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coming from head
December 24 2014
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RHP User
11 years ago
Never had, and then I did. It took a deep, passionate connection, a wonderful lover, and me really enjoying myself. Lots of men in the past have been crap at giving oral and I was too shy to tell them what I needed. An intuitive, skilled lover changed all of that for me. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
I agree burning love I think most of us me maybe included are no expert at the art of giving a women a oral orgasm. in my experience the more kissing and caressing together the more comftable you feel and let your self go more and if I'm doing the right thing we get there and it's amazing for her and me. persistence to not giving up after 5 mins. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
I considered "oral sex" a "taboo". Being shy and naive didn't help either. It took 27 years with my husband before we really started to get into this thing. I did have a difficult time trying to achieve a climax. He was inexperienced and I was not in "the right frame of mind". But now all of that is in the past. I let go of my "inhibitions" and my husband became better and better with his tongue and his fingers. He now knows exactly what to do !!! What "pressure" to apply and discovering my G Spot has made a whole lot of difference for me. Being in the "right frame of mind" is absolutely important too !!! When he's "down there", I let my mind "go" and begin to fantasize. I now climax 100% every time !!! This is not to say that I will climax with every man that gives me "oral". Each man has his own technique. In fact, each man believes that he will be able to make me "come". At present, it is only my husband that "does it" for me. Amy
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RHP User
11 years ago
I didn't get my first oral till I was 40 and no, have not had a big O from it yet although he has given me lots of leg shaking, body trembling, clit licking, pussy fingering oral experiences and I am not complaining at all ☺ It's most likely I have trained my body to cum only from penetration + clitoral stimulation after all these years though. All the best OP. I'm sure you'll be inundated with offers as we speak😜 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Well imma make it my mission to change that 😉 hehe
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aussian43
11 years ago
I have managed to give a lady an orgasm via oral, she was vocal about what she liked, and nearly smothered me pushing my head into her pussy when I must have hit the right spot. It was only my second time going down on a lady and I needed the help. And I paid it back! It was mentioned about some men being crap at oral, please help educate us to do it better. I realise there will be men out there who can't take direction and who would take offense that they are not the worlds greatest lover, but the rest of us would love the tips to improve their skills and make their lover happier.
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RHP User
11 years ago
I found that too T J .. but a while back I discovered that getting oral from my partner whilst watching porn that I found stimulating, could really relax me enough so I could cum.. Needless to say as our moods ebb and flow, finding different methods to get us there can be fun. Goodluck
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RHP User
11 years ago
Therea re two factors involved in your topic...... You... and Them. Now, I can't comment on the merits of the lovers youve had in the past, but, its highly unlikely that its a case of all guys having no idea what they're doing down there. I assume you climax by other means, which would tell me that you "work" .....but something about oral isn't working for you. And if thats how it is... then its most likely a case of your mind not connecting the experience of receiving oral, with the pleasure of climax from it. So....focus on pleasure.... not climax.Give yourself permission to be vulnerable to the pleasure another is giving you. Take as long as you want to enjoy that pleasure without the pressure of climax as a goal. With the right person, in the right mental frame.... it'll happen, those neural pathways will be constructed and it'll be happy sailing form that point on. DG
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RHP User
11 years ago
Do they call it head when it is your front bottom😌...do you masturbate T 3 7.?..that way you will learn what makes the little man in your boat float.For me a man with the right combination of fingers and tongue does it.😜xxFreya
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RHP User
11 years ago
Both parties need to truly enjoy experience! Personally its a pleasure to see lady get truely pleasured! A lot is a mental head space thing Can only suggest practice makes perfect lol We are all different communication is very important xxx
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RHP User
11 years ago
you're not alone. I never orgasm from oral unless there is penetration going on as well (even then not all the time), and I've learned that is just how I am and what I like. Clitoral stimulation alone just doesn't really do it for me, and to be honest when it comes to oral I can take or leave it. I find it pleasurable enough if the guy knows what he's doing but there are other things I find much more pleasurable. I don't consider that there is anything wrong with me because of that and I've stopped putting pressure on myself to try and orgasm from oral. I understand why you feel weird about it though, because as you alluded to in your OP for some reason there is this idea that all women must love oral and be able to orgasm from it easily. Of course, the fact that it's now become an issue for you wouldn't be helping because psychological factors can also interfere with arousal and orgasm. As Freya pointed out, masturbation can be very helpful in working out what flips your switches. And although you can certainly try out some other tips and techniques, don't be worried if it turns out that oral just doesn't get you there. Just work out what does and guide your partners in that direction instead.
