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starfish

May 31 2011

meeiting other couples is fun and exciting, i think everyone agrees with that, but recently we met a couple, and my partner had a great time with the male of the other couple. Of course seeing my partner happy made me excited and seriously turned on, but when i tried to reciprocate the female partner was cold just lay there on the bed like a star fish. i was frantic, not wanting this to happen, but notthe sort of guy to push or force a woman into something she was not happy with. question for forum, i understand that not everyone likes evryone, but surely if one of you is having a ball, the other partner is more likely to join in, this not being the case, how should i of reacted. my reaction, was just gentle caresses to the skin, and basically verbal diarhoeaa chatting away until the evening came to an end. i was not angry, confused yes, and certainly not sure what to do, and prayed it would never happen again. is this just happening to me?

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RHP User

15 years ago

Guess this can always be a problem when you meet another couple and only one of the couples get to play. There is no way I would stop mrs jj if she fancied the guy yet I didnt fancy the female. If 2 people dont connect like the other partners you can only grin and bear it. Unfortuneately, just one of them things.. At least you got turned on by watching your lady enjoy herself,even though it dont seem fair. Mr JJ

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RHP User

15 years ago

Oh gawd. Maybe they think they're too beautiful to need to actually do anything. Maybe they're just too lazy... maybe she had a devious master plan to hold still for twenty minutes and the wriggle her tits so that the perceived sudden jolt of enthusiasm makes you pop. Who knows what they're thinking!! Star fish give me the impression that they'd rasther be somewhere else... so just get up... walk over to your missus and join in with the other dude. Struth... there's always room for two. We can stab at a guess why the other dude swings now can't we. Star fish. Personally, I'd rather have a wank. HugsStalky

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RHP User

15 years ago

We have had the male of another couple throw that at my wife! My wives side of it: He didnt give me oral but put his cock to my mouth uninvited, before he gave me oral! (We are very aware of safe sex issues where a guy wont give the lady oral but expect oral and he uses a condom only for sex. Plus we both have a problem when swinging if oral is not returned or initiated before sex) She said, he was small my little finger was thicker and longer....maybe he should look at Viagra? If he didnt find my wife excited him....what is he doing in the bedroom with us? He said she wasnt wet enough....we allways use lubes to begin with, wetness is a aging and personal thing. My wife after 40 mins was furious called a end to the swing and we left. I got a earfull on the way home "How that guy could not get hard or give oral but expected oral!" We now have a rule, I dont start having sex with the other guys wife untill I am sure her husband can perform, we have hit non performance issues too often now.

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RHP User

15 years ago

and just maybe.....she isn't into the "Swinging" side of things like he is? You will probably find that in some situations...the woman does it to keep the male half happy and vice versa! Anything to keep the relationship together? xFunlovingx

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RHP User

15 years ago

You know how sometimes, random thoughts just pop into your head?....Random thought for today....What is the difference between someone who is called a Starfish and someone who is bound with ropes, cuffs, restraints etc...I mean, if the person is just lying there, starfish,compared to someone who is bound.....they are just lying there too..Ok, so I realise there is a little more adrenaline and fun side to tying someone up....but arent they technically becoming a starfish?.The question really isnt a big deal.....just one of those random thoughts....

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RHP User

15 years ago

The difference is that one can't move but desperately wants to... it's all part of the tease.... while the other just doesn't get it... and may as well be counting ceiling tiles.HugsStalkyQuoting 'ruby_blossum' You know how sometimes, random thoughts just pop into your head?....Random thought for today....What is the difference between someone who is called a Starfish and someone who is bound with ropes, cuffs, restraints etc...I mean, if the person is just lying there, starfish,compared to someone who is bound.....they are just lying there too..Ok, so I realise there is a little more adrenaline and fun side to tying someone up....but arent they technically becoming a starfish?.The question really isnt a big deal.....just one of those random thoughts....

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RHP User

15 years ago

thanks for that clarification Stalky....it was just one of those silly random thoughts I have from time to time.I am a tactile little thing...love to touch, caress, explore, think it would drive me bonkersif I couldnt do that...just as I couldnt just lie there and count the ceiling tiles.

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15 years ago

I think you would find that the art of Kinbaku would engage all of your tactile and more traditional sensory receptors on quite an amazing level. The art is not at all about simply tying someone up so that they can not move...and actually whilst movement is restricted, it is not voluntary as in the case of someone who simply "lays there". Watching someone who knows how to weave an erotic macrame' from fine silk ropes, the feel of them against your skin, being shown how to place them then given the opportunity to wrap one of these intertwined ropes around your own wrists or ankles....can be quite stiumulating to the senses. | The comes the link of the mind...you will see it in the eyes at first, and even if a silk blindfold takes away your vision you can still see quite clearly. Sounds become more intense...visual in the minds eye and smells such as that from a burning scented candle fill your mind. | A starfish...I don't think so, they are parasites that hitch a ride on the side of a tramp steamer and destroy the waters that they inhabit. Sensual bondage is an experience you will never forget or perhaps desire passionately to pursue further. I would suggest that would be the case and the experience has depths and levels that will indeed fill all of the seven senses.

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RHP User

15 years ago

northchina.....didnt mean to distract from your post, but maybe the answer to coming across any starfish in the future is in the above responses.Take along some lengths of rope, silk or otherwise.....and offer to show any starfish the fine art of macrame(are those macrame pot holders still to be found anywhere ..lol)...If they are content to just lay there you can have some fun trussing them up

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15 years ago

Many years ago , I read where some people are ' asexual' . Meaning sex means nothing to them at all, and is found in both men and woman.While sex is a healthy driving force for most, for the asexual its a complete non event. They dont think about or see sex as a important part of their life. Maybe hard for you sexy lot on here to believe but its true. Asexuals are real.I have meet some people in gereral life, who dont show any interest in sex at all. Maybe the people we refer to as Starfish are the one's who are asexual. ?Food for thought.. Mr JJ

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