not swapping?

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  with you on this we want to watch and play with our selves while another couple is doing the same

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  please note this is only our experience we found the idea that you guys have left us with nothing we meet 3 couples b4 our first play session and we told all of them that we wouldn't play on first meet and even suggested same room same partner to get us used to the idea of swinging turned out not play first meet meant NOT GENUINE, TIME WASTERS and WON'T PLAY we lost all 3 couples never spoke to us again and even blocked us from contacting them so seriously do keep a open mind bout what you set as your rules and allow compromise to bend them, maybe play on first meet but foreplay only SEX with YOUR OWN partner

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  DonnaBrett

  15 years ago

  The problem with your quest is that there are more seasoned swingers than newbies at any one time. You really need to try & connect with other new comers wanting the same as you. For those of us who have been in this scene a long time (over 10 years for us) and who have just about seen & done most things, to take a big step back isn't very exciting..like now, watching porn really does nothing for us. It's just an occasional novelty at a party or somewhere & the same for live shows..watching people can be fun in a party situation but if that's all there is, it can be a bit boring. There's nothing wrong with you taking it slow & that is sensible for sure but long time swingers want more. Personally we are more than happy to just do the foreplay swap thing with other couples but we do prefer to at least go that far. The other problem is some hardcore swingers might be hesitant to meet newbies just in case there is some sort of issues? We've been there with new people...it makes for a very awkward encounter. Guess it's a bit of a catch 22 situation. So our advice is to seek other newbies to experiment with and take it from there...Good Luck

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  Well for us we have found that setting our own rules and doing what makes us comfortable is the ONLY way to go, sorry to hear Hot_horny_pair that you lost contact because you stuck to your guns however if that is the case then maybe they just weren't the right people for you.We have found that our 'rules' have changed quite a bit along the way as we get more comfortable and experience new things and we have met some great people who have helped us along the way, we have met some great people that we were not compatible with sexually too but you get that sometimes, i would suggest hanging in there, going with what feels comfortable and being clear with the people you chat to and meet where you are at with the whole situation, you are not alone there are people out there looking for the same things it just might take a little longer to meet them than say those that are into everything The most important thing here is your relationship and being true to that, communicate with each other before a meet and greet and see where you are happy to take things on a 'date by date' basis, maybe even try one of the clubs (no pressure to participate there and lots of options) meeting face to face is often easier than trying to get a point across online.Anyway best of luck and have fun,Mrs GC

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  Hi Guys, We started in the scene not so long back and the easiest entry (pardon the pun :-) ) was a trip to CI. This club is so well run and there is never any pressure to play. Have a dring and watch, Play together or join the fun, its up to you. May I suggest a theme night if you are looking for a great nights entertainment as well aside from the obvious.. Have Fun in your adventures.

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  I disagree that SRS is only for beginers, or the notion that it starts off like that. After an expereince my wife and I had in NZ, SRS, or more importantly SRS events, was the main reason I joined this site. We really are not interested in having sex with strangers, but we are very turned on by having sex in the company of others, doing the same thing, and we really thought this fetish was more popular than we have found it to be. I agree with Sexytime that there is no search here to separate people looking for SRS from those also wishing to swing. So hopefully Redhotpie will do something for us. Please keep this post alive and lets see. Also if you find something, please let us know. I think it's up to members to arranage SRS only events/parties, as it seems that the "industry" is more geared up for swingers. As for us, we are only interested in parties where there are lots of couples, not just one or two, which makes this very difficult indeed.

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  You don't have to swap to have a good time. Watching and being watched is HOT too!! Sweet

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  as others have suggested. try filling out your profile if you want ANY responses.. get a nice pic or two..tell people you are new and want to go slow The apropriate people will contact you...easy When we started we thought everyone would be easy going and cool like us ;) but there are all sorts and different expectations...find whos right for you.. It doesnt happen overnite, but it will happen...lol have fun..dont get disheartened Neo and Trinity

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  Quoting 'pash01' I disagree that SRS is only for beginers, or the notion that it starts off like that. After an expereince my wife and I had in NZ, SRS, or more importantly SRS events, was the main reason I joined this site. We really are not interested in having sex with strangers, but we are very turned on by having sex in the company of others, doing the same thing, and we really thought this fetish was more popular than we have found it to be. I agree with Sexytime that there is no search here to separate people looking for SRS from those also wishing to swing. So hopefully Redhotpie will do something for us. Please keep this post alive and lets see. Also if you find something, please let us know. I think it's up to members to arranage SRS only events/parties, as it seems that the "industry" is more geared up for swingers. As for us, we are only interested in parties where there are lots of couples, not just one or two, which makes this very difficult indeed. what the hell is a srs? please stop making up acronyms...speak english ps. yes try Couples International..clubs are a great place to start if you just want to watch and think about it.

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  Hi Neo & Trinity, Yes, you do look like a nice couple. I hate acroynms as well, but I thought this was common though...........Same Room Sex.........as I have seen it here. I agree that clubs are good place to start, provided the numbers are big enough so that you are not noticed. In small groups there is still that expectations/dissapointment from swingers if you just watch, and have sex only with your partner and I think that is understandable. Why go to a steak house and order fish ? I would hope there were enough SRS (sorry) people to organise an SRS ( sorry again) only event. That would really lift any expectations and allow party goers to relax and feel more comforatable.

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  we found ci to be a great play to watch people and get comfie. we are new to this whole thing too. i think go with the flow is a good way to go. you never know what will or will not happen so dont expect anythingMrs B

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  same room sex is great, taking it slow to watch others is a huge turn on 4 both of us. Finding the right couple is probably the hard part. You neva know where it can lead to. Good Luck & have fun

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  firstly, fill out more of your profile, people want to know more about you. With so many ads on here, if you dont put information in your profile, people will simply jump to the next. And make it clear on the profile what you are after, even incorporate it into your headline for the ad, that way, if you get respsonse, you shoudl be fairly confident teh persons responding are expecting the same as you. Good luck

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  I'd be interested to hear what other SRS fans think, but unlike swinging, SRS seems to only work ( well at least for us) where there are more than just a few couples. There's always plenty of clubs with lots of swinging couples, but that's kind of not the theme of the venue. Has anyone been to any events, private, or commercial, where they've been more than a few couples and SRS was the only activity ?

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  Don't be put off by the searches and lack of search criteria. I think it's all a matter of just approaching, putting yourself and your "meeting ideals" out to them and seeing if they will compromise. Generally I think you'll find that they will. We currently have Swap Partners for Sex listed even though we haven't built up to that and are just happy playing and having sex with each other in a room with another couple.

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