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Anal Obsessions
July 07 2016
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sweetgem
9 years ago
For asking the question alex052016, as I am also keen to find out why the majority of men seem to be obsessed with anal sex so much that it's like a must have thing in sex! I had had enough anal sex to know that I hate it and I'm still dread about it to date, as I had dated a man who was only into anal sex! Ouch ouch ouch! And I hate it when men try to convince me that I would love it if done with the right man, etc. it seems like manipulation to me when a man says that to me! 👎🏼😕 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
I also thank alex052016 for raising the subject as I agree that it seems to be a bit of an obsession for a lot of guys. Anal sex is physically painful for me. I would hope that any guy I'm with would be intelligent and respectful enough to understand when I tell them that its not for me. No attempt at persuasion - no cajoling, pleading or begging. It should be the end of the discussion. There are so many other things we can do that pleasure both of us I would hope that we could move on and try something we are both into or looking at exploring.
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RHP User
9 years ago
great topic, I'll be reading with interest. I love anal with the right guys. In reality, there have only been a few. When it's right, the right connection, right amount of heat, it's incredible and seals the deal, very intimate. Why do you hate it when they won't take it though? If you enjoy receiving, why does it matter to you whether they receive or not? Not passing judgement, maybe you get off giving anal, it's different for everyone, but just wondered. For me, I'm not into giving, receiving only, I'm a taker in that department lol not in other departments but yeah, like to be dominated and anal is the ultimate way to be dominated, physically that is. Love to hear the guys viewpoint on this also
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RHP User
9 years ago
Every guy is different - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
Well some guys want to sometimes just try out every hole they can. others may not want to risk the chance of having a unwanted pregnancy so they cum in the butt, Well pretty much most the porno's these days have some sort of anal play, from rimming to fingers in the but in them these day and of course anal sex, Some guys may just want to try everything that they see in the porno's they are watching ? They may just want to try test how far a girl will go for them ?
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Laidback_Fun
9 years ago
(Mr speaking here) To be honest, I don't know... i honestly think it is because anal is normally off limits. It's human nature to want what you can't have I guess. It does feel different to regular sex too, and I guess they are craving variety? Personally,I'm don't share the obsession, we have tried it, so it can be ticked off the bucket list and I'm happy with that.. I don't know why men won't take it, I personally love the feeling and think it's only fair to take what you give.... to be honest I'm more into taking it than miss ;) - Posted from rhpmobile
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AnnieWhichway
9 years ago
My male half prefers normal sex so cant understand it either. Though not complainjng about their obsessional behaviour because if none of them liked it, id be out of businsss........
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Smilingwithfun
9 years ago
Its not a big deal for me. Its certainly not something i'd try on the first few times with a lady. It would be something i would do with a person i had been with for a while, only if they liked it & just for something different.
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DynamicCouple36
9 years ago
Because so many have seen it in porn movies and the actresses seem to be enjoying it and as a result many guys think that all women will enjoy anal sex. Maybe they need to have a penis shoved into their anus several times in quick succession ? And to then feel the pain / tenderness for days afterwards and when going to the toilet ? Maybe then , they won't be so eager? - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
Agreeing, and then adding to what has already been mentioned... There is some level of kinkiness to it. A little taboo, especially for some. Also, some women genuinely enjoy it, and they're encouraged to share that with others who are reluctant, or may have had bad experiences. I've said it before in here, I think anal is a good sorting way to work out good lovers. It's easy to get wrong, and make it awful for a woman, but good lovers can make it rather wonderful :)
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RHP User
9 years ago
And I think a large amount of guys do enjoy (secretly or otherwise), or do want to try it. My theory is that they're better equipped (P) to enjoy anal penetration.
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RHP User
9 years ago
Well it's still taboo....It gives us a feeling of domination, that we've had all of you and that you have submitted to us. Personally i can have it whenever i like as she enjoys it and therefore i rarely want it..... It's not something i would wan't with a casual encounter however we think it's a personal thing and not something Mrs Adelaide ever want's from other men.
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RHP User
9 years ago
I think being the kind of site that this is, there's a disproportionate number of anal seeking men. The domination thing (outside of a relationship) kind of creeps me out though. Some porn really has a lot to answer for, as it has done irrevocable damage to how we enjoy sex. Don't get me wrong, I love some sexy porn, but the degrading stuff really has not helped IMHO.
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RHP User
9 years ago
For me personally its usually when I am extra horny, I don't ever force any situation or have it in mind I need to do anal with every girl or even with the same girl. Its a tool in my repertoire I guess, thats how I look at it, if the situation is getting extra steamy and its going to that level then it ends up there. Some girls really like it and some girls don't even like your fingertips anywhere in the vicinity, its not hard to tell in the moment. For me its not an achievement or something I have to do, at the end of the day the goal should always be pleasure.
