or injured animal and you'll see the full set of emotions including unconditional love. If that makes me less of a man I can live comfortably with that. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
You're not a vegetarian, are you?!! if not.... Great.... Fire up the BBQ and we'll put that injured animal to good use ;-) lol
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RHP User
12 years ago
Discreet really hun less of a man you noway I would be the first to say you are more of a man then most you have dignity respect and a beautiful caring nature are more then any one can ask for be it as a friend playmate or master.... - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
Are secure in themselves and don't feel the need to snipe at every man who posts...only very small men do that. Q
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RHP User
12 years ago
Bam!
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'Qefenta2' Real menAre secure in themselves and don't feel the need to snipe at every man who posts...only very small men do that. Q Do you mean like stubby loud-mouths of about 5'7"???
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RHP User
12 years ago
A real man isnt fussed in the slightest by the subtle yet obsessive followings of phantom women.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'Mischeviouslad' A real man isnt fussed in the slightest by the subtle yet obsessive followings of phantom women. be very afraidandthe horror I am a real man, I must be I just found a hair growing out of my nipple... Lady T aka Mr Walker
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MsSuperFoxy
12 years ago
To each and everyone who has posted in this Forum. I've enjoyed reading each and everyone's posts. There certainly is a mixed bag of answers to my question. Deciding to write up a forum "What makes a REAL woman" Foxy
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RHP User
12 years ago
I have no idea about that,cos I is unroool :-) :-) :-) :-) xxQ
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RHP User
12 years ago
I the term "Real Man" just used by women to challenge mens' masculinity, get their hormones flowing and talk them into doing things they want them to do. Just a thouhgt ;) lol..
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RHP User
12 years ago
Yeh, i agree Monstermind, after reading the list of replies, there'll be alot of men on redhotpie having tea parties dressed in little pink fairy outfits with very open hearts debating what they should wear at the next tea party meet.
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RHP User
12 years ago
.... But they are snapped up quick by real women. Lol
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RHP User
12 years ago
I have tea cups:-) xx Q
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RHP User
12 years ago
wasn't a real man,he had two titanium hips,and a pacemaker....I blame that Lee Majors fellow....he set such a ridiculous example, poor Norm just couldn't keep up xx Auntie
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madotara69
12 years ago
Me mate a Mr king Gee (reckons the ladies seem to find him attractive) should see his wife he gave us advice to this thing. how real can it get But he is married, still married men can be real men can't they and still treat the ladies right?
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RHP User
12 years ago
I think this is particularly challenging! We want everything that we cant have and we are always thinking about the green grass on the other side of the hill! in other words we are VERY slow to mature! However, the transition we go through when we have our own children, especially sons is a sobering one and forces us to prioritise and say what is important. In this context, I have found the things that are important are, in no particular order of priority:HonestyHonestyListeningTouching - hugging and holding hands (my son has no probs with that now that he has taught me how to do it in a manly way!! saying and meaning 'I care' - they pick up on you so quickly if you are dishonest about this!being vulnerable and showing my anger, frustration, sadness (crying) and happiness (crying and laughing)being consistent and doing what you say you will do (DWYSYWD)not being afraid to be hurthonestytaking responsibility for my actionsself sacrifice when the need arisesleading by example - e.g., cleaning my bedroom and doing the dishes etchonesty i guess there is a lot more - but i believe this is what real men ought to be about
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RHP User
12 years ago
Very well said.
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MsSuperFoxy
12 years ago
I liked what you said. However do they wear Pink Tutu's and attend tea parties? Please add that to your list and I will be in looooooooooove. Foxy
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RHP User
12 years ago
It's a very difficult balancing act to be a REAL MAN. I used to be one but personally find it harder to see my self a "real man" as I get older and loose my physical abilities. Real men are physical and mentally strong but don't have to do anything to actually prove it. Real men can be soft and vulnerable but also have a solid unemotional side to them. Real men are open minded and intelligent and don't place expectations on people around them. Real men tread that delicate line of respecting and appreaciating women while being confident and strong. Real men are honest in their dealings with people and life,including acknowledging their lust and desire with needing to necessarily act on it. Real men don't worry about what other people think of them if they are being true to themselves. (This includes wearing pink or a tutu ) And real men keep themselves clean and attractive with being appearance obsessed. Real men a comfortable with silence. Real men live in the present moment and know how to just "be". On second thoughts after reading this list perhaps I never did have "Real man " status. Oh and I'm happy to buy tampons but buggered if I know what I'm going to do with them.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Being as I'm a teatotaler I'm very happy to attend tea parties but no tutus of any colour, I'm sorry. It's just not a good picture. I don't wear underwear, you see, so my tackle and great hairy arse hangin' out from under those frilly things would put everyone off their scones.
