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December 20 2015
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RHP User
10 years ago
I think this is a fake profile. The two men in both pictures are different, guy in the second pic would have to be a stolen picture, 28 and 30, please! And erectile dysfunction seems to be the real issue here. Why not put up a genuine profile and ask a genuine honest question? So you copy and paste your comment from the mmf bi topic thread, word for word this was the question you asked in there. You were given thoughtful responses which people gave their time to post. You never responded to any of those replies, and now a new topic??
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RHP User
10 years ago
I think communication is very important, especially the communication between you and your partner. I guess it depends on what turns people on. Some people need kissing and foreplay to be stimulated. That's something that has to be discussed with the parties involved.
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RHP User
10 years ago
You posted the same forum as eight days ago, why? It's now in Couples' Corner rather than Girls Ask, but you know it's all the same posters, right?
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'Meander' You posted the same forum as eight days ago, why? It's now in Couples' Corner rather than Girls Ask, but you know it's all the same posters, right? stop posting in _every_ forum thread Meander - what are you, queen or something? ;-) I'll answer properly once it appears in Guys Ask :-p
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RHP User
10 years ago
I steer clear of anything that's not 1+1 but I know this: JEALOUSY and lack of COMMUNICATION are death to couple sexy fun. Your post seems a little immature and it's obvious that some pretty fundamental stuff has not been worked out. Input from others on the site won't resolve this, as this stuff is idiosyncratic and you and partner need to resolve it in your own way. Maybe pull back from wanting to meet until you get some consensus? Otherwise you will have another disaster. Best wishes, lovebitten xx - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
It said sorry OP, I realised the first time was a post, not a forum. Apologies. You got a few good answers then, anything more specific you are curious about? :-)
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RHP User
10 years ago
So going by your post, im not surprised that the first one was rushed, id be keen to get out of there too. See a lot of people actually need to connect and be attracted to each for there to be any sex. Its wierd how you refer to "his job" / "her job" that alone would make people run. DP is great with the right guy, and you are not the right guy, how are you going to cope with his balls hitting yours, or when he slips out and his cock hits yours.
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RHP User
10 years ago
I just realized I have got old. The english language has changed and I need to go back to school to learn this new version.
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RHP User
10 years ago
I copied n pasted it frm the other one cos I didn't see any replies and I am the same guy in both fotos I'd put up the second one cos u culdnt really see me in the first thank you chubby Italian were very new to this, and wat makes u think erectile disfunction is an issue
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Seachange73
10 years ago
Quoting 'S_OnTheLoose' Quoting 'Meander' You posted the same forum as eight days ago, why? It's now in Couples' Corner rather than Girls Ask, but you know it's all the same posters, right? stop posting in _every_ forum thread Meander - what are you, queen or something? ;-) I'll answer properly once it appears in Guys Ask :-p hahaha..
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Seachange73
10 years ago
Quoting 'I_touch_myself2' I think this is a fake profile. The two men in both pictures are different, guy in the second pic would have to be a stolen picture, 28 and 30, please! And erectile dysfunction seems to be the real issue here. Why not put up a genuine profile and ask a genuine honest question? So you copy and paste your comment from the mmf bi topic thread, word for word this was the question you asked in there. You were given thoughtful responses which people gave their time to post. You never responded to any of those replies, and now a new topic?? You made me look at their profile. Sorry to say to you but the pics are of the same man. Not sure why you jumped to that conclusion and i believe that is not fair to the OP. I think they are a genuine couple. BTW Specsavers is waiting for your call... Kudos to you OP for having a picture of both of yourselves on your profile and also of the man. We have heard so many women and men complain about couples' profile that only the women are on display. Well, you have done one better and that to me just shows your intentions are genuine. Now onto the topic at hand. I have not read their previous post from the other forum and don't intend to go trolling thru the posts... As everybody said it is exactly the same, I will address that here. Quoting 'social_suicide' So going by your post, im not surprised that the first one was rushed, id be keen to get out of there too. See a lot of people actually need to connect and be attracted to each for there to be any sex. Its wierd how you refer to "his job" / "her job" that alone would make people run. DP is great with the right guy, and you are not the right guy, how are you going to cope with his balls hitting yours, or when he slips out and his cock hits yours I agree with Social Suicide... and don't rush it.. just have earn each other's trust (all participants) first and be really comfortable with each other that you all want the same thing out of the experience, whatever it is and however you want to achieve that. How I read your experience, I believe you are all not ready for it. It seems you have reservations about her kissing and having fun with the other guy and you seemed at a loss in a threesome. How does she feel when the tables are turned and you are in a FMF? Sort out what you really want in a threesome and be very clear and secure in your feelings about each other before playing with other people. Sorting out those issues, naked and in the middle of a swinging session is not the right place and time do to it. It can just mess you up big time. Hey, getting soft is not limited to being in a threesome, it happens in a 1-on-1 situation too. Don't be too hard (not a pun) on yourselves and him. He may just be very nervous. If that happens, take it easy and just get him to relax , tell him it is ok, and put on a show for him. He may like it, get him turned on again and maybe he may join in. Suggest other ways he can participate, like "Hey, would you like to just lick her and I do this...or that?" )(suggest more touching and oral rather than intercourse). Have a contingency plan for anything that could go wrong and discuss it upfront to avoid awkwardness and embarassment in the future. As SS said, discuss situations like 'crossing swords', etc. Maybe have a couple of drinks first for Dutch courage and loosen up a bit. The idea is that the experience should be fun and relaxed and no pressure to perform...I wish you the best in the future and may your future 3-some experiences be more fun and less stressful.
