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disappointed much ?
September 19 2014
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RHP User
11 years ago
It is one of those things we have met some great people on the site and had some great times. others once you meet and chat for a bit you realize nothing is going to happen. And some are a heat of the moment mistake. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
I learned very quickly how to better verify a person after the first woman I met turned out to be barely 5 feet tall, and very different to the single photo she loaded. The process I follow is to take the time to make sure she was engaging via email first, before getting her phone number, talking over the phone and then deciding to meet..... so I knew in advance that we would enjoy laughs over several drinks, but I decided not to progress any further because of the physical incompatibility/misrepresentation. I think a lot of people have an expectation of doing the physical before they've screened the personality elements. DG
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RHP User
11 years ago
I have only ever met one guy from here and he turned out to be far from the type of person he made himself out to be...his behaviour was hurtful and disappointing...I don't think there is any way of filtering the good from the bad completely, as some are just expert manipulators..I spoke with this person for months and trusted him completely. .but none the less was duped.....but there are good people out there .. walk away from any liars or players as soon as they expose their true colours...we live and learn and should never put up with being treated badly.. - Posted from rhpmobile
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Cheekyarses
11 years ago
Lol! I'm sure that we that have played have had good bad n ugly experiences!! - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
You must take the time to assure your self that they are safe and kind. At least one phone call!!!several is better.........snappy x
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RHP User
11 years ago
So sorry to hear you had that terrible experience x I have had the extreme fortune of only ever meeting awesome guys thus far. I hope you get to one find of your own soon 😊 they are definetly out there - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
If when you meet someone, THEY walk away disappointed? Or is that just me?!
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RHP User
11 years ago
If you don't take the time to screen properly there's a strong chance you'll meet someone who's not at all what their photos or messages suggest. Who knows why people misrepresent themselves so much. And do they think the person they meet won't notice??! Very strange behaviour. But it happens, so I recommend taking longer to chat online and on the phone, insisting on video chat etc. I've met one man who was years older than his photo. I suspected it all along because his photos looked old, so I was ready for it. When I met him he was about 20 years older than his profile- I said so to him and left. Aside from the man above, all the men I've met have been great. Their personalities were exactly what I expected after lots of chat. I think if you rush to meet for sex you have to accept you're taking a chance on the person you're meeting - who they are, what they look like and how they behave. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
The good ones are still here! *waves arms frantically* *draws sign to same effect on the beach so large that passing aircraft can see it* - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
I think a lot has to do with expectations. Most people I meet are just for a social thing, or for my photography work. So its been great to make a nice social network of both male and female that I do not have to sleep with, though some I do. For me its only the sexual side for meeting up with guys, so its chemistry and that's the switch that gets things going. I do ask for a face picture and I talk to them a little bit, but not much. I am not looking for a date, so I think with single women they want more of a connection. Someone that will treat them nice in and out of the bedroom. My interaction is only in the bedroom, I do not have coffee or dinner or anything else. So the guys that meet up with the single or even couples may need a few social skills and be respectful of that person. Only once or twice have people disappointed me and that is when they cannot take no for an answer. Once I had to leave my studio with a guy in there as he was determined to have what I was not about to give. So for my safety I ran out of the building. I have wised up as I was very new to all this then. Sometimes as well people have the kind of personalty that you warm to, no matter how they look, you still find them interesting and appealing, that takes time though to get to know a person. In bed, well I own that part of the deal I never expect a man to give me the pleasure, I am quiet capable of taking it, he just comes along for the ride.
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RHP User
11 years ago
I understand your points and want to add that I became a paid member due to some flirts from a fake profile which was disappointing . But as a positive I'm here now for a month and will make the most of it while in here . Regards - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Had an experience so bad with a woman, that I didn't try again for 4 months. She was obese, dirty & stoned. I wanted her gone immediately, my ex b/f did not. She was openly nasty,. scornful & rude to me. Spoke constantly of spiritualism, god & religions (which turned into an argument between us, as I am a militant athiest) She then proceeded to smoked ice in my house, & got defensive when I asked her to leave. Next, she flirted shamelessly with my b/f & proceeded to suck him off. I was furious at then both, but neither really cared. IIt caused a huge fight of no return with my partner. To top it off, for the next few days, she sent me texts saying 'I will get ur man...I don't know what he sees in you.." All true..Tip that..!! - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Good god Spanglish. You have to screen better! I hope you never let that guy back.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'JerseyGirl' If when you meet someone, THEY walk away disappointed? Or is that just me?! ...you get that.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Spanglish that was so surreal Take care girl - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Skype or Webcam chat your subjects first. Since I started doing this, I have never had any problems with the issue you've raised. It's like having a face to face conversation where you are free to leave at any time, without much awkwardness, and if you like eachother, when you DO meet, your almost guaranteed to hit it off straight away. When people tell me they dont have / don't do webcam chats, I know they simply have something to hide, or are probably acutely aware they don't match up to their own photos in reality.
