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guys meeting couples

August 19 2010

We have been looking for a single guy for some time now to join us and have fun, first it was couples but most couples only want single female or swap wife but not husband so single guy was best option. In the process we ask them to be single so no other parties are hurt by them playing up and it makes it more possible to meet with out to many issues. We found a guy who my wife and I both liked and the problem is that he liked both of us too until he got what he wanted and now he doesn't reply to messages. The fact of this matter is, it's not the swinging part it's the disrespect he has shown my wife and I. My wife has now asked not to be a member to these sites due to feeling disrespected. My wife is of Asian back ground and in their culture it is respect they live by, but it seem's in our culture it has dwindled away as most of our traditions have. We don't want to marry or settle down with any guy as we are a happily married couple but finding genuine people for respectful but fun times is getting bloody hard. Question is, do we keep wasting our time or do we just quit.

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RHP User

15 years ago

Dont think of it as wasting time, mearly finding what you and they want. This can be tricky and take experience and time :) We have had single gals /guys and couples...some want sex and bye bye, others want to be your new best friends?? and somewhere in middle is what we are looking for.. have fun and maybe critique the guys a little more next time Neo :>

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RHP User

15 years ago

I don't think he was necessarily being disrespetul.A lot of people want a one off only. It's just the way it is. Does it really matter?? You 2 still have each other and besides if you see the same person too much, is htere not a chance someone might get too close?? Enjoy each experience for what it is

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RHP User

15 years ago

I totally understand how your wife would feel disrespected....especially if you got on well with the guy and fun was had by all. But your wife needs to understand, this is not about her at all...he probably has done this to many women and will continue to do it to many more. It is a problem with his personality not what your wife did at all. Make her understand that, for her own sanity! I am also wondering if he has ever done a "couple" before? Was it just a case of trying it out and then running to the pub/club to brag to his mates? I agree with Desserts in you both have each other...don't let this scumbag make you feel bad for a second longer...he is not worth it! Not all men are the same! Good luck to you both and lots and lots of fun times ahead xo xFunlovingx

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RHP User

15 years ago

I hear you but we meet a few lemons before the good ones came along. It"s just the way this game is. But yes trying to find the right couple is to blood hard at times,, wifes hot No pic of the guy,,mmm to have all 4 happy is not easy. As we dont just fuck or take one for the team as i have heard. But sit down with the wife and have a real good look and have fun. Cheers

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RHP User

15 years ago

Just my tweo cents worth. Sounds to me like it is the guy you met that's the problem. You have no real reason to trust what I am saying, but truly we are not all like that. The biggest thing is honesty, something everyone wants and soemthing that is particularly important when swinging. I may have a little bias when I say this but don't give up, there are an awful lot of single guys on this site, chances are that you two will find the kind of person you are looking for, just not that one guy. I also think there is probably quite a bit of truth in what hotqld says. Again I think it probably comes back to honesty. Honesty between you and your wife as to what you are both looking for and also honesty to and from the other people on here. Unfortuantely as in every other aspect of life, you will come accross people who sacrifice honesty for self interest, but I am reminded of a quotation by Og Mandino. "I will persist until I succeed. Always will I take another step. If that is of no avail I will take another, and yet another. In truth, one step at a time is not so difficult.....I know that small attempts, repeated will complete any undertaking." I just love that quotation, so basically, when searching for your little bit of fun, never say die, never give up, pursue what it is you desire and try to have fun doing it :) Andrew

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RHP User

15 years ago

Because you opened your relationship and allowed another male some enjoyment' doesnt mean you should be hung out to dry like that. How hard is it to reply to someone you were just intimate with even if it was a one off. ? Everybody deserves respect regardless. Its not that hard. ? It is easy to imagine that once these guys get what they want ' it would be seen as mission accomplished. They are not here to fall in love or look for someone to marry' but this shouldnt excuse them from being so insensitive. It wouldnt take much to say' ' hey thanks for the great time' I hope you enjoyed it as much as I did' thank you ? Simple...

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RHP User

15 years ago

Thank you for your letters in response. My wife has read through the letters and understands a little clearer. We have decided to keep looking and hope to find some nice people in the process.

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RHP User

15 years ago

Hi enjoyemjoy,I would suggest you keep trying. Connections with people are hard to find, be they our friends, playmates or whatever. So it could take some time, as by the sounds of it your wife is looking for ongoing contact or acknowledgement from your playmates.Is it worth asking some questions of your potential playmates about ongoing contact? I do have to agree with you about people not being themselves in their "online" life. Guess we just have to have our radar on and hope they are being honest.Does that mean that asking questions of your playmates could just get you answers they think you want to hear? Well, not sure.Jarrod

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RHP User

15 years ago

I have ben trying to connect with a mature couple without any luck to date. Maybe it is because my profile doesn't attract the right level of interest. Is there something I need to change leggo

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