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RHP User
11 years ago
But I have, and its amazing. Better with someone you know and feel comfortable with, thats why I dont think I could get into threesomes and group stuff, I cant relax with strangers. But you have to relax.....concentrating on having an orgasm seems to have the opposite effect on me?
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RHP User
11 years ago
so it's not just women that don't.... - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
But after kids things slowed up, not because of my husband it was me I was focused on kids etc, I found if you don't use it you lose it. One night my husband was down there giving it everything and ended up with mouth cramps and his tongue was going to drop off :( This had been happening for months , I really needed my big vibrator to get me off. On the night my husband was down there, he said your clitorial hood has grown over and your clit has dis appeared. After inspecting this and noticing it had, """ it was gone completely hidden"""" enclosed No wonder he couldn't get me off anymore. I went and seen a plastic surgeon, and they perform a Z procedure. And girls it the best thing I have ever ever done, orgasm mania is back. So check your clits are exposed. ;)
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QLDtwo4fun
11 years ago
I found most women do cum from oral stimulation or oral and a finger or two. Mr Q
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Freya79' Do they call it head when it is your front bottom😌...do you masturbate T 3 7.?..that way you will learn what makes the little man in your boat float.For me a man with the right combination of fingers and tongue does it.😜xxFreya Its not head is it when its a man going down on woman...is it? A woman does not have a head so to speak...its clitoral or am I mistaken LOL????
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RHP User
11 years ago
That is very interesting, I have never heard of that, thanks for sharing :)
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RHP User
11 years ago
My wife has never orgasmed through oral. Come to think of it, she has never had an orgasm in any shape or form. And to make matters worse (for me), she's not interested in having an orgasm. So there's not even any fun in trying.
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Lovinit28andKC72
11 years ago
I'm hearing you.....💋
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RHP User
11 years ago
and I'll have you shaking and howling ;).....and flowing
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RHP User
11 years ago
It's an art that's all I'm saying :)
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RHP User
11 years ago
Make sure he is shaven and clean and not going to give you a rash.Most guys have no clue so grab that thick skull and use your voice to direct him.If he can not understand words and force, use your hips if he strays.
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RHP User
11 years ago
My wife doesn't cum from oral. In fact she only cums from digital stimulation of her clit when she has her legs together. Some what limiting if we want orgasms while fucking. On the plus side she is never satisfied with less than 5 orgasms and some times has sessions of 20 to 30 orgasms. Ironically I love the taste and smell and tactile sensations of sucking pussy and thought for a long time that I just wasn't doing it right. I have since discovered that I can bring some women to orgasm orally but it is one of my regrets that my sex life doesn't provide me with as much opportunity for oral as I would like. I suggest you don't worry about orgasms and if you enjoy being licked just lay back, spread you legs and take it for as long as it pleases you and think of England?