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RHP User
9 years ago
It doesn't hold much interest to me. But if SHE asks, I may oblige to satisfy her pleasure choice. In the past I've been concerned about hurting the lady asking, as I'm not the type of person to want to create a negative experience for someone. So I've taken it very slowly when I'm in control. How 'she' moves when she is in control is ip to her. I'll take the front yard every time. 😎 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
I really like anal with the right person, it is mostly a submissive thing for me (a huge turn on) with a dominant man and for that reason very few men have been there! I like giving anal pleasure too, if he is into it! I don't subscribe to the theory that 'because I play anally, he should too.' We all like different things, sex is about exploration of pleasure, whatever that is! I'm told I'm tight, vaginally and anally, so I couldn't say if this is more appealing or not! I recently experienced an anal orgasm simultaneously with a clitoral one, an incredibly mind blowing experience ;) I suppose the old adage 'ask and you shall receive' might be foremost in guys minds, I couldn't say! Personally though, just asking will not get you there with me. We need to connect on some level, he needs to have the emotional intelligence to handle any 'accidents' and it needs to be part of the wider sexual exploration between us! Mary xx
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RHP User
9 years ago
I think also some of the "why are they asking for it" is because vaginal sex is the normal, standard behaviour so you're much less likely to be asking for that when you have sex, because that's what you'd be getting when you toddle off together to have sex. Guys who don't get blowjobs as a regular part of sex would be more likely to ask for a blowjob too, since they wouldn't get it without asking.
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RHP User
9 years ago
And because its taboo and I have a great curiousity I am drawn to to occasionally play there. But gooses and ganders, if you want to go there you should be prepared to take it as well. I actually like haveing my bum played with on occasion. The wriggling and maoning the is elicted from some women when you finger them there is a real turn on for me. And a bit of rimming and anal penetration ( both giving and taking) occasionally can really spice up sex play. But I wouldn't say I'm obssesed, I actually lagerly prefer vaginas!!
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teejaylongsword
9 years ago
I'm not personally into it to much. I have tried it because the girl i was with asked for it. I found that I could hardly move. It was way to tight for me. I guess lube would have been the answer but you don't always have lube in your pocket do you (maybe I should have it in my pocket haha). I am also not a big fan of accidents. The vagina is beautiful and made for a mans penis. You can't beat it. So may try anal again but only if asked.
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RHP User
9 years ago
Pretty much nail it for single guy prospect
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RHP User
9 years ago
...just not something that interests me although if she really wants it, can negotiate.
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RHP User
9 years ago
It has to be with someone I know and trust. I like to give too but havent met many guys who like receiving.....
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Sawadee
9 years ago
When I think of sex , anal is the last thing I think about. Give me the nice warm pussy next door any day. Wouldn't care if it never happened . Maybe if the lady is into it and it's important to her. ?
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RHP User
9 years ago
...said the man with an owl obsession. It's a different sensation. Great as variety but if it's humiliating or painful for them, then it's not pleasant for me. On either end. I'm experienced with giving and taking. A lot does depend on the mood and the fucker and their experience with it. The anus is a very complicated flower and is far more intricate than just a hole. It needs expertise and the right touch to pollinate. Also the person bee*-ing fucked needs to know how to receive. Oh, and prepare, because things can get messy. I think the obsession would more psychological (and yep porn would have a huge effect on it) with hetero males. You can't just punch it in there. More men should experienced being fucked so they can see how.....not good it can be. Taught me much, I do say........ *
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RHP User
9 years ago
Quoting 'DynamicCouple36' Because so many have seen it in porn movies and the actresses seem to be enjoying it and as a result many guys think that all women will enjoy anal sex. Maybe they need to have a penis shoved into their anus several times in quick succession ? And to then feel the pain / tenderness for days afterwards and when going to the toilet ? Maybe then , they won't be so eager? - Posted from rhpmobile Is this the Mr or the Mrs? Sorry, just wondered, either way it doesn't really matter. I don't feel pain for days after and I think that's a bit of a worry if that happens. With slowly slowly entering and lots of lube, oil for me, and a cock that's not too big or thick (there might lie your problem), there is no pain at all. But I only engage with guys who have experience, right angle, right moment, lube lube lube, it shouldn't be painful
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RHP User
9 years ago
It just seems like all guys want to do it and women don't. Personally I think most girls do, only they won't admit it. Unfortunately some guys have no Idea what they're doing when it comes to anal and just slam it in there and be rough about it! Those girls will hate it from then on of course. For me it's about the taboo and a girl being comfortable enough and also like me enough to give it a go. Do it properly guys think about not hurting the girl and be gentle! guarantee she will want it more! Guys who are comfortable with there sexualities will enjoy taking it too, but for us (well me personally) it's not about getting a strap on and slamming away either.. Girls who know how to manipulate the Gspot is your dream. Guys who aren't comfortable with there sexuality and get weird over it have seriously no idea what a Gspot orgasm feels like. Unlucky!
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RHP User
9 years ago
Nailed it. So to speak... - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
Yes...I think it's cos it's the forbidden fruit still. It's not necessarily better, but the mystique is there.
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RHP User
9 years ago
forbidden cherry huh? Wanna pop my cherry I'll keep trying, you'll feel sorry for me one day and give in
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RHP User
9 years ago
I meant forbidden fruit, I need some sleep oops
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aussian43
9 years ago
Part of it is the forbidden/naughty angle, but I think how it is shown in porn is a large part of why people want it. Unfortunately how it is portrayed in porn is so unrealistic, so clean and easy, maybe a grimace by the lady but otherwise no pain, swapping between anus and vagina, or even worse, straight from the ass to her mouth! :p I have tried it a few times (giving, haven't tried receiving), it does feel different and was pleasurable. Though I worried that she only does it because she knows I like it, not because it is pleasurable for her. Though she does want to try a DP.
