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Do you root on a first date. ?
March 04 2015
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RHP User
11 years ago
I rarely take a lady home the first but they're the exceptions that prove the rule.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Yeah..... I've heard that a number of times. And also heard .... "I don't normally do this" I believe women say it up front to test your reaction.Why women are testing you like this is a whole other subject.
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RHP User
11 years ago
but my dad & brother own a pub each. Does that count? Lol - Posted from rhpmobile
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AnnieWhichway
11 years ago
to look at it. Either your are an exquisite and talented man about the ladies and are able to swing their resolve. Or They give in just so they get you back out the door as fast as possible..... I'm too much of a lady to guess on that one but can assure you I don't root on first dates. I make love. Mad passionate love.xxx
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madotara69
11 years ago
We hope so. Mado Tara xx
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RHP User
11 years ago
What a catch .. Every man's dream is they find a woman who's old man owns a pub, and in your case a brother too ? talk about heaven.. lol.. But seriously' you said NO... does that mean NO you dont on a first date or NO its not to save face . ?
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RHP User
11 years ago
yes i do i only meet guys that i like to have in my bed
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RHP User
11 years ago
Is meeting a man for the first time for a coffee and a chat regarded as "a first date"? If so, then my answer is "No, I don't root on the first date" and I mean it !!! It's not a case of "having to save face" !!! It is a principle that I stand by. I need to assess whether there is mutual attraction between the man and I first. If there is, then we arrange to meet again and whether sex occurs on the "second date" just depends on the circumstances. Amy
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RHP User
11 years ago
But I'm fine with it. I mean, sometimes the sex is the only reason you set up the 'date' (or meet, as I prefer to reference them) so might as well accomplish the objective. And besides, all the cool kids are putting out. Haven't you heard? - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Need a first date first and then I can answer this fuk on first date question :)
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RHP User
11 years ago
Then I did. Now I don't again 😳 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
If you asked my daughter she'd say yes to that question.....but no you can't feel her tits!!! ;) Jay - I think a lot of women mean it but for others they may say that so guys don't think they're on a sure thing. Make them do the whole wooing thing to build some tension if that's what they desire. Mr HnH
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RHP User
11 years ago
with the flow. If I feel like it then "yes" and alternatively "no" if I don't feel like it or am not sure about the guy. I hate rules. Aren't they meant to be broken anyway LG
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precious142
11 years ago
Quoting 'Leo_girl' with the flow. If I feel like it then "yes" and alternatively "no" if I don't feel like it or am not sure about the guy. I hate rules. Aren't they meant to be broken anyway LG Im with you here........but then too.......if a girl has an itch..............
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RHP User
11 years ago
Its just a way to try and stop men thinking you will turn up with no pants on, bend over the coffee table and say would you like some pussy juice with that coffee? Its like putting your hand on a mans chest to stop him from trying to kiss you, when your not quiet that friendly. Women have to say these things DG. Its like the old thing, will you respect me in the morning? Truth be told more than likely not. Its our way of pissing into the wind, thinking that that the men will think us nice girls if we verbalize the fact. Yet why is that bad girls are what they really want, you now the ones that say I do not do this often when they go down to suck you off and your thinking hoolly mother fucker ohhh my god where the oh lordy where did she learn to do that? well we learnt it on lots of guys before you. So build a bridge over that river of slutsville. I fuck when I feel like it , and that is a capital I , but when younger had all those pressures put on me to be that conflicted chaste girl and the town bike. Now i am just myself. Perhaps a bike with a few flat tyres and a chain that keeps slipping off now and again.
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RHP User
11 years ago
As a rule, I don't. However, I have and it was goooooood lol. I would prefer to meet someone and decide if I would like to go to bed with them first. Or whether the feeling is mutual. Although, sometimes the chemistry is just right.