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RHP User
11 years ago
I masterbate a lot and when I was younger I had my clit pierced so it's ultra sensitive maybe that's why ??? and I think a lot of it is brain I need to relax more and take it I always have been made to feel selfish if I couldn't get off with in 5 mins haha maybe I need a patient man next - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
For Fuck Sake Why would a woman rely on a man that has not any idea what its like being a woman , or infact owning a vagina that bleeds like clockwork at the most awkward times and makes a woman feel yuk and most owners of vaginas know exactly how to bring themselves to climax with a fair amount of ease , and a light stimulation of a certain nerve which i would suggest is unique for every woman on the planet , and the fact that that mans cock spat in me and now im pregnant ! Look what you have done to me bastard bahhhh hahhhh!! Of course we cant know honey but talk to us baby , oh whats the point men dont listen !! So why would a woman rely on a man to bring her to climax when he can not even take out the fucking rubbish or hang out the washing . Ladies if you rely on a man to get you off then off with his head now . Your setting him up to fail . A skillfull lover is both man and woman together understanding listening feeling guiding and acknowledging success as it is stumbled upon and a good navigator knows her own map and knows how to fold it and hold it .!! And a skillfull gent that listens and understands will fuck your world every time once trained in the art of seduction of a complex vagina . The End is quite often the Beginning !!! - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
I see from a couple of posts that some ladies don't climax from oral but do so from penetration. I actually find the orgasms from each to be different. For penetration it's very direct, intense and pretty much short lived once you climax (though can be more if involves the following). For oral its much more sensual and intimate. I have even had one lady find oral more intimate than actual penetration. When it comes to sensual and intimate it's all about putting yourself in the right frame of mind to being receptive to openning up to the other person. I find oral starts long before she has even taken her clothes off. Lots of gentle kisses and caresses to relax her and let the arousal flow through her body - usually kisses to neck, ears, checks, lips and then work down her body when she's ready. Just licking away at her clit is not going to do it, and a guy penetrating does a much better job. But maybe that's just me. I find penetration is a masculine dominant action. Oral is sensual, intuitive, feeling her body - and possibly more feminine, which is why so many guys not in touch with their feminine side fail with oral but do so well with penetration. And possibly why many women resort to being bi-sexual ;)
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RHP User
11 years ago
Good grief lol
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RHP User
11 years ago
Well you have too be comfortable with the guy your with my hubby I cream myself almost daily thinking of him it just that im comfortable with him as a partner and every thing in between yes I have cum in my panties quite a few times before going to meet other guys also( ( back to the shower )) a few times befor meeting them I think its the ancitapation of it all knowing that I've seen spoken and like the thought that im going to get a huge cock or two in me but then again after meeting my now hubby cock is on tape ...lol and he I s very understanding to my needs and wants ever since day one now 12 years later still lets me have pussy or cock so I think its something you must want and not somthing someone can teach you ...you should just want it too happen ...but being fucked sensually softly with out rushing and having a cock touching the back of your throat while holding a few cocks one in each hand and thinking .......too yourself im going too pleasing them and soflty telling them to cum in your mouth or swallow you or more plzz get in me a little soft talk along with a few nice hard cocks is the answer 👧 u and 👦👦👦 guys is my recommendation .......or it could that some women just aren't as willing to seek the enjoyment of sex and just like a wam bam ?? ........ as for me bring it on more cocks and girls the more skwerting and cum and more real fun 😜 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
The above story was about how a woman can cum drip skwert as she has a cock in her mouth 💋💋💋 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