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RHP User
9 years ago
Everybody looks to find that one special person that makes them feel complete, anal sex done correctly with that special person is a very intimate act. For those that enjoy sharing themselves this way it can bring about complete surrender of themselves, a feeling of honesty, bringing yourself closer to you partner, allowing them to feel special fo allowing yourself to be used in such an open, vulnerable, erotic and yes a little taboo way 👀
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cbdlivin
9 years ago
For me its the love the feeling of tightness and how feel it goods both giving and receiving but not obsesses about it, it depends on who I am with. B
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RHP User
9 years ago
I have been with Mr for over 4 years now and have only ever done anal with him (total of about 5 times in 4 years). I was single for 4 years on RHP before I met him and had multiple guys attempt to get me to do anal sex with them but to me its something that requires a lot of trust and preparation. I never felt comfy doing it with a one night stand because really all they care about is getting what they want (anal) and because your just another sex partner to them they mostly don't care that it actually bloody hurts! I had to be VERY firm multiple times with guys who just don't seem to take no for an answer when it comes to anal. E.g. trying to 'accidentally' slip it in while having normal sex etc. Even with Mr we only do it on special occassions and I have to very drunk because a) it dulls the pain to a level I can 'just' deal with (even with heaps of prep), b) because when I'm drunk I'm usually in a super kinky, horny mood and up for anything. I love the idea of anal sex and the idea of doing it or watching someone else do it, it turns me on HEAPS however the reality of actually doing it is usually not as good as the fantasy because lets face it, it bloody hurts! lol I still wonder how the hell girls orgasm from anal sex lol Taby x
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Tall74nHard9
9 years ago
Quoting 'I_touch_myself2' I meant forbidden fruit, I need some sleep oops I thought it was sex you were short on ....Make up yer mind, girl.
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RunningFreee
9 years ago
It's more of a temptation to get in there, but it's not really better than pussy, unless the girl is really enjoying it. Although my wandering fingers might be a bit more obsessed ...
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RHP User
9 years ago
Quoting 'nibblemebi' I think being the kind of site that this is, there's a disproportionate number of anal seeking men. The domination thing (outside of a relationship) kind of creeps me out though. Some porn really has a lot to answer for, as it has done irrevocable damage to how we enjoy sex. Don't get me wrong, I love some sexy porn, but the degrading stuff really has not helped IMHO. I actually have an adult son (Mr here) and not only did the birds and bee's chat have to go down but after finding some serious porn viewing habits had to explain to him that sex in real life was nothing like porn. Still had issues with the way he treated girls when first started dating and had to have the chat with him again. Porn has some real bad side effects on young men and has a lot to answer for.
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happy0450
9 years ago
A few thoughts; Certainly not an obsession Need to have a strong connection first Needs to be completely mutual Most unlikely in first 2-3 meet ups Not sure if it's anymore a domination thing than doggy ? Happy to be the receiver with a gentle woman - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
I couldn't agree more. its very dangerous to think porn is what the kids think is normal play and its very common for kids at 14 or 15 have already done anal.. Its very concerning... And the rise in disrespect in woman which directly leads to violence against woman is totally unacceptable and the only people who can fix it, is us men, making our peers accountable for disrespectful comments. Quoting 'Adelaide3some' Quoting 'nibblemebi' I think being the kind of site that this is, there's a disproportionate number of anal seeking men. The domination thing (outside of a relationship) kind of creeps me out though. Some porn really has a lot to answer for, as it has done irrevocable damage to how we enjoy sex. Don't get me wrong, I love some sexy porn, but the degrading stuff really has not helped IMHO. I actually have an adult son (Mr here) and not only did the birds and bee's chat have to go down but after finding some serious porn viewing habits had to explain to him that sex in real life was nothing like porn. Still had issues with the way he treated girls when first started dating and had to have the chat with him again. Porn has some real bad side effects on young men and has a lot to answer for.
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RHP User
9 years ago
Since I am on my way to 60 I decided to check out ways to keep awayfrom Viagra and find natural ways to stay hard.After reading some medical reports I discovered that bi sexual men , lesbians and gay men is not natural but 1000 or more chemicals eaten orin the air that is changing genetic code in our bodies.Do some browsing on net and read the articles.I have no idea if this covers anal obsession but you never know.
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RHP User
9 years ago
It's something different, kinky, and it's nice to have the option every now and then. However anal play with fingers and orally is probably more enjoyable for me! In saying that though i believe it's only really for relationships or with someone you have a solid connection with (especially receiving) so and they need to enjoy it, otherwise whats the point?