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RHP User
10 years ago
kisses and foreplay to get me hot and horny ' so I dont see why your wife wouldn't like the same. Its not as if she's cheating because your'e there beside her.. I think you need to accept if you want another guy to help you pleasure your wife, it cant be mechanical.. kisses and cuddles get's the juices flowing..
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RHP User
10 years ago
Not just wrong (it's definitely the same guy), but plain nasty there! Was that really necessary? Jstcasfun, there were some responses on that forum, hope you have a look. I'd suggest you visit a club together and just watch other couples for a bit. That way you'll get a bit of an idea of how it works, what goes where, etc. It might also bring up some questions and make you more aware of boundaries. For example seeing a guy doing something to a woman may make you think you'd love to see that done to your partner, or quite the opposite. Better to realise what turns you on and what crosses the line before you jump in the deep end I think.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Posted before her morning coffee again ☕
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RHP User
10 years ago
Firstly Lily, even if you didn't like what I said, you have baggage, and you need to deal. Or not, this can continue, doesn't bother me, but it will drag you down, let it go. I'm working off the mobile so don't have the benefit of the larger computer screen. My eyes aren't good, but it's not my fault the pictures are not clear. I just expanded right out as far as it would go and yeah, does look like the same guy, but the main picture, he's behind the wife and it's kind of fussy, so is that my fault? And asking who's 'job' it is to get the guy hard, replies have already been given with no reply, all seems a bit strange. I'm still not trusting this is a couple, hardly any pictures, not verified. That's my opinion, you are entitled to yours, though less abusive would be good, thanks
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RHP User
10 years ago
So the op didn't see the replies to his same question on the other topic thread, new to this, but was able to read and respond on here? I'm done here, not getting into a catfight over it, yawll have fun now though
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RHP User
10 years ago
We get your thinking, don't let others challenge your authenticity if you are truly who you say you are. Just prove them wrong xx
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Seachange73
10 years ago
We all have baggage. How else have we made it through these years? The difference between you and I is that I deal with my baggage well and truly as I see it, and maturely. No pussyfooting around and move on. When I know I may be in the wrong, I deal with it. I apologize like a grown-up should which clearly you have not. By the sound of it, you don't intend to, given your defensive response. Rather than reflecting on the post and how it may affect the OP, Jstcasfun, you carry on and deflect the issue and go on the attack. That shows your lack of empathy in the situation. Now that will drag you down. You have done this a couple of times before. One with Sweetgem not too long ago and I believe Stirry has pulled you up on it. No apologies there too from what I can remember. I see a pattern. I really dont't care whether you apologize to the OP or not, that is your baggage to deal with and the forum readers will read it and judge you for it. I have a more reflective attitude to things to help me evolve into a better person. So how does that feel with your behaviour towards the OP and after he has responded to you? He said they are a genuine couple and the pics are NOT STOLEN, as you have accused them? No act of contrition? Some empathy? Singling me out of the other posters to pick an fight with me is also not cool. What? do you think I channel all their thoughts via my posts? Do you believe I am a soft target? Think again. I call it as it is too. But with more tact than you. I normally take this forum with a grain of salt and with a lot of humour. But when I feel you have over stepped the line in attacking me , or anybody, for what I believe is not right, like accusing the OP of wrongdoing when they clearly have not, well you have another thing coming. It is my opinion and I have every right to post as much as you have. Fuck that.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'I_touch_myself2'I'm working off the mobile so don't have the benefit of the larger computer screen. My eyes aren't good, but it's not my fault the pictures are not clear. I just expanded right out as far as it would go and yeah, does look like the same guy, but the main picture, he's behind the wife and it's kind of fussy, so is that my fault? Thar your screen is too small, the pics aren't clear and your eyes aren't good is not the issue here. You accused the OP of being a fake profile with stolen pics for no other reason than you not being able to see his pics properly. That is your fault, yes. Hope you will take responsibility for that completely unwarranted attack.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'Meander'I'd suggest you visit a club together and just watch other couples for a bit. If you're not near a club or it's not your thing, watching amateur MMF porn together may help too.