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RHP User
12 years ago
I think we all have our own personal ideas of what a real man/woman is. Of course, a majority may follow the guidelines presented by society/media, and many of those versions may differ greatly depending on the social context of the specific publication. The "How to be a Real Man" article in Zoo magazine would differ greatly obviously from the one published in, trying to think of some 'trashy' womens mag but cant, (I feel Zoo and similar magazines are ALSO trashy btw...) Some well stated arguments here, but I believe its largely down to personal relationships, what YOU want out of a "real man" (or woman) and how we consider this ourselves. I open doors for women, but not the car door or pull out chairs, seems a bit silly to me to go overboard. As stated, women are perfectly capable of doing these things on their own. Depending on our status as you walk through that door you may well get a pat on the butt as well... I can also cry when I get a bit emotional, dont see anything wrong with that.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Lovely post....and the same goes for daughters.....we are indeed the best role models for our children....how we treat them,how treat others,are the most important lsons they can learn xxQ
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RHP User
12 years ago
..my late father wrote to me 20yrs ago, not long after he had been diagnosed with terminal Motor Neurone Disease.He was to live for only 2 more years in a worseningquality and was bringing some closure to a life lived without regret.It was quite a personal letter, spoken from theheart as they say and i teared up when i read the lines:"Don't lose touch with your family, for when thingsturns dark they will be the ones who will stand by you.Be a good man. Care for your family and others andyou will leave your mark on the world".The words of a person suddenly made aware of theirimminent mortality strike deep, regardless that hewas my father.As mentioned by others earlier, aspiring to be a goodman..or woman..is a more admirable summation of ones lifestyle than to be real or unreal, i believe.Reading my late fathers letter 20yrs after it was put topaper, i naturally reflected on those years, and decided that I've done a pretty decent job of unwittingly living up to his expectations so far.Reminding myself to every few decades probably won't hurt either..
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MsSuperFoxy
12 years ago
Quoting 'jensman1903' Being as I'm a teatotaler I'm very happy to attend tea parties but no tutus of any colour, I'm sorry. It's just not a good picture. I don't wear underwear, you see, so my tackle and great hairy arse hangin' out from under those frilly things would put everyone off their scones. Aren't Tea party's....SWEET then SAVORY? :) I could cover your BITS with a pretty doily, napkin.....jam or cream. Foxy *pinches tea cup handle, raises her "PINKIE" sips on tea...*
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MsSuperFoxy
12 years ago
Thank you for sharing something very very personal. How admirable and beautiful are your dads words....gave me a fuzzy wuzzie, it did! Foxy
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RHP User
12 years ago
is what society (parents, friends, media, experiences) make them out to be. Times change and society changes and therefore unfortunately or fortunately depending on your view standards change. Maybe settling for 99% now instead of trying to find 100% which can take longer than a life time is ok. Its all subjective
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RHP User
12 years ago
..reading my fathers advice to myself as a young mantouched me too
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RHP User
12 years ago
Thank you Ubthejudge for your words. Its time. I do appreciate a man who is comfortable in his own skin. And I mean it.
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RHP User
12 years ago
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RHP User
12 years ago
One thing I find most amusing is nobody has brought up the whole LABEL issue that always come up when people ask about their sexuality. I don't need to call or LABEL myself as a 'real man', I'm me and the rest of you can deal with. If people stopped worrying about how others perceived them and concentrated on accepting who they are and focused on living their lives to the best of their abilities, there would be a lot more happy people in the world. I embrace my Peter Pan like character but, at the same time, I'm am very focused and driven on things that are important to me. I like having fun so I concentrate most of my energy into my work and studies so I can afford to have as much fun as I can handle. I really hate labels!!