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RHP User
9 years ago
Anal has never been something that I've been that interested in. Not sure if it's the whole cleanliness thing or what but never looked at a girls butt and thought "I'd love to stick my cock in there". Have tried it once with a girl who enjoyed it and didn't think it was right that I'd never had the experience. Whilst it felt different I wouldn't say it felt better. If anything I'd still say a pussy feels better. It's warm and moist and inviting and far away my favourite hole. But maybe I'm just strange lol
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RHP User
9 years ago
i love assplay. i love receiving and giving. ive let previous partners fuck me with strap-ons. ive always enjoyed vibrators and buttplugs in me and i love licking a girls ass out. when a toy is inside me my orgasms go from a 5 to a 12. im not bi and nor will i ever play with another man. i cant get enough of assplay!!
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RHP User
9 years ago
It's because the pussy is so passé - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
I think that the access to porn is one of the big reasons.... I remember years ago it was not something that was commonly seen on porn or really talk about. These days it seems to be the norm many porn movies.... sucking, licking, fucking in a couple positions then anal.... For me.... I love to receive anal!!! I also love rimming. A strappon is ok... toys a cool.... but i do prefer the real thing though!!
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AnnieWhichway
9 years ago
Love the way you worded the piece of crap you just posted. You left out bi women but included Lesbians. Why? Because you like bi women? Where FFS did you read that shit? Did you forget that bi and homo people have been around since the beginning of the human race? Or did some fuckwit link Agent Orange with some genetic kink. Suppose crossdressing began since the development of the atomic era? Well Chev, you make me shake my head but you do make me laugh as well......in pity Love Annie 💙
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RHP User
9 years ago
Hold on a sec, anal is amazing I love it!! The way i feel is incredible!! So not all men are obsessed with it, most girls are too! 💜
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RHP User
9 years ago
It's a discussion I have with young people often, IRL sex is not like porn! We need to educate not only our young men but young women about 'choices' and their right to say no! Also what 'healthy,respectful sex' looks like between consenting adults I've only had one bad experience with anal, and it was a man in his 40s! I like my doggie style vigorous, he wasn't being terribly focussed, he went from pussy to arse, one thrust, no preparation! Needless to say instinctively I propelled myself off the bed in pain. His response to seeing me in a fair degree of discomfort was 'it's all part of the job babe, expect those things to happen!' No sorry, no, are you ok? That was the height of disrespect for me! He should have known better. He was surprised that my next move was to get dressed and walk out! He couldn't understand the difference between rough play and disrespectful treatment of a play 'friend'. It's the only reason I'll ever do anal with a trusted person and in intimate settings :) Mary xx
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RHP User
9 years ago
Quoting 'chevtrek' After reading some medical reports I discovered that bi sexual men , lesbians and gay men is not natural but 1000 or more chemicals eaten orin the air that is changing genetic code in our bodies. Please cite your sources so we can all check out these 'medical' reports.
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RHP User
9 years ago
Quoting 'chevtrek'Since I am on my way to 60 I decided to check out ways to keep awayfrom Viagra and find natural ways to stay hard.After reading some medical reports I discovered that bi sexual men , lesbians and gay men is not natural but 1000 or more chemicals eaten orin the air that is changing genetic code in our bodies.Do some browsing on net and read the articles.I have no idea if this covers anal obsession but you never know. vaccinations chev, must be something in the vaccinations and chemtrails - being paid to spray chemtrails is how they keep their airfare prices so low it's an insidious form of population control, because they're turning people so they can't breed.. right? ;) (I don't quite get the link between the lesbians and the anal obsession)
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RHP User
9 years ago
I was searching natural ways to boost testosterone and came upwith those reports .I was not even searching about gender however as I said browse the net and do some reading.
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RHP User
9 years ago
Seriously...... Just when you think there may be progress, we read that
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RHP User
9 years ago
Sorry guys, but most men don't have the patience it takes to "ready" a lady for anal sex. A lot of preparation needs to take place beforehand, otherwise you'll hurt her, especially if she seldom does it. The pain can be extreme, and must be avoided at all costs. LOTS of foreplay, lots of lube, use toys (start with small ones), and be very gentle at all times. And take your time, it can't be rushed. Once you're inside, GO SLOWLY. Leave the deep pounding to the porn stars. Done correctly it can be an extremely enjoyable and erotic experience for both parties. Anal orgasms are extremely intense. And yes, I enjoy receiving as well as giving!
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RHP User
9 years ago
... for starting this thread! I was so relieved to read that I'm not the only female who thinks that I will only attempt this with a man whom I trust and feel close to. I have been "lucky" so far because my ex's were not interested in anal sex so I have dodged the bullet all these years. Sometime last year, a female Dr was interviewed for a news segment and she highlighted a recent trend that was very disturbing to her and her medical colleagues. Apparently, there is a rising trend in the number of female teenagers who present with all manner of anal injuries because their boyfriends had rough anal sex with them. She exposed the unfortunate fact that perhaps, the teenage boys watch porn and think that what they see in porn is "the norm" and so they do the same to their teenage girlfriends. The teenage girls, not wanting to lose their boyfriends, would give in and then end up with horrific injuries to the nether region. One unfortunate consequence of rough anal sex is fecal incontinence and the Dr revealed that it's really sad that some of the girls had injuries so bad that they would have to live with fecal incontinence for the rest of their lives!