I dunno bigocean - it is easier to cum when you don't talk ;) I think a gent needs to listen to the sounds moans/groans and the lip biting action and not the words - so to speak :P Quoting 'Bigocean' For Fuck Sake Why would a woman rely on a man that has not any idea what its like being a woman , or infact owning a vagina that bleeds like clockwork at the most awkward times and makes a woman feel yuk and most owners of vaginas know exactly how to bring themselves to climax with a fair amount of ease , and a light stimulation of a certain nerve which i would suggest is unique for every woman on the planet , and the fact that that mans cock spat in me and now im pregnant ! Look what you have done to me bastard bahhhh hahhhh!! Of course we cant know honey but talk to us baby , oh whats the point men dont listen !! So why would a woman rely on a man to bring her to climax when he can not even take out the fucking rubbish or hang out the washing . Ladies if you rely on a man to get you off then off with his head now . Your setting him up to fail . A skillfull lover is both man and woman together understanding listening feeling guiding and acknowledging success as it is stumbled upon and a good navigator knows her own map and knows how to fold it and hold it .!! And a skillfull gent that listens and understands will fuck your world every time once trained in the art of seduction of a complex vagina . The End is quite often the Beginning !!! - Posted from rhpmobile
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madotara69
11 years ago
And such a pleasant topic on a good day. Its a sensitive little button the clitoris, surrounded by petals a flower in all its bliss, easy it is to lap away enjoying the nectar, yet focus on the swelling little pip, arousal brings her out from that hood that keeps her warm and cosy, such a tiny little thing tapering to the finest little nib, all of which erotically vulnerable, a power pack of orgasmic energy waiting in consent for the gentleness of a tongue that flicks her about in all directions, she can't escape as if a little grape upon a vine, connected with all feminine passions welling up for the uncontrollable anticipation, the far-rest reaches resting begin to quiver. An all body orgasm runs wild and calls a long sensual deep withdrawn breath, pausing............ for a lifetime of eternal euphoria it seems. Well that's how I imagine it, given half the chance. Mado Mado Tara xx
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'OF_78' I see from a couple of posts that some ladies don't climax from oral but do so from penetration. I actually find the orgasms from each to be different. For penetration it's very direct, intense and pretty much short lived once you climax (though can be more if involves the following). For oral its much more sensual and intimate. I have even had one lady find oral more intimate than actual penetration. When it comes to sensual and intimate it's all about putting yourself in the right frame of mind to being receptive to openning up to the other person. I find oral starts long before she has even taken her clothes off. Lots of gentle kisses and caresses to relax her and let the arousal flow through her body - usually kisses to neck, ears, checks, lips and then work down her body when she's ready. Just licking away at her clit is not going to do it, and a guy penetrating does a much better job. But maybe that's just me. I find penetration is a masculine dominant action. Oral is sensual, intuitive, feeling her body - and possibly more feminine, which is why so many guys not in touch with their feminine side fail with oral but do so well with penetration. And possibly why many women resort to being bi-sexual ;) Like clockwork come the men with their 'you poor ladies who don't orgasm from oral just haven't had a guy who really knows what he's doing like I do' assertions. Do you know how many times I've heard variations on that theme now? As one of those 'ladies' you are referring to in your comment, I can tell you now that a man can kiss, caress, and get in touch with his feminine side until his lips are chapped, his fingers are numb and he's keen to parade around in my high heels, I'm still not going to orgasm if he only uses his tongue on me. I love penetration, it feels fucking great, and it's what really gets my motor running. It's MY preference, and nothing to do with the guy I'm with and what he's doing. Deal with it. Perhaps you men who think of us women as one big homogenous group should start to realise that we are actually individuals with different bodies, we have different preferences and different turn-ons, and no, not all of us get off from a bit of tongue action no matter how fantastic you are (or think you are) at it. Stop thinking that we are all missing out, and seeing it as a problem that you as some self-perceived sex god need to 'fix'. I'm perfectly happy the way I am and I do not need you to tell me what I need to have an earth-shattering orgasm (considering I'm perfectly capable of giving myself one of those).
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RHP User
11 years ago
god mr hot makes me cum about 5 times in the first 15 minutes when im in the right mood!! :-D
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Aurora_Skye' Like clockwork come the men with their 'you poor ladies who don't orgasm from oral just haven't had a guy who really knows what he's doing like I do' assertions. Do you know how many times I've heard variations on that theme now? Topics like this do tend to encourage a line up of volunteers full of self praise... don't they.