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On_Safari
11 years ago
But there was this one time a band camp...... Honestly no not usually but if you really get my blood going and the heat is reciprocated and there is the opportunity to lustfully and passionately ravish each other, ohhh faaaaark yeah!!! But that rarely happens so nup just yanking ya chain ~ Indy in fantasy land again x
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RHP User
11 years ago
I think women say that so that men don't get their expectations up and assume she is a sure thing. I don't bonk on the first date either except for a hand full of times and it always turns into a one night stand, which is not want I am looking for.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Sometimes a first date is after texting/calling each other 399 times a day for 6 weeks.... - Posted from rhpmobile
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LifeUnscripted
11 years ago
We have a general rule that we prefer not to have sex on a first date. There are a few reasons, but two are probably most important. First it allows us to talk together after the date and make sure we are really both interested and comfortable. If you are going to sleep with the other couple on the first date then it makes it harder for us to have that conversation. The other main reason is that it makes the first date less stressful. When there are no expectations of sex on the table, then the night can go better with less stress for us. This doesn't mean it is a hard rule, but generally we agree to break it before we go into a first date. So it isn't a surprise. But we have met people coming into town from another state, and that requires being more flexible sometimes. Or when we are on holidays, like when we were on our lifestyle cruise. At that point time is at a premium. Honestly though, the no sex on the first date thing works well for us.
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RHP User
11 years ago
I have to be honest and say I don't take that much notice of specifics in a profile or first few messages, its the sales process at that point. When you meet someone you generally know what sort of sex is going to happen if any, if its a one night stand 'poke and run style' then its only ever going t happen on the first date. In my case (don't do 1 nighters) if I am investing time into someone, I kinda expect some class back. I always tell people my first rule is they can't seduce me on a first date, sometimes rules get broken but for the right reasons.
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RHP User
11 years ago
But shag like wild crazy monkeys after months of toing and froing..... Not a problem
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RHP User
11 years ago
Damn I knew I was doing something wrong. I dont date. So..... Um.... Ok then.
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RHP User
11 years ago
If there is a mutual attraction for both - spontaneous combustion
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Hottie1
11 years ago
I'm sort of into you already if we've gotten to a date. You'd have to do something that's a turn off for me to change my mind! I'm also picky, so if you're getting to a date you've done something to pique my interest ;) And I like sex, so ...... Mary xx
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RHP User
11 years ago
If they're local, never, but I've made exceptions three times for guys who lived interstate.
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RHP User
11 years ago
I don't as a rule sleep with someone first date, I like to meet for a coffee or drink and chat and see if there is any chemistry there at all. There has only been one time I can recall where I have thrown that all out the window and said lets go, actually the feeling was so mutual that we didn't even talk about it we just did it, or maybe that was because of all the wine beforehand, hmmm.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Me tingle all over and make me feel like I can't keep my hands off you, then maybe.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Don't take it for granted.
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RHP User
11 years ago
But now I always meet for coffee first. If all goes well and there's chemistry then a play date can be organised. But if there's no spark I can comfortably walk away knowing there were no expectations. Guys that won't take the time to meet me properly first don't meet me at all.
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RHP User
11 years ago
So what you are saying is this. If a girl puts out on the first date she has no class? And meeka is so right. A root on the first date often means a one night stand or you become the B plan girl as in that knock on the windiw at two in the morning when they could not pick up at the pub. Ladies you want a boyfriend? Then keep your knees together and don't suck tier cock for at lest five dates. Play the game and do not be a sucker for all the cow dung that is thrown at you as hot little whispers off your so sexy babe can't wait to see you again babe. If you just want s fuck then all good. All you need then is to suze each out her up. Honestly if you let your natural endorphins do the work you know within a minute if meeting if you want some if that. I do most guys can't even finish the coffee I am like Nero. Thumbs up or down. I tell them to be straight up with me as well. They say holly fuck woman , not in this lifetime! - Posted from rhpmobile
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Lovinit28andKC72
11 years ago
I've had plenty of dates and not fucked, but then there has been a few times that I have, because I do whatever feels right at the time....💋 But then I generally I do like to get to know someone before I meet them with 399 text messages.....👍
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Leo_girl' I go with the flow. If I feel like it then "yes" and alternatively "no" if I don't feel like it or am not sure about the guy. Quoting 'LadyTuscan3' Disclaimer. Its just a way to try and stop men thinking you will turn up with no pants on, bend over the coffee table and say would you like some pussy juice with that coffee?.......I fuck when I feel like it , and that is a capital I , I whole heartedly agree with the women above. The expectation of putting out on the first date is incredibly high (no matter how you meet). A few have expected it. I am no tease, but I will not feel pressured into it either.
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RHP User
11 years ago
but I don't imply it is a guarantee either. A lot of guys start getting pushy if they get a sniff that they might get lucky. I have had plenty not turn up because I have said I am not promising anything.