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RHP User
9 years ago
Theres a few things i like ab out it, when your face to face i loved the extra gasp everytime you thrust in, feeling it take someones breathe away is a really good feeling and takes you back to when sex was new and everything sort of took the air out of your lungs I mean the taboo / Mental abpect is awesome and always kicks things up a notch Ive had both sides, given and received from a girl with toys and all in all i found both quite enjoyable!
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RHP User
9 years ago
Anal is the bomb, some chick's love it some don't.. The ones that don't I ask If they'd like to try with me, if they say no I don't continue to push the situation.. I just leave it be. On the incision the best bet is to use lots of lube and to always go very slow, it's usually the knob and the first couple of inches that hurts woman the most in my experiences.. After that it's nice for them. Definitely gotta know your limits and how to work it.. I've found with anal that if you reach around to there clit and rub while putting a finger in her pussy.. it takes the focus off there asshole for enough time for you to get it in ☺ just a trick I learned over the years lol.. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
I have not read anything to say porn and rough anal is a new trend are you sure the doctor was meaning that the 2 linked.
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RHP User
9 years ago
I don't right the reports I just read and yes sexual deviation has been round since Rome.
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RHP User
9 years ago
I've never tried it and I don't seem to see the fascination with it to be honest... I've had the chance offered to me and had to respectfully decline as I don't think it's my thing... Not sure why guys like it to be honest, but there are also a bunch of us who aren't as interested in it 😊 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
Chev I really hope you didn't use the term sexual deviation in the real sense? It's a term usually used with paraphilia. Sexual deviation - sexual behaviour or fantasy outside that which is morally, biologically or legally sanctioned often specifically one of the paraphilias.
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RHP User
9 years ago
I'll preface by saying this has been written by the guy in our couple. For me (the guy), it is primarily:- the thought of it; and- when doing it, with a girl on her back, seeing her open privates, and watching her play with herself and give herself an orgasm, is just really hot! Having said that, having done it with a few to several women as a single guy, it didn't really feel that different. For me it was the look, and watching the girl really getting off on it. I never nad a girl for it, and when we do it if she looks in any discomfort I will stop as that kills it for me too. I have met two women who have said they have their best orgasms anally. Some women are physically predisposed to it - by that I mean penetration with a thick member is not difficult at all. Some women don't like it at all, and I understand that, and accept that (my partner being one of them). As a guy - my wife has tried pegging me with a strapon the same size as my member, and wholly crap!! That will take some training! So I understand how women, much smaller than me, struggle with it and don't want it. For any ladies keen to try, can I suggest, and my partner supports this: getting a few different size butt plugs, and very slowly working your way up through them. Vibrating butt plugs are especialy good! My partner's view: loves butt plugs, particularly inflatable and vibrating, but cannot do anal sex with a large member. She prefers to use a dildo or plug on herself rather than someone else doing it to her. Again for me: I have an unfulfilled fantasy of my partner sitting on a guy who has a thin member, reverse cowgirl, while I get my head in between her legs and pleasure her clit with my tongue, the two of us bringing her to an intense orgasm. Ladies, if you don't want to do it, just don't, and if curious better to practice on your own. :-)
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hardnslow
9 years ago
Been there done that! Well it's not my cup of tea but if the lady wants it and loves it then I will do it. I do ask if she is in to it but only to know where my boundaries lye. My aim is to have a great time and please my partner so I suppose if asked I will go there if they say NO then no it is. easy as, but it does sound like it is getting trendy
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RHP User
9 years ago
Quoting 'chevtrek' I have not read anything to say porn and rough anal is a new trend are you sure the doctor was meaning that the 2 linked. ... the Channel 9 news one night last year. It was also in Herald Sun, 1 June 2015. Google this : Porn sexualisation of young women leads to injuries. Why is it so hard to believe that pornography and rough anal sex is linked? Surely, you do watch porn, yeah?
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RHP User
9 years ago
But I would never say they have influenced my sexual desire buton the other hand it has made me chase up kinky devices...LOL
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RHP User
9 years ago
No one has mentioned the enjoyment of a challenge, it's harder to do it right and not as straight forward as regular sex. For those who like the journey and are not after a quick wham-bam thankyou mam, it offers an alternative experience that can give hours of fun that is different to the norm..... Besides, most girls have really hot asses that can't help but get you hot....
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RHP User
9 years ago
I have enjoyed anal sex and teaching my partners how to buteven I have noticed that many ladies are saying that there partner is obsessed with having anal and in some cases that is the only way they will have sex.Am I the only one that thinks that an obsession like that has got to be bringing up questions on what is going on.
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RHP User
9 years ago
i love my fucked. i love receiving and giving. ive had a few previous partners fuck me with strap-ons. ive always enjoyed vibrators and buttplugs in me and i love licking a girls ass out. I do love to eat a pussy while a guy pound my ass. I know a few ladies that love anal but love more to watch me take a hard cock in my ass.
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RHP User
9 years ago
Because its naughty. Its Taboo which makes it exciting and such a turn on.
