M44 F45
confronting jellousy?
July 27 2010
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RHP User
15 years ago
if there is jealously on either side...or these things have a habit of turning out very badly.
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RHP User
15 years ago
I have to agree with everyone else here. Don't do it. Jealousy has no part whatsoever in this sort of relationship and if you feel you're going to get that way, don't go there.
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RHP User
15 years ago
Trust me when i tell you to read what every other person has written, most of the poeple on here talk 1% truth and 99% crap.But what they are saying is true if you think you might get jealous over her doing it,it shorld ring alarm bells in your brain and to even think once that you might get jealous should tell you everything allready. MATE look at it this way if it does happen and you do get jealous that would only bring down a shit storm in your relationship. Im not saying it will happen but in time you might start to think that she enoyed it more with that guy more than she does when she's does it with you,then you will start to think she does'nt do that with me or she does'nt moan like that when she's doing that with me. It's a very hard thing to start doing with the one you love, in my opinion swinging is the ultamite test to a loving couple it should only be done where there is 100% trust between the both of you. A little surgestion is to start of slow if you are still going to try it,like same room sex with another couple and starting off with very lite forplay with her and the other guy,,,, by that i mean no oral sex just kissing and wondering hands for the first couple of times and see how you feel after that.But don't rush into it like a bull at a gate or a red flag,sit down with her and tell her how you feel. And then you might be able to talk and agree on the things she can do that you both agree on. There are enough couples seperating everyday over real issues don't let it be over someone wanting to try something sexual and new,,,,,,it's just not worth it.
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DonnaBrett
15 years ago
If either of you have the slightest inkling of jealousy over any aspect of this scene..then you're in the wrong game. Jealousy is a bad bad emotion and it can only lead to disaster!
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RHP User
15 years ago
Now ordinarily and in the past i would be in the " Don't go there" camp. Unfortunately though, for you, the genie is out there now and once its out its out there for good!I think the best thing you could do is go softly softly and see how you handle it.....you know all three of you get to know each first in a non sexual way, then work your way into it.Good luck mateCheers Nev
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RHP User
15 years ago
... until you are both ready! Communication is paramount! This exploration should seek to enhance your relationship. If there's any jealousy involved you could destroy it! Good luck! Ms Blind xo
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RHP User
15 years ago
Jealous is just an emotion. It is okay to feel it but it is how you react to it that counts. I total agree with Capital and if you do feel jealous you can talk about it and work it out some hints to keep in mind when she goes to met this guy make sure you are doing something to keep your mind busy also your imagination is often much worse then the real thing too.
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RHP User
15 years ago
you could try couple swapping first....that way if any jelousy appears in your mind you can dismiss it with a "fair is fair" attitude otherwise I'd say proceed with extreem caution.
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RHP User
15 years ago
Hey big cpl yes jealousy can spoil playing.. however we arnt all made of stone, and yes jealosy can pop up for all of us at times ..cause we love our partners and society tells us its NOT ok for another girl to touch your man or such. So like suggested by country couple, talk about it afterwards..and stop to remember..."why are we here" i guess thats the main thing...make sure you are both in it for the same reason...to have fun and explore TOGETHER. Of course if one person is looking for a quick fix or a better lover etc. playing will certainly bring dramas to the surface. go slow...talk about the fun after then make love together ...remember its about you TWO :>
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RHP User
15 years ago
Not sure if the jealousy you say you are feeling is cos of the 3some idea or your suggestion that your wife sleeps with him first to get comfortable. But...... Capital, sexycountrycpl & NeoAndTrinity sum it up 4 us. Jealousy is only one of many emotions we can feel and sharing how we feel together every step of the way has worked for us, but... we only ever play together, and can really only imagine it will always be that way. Only do it because it's what you want to do. Lotsa hugs... Mrs P'
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RHP User
15 years ago
Talk, talk, talk, talk, talk. Get it all out on the table, any niggling issues, obscure thoughts and even the shit you don't want to admit to yourself. You can never do too much talking, especially about a subject such as this. Even if you have the tiniest pang in the guts when you think about your girl with another man, talk to your girl and give voice to your feelings. Better to battle it out upfront then tear each other down afterwards.I'm a bit baffled at the suggestion of your girl sleeping with the guy before them joining you in a 3sum, I would think that if it were me I'd be more comfortable having my man there. And I have to say though that sometimes jealousy isn't something you can just push aside, even for the sake of the love of your life. I'm with 2hunky2spunky - try same room sex or suggest a couple encounter - that way you can get a little something out of it too if you're both comfortable.