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RHP User
11 years ago
SacralChakra on this. If they don't want to meet properly the first time, the men don't get a 2nd look in. A proper Meet the first time, helps me to gauge the man. Am I attracted to him ? Is he attracted to me ? Do I want to sleep with this man ? These are all important questions that I consider before deciding to become "intimate" with a man. If the answer is "Yes" to all 3 questions, it should result in great sex when the time comes. Amy
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RHP User
11 years ago
But I have often felt rooted after.Does that count..?xxFreya
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RHP User
11 years ago
Maybe they don't plan to but then you are just so irresistible .......they have to
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RHP User
11 years ago
so that's a yes from me. But only if I like you. And if you bought me the Moet. And if you promise to fuck off in the morning and let me sleep.
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RHP User
11 years ago
thems were rules ...
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RHP User
11 years ago
A quote lol
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RHP User
11 years ago
Well ' dang ? and I always thought it was my aftershave ... hehe...
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Seachange73
11 years ago
Aren't we? I chuckle at the word root. Lol. Back to your question.. Normally NO but it depends. My circumstance is quite different from most of the women here. To be honest, when it comes to local men, I am after a more regular partner I would normally have multiple exchanges via email, text or kik with them. See if we have any connection. Phone chats is mandatory for me to further gauge attraction and connection. Meeting them in person in a funky bar would be just the next step in connecting. If I have met them previously via Meet and Greets, then I would know whether I am attracted to them. Pretty basic and simple for me. I like it that way. Now, when I meet them, if there is not chemistry we walk away. If there is, and it is papable, who am i to deny myself the opportunity to have fun in a safe setting. We are consenting adults. I am a busy woman and I travel a lot for work, around Australia and overseas. Almost every month. Like in business, I do not have time to waste and play games. I try not to overanalyze things. I may be playful but not stupid. When I am intersate or overseas on my business trips, I would meet men for a drink or two and even have dinner with them,. Some will not result in anything more than their lovely company. I can't be presumptuous that they will be attracted to me. Again, if there is sexual chemistry between us in our ensuing converstation, we mutually decide to retire to my hotel. Safe sex is mandatory. And it is understood that is it a one night stand and no strings attached because it is such. Some regularly keep in touch with me via kik or text or phone chats. Some of them, I meet again on a semi-regular basis when I get to their city. So a long-distance fwb. No dramas. Simple.
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RHP User
11 years ago
The coffee meet in my mind is to gauge if a first date is viable or not...
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RHP User
11 years ago
You're right... We are consenting adults . Also agree if there's no chemistry there's no party... Jokingly ' I once told the lady I was with ' I don't root on a first date... She promptly replied .. ' we'll see about that ' and then the sneakily got her own way... Not that I'm easy.. ?
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RHP User
11 years ago
Do we continue with the song? - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
If by first date you mean the first real sit down or get together and talk to one another, then no. I'm not really one to 'date' though so I'm not sure what 'dating' is.
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RHP User
11 years ago
this is not rules driven!~i suspect it is based entirely on the chemistry between the two individuals - and this is the way it should be
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RHP User
11 years ago
I didn't root on first date, I was 9, she was 8. We shared a paddle pop Tip
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RHP User
11 years ago
If there has been a lot of communication before hand and I felt that there was a connection then maybe yes I would consider it.
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RHP User
11 years ago
If all goes to plan i hope so - Posted from rhpmobile
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blackbig
11 years ago
I tend to meet people that I feel there is a physical attraction. If we meet and it feel right, certainly-:)) . Mostly of those people have end up meeting more than once... so real there is no particular rule as far as I am concerned. I tend to put my cards on the table... and I expect the same from the other party. I hate playing games. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
I will incriminate myself..... I'm shutting up lol (Bangs like a dunny door, just to keep in with the rooting theme) - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
After multiple exchanges via text/phone/etc. and the vibe is palpable I'm happy to do ninja. If not, your work is cut out for you.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Nope I've got a three date rule, I like to get to know more about the woman I'm out with before we fumble around between the sheets. I like a connection so it's more comfortable and we know a little more about what each other will enjoy.