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forsterfun
9 years ago
I love it but not all the time. The mood has to be right. The only person I've ever been super comfortable doing it with is my current partner. He is gentle and generally lets me do all the work. That way if there is any pain, I can stop. I have always found that there is a spot that needs to be passed for the pleasure to start. The last time we had anal sex, I was sitting on his lap and the orgasm was so intense I cried. Of course Mr thought I was hurt, I had to assure him that it was all good and most pleasurable. We don't share my arse with anyone, it is a sacred spot for us to use as a loving couple :) - Posted from rhpmobile
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Swingingnudist
9 years ago
Twice as tight All round pressure and 4 degrees warmer
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RHP User
9 years ago
Is a guys profile that says....anal (giving)....but not recieving.....purely because it generally means they have no idea about entering without lubrication...and a mouthfull of spit as depicted on porn just isnt enough.....nothing worse than someone thrusting in or trying to while dry.... I also find they think its great to go back and forth between the vagina and arse, but for us ladies, that just means infection and inability to engage in play until we recover...... the only one I will allow to give me anal is a long term partner who I trust and understands what it is for us girls. We dont have a prostrate like a guy, so it gives us a different type of pleasure.....but it can be enjoyable if done correctly - Posted from rhpmobile
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Seachange73
9 years ago
Quoting 'chevtrek' I have enjoyed anal sex and teaching my partners how to buteven I have noticed that many ladies are saying that there partner is obsessed with having anal and in some cases that is the only way they will have sex.Am I the only one that thinks that an obsession like that has got to be bringing up questions on what is going on. And hence the OP has asked to get a bearing on it. Question to you... So, since you teach your partners how to do anal, do you like being fucked in the arse as much as fucking them in the arse?
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RHP User
9 years ago
I am not homophobic but in no way is some guy goingto fuck my ass yet I do let women finger my ass.
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RHP User
9 years ago
It's been interesting reading the responses. UnicornDelight, you have pretty much hit the nail on the head with what I was asking. Wanting to give but not receive shows a misunderstanding of what is to be a careful and considerate approach to the receiver (especially in regards to overall health). I don't necessarily want to give it, I just find it interesting the number of discussions I've had with males regarding this topic. I should have realised I would be flooded with offers when I wrote the op!
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RHP User
9 years ago
1. It's taboo2. Its fashionable in porn these days3. I totally understand what you mean when a man responds with 'oh you haven't done I with the right man/the right way - then recoil at the thought of them in the receiving end! There are respectful men and then there are men who push the issue. Could you imagine if the role was reversed? That's just my 2 cents.
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SexyHedonist
9 years ago
Firstly... I'm an anal whore lol. I love it. It's my choice, not being forced by my partners. When in gang bangs and orgies and mmmf's I'll offer the guys the choice of holes and many of them get excited with the prospect of anal for many of the reasons written above and yet almost as many choose not to. I wouldn't say that there is an overwhelming push (pardon the pun) for anal. Also for me I purposely search for men who list anal (giving) WITHOUT putting anal (receiving). I have no interest in a sexually submissive man, and like straight men. I would never want to force anal on him so he can know what it feels like, just because I want it, or he asks if I want it... and have had no trouble with men using plenty of lube - a simple prompt is often all they need. Also when it comes to sexually transmitted diseases anal sex has a much higher transfer rate due to the finer membrane. Now this may not make me popular, however, I have spoken to several sexual health doctors in a variety of clinics who have all said the same thing... if you like anal sex and don't want to use protection then choosing straight men will diminish your chance of being infected with Aids, at the very least. So when I search I purposely go for men who list anal (giving) but NOT (receiving). Ultimately it's preference. I've found there are plenty of considerate men out there who love anal sex and will take it slow, or use extra lube, or stop if it's not working. And plenty of men who are happy to not go there at all.
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RHP User
9 years ago
I love anal - Posted from rhpmobile
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clarky1976
9 years ago
I'm must say from my experiance you are one of the rare girls that love it and who don't respond with let me do it to you first every time when asked for it. I love giving anal to a girl who enjoys anal I have done it twice with girls that didn't like it but did it when asked enough times and it wasn't enjoyable but with someone who does enjoy it I've had some brilliant experiances especially with DP what a sensation.
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RHP User
9 years ago
Quoting 'smuttygirl' Also when it comes to sexually transmitted diseases anal sex has a much higher transfer rate due to the finer membrane. Now this may not make me popular, however, I have spoken to several sexual health doctors in a variety of clinics who have all said the same thing... if you like anal sex and don't want to use protection then choosing straight men will diminish your chance of being infected with Aids, at the very least. You have misinterpreted the information in a frightening way. Choosing straight men may (if they're not promiscuous sans condoms and if not secretly gay/bi and if they're being honest with you and if they get tested regularly...lots of ifs!) give you a slightly reduced risk. But "diminish your chance of being infected with Aids?". No. A condom will help with that.To clarify, I am not having a go at your choice. I respect that you and everyone makes their own choices regarding this stuff. I am however, having an issue with the way you're presenting misleading information. I'm a stickler for correct information ;)
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RHP User
9 years ago
Quoting 'clarky1976' I have done it twice with girls that didn't like it but did it when asked enough times and it wasn't enjoyable How surprising. Do you think there's a lesson to be learned there?