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madotara69
11 years ago
You say preference, do you mind a question of a personal nature if I may? Mado Mado Tara xx
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RHP User
11 years ago
i agree miss A skillfull lover is both man and woman together understanding listening feeling guiding and acknowledging success as it is stumbled upon and a good navigator knows her own map and knows how to fold it and hold it .!! And a skillfull gent that listens and understands will fuck your world every time once trained in the art of seduction of a complex vagina . The End is quite often the Beginning !!! - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
young lad - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'ButterflyAngelic' I dunno bigocean - it is easier to cum when you don't talk ;) I think a gent needs to listen to the sounds moans/groans and the lip biting action and not the words - so to speak :P Quoting 'Bigocean' For Fuck Sake Why would a woman rely on a man that has not any idea what its like being a woman , or infact owning a vagina that bleeds like clockwork at the most awkward times and makes a woman feel yuk and most owners of vaginas know exactly how to bring themselves to climax with a fair amount of ease , and a light stimulation of a certain nerve which i would suggest is unique for every woman on the planet , and the fact that that mans cock spat in me and now im pregnant ! Look what you have done to me bastard bahhhh hahhhh!! Of course we cant know honey but talk to us baby , oh whats the point men dont listen !! So why would a woman rely on a man to bring her to climax when he can not even take out the fucking rubbish or hang out the washing . Ladies if you rely on a man to get you off then off with his head now . Your setting him up to fail . A skillfull lover is both man and woman together understanding listening feeling guiding and acknowledging success as it is stumbled upon and a good navigator knows her own map and knows how to fold it and hold it .!! And a skillfull gent that listens and understands will fuck your world every time once trained in the art of seduction of a complex vagina . The End is quite often the Beginning !!! - Posted from rhpmobile Quoting 'Bigocean' i agree miss A skillfull lover is both man and woman together understanding listening feeling guiding and acknowledging success as it is stumbled upon and a good navigator knows her own map and knows how to fold it and hold it .!! And a skillfull gent that listens and understands will fuck your world every time once trained in the art of seduction of a complex vagina . The End is quite often the Beginning !!! - Posted from rhpmobile Too much beer, and not enough listening on my part :P
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RHP User
11 years ago
I was only answering the OP with my experience. I actually find getting head is the same for me. If she just goes straight for it, I'd much rather she just spread them and sat on me. If, however, she takes the time to slowly explore before getting there it puts my mind at rest and let's me relax and be open to enjoying it. You're aggressive response suggests to me you're a strong woman who likes a strong male to penetrate and dominate. I'm a natural Cancerian man, so for me it's about equality and sharing, things done by invitation rather than imposing - certainly not one sided domination. I can see we would not be a match for each other. But each to their own.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'madotara69' You say preference, do you mind a question of a personal nature if I may? Mado Mado Tara xx I don't mind Mado.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'OF_78'And possibly why many women resort to being bi-sexual ;) Indy and all the other straight women who are having trouble finding good men on here: Turn bi, like I did! Sigh.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Well, I thought it was called head because you look down and see their head between your legs and grab onto it when your in the throes!
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madotara69
11 years ago
Just a little unsure as to whether you are saying you can not cum through oral, or that you wish not too because you prefer cumming with intercourse, I ask because Tara can easily cum with oral, although rarely does it happen because she also enjoys the intercourse and if she cums from clitoral early, it is just too sensitive for a fair while. No complaints, it's just the way it is and I don't think she would be alone there?
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RHP User
11 years ago
oral to intercourse in fact my profile specifically states that i do not want intercourse. however not all men (i have never tried a female) have the sensitivity to be good at it and i don't always cum from it. So don't worry about it just do what you enjoy !
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'madotara69' Just a little unsure as to whether you are saying you can not cum through oral, or that you wish not too because you prefer cumming with intercourse, I physically can't cum through oral, not unless there are fingers involved or penetration as well. A tongue on my clit just doesn't do enough for me (no matter what foreplay has occurred or the technique used). I can cum via manual clit stimulation but they are quite weak orgasms compared to the ones I have when penetration is also on the menu. I've been that way ever since I can remember - my very first orgasm was during sex when I was on top and I've always incorporated penetration when I masturbate. I can also make myself squirt quite easily, whether that is related or not I have no idea.