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RHP User
12 years ago
what about black labels :-) :-) :-) xx Q
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RHP User
12 years ago
I work hard I laugh a lot, I have self respect, I cry, I build, I clean, I drive trucks sometimes and I make love but now n then I simply fuk :) above all else I am me no one else... The lady's that I chat with here (privately) seem to believe I'm a real man :)) But none of taht matters unless there is a honest connection of the mind and only then will you see a real man or even a real person for that matter
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RHP User
12 years ago
I put the toilet seat down.
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MsSuperFoxy
12 years ago
Quoting 'Mischeviouslad' I put the toilet seat down. Think I love you. I remember one time, middle of the night, off I go, lights out......... I let out a dam all mighty scream! I almost fell in the dam toilet! It's dam cold sitting on the porcelain. Foxy
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RHP User
12 years ago
A real man should take initiatives and cook dinner for her, and then throw everything in the dishwasher while she relaxes with her feet up sipping on some lovely champagne/wine and then give her full body massage on the bed for a full one hour without rushing into touching her pussy. Then at the end of that one hourr, then softly brush past her pussy and then softly tongue her labia lips with your tongue. Run your tongue all the way up and down pussy and full on pash her pussy like you really love her.Then a real man should lay down on the bed with his rock hard hardon pointing towards the ceiling, and let her ride you!
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MsSuperFoxy
12 years ago
Men who say women belong in the kitchen, obviously has no idea what to do with her in the bedroom. Foxy
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madotara69
12 years ago
Not necessarily if the lady happens to be wearing one of those sexy little maids outfits, has duo balls in place and hops skips and wiggles in the kitchen, hinting that right there is where she would really enjoy being fucked, maybe something too the utensils she has in her kitchen of love, sex and debauchery. Teasing us poor men. Oh it is her place all right Mado Tara xx
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RHP User
12 years ago
Ok I'm a man and I am owning up to be one of these men who cry. My dad brought me up to be tough in this dog eat dog kind of world. He told me that crying was a sign of weakness. I don't hold this against him or anything, it was just because he grew up in an era where men had to be emotionless that he thought it was the right thing to teach his son. But when he passed away (cancer), I did not stop crying. I was 16 and on my own as my parents split so as soon as I got home from school, I would just drop everything and cry....for hours most nights. I was on my own juggling school, the solicitors who tried to convince me to sell my dads house and rent (fuckers...I showed them), friends, working to keep repayments up. Crying for me was a release of all the hurt and pain and frustrations. I felt ashamed for doing this because my dad taught me different. But the more I cried, the more I was letting out my hurt and pain. Crying is like rain..when it rains it's hard to see...but when it stops, everything is fresh and clear. So yeh I'm not ashamed of owning up as a man who cries. And as for the other aspects, I believe that a man should be just that. To do the best he can for the ones he loves, to help where he can, to be open with his emotions, to be strong, to be vulnerable, to possess integrity, to let his partner in, to dream, to inspire, to lead, to follow, to advise, to learn, to talk, to listen, to give love, to receive love, to be patient, to be kind, to be wise, to hope, to believe...
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RHP User
12 years ago
I got smoke in my eye 😭 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
that was an incredibly moving story..... And amazingly inspirational story of resilience.....thank you xx Q
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RHP User
12 years ago
... flex and such the tum tum in a little bit in the mirror when taking a photo? lol
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RHP User
12 years ago
For your kind words. Gosh it has taken me years to openly talk about that time in my life without breaking down. But now I have it as a mark of strength and to use your word...resilience. I draw on that experience in times of self doubt and hardship. It is empowering for me to reflect on those times and I certainly hope my telling of a part of my life can help in some way get people to see that we shouldn't underestimate or undervalue ourselves :) Oh and I have to say....I am really loving these forums. Some really interesting, funny and challenging posts on RHP :). And to pay you a compliment Qefenta2, your posts are one of the more interesting ones. Really like how your mind works :)
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madotara69
12 years ago
Quoting 'Mischeviouslad' ... flex and such the tum tum in a little bit in the mirror when taking a photo? lol If he wants to see his cock, a real man that is. Oh the mirror, well that is another thing.
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MsSuperFoxy
12 years ago
Quoting 'madotara69' Quoting 'Mischeviouslad' ... flex and such the tum tum in a little bit in the mirror when taking a photo? lol If he wants to see his cock, a real man that is. Oh the mirror, well that is another thing. Foxy skips off to find a mirror...then heads to the kitchen dressed in her pretty frills to find a rolling pin! ;)
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