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RHP User
9 years ago
Quoting 'Luck_Dragon' Quoting 'clarky1976' I have done it twice with girls that didn't like it but did it when asked enough times and it wasn't enjoyable How surprising. Do you think there's a lesson to be learned there? learn to like it or you won't have any fun? *shoulder shruggy emoji* ;) I know the point you're making to him, but then as long as it isn't a one way street, I think it's nice that partners would do things to make the other happy even if it isn't something they enjoy. The whole town of Leura (or those similar crafty towns full of men with pained expressions being dragged around by their partner) is a monument to "things one partner grudgingly does to make the other happy" ;) I think they survive because they manage to have just the right ratio of pie/candy shops for the (usually) male half to acquire a nice pie while walking past the umpteenth artisan candle and knick-knack boutique. Same same but different.
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RHP User
9 years ago
Quoting 'S_OnTheLoose' I think it's nice that partners would do things to make the other happy even if it isn't something they enjoy. he didn't enjoy it either. Which is often going to be the case when one partner is forcing themselves to do something they don't like....it's going to be pretty obvious most of the time, unless you're a good actor / good at hiding your displeasure. So I really don't see the point if neither party is getting anything out of it.
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RHP User
9 years ago
The fact that he had to badger them to do it tells me that they weren't doing it as some sweet altruistic act, but were probably just hoping that going along with it would get him to shut up about it.
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AnnieWhichway
9 years ago
Love your theory regarding only having unprotected sex with "straight guys". Fine in theory. But very flawed. Just ask all the "straight guys" that hit me up. Lol. And as long as the stigma of bi guys continues, helped along by attitudes like those that you put out there. Your theory is putting yourself at greater risk. Guys who are open and honest about their sexuality will generally take more care of their protection and for their partner. The ones that are hiding their secret desire for a bit of cock will generally take more risk. I think they end up believing their own bullshit and therefore "it wont happen to me" Like the old saying "i dont know any bi guys, but l fucked a guy the other night who knows one" Good luck with all that.......and good luck to all the guys that rock around to your place. If they end up at my place i know they will have a condom on. If l know they have been to your place l will make them wear 2...... Annie
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clarky1976
9 years ago
Lesson I learned stick to the girls that enjoy being dominated by a guy and who do enjoy it when a man or two three or more use every hole that's avalable love gang bang girls
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clarky1976
9 years ago
Miss Luck Dragon after reading your profile I find your comments rather confusing. Also I'm sure that either I didn't express what I was trying to say or you have not understood. On a different note may I say what a lovely looking dragon you are and I'd love to play dragon slayer any time. I have to admit I'm looking foreward to your reaction and reply Shields up prepare to defend. :)
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RHP User
9 years ago
For me giving it to a lady when she is ready and it's done with care Great. Same goes when it is done to me Great
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RHP User
9 years ago
Quoting 'Luck_Dragon' Quoting 'S_OnTheLoose' I think it's nice that partners would do things to make the other happy even if it isn't something they enjoy. he didn't enjoy it either. Which is often going to be the case when one partner is forcing themselves to do something they don't like....it's going to be pretty obvious most of the time, unless you're a good actor / good at hiding your displeasure. So I really don't see the point if neither party is getting anything out of it. I agree. But then I think most people probably think the partner will enjoy something once they try it, though beforehand might find it unappealing.Chilli doesn't sound great as a concept "eat this stuff and make your mouth burn" but, once you try it a lot of people enjoy it... except the ones who don't and then it's no fun for either the eater or the proposer. You never know unless you give it a go (though I'll happily be a hypocrite on this and put a hard "nope" on those hook-piercing-suspensions ) I'm just taking the optimistic POV that the poster didn't intentionally want to be awful to his partners.
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AnnieWhichway
9 years ago
With unjust discrimination against bi men. And no, sufficient lube on before each condom can increase sensitivity when the occasion requires and will not increase risk of breakage. Although can increase the chance of them coming off. Dont worry, 40 years of condom use can make for some odd experimentation. Lol.
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RHP User
9 years ago
I certainly don't think he was intentionally being awful to them. From the way it was worded though it sounded like they'd tried anal before and so knew they didn't like it, but I could certainly be wrong. Either way I hope the OP learned something from the experiences.
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RHP User
9 years ago
not the OP of course....force of habit there.
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clarky1976
9 years ago
No. They hadn't tried it before but both very interested in trying
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RHP User
9 years ago
Quoting 'clarky1976' Miss Luck Dragon after reading your profile I find your comments rather confusing. Also I'm sure that either I didn't express what I was trying to say or you have not understood. On a different note may I say what a lovely looking dragon you are and I'd love to play dragon slayer any time. I have to admit I'm looking foreward to your reaction and reply Shields up prepare to defend. :) 1. I'm not sure what my profile has to do with it, or why you find my comments confusing because of my profile. Perhaps you were assuming that my comments automatically meant that I also don't like anal, which would as you can see be a silly thing to assume. 2. From your follow up comments I'd say you did express what you had to say and I did understand it perfectly well. 3. Thankyou for the compliment. 4. If you think that my comments to you showed a nasty temper then I'd say you haven't been reading these forums for very long . If you put it out there don't be suprised if people challenge it / respond to it in ways you may not like...and believe me you'll know when my temper has been riled, which it was not in this case
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RHP User
9 years ago
Quoting 'clarky1976' Lesson I learned stick to the girls that enjoy being dominated by a guy and who do enjoy it when a man or two three or more use every hole that's avalable love gang bang girls Fair enough
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clarky1976
9 years ago
Well as you have guessed I am new to this but I am finding these forums very interesting as well as entertaining. I wasn't trying to stir you with my comments but yes i was after a reaction just to see how you would respond and in the end you I found your response to be anything but a fire breathing dragon. As for the complement it's easy when all you have to do is speak the truth. Let's let my first foray in to forums slid as a practice run and move on. Truce.
