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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  that he was bi or bi-curious? If you did, then all I can think of is the fact that it was with your ex? If you didn't then maybe he was afraid to tell you? Some find honesty alot harder than others. Sorry I can't offer more, but never change who you are and never lose your honesty. xFunlovingx

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  he is bi, its not the action that concerns me, not at all!! i actually love thats hes free with himself like that, we never put boundaries on fun, if you know what i mean.. its the fact that it was kept a secret for so long that bothers me. Does that make sense or am i just being funny?

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  It wasnt really a secret, given that he told you. I mean, he wasnt keeping it secret, there was just no reason to discuss it. Let's face facts here... I mean.. it was just another blow job, not a big win on Keno. If I were you, I'd take it as said and move on. Hugs Stalky

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  sometimes its just the fact that you werent told straight away that is the problem im a big believer in honesty...im upfront and honest and i expect other people to be too but sometimes people have trouble telling someone something that they think will upset or hurt them if i was you id process the imformation, say what you feel needs to be said and then id continue on with things the way you want them to continue good luck hun roxxy

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  Quoting 'full_on_single' he is bi, its not the action that concerns me, not at all!! i actually love thats hes free with himself like that, we never put boundaries on fun, if you know what i mean.. its the fact that it was kept a secret for so long that bothers me. Does that make sense or am i just being funny? You are not being funny at all.... I understand what you are saying, as you are such an honest person yourself and the fact that you are so open about honesty, you expect the same from others. You deserve no less! xFunlovingx

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  twowithnolimits

  15 years ago

  I guess its about the "culture" you create, like you i would be concerned about the length of the secret, certainly not any activities he got up to... from day one i am about no secrets, open, honest,..i have found it works for most and there was probably no future for those who couldnt handle that approach anyway.... perhaps your just intimidating! LOL Paul

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  I know where you are coming from with the lie. It makes no difference how long it took him to tell you the fact is he kept it from you for some time. I was in a similar situation I did somthing that I had the ok to do however I kept it from my hubby even though he asked me several times and gave me the chance to tell him I never did. I dont know why I didnt tell him and it was a mistake as when I did finally fess up we had a huge fight and I nearly lost him forever. As he explained it wasnt the act it was the fact that I hid it from him and then spent several weeks lying about it and that was what hurt him. Its the4 LIE that causes the problems Good Luck BAD xxx

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  Quoting 'stalky' It wasnt really a secret, given that he told you. I mean, he wasnt keeping it secret, there was just no reason to discuss it. Let's face facts here... I mean.. it was just another blow job, not a big win on Keno. If I were you, I'd take it as said and move on. Hugs Stalky Laugh I nearly wet myself .............. thank you for Sarah and my, friday night laugh ..... no ...... no hellfire for us tonight ! Brae !

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  100%

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  It wasn't a lie. He never said he didn't do it, so therefore it can't be classified as a lie. He volunteered the information when he was comfortable to do so. No lie here, no secret either. Sweet

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  If he had asked you before going ahead, would you still have felt that you don't care about the action and be able to say yes? In our case, if we do things alone, M always wants to know before I do it and when asked nearly always says yes go ahead, whereas, if he wants to play alone, I usually feel that I would prefer just to find out some time after, when I don't get any jealous feelings and he is a good judge of knowing when he should or shouldn't. Maybe each couple needs to work out what they want to know and how they want to find out. Then if it still doesn't go according to plan you could say there had been a breach of trust (strictly speaking not really a "lie" even then). :)

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  It's called lying by omission, and it wont stand up in a court of law. What my folks used to say to me when I didn't tell them WHOLE story. Not exactly lying, but not telling the truth either.

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