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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  MEANT to love? What does that mean? In love there are no boundaries...medical or otherwise. Obviously they loved you in a different way...and weren't in love with you. As the catch cry in here goes....NEXT xFunlovingx

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  They may still love the bloke, but not be able/willing to cope with the situation brought about by the medical condition.

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  I always thought love was unconditional. If anything could deter them from the way they feel, then surely it was never love to begin with?

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  Well my last encounter was purfect it even felt right for her. That's why she ran. Scared. As she just don't want that now. Who knows?? What goes on inside their heads sometimes. I even talked to my ex gf from my last LTR. She said that 1min before she said let's break up, She did not know she qwas going to say that. Then once said would never reconsider. Sad but true. Welcome here. Hopefully you will learn the modern style of dating. It can help. We are amongst couples that share their love. Singles that root like wabbits. Others silly enough like me to be looking for love amongst all this. It's Timing. Chemistry. Trust. And Fate. Good luck. Just remember what would Stalky say. NEXT!!!!!! Fab.

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  Quoting 'The_Last_76' I always thought love was unconditional. If anything could deter them from the way they feel, then surely it was never love to begin with? do you love your partner unconditionally? or is it based on some unspoken conditions - like not hitting them, not rooting your family dog, abusing the kids, etc.(or am I being a bit literal and taking the notion of 'unconditional' too far)

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  Once again this shows how important communication is in a relationship... the worst thing when anything ends is not knowing why things happened... Every body deserves that .. maybe horni its worth you trying to ask the question so that you get some understanding.. It might not have even been the medical issue.. but perhaps that was the catalyst for her....

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  well u i guess that depends on what it is. as the wife with the husband that has the medical problem i didnt turn my back on him.been married now for 29yrs. but how long do u exepect the partner to wait untill somethin gives somewhere?? i lasted 2.5yrs without sex - soo suppose i dont love him because have needs too.. wake up..not all about u

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  Quoting 'idontshare' i didnt turn my back on him.been married now for 29yrs. but how long do u exepect the partner to wait untill somethin gives somewhere?? i lasted 2.5yrs without sex - soo suppose i dont love him because have needs too.. wake up..not all about u I would agree with you and at one time in my life before Australia, was faced with a similar dilema. I did not deny either myself nor feel that I had breeched any bonds of the relationship that existed albeit not a formal marriage. \ I was fortunage enough to be involved with someone that realised love, if that is what it genuinely is, does not take emotional hostages nor make slaves out of anyone. That experience made me grow..and as you have stated may just offer one sidebar comment to the author of this thread... | Grow up. You are not the victim...make a choice that is yours and accept your decision.

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  i totally agree with sassy... experianced it first hand on more than one occasion. the guys say its not the reason.... most people dont want to be bothered with it... they know they arnt strong and wont be able be able 2 handle it when it happens. so clearly they luv u too much or not enuff to show the respect u deserve and help u thro it. or their weak as piss and just think bout themselves

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  For better or worse, richer or poorer, in sickness and health. Seems they are throw away lines. When the going gets tough the weak get running.

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  I'm with idontshare and Sassyme I stayed LOYAL to my partner for 27 years i diabetic and then impotent he forgot I had needs and refused to do anything about his issues and I begged. The thing was he was nasty and miserable and selfish and I left him in the end for those reasons and believing he would never care for me.After a year I have found he thinks I just didnt want to be with a sick person not true and I have to now tell him again and will put in writing his faults.The thing that always got me was he would never appreciate me and all I did do for him You must look beyond yourself especially when someones else is invloved always two sides to every story

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  Me,Me,Me,Me. Life is to fast or busy or he or she, just doesn't give me what I need. Funny how the person who gives everything befor the illness, is now needing the care or love in return. But only get's the cold shoulder or abusive demands of I need or I want thrashed at his or her face. It's just selfish minded people who turn their backs as far as I am concrened. Problem with society today is it's become a throw away society. Take a look at your friends and see how many you really have. Are they your real friends, do they stand by you thick and thin or if they hurt your feeling's do you turn your back on them at the blink of an eye. Then it should be the person turning their back that should take a hard look at themselves and stop blameing other people of not getting their needs met. Family are family in blood or in marriage.

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