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RHP User
15 years ago
I have experienced jealousy. We both have. We talk about it, and work through it. jealousy is a perfectly natural emotion to experience in this scene so i do not understand why everyone is screaming at you to run away from it.I am with Closet Pornstars on this one, the idea of her having a one on one encounter first is a little strange as I too would feel more comfortable with Andy there if I were self conscious. You have your photo on your profile so people can see what you both look like, I am sure that anyone that agrees to share with you will be more than happy with what you both have to offer physically. Try babysteps, do not rush into the threesome. Meet some guys, get to know them a little. Let your Mrs flirt maybe kiss and a little foreplay to start. Let the man your playing with know where you are at. I have found most single men and single women to be very understanding of what it is like to be with a couple.Better than letting her have a one on one experience, perhaps let them start, then join in a later. This is as much about you as it is about your Mrs. Do not choose between your possible jealousy and her possible insecurity. Find an alternative that reduces the chances of either.....and tell her leading up to it all how damm sexy you think she is, what dress you think she looks amazing in and should wear! The next time you see her naked, compliment something, boobs, bum, whatever bit of her it is you like. Sel her to herself and by the time you meet the right man for the mfm she will be feeling great :)xx Salina
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RHP User
15 years ago
thanks to all who replied we have a talk about it and we agreed to try it. we tried by letting my wife go to see him without me for some fun. she enjoyed it enough for her to come home for seconds. i was a bit jellous at the start but then it got me thinking of what they were doing and wished i was a fly on the wall there. got me horny there. right now im comfortable with the situation
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RHP User
15 years ago
agree with some views.maybe your lady may wants more or mua haha??she doesn't want to explain it to u?jealous on the side never knew.i gain alot of jealously from guy's.that's why?hoping it help's.
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RHP User
15 years ago
thanks thanks to all who replied we have a talk about it and we agreed to try it. we tried by letting my wife go to see him without me for some fun. she enjoyed it enough for her to come home for seconds. i was a bit jellous at the start but then it got me thinking of what they were doing and wished i was a fly on the wall there. got me horny there. right now im comfortable with the situation Glad to hear it all went well. Hopefully it lead will more fun, and isn't that why we are in this scene??
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RHP User
15 years ago
Rapt to hear all went well for you both, thanks for posting how things went! Enjoy, hugs... Mrs P'
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RHP User
15 years ago
on last tuesday night we invited that friend over for some fun with my wife and she thoroughly enjoyed herself that she said to me after she nvr knew how fun it was that now she wants to do it again wasnt jellous with it at all
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subpet
15 years ago
In my view one goes into a threesome situation know that you will not have exclusive attention of your partner . As a submissive male i want to see the women enjoy her self and to do that it mean she does or has who she wishes with me watching or helping or cleaning up as and when she wants that I do not feel then need to beconcerned other then to ensure she is happy and i an helping her do what she wishes and i do all i can to help her enjoy the play I guess thats the way the submissive mind works we feel the need to please so we do whats required to ensure she is pleased with out regard for our own feeling or ego preysub
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RHP User
15 years ago
Don't do it! Simple. Unless you and your wife are willing to enjoy the experience together then it is not for you at the moment. Maybe later on down the track when you have been enjoying the lifestyle for a little longer then yes but for right now don't as it will only cause dramas for your relationship in the long run. I hope whatever you decide works out well and makes you both very happy. xxx Mrs ncis69
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RHP User
15 years ago
its already done and she loves it and i love it because it gives her what she wants.... multiple cock.
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