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RHP User
9 years ago
Quoting 'clarky1976' No. They hadn't tried it before but both very interested in trying That paints a bit of a different picture to the way you originally worded it. There's no need for a truce as there was no argument or any bad feelings, at least not from my perspective. As I said before you would know if I was really pissed off . I can be quite blunt and straightforward and I think some misinterpret that, particularly when it comes from a woman. Not to mention my love of sarcasm, another thing that people can misinterpret.
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Lifes_great
9 years ago
Quoting 'Luck_Dragon' As I said before you would know if I was really pissed off . I can be quite blunt and straightforward and I think some misinterpret that, particularly when it comes from a woman. Not to mention my love of sarcasm, another thing that people can misinterpret. We all know you're a sweetheart
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RHP User
9 years ago
Not into it all. Either of us. - Posted from rhpmobile
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madotara69
9 years ago
Here's a thing I'd had anal sex with a couple of girls before Tara and I began a relationship, I didn't enjoy it so much, take it or leave it, didn't appear to me there was much sensation for the girls, they didn't express much at all, like they were trying it for the sakes, I don't know really. Can't remember how it came about Tara and I had a conversation about anal, I do remember it turned her off when we watched porn, she thought it was painful, unhygienic, the porn actresses acting as though they liked anal for the money they would get paid to do the scene, sure of it. I never argued about it, nor gave Tara any feelings of pressure to please me by trying anal, I respected her choice and that's that.... for about ten years, Little known to me, nothing of it actually, one day Tara was at lunch with some work buddies, a gay couple (men) a girlfriend who was in a relationship with a guy and swingers, engaged to marry in all. The conversation that took place entirely changed Tara's thoughts of anal sex, the men explained the anatomy and cleanliness anal can be, her girlfriend with the two men somehow convinced her it can be very much enjoyable. So, to my surprise, Tara asked me to fuck her arse and I did, so careful, too carful, she kind of gave me the 'rolled eyes, fuck me already' kind of thing and so we did, she didn't like it, she loved it, so did I, it was one of those things, ' all good things come to those who wait' That's why I am so keen on having anal sex, which further on lead to double penetration, something else we were so keen to have, here we are in RHP and another one of those good things, well worth the wait. A bloke we know tells "all women love it, some just don't know it yet" I wouldn't say it though. Mado Mado Tara xx
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SexyHedonist
9 years ago
Quoting 'nibblemebi' Quoting 'smuttygirl' Also when it comes to sexually transmitted diseases anal sex has a much higher transfer rate due to the finer membrane. Now this may not make me popular, however, I have spoken to several sexual health doctors in a variety of clinics who have all said the same thing... if you like anal sex and don't want to use protection then choosing straight men will diminish your chance of being infected with Aids, at the very least. You have misinterpreted the information in a frightening way. Choosing straight men may (if they're not promiscuous sans condoms and if not secretly gay/bi and if they're being honest with you and if they get tested regularly...lots of ifs!) give you a slightly reduced risk. But "diminish your chance of being infected with Aids?". No. A condom will help with that.To clarify, I am not having a go at your choice. I respect that you and everyone makes their own choices regarding this stuff. I am however, having an issue with the way you're presenting misleading information. I'm a stickler for correct information ;) Statistically there is a much greater incidence of AIDS among the male bi and gay community than male heterosexuals. It is sad, however, true. It's a statistic which cannot be misinterpreted. Condoms - yes, the only way to avoid the Russian roulette. What I like is actually knowing and playing with someone for a long time, even going to be tested together, it's these men that I allow bareback up my rather excitable arse! You are correct, whether these men were straight or bi, after being tested would make no difference and so I apologise if I offended. The information presented to me by a variety of doctors, a couple from the Melbourne sexual health clinic however does not change. They advocate that as there is a far lower incidence of AIDS among heterosexual males, if you choose to spin the roulette wheel with unsafe anal sex with someone that you don't know well, then the heterosexual community is the perceivably safer place to do it. Yes those men may lie, whether they lie or not the statistics still have not changed. My point was actually that I don't believe all men should have to be into receiving anal to state they enjoy giving it. They shouldn't have to list both give and receive on their profile. And for me, it is, for the reasons listed above a reason to move on if 'receiving' is listed. As I'm sure that to others NOT having (receiving anal) listed would be a reason to move on. We all have our criteria by which we sort and most people could interpret that as discrimination.
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