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RHP User
11 years ago
I have never cum from head (without some form of sex beforehand or in between) either. I've had women go at it for anywhere upto two hours but just haven't got me over the edge.
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madotara69
11 years ago
I don't think squirting is related so much, well maybe along side, though what I tend to believe is that clitoris is part of a whole chain of little clusters of nerve points, some women right on the tip of the clit, others more wired for the g spot and any other of the mysteries by the way you can go off the rocker with that passion that drives us blokes nuts, truly beautiful yes. You sharing that the clitoral orgasm is not so strong, kind of makes more sense of it wired up around the corner, just the way it is. T-j-7 Think we are getting somewhere here
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RHP User
11 years ago
I think you should organize a oral sex on you night only, if you cum then maybe sex can be rewarded as the treat I've got my hand up lol - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
It does take a guy that knows what he is doing, and enjoys making a woman cum. It also requires her to let go and allow it to happen. I was 'trained' by a mature lady when I was alot younger. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
I think there are several important elements:1.) listening to your own body and discovering what you like2.) communicating what you enjoy to your partner3.) your partner caring enough to listen! 4.) your partner actually ENJOYING doing it and having a desire to drive you crazy There's a great book called She Comes First by Ian Kerner. Perhaps you and your partner could read it together. He goes into intimate (pardon the pun) detail about cunnilingus. I've had partners give me head and it was boring. I've had others that have had me writhing in ecstasy and wanting to come almost right away. Realise too that it just may not be something that turns you on. We're all different, and that's totally OK.
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RHP User
11 years ago
ask you a personal question ? And if your answer is no ok cool . Maybe some other ladies or women or girls or chicks or females or sluts or goddess like creatures that have difficulty finding good men can share why the last two in there lives off RHP are below acceptable standards ? - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
I would always make her come orally first before we did anything else (save for massage, kissing etc), and it was relatively quick and easy, I guess it depends on the lady. The biggest sex organ on the lady is her mind, so you have to arouse that before you have the best chance of making her come any other way.
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RHP User
11 years ago
There is no rules to give oral to a womanthat is the first fail and porn movies need a kick in the ass.Yes some women will orgasm from just licking and others from lots of licking plusramming fingers hard in her is not the answer.Guys I cant give away the secret as I wouldgive away my advantage but I hope youwork it out and have fun trying.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'OF_78' I was only answering the OP with my experience. I actually find getting head is the same for me. If she just goes straight for it, I'd much rather she just spread them and sat on me. If, however, she takes the time to slowly explore before getting there it puts my mind at rest and let's me relax and be open to enjoying it. You're aggressive response suggests to me you're a strong woman who likes a strong male to penetrate and dominate. I'm a natural Cancerian man, so for me it's about equality and sharing, things done by invitation rather than imposing - certainly not one sided domination. I can see we would not be a match for each other. But each to their own. I have to say that your response doesn't surprise me at all. It's much easier to make patronising assumptions about my overall sexual preferences - erroneous assumptions at that - than to challenge your own views about women and how you think they should act and what they should want. You're right about one thing though...we certainly wouldn't be a match for each other but not because of star sign incompatibility. It's because I have no time for arrogant men who are unable to think or look beyond their own narrow world-view.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Thanks to the guys who said they can't come from just oral either. It's not always about how good your partner is, how well you can relax and let go, etc.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Bigocean' ask you a personal question ? And if your answer is no ok cool . Maybe some other ladies or women or girls or chicks or females or sluts or goddess like creatures that have difficulty finding good men can share why the last two in there lives off RHP are below acceptable standards ? I'm not sure I'm getting this. Are you asking why the last two guys in my life (outside of RHP) were below acceptable standards? Who says they were? Maybe things ended for completely different reasons. Sex with any guy would be below acceptable standards if we were not compatible in what we liked to give and receive in bed, and we didn't posses the skills the other person desired as a result, I guess.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Bigocean' Can somebody please do your friend a favour and sedate the cunt , i think shes Sky high with the pretty lights . Did you just call Skye a cunt?