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Dryphuz
11 years ago
I always say i don't, but the fact is if i get a good feel for someones personality then i will have sex on the first date. I need to know i like someone as a person before the bedroom becomes a possibility, but its not dependent on number of dates.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Hahah what a thread...I think you shouldn't confirm to a rule of thumb, carpe diem (seize the day) and don't deny what you feel. If it's not meant to happen don't force it, and if it's going to happen and your in the moment embrace it. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Go with the flow you really like her you won't if she wants and you like her you will.... - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
But I have. Only once since I joined RHP. And the other times were before I married so, over 30 yrs ago? No! Surely not...! Well, anyway, the reason I say it is twofold. One-so I can protect my virtue and Two-so that you think I have a virtue worth protecting. Hmm.....
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RHP User
11 years ago
It depends and I dont do the whole date thing ,,, And I like to try before I buy make sure im getting bang for my buck ,,, I suppose we are all here for different reasons !! But doesnt mean im going to put out first night variable consideration 😜 - Posted from rhpmobile
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Lovinit28andKC72
11 years ago
If coffee/drink meet up is not a first date (bullshit), then I almost always fuck on the first date...Because if I like the coffee, I'm going back for more.....💋
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RHP User
11 years ago
But it depends. These fays a first date is after many exchanhes online....therefore people may feel more comfortable with the other person by the time they actially meet up in person. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
I wouldn't say no if she asked. It's a woman's choice cause I will never say no to an offer. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Yes I do No I don't Yes I do No I don't No I don't No I don't No I don't No I dont HOLY FUCK, YES I DO! No I don't No I don't No I don't Yes I do Spicy
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RHP User
11 years ago
Isn't it...? Sandy xx
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RHP User
11 years ago
I think that's a good thing but like any womanthey don't want to feel cheap.A woman with a good sex drive is a good thing.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Hinging a each way bet... love it.. lol.. I think thats funny...
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'kisslids' Do we continue with the song? - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
We do not play at first meeting. Should the first meet go well we would organise a play date with unseemly haste.
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RHP User
11 years ago
I always try not to, but if a woman offers her honour, I'll honour her offer :)
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RHP User
11 years ago
Bloody oath I do!
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RHP User
11 years ago
Make up your mind... are you honour of offer... ? lol...
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RHP User
11 years ago
this may be slightly off topic, however i respect the opinions of others with regards to their personal checklist or "rules" that they may have in place for a root on a first date, one night stand, however you wish to categorize it...if chemistry (which in itself is multidimensional) is there, i see no problem. having said that i'm not the type who would a) want someone to have to vacate in the early hours of the morning and b) wouldn't want to have to be woken up to vacate in the early hours of said morning. perhaps my affinity for sleep and comfort is understated and there are few things i find more distasteful than being woken up by an alarm; let alone someone who found me irresistible a few hours earlier and at the break of dawn is struggling with fight or flight. if i wanted someone to leave at some stage, why would i go to bed with them in the first place? sure, intoxication, drugs, mild cases of bipolar are all legitimate reasons as to why i may find the person initially attractive then have a a change of heart at 5am...but if i have things to do the next day i'll leave home quietly with a glass of fresh water near the bed and a note letting my "root" know they're welcome to stay, they can help themselves to brunch and make themselves at home. i call it being accommodating and courteous both of which go hand in hand with manners and common sense - thanks mum as much as we love two and a half men, the concepts of charlie harper, coyote ugly and the absence if not complete disregard for common courtesy (and common sense) has created a disconnect in society. it was popular alongside binge drinking beer bongs and beer pong back in the high school and uni days...not that i wouldn't engage in the latter with like minded company, but the whole "get up and go" rhetoric is overrated...hence why i called the hotel several weeks in advance to confirm a checkout time of 3-4pm on a sunday....simply put: you can't rush cool
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RHP User
11 years ago
But normally only AFTER we leave the cafe.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Or Macka's.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Yes I do on the first date. Angel xx
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RHP User
11 years ago
Or will you show em to me - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
I'm usually meeting them with a view to creating some sort of ongoing FWB arrangement, in which case no. I like to go out a few times to see if the spark extends beyond the initial attraction. However (yes Jay I'm having a bet both ways ), one of my current fellas lives 1400km away and the first time we met (after multiple conversations via text, chat and webcam) was when I flew to his house to spend 3 days with him. If that was our first date, then you'd better believe I shagged him on it. I'm also traveling interstate next week and I have a couple of dates while I'm there, if I feel a spark after a great night out then I imagine that clothes will be being discarded fairly shortly after it, at least I hope so because there's not much that's sexier than holiday sex.