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DynamicCouple36
10 years ago
Perhaps you should update your profile, as currently (in your profile) you state the following :- We want a woman who is single, reasonably pretty and is a size 14 to 18 only aged between the ages of 25 and 35 No offence but we don't want couples or black men or single men and our age limit is very strict no older or younger pleaseWe are seeking a woman who is like minded and eventually see were it goes as we had a bad time the first time with MMF so nothing full on just yet. I have a fantasy of watching my missus with another bi curious woman and maybe me joining in. looking to experience a girl with her first tho" ? We should that you were asking about/wanting a male for a MFM DP? So whats this about looking to experience a girl? Petrhaps you need to go back to the drawing board, and start again with all of this, as clearly you are not making much sense, nor do you appear to be ready, and from where we sit, it appears that this is all about what you, the male half, are wishing to try, but we could be wrong, its just our perception." If we look at the above, and at what you have written in your post, there are clear contradictions between what you want (in your profile) and what you are asking in your post. There are also contradictions with "I" and "we". Does your "missus" even know about this profile and or what you are asking, or is this all just a fantasy? But to answer your post and questions posed in it :- 1. If you are not sure how you will feel (insecure?jealous?) by seeing your wife kissing & fondling another guy, presumably to get him fully aroused, then perhaps you (the male) are not ready for a MFM. 2. It should not be her job to get the other guy aroused and to keep him aroused. If he goes soft during a MFM then that is his issue to rectify, not your "missus". Of course it should never be seen as "her job" to do anything that she wants to do, nor should anyone be pushed into a situation that they are not entirely comfortable being in. 3. If your first MFM did not go very well, then you need to work out why. Clearly you were not ready for it. Perhaps you are still not ready. 4. You state , in your final sentence
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DynamicCouple36
10 years ago
What we wrote got re-formatted and mixed up.. Your final sentence : looking to experience a girl with her first tho" ? We thought that you were asking about/wanting a male for a MFM DP? So whats this about looking to experience a girl? Clearly confusing
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RHP User
10 years ago
We were looking for the fmf experience first before we try the mmf experience n she actually created the profile for us then modified it wen we realised we were getting 2 many males responding even tho we stated that we were looking for a female first it obviously didn't come across properly that we were after a female to have fun with first and the his and her job was her idea as she didn't no what was ment to happen who was supposed to make sure everyone was having fun she's a very caring person but sometimes doesn't understand how things look or how she's supposed to act or wat she's expected to do not realising that we dnt hav2 do anything were not comfortable with and it wasn't about me the male not being ready for it last time it was because the third person my m8 didn't follow the rules put in place to keep it frm being awkward and was pushy rushing us into it
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RHP User
10 years ago
I think most of the good advice has already been offered, but my observation would be that if you really only want an extra guy around for the feeling of DP, then grab your favourite dildo and have at it dude! The mfm experience doesn't really work if someone is going to feel worried about their partner getting too 'into it' with someone else. A three-way is exactly about the added person getting fully involved (within guidelines), otherwise why would you bother? ... and really, it's not fair on either partner to ask for a set-up where the other partner feels uncomfortable, male or female :)
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RHP User
10 years ago
How do you, the Mr, imagine a MFM to proceed? Run that past the Ms. Discuss. And then be explicit and see if you can find a man who is happy to fit within your boundaries. As a couple you can request anything you like, but the more restrictions you have in place, the less likely you are to find someone who fits into into the pre-drawn bubble of acceptability. Though due to sheer numbers, you are more likely to find a male than a female in here. Personally, I think if you get uncomfortable with the idea of 'flirtation' and kissing in a threesome, you seem a long way from being in the right place for bringing others into your sexual tryst. Good luck
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