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Meander' Quoting 'Bigocean' Can somebody please do your friend a favour and sedate the cunt , i think shes Sky high with the pretty lights . Did you just call Skye a cunt? It's not the first time that's happened on here. Considering I wasn't even responding to Bigo I'm not sure what his beef is with me, but at the moment nothing really surprises me on these forums, it's like there's a perpetual full moon on here.
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RHP User
11 years ago
He just got reported for calling women moles, cunts and bitter bitches on another forum. I can't believe filth like that even makes it through. BigO: Don't bother addressing me or asking anymore questions, I'll save any communication about your posts for the mods from now on.
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RHP User
11 years ago
although having just read his comments on another thread it seems I'm not the only woman in the firing line
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'brizzypair' Realise too that it just may not be something that turns you on. We're all different, and that's totally OK. Quoting 'verylongtongue' It does take a guy that knows what he is doing, and enjoys making a woman cum. It also requires her to let go and allow it to happen. Yes, but that's not always what it takes. Some women orgasm from anal or having their nipples stimulated. I don't, and no matter how much a guy knows what he is doing and how much I can let go, that won't change. Quoting 'chevtrek'Guys I cant give away the secret as I wouldgive away my advantage Can you just pass on the secret to us women then, so we can tell our lovers where they are going wrong? Pretty please?
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RHP User
11 years ago
BO... You should try his unsolicited emails... Hp xo💋 Because you're worth it...
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'chevtrek' Guys I cant give away the secret as I wouldgive away my advantage but I hope youwork it out and have fun trying. Um..... sorry... what?!!
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Highpriority' BO... You should try his unsolicited emails... Hp xo💋 Because you're worth it... You were on that mail out too huh....lol
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RHP User
11 years ago
I'm a recovered BPD individual... And I can tell you confidence in accepting who you are is not arrogance. Merely one person's point of view and it takes many for the world to go around. I have not been narrow viewed only responded to what I perceived is very accusational statements by yourself. I can only respond to the words you provide... But trust me top level pyschs are afraid of me because my condition means I can read people like a book. I can see what makes you happy and what you fear by your reactions. And from your continued defense of your original accusation I'm kinda bored with you already. Saying you expected a response is by itself sterotyping and narrow view. I use my condition for good as I've experienced enough horrors in this world. And putting up with male bashing for expressing my experiences is something I have little time for.
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RHP User
11 years ago
I am very intimately acquainted with BPD, and now that you have mentioned this I at least have a better understanding of why you reacted the way you did, and why you have said some of the things you have. It also tells me that continuing this exchange will not be productive for either of us, so let's agree that we leave it there and just ignore each other from now on.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Yes, as you are aware it is little of arrogance by me. More for my recovery to become accutely aware of emotions and feelings and how they drive you and cause certain reactions. This awareness I'm now applying in many aspects of my life. So to the OP at hand is that in my experience there can be "intensity" and "intimacy". Both can lead to orgasm. One is about lust and adrenaline, the other about trust, sensuality and closeness. But aside of all this, I'm wondering if this might be a similar issue to the male "death grip" - too much masturbation with the hand desensitises to the more subtle feel of a vagina making it difficult for guys to climax. A question to the ladies having difficulty climax to oral, do you always use a dildo in self pleasuring to climax (ie always train yourself to use penetration for climaxing)?
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Seachange73
11 years ago
Quoting 'chevtrek' Guys I cant give away the secret as I wouldgive away my advantage It is NOT an advantage nor you making them cum if they are sedated.....
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abcplus1
11 years ago
Bar none. Intense, body trembling and often squirting is usually how it goes here anyway.