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MissBishere
11 years ago
bad experiences and been very disappointed. Even some close calls that could have gone very bad very quickly. Live and learn. I screen better now and am having a good time. The last couple of meets have been a very pleasant surprise and much better than I ever expected.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Yes..was v intense, frightening..I felt abandoned on every level...It has left me feeling untrusting of men & this site..But, Ihave tried, & ccan't..What safety advice do u advise, Aldo screening. I hope my experience can help another woman.. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Sad to say some guys let the rest of us down due to their own personality issues and often it's an inferiority issue for them. It's sad that people are treated this way and its sad because the rest of us get tarred with the same brush. HOWEVER! The positive and good news is not all men are idiots or nasty! And there are some really decent versions of our gender around. Like the others say, quality of email counts but mainly phone calls - you can tell a lot. Have some test questions ready to use. Are their answers acceptable? Reasonable? Consistent? And don't meet anyone unless you are certain. 50 50 isn't enough and not worth the gamble and disappointment. Best of luck. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Its ashame really but I guess people can pretend to be anyone online, my dispointmemt was in every aspect but I only have my self to blame. I had high expectations only because he come across as genuine and fun, he turned out to be the most cold horrible person made me feel very unwated and unattractive, wouldnt it be easier for a man to pay for sex then pretend to be some amazing guy for a few months to get you in bed then turn into an asshole. Playing with people seems to be a game to some :/
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Burning_Love' If you don't take the time to screen properly there's a strong chance you'll meet someone who's not at all what their photos or messages suggest. I must say I haven't had a bad date yet, because I screen well. If my gut tells me a guy is less than desirable in his messages or on the phone, I won't meet him. No excuse needed other than "I'm not feeling it." Quoting 'JerseyGirl' If when you meet someone, THEY walk away disappointed? Or is that just me?! Actually, yes. Not really during a first date though, more during the second, when the clothes come off.
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RHP User
11 years ago
So true, but some men are good at playing mr nice guy its really hard to tell them apart,
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yankmychain56
11 years ago
some women are not quite what I expected ( we all let our imagination run wild), BUT they make up for any mis-perceptions in 'other' ways that make a mans knees buckle.And i have met a few women on here who are just 'good company' i guess you could say, someone you can talk to. So, so far, so good.
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RHP User
11 years ago
My dear Spanglish!! That sounded terrible.. so glad i haven't had that kind of experience :) The worst I've had is a woman used pic's that were obviously very old...she was nearly double the size in reality when she arrived for a drink?!?! :( Other than that, and a few no shows I've been lucky... Even with the ladies that didn't go past the coffee stage, we still had a pleasant chat and drink. G x (keeping fingers crossed!!) hehehe
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6exxy
11 years ago
Sad to say yes. Old pics, demanding behaviour unfortunately yes. However I am very positive that I will meet a lady who is just nice 😀. I will not paint everyone woman with the same brush. Someone stable, financial, positive and happy would be great 💐.
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RHP User
11 years ago
yeah that is why i stopped trying to meet people when i was out, its all just about treat them mean keep them keen. i just cant do that if i like a girl all i want to do is treat them like a queen, give them compliments and affection. i had a friend of mine and she was a very pretty and down to earth girl and she was seeing a guy who used to tell she was fat, call her worthless and make her sleep on the floor while calling her a dog. i think they try and break all your confidence and make you feel that they are the only person that would go for you. think of that expierience as a blessing in disguise.
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MsJonesy
11 years ago
Quoting 'luke8319' yeah that is why i stopped trying to meet people when i was out, its all just about treat them mean keep them keen. i just cant do that if i like a girl all i want to do is treat them like a queen, give them compliments and affection. i had a friend of mine and she was a very pretty and down to earth girl and she was seeing a guy who used to tell she was fat, call her worthless and make her sleep on the floor while calling her a dog. i think they try and break all your confidence and make you feel that they are the only person that would go for you. think of that expierience as a blessing in disguise. Thats not treat them mean keep them keen. That is abuse.... pure and simple.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Mischeviouslad' I learned very quickly how to better verify a person after the first woman I met turned out to be barely 5 feet tall, and very different to the single photo she loaded. The process I follow is to take the time to make sure she was engaging via email first, before getting her phone number, talking over the phone and then deciding to meet..... so I knew in advance that we would enjoy laughs over several drinks, but I decided not to progress any further because of the physical incompatibility/misrepresentation. I think a lot of people have an expectation of doing the physical before they've screened the personality elements. DG Is there something wrong with 5 foot nothing :P
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Tall74nHard9
11 years ago
Quoting JayJay_66 Is there something wrong with 5 foot nothing :P Personally I don't think so - I find it a very convenient pocket size Tall
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OzRednecks
11 years ago
OMG... That's terrible. But I believe you have dodged a bullet there. He does not sound like he deserves you. She sounds like a 'pig' (no offence to actual pigs... I love bacon) But you are better off without either of them. There are some people out there that are not happy unless the world is burning. Terrible, negative, evil, cruel, selfish people.Banish these people from your life. If you are smiling... You are winning :) All the best for the future :)
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