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joanne1991
11 years ago
It depends on the night if you are sexually frustrated and looking just for that fuck of course, if your looking for something more no I would wait at least till next meet. C'mon be realistic you are all here for sex are you now saying this site is a dating one that your looking for full on relationships so hold off, tease and hope they come back lol
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RHP User
11 years ago
Hope you packed the ping pong balls. Beer pong championships qld division.haha. My check out is 10. If Im still sleep depraved, Im knocking on your door at 10.05am. 💤
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RHP User
11 years ago
sorry Jay_me but I've told you a lot of times.... You're just not my type 😝 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Thankfully...
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Obi1Kenietzsche' But normally only AFTER we leave the cafe. Awww. I thought I would be up for a finger bang under the table as I calmly drink my coffee.
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RHP User
11 years ago
If we are not naked and licking each other within half an hour then I would say it is not going well, which does happen from time to time. Generally the date ground rules are established before hand, with the "No fucking" clause as a fail safe rather than a stipulated rule, having never meet before one must at least confirm that its not a fait de complete. I am not that easy and you may not be my type. There are of course the "just as friends" dates, and I do really try my best to not fuck when on that type of date. Its not always successful but I am getting better at it.
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RHP User
11 years ago
.....
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RHP User
11 years ago
If it's from the site pretty sure most ppl are on here for casual sex so therefore yes y not? It's not actually a date. If it were a coffee date or "getting to know the person" as a potential partner then it's upto u whether u want to wait or not. I think it rlly doesn't matter if u do or don't tho coz feelings can still develop even if u guys had sex on the first date :)
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RHP User
11 years ago
I have to say i like to meet people first and make sure there is a connection before going to the next stage.....but then again sometimes emotions and lust takes over
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'curiousgirl68' If it's from the site pretty sure most ppl are on here for casual sex so therefore yes y not? It's not actually a date. If it were a coffee date or "getting to know the person" as a potential partner then it's upto u whether u want to wait or not. I think it rlly doesn't matter if u do or don't tho coz feelings can still develop even if u guys had sex on the first date :) We are? Actually most of the people I speak to are after something more actually. So you don't even meet the guy for coffee first? You just arrange to meet at someone's house, hotel or park for a straight up bonk without knowing if you will have any sexual chemistry first? Just curious actually, I am wondering if sexual chemistry is important in this hook up culture.... I know for some men the woman or bloke they bonk is not that important. More of a you will do type of thing. I am sure woman are like that too, I just didn't think it would be the norm.
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RHP User
11 years ago
You are so naughty! :) I too also like a "little sugar" with my coffee! X Obi
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RHP User
11 years ago
Well I didn't say everyone I just said most people ...well most guys are! And sometimes yes why not!! Of course there must be sexual chemistry and I can judge that based on when we meet whether that is at someone's house, a bar, in the car lol...u can say no u know.
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RHP User
11 years ago
I would find that too awkward. I would rather say I don't bonk on the first date than give they guy the expectation that I am definitely up for sex. I can tell you know 9 times out of 10 I will not want to bonk the guy and what if he turns nasty while I am sitting in his car?? I really can't be bother with "you will do" sex. I think I must have low libido or something. I have never been into picking up guys in bars or anything like that. I really should take up drinking!! Lol
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RHP User
11 years ago
I can be a bit of an old fashioned prude sometimes to be honest. =D
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RHP User
11 years ago
along with the balls, Funbuns is bringing the cream, which I am certain we can also utilise in innovative ways 😉 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Our prof suggests 'meet first, play later' but given the lead up conversations..it almost always ends up at one or the others place. No expectations and go with the flow we say...that way you are never disappointed...
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RHP User
11 years ago
Always had a fuck on the first date - Posted from rhpmobile
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Kattss
11 years ago
What is this? 1983??!! Didn't know people still used the word root
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RHP User
11 years ago
I only fuck on first dates. If you want round 2 you better bang me so hard that i don't remember. I'm making a list by the way. Some of you will be hearing from me ;)
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RHP User
11 years ago
But if I meet someone (rare enough these days) and he's keen and I'm desperate, then why not? ;) I'd never describe it as a 'root' though - I think I have more taste and decorum than that! - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Yes yes and yes!
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RHP User
11 years ago
I should clarify I thought I was on our couple page !!!!
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RHP User
11 years ago
I do fuck on first dates.But if ya buy me burger at Macvcas, well no I dont fuck on first dates. Ps you buy the condoms love, and tickets back and forth :P
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