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RHP User
11 years ago
I was lucky enough that I had a great teacher when I was younger and she coached me through the process. At the start I was completely crap but now I'm a lot better. But honestly you have to tease that area first than go in but talk with your girl and find out her turn ons and if you can use those turn ons to help her cum stronger. The missy I'm seeing now loves her nipple played with and pulled, she get right off on it and cums with strong muscle pulses.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Everyone is an individual. I've been with girls that will cum at the drop of a hat when I go down on them.. This is no good for my ego as my next partner will be a completely different story. Personally I rarely cum from oral, as I find myself feeling selfish and I can't relax. I guess that's the key word; relax. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Seriously it saddens me to read that so many women out there have not experienced head, or have taken many years to experience the wonderful world of oral sex. Sure… for us women it's a very daunting experience at first. We have fears of them seeing us in our most vulnerable. But ladies can I just say don't think for once you don't deserve it. Sex/love making/fucking…whatever you would like it to mean to you, is about sharing something with someone else. It's a two way street (or three or four or whatever tickles your fancy)…. and why would you give oral unless you also had the pleasure of experiencing it. Just remember it's about opening up and having fun! Many women don't come from oral sex….everyone is different! But seriously ladies if your man is too selfish to give you some "attention" then piss them off because that's just ridiculous (unless of course you aren't giving him any attention either). P.s for those men who are interested in giving a woman a good time. Focus on her enjoying it rather than getting her to come…. it may not happen. Tongue, fingers and even a small amount of teeth in the right area can be heaven. Just remember guys that the clitoris is not a rock…. don't rub it that hard it's going to fall off….seriously ouch!!
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RHP User
11 years ago
I just wanna have some one that can make me cum from head, they mustn't have the skills - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Simply honest connection is the key to great lovers. Not bull shit can I get into you pants kind either ? Must be deep and truly mutual and then it's simply OMG WTF OMG
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RHP User
11 years ago
Not to take anything away from this post but I feel Your frustration as a guy I have never been able to cum from head If I mention this to someone I'm sleeping with they tend to take it On as a challenge ... But no matter how great the head is I am ALWAYS unable To cum :( I feel I've been close a few times . Saying that sometimes during sex I'm unable to cum atall ,sex has been amazing too . A bit awkward as the girl does tend to Feel it's her fault saying that explaining to my wife about the events afterwards I explode almost straight away ;) (still not by head tho :()
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RHP User
11 years ago
Relax, I can't remember the last time I came from oral, but I still enjoy receiving & especially giving. You need to know what type of clitoral pleasure makes U cum, side to side, up & down, slow, fast, soft, or a little harder. You need to tell your lovers what you need, and when they get it right, pull their head into your pussy. Usually laying back & receiving is a good start, a lot of young guys just have their eyes on the prize. Maybe consider an older more experienced guy & tell him what U want, communication is the key, that is the best thing about RHP, U can express what U desire in advance & then there are no "awkward moments". Good luck with your journey & don't feel under pressure, that just makes it harder. Cheers P.L.
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RHP User
11 years ago
At the end of the day TJ7 men giving head it's the time factor, Men just don't take the time to explore the woman.Now don't get me wrong i'm talking majority not minority.There is some of us out there that get great sense of satisfaction from being able to bring there lady to orgasm or even squirt while giving head to a woman.I talk to alot of female friends of mine and they tell me that us blokes just rush too much when it comes to satisfying a woman orally.They say we need to take the time to explore every mm of there body to get them aroused.On the other hand woman also don't tell men what they like, if you were to teach that person what makes you scream, squirm, gush squirt whatever, then he will get you there most times.Same with us men, if women took the time to watch what makes the man groan or orgasm while giving head, there would be no unsatisfied couples out there.It took my wife 4 years to make me cum from giving head but it was worth the wait.I have had a lot of success just exploring a woman and believe me it works wonders for both your sex lives
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