brakeing the rules

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  RHP User

  16 years ago

  I'll be honest, I have very limited experience in that sort of position, having never been married and only having a couple of long term relationships (which really werent that long term in the scheme of things)...   However, in my own little dream world, i would like to think that when im with someone we are both open to exploring all our sexual desires with each other and neither is shy or ashamed to suggest something that would help experience a fantasy... and from that, there would never be any need to go outside of the relationship to feel fullfilled.   I know this is far from reality and every situation is different. But I'd still like to hope for something along those lines :)

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  RHP User

  16 years ago

  having just come out of a 3 year relationship, you could say it was always up for topic when my ex and I were dating...we were in an open/close relationship where i was open for anything  and like the nun that she was, would close any of those ideasi have not met a like-minded girl/lady who would be open to things you've suggested although I have met wannabe's who say they're wild and out there only to find out they're hailing mary's like mother teresa once you start dating themyes jealousy can be a bitch, and one of the main reason why partner's(whether guy or girl) would not condone an open relationship...meaning sharing you with anyone else...but if i can trust my partner, shouldn't it be mutual?anyways...we're now happily separated and i'm hoping that my next partner would be open-minded because I really do want to at least fulfill *one* sexual fantasy at least beforei hit 40....if your partner is anywhere like my ex....all i can say is good luck to you....and cheating is bad mmm'kay

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  RHP User

  16 years ago

  For us it is all about the sharing of an experience.   For us it is about the trust, fun of seeing each other being pleasured and pleasuring.   Any other way is just not being honest with your so called "partner".   This then ony  brings in secrets which end up killing any relationship you could have. (Just see what Trish has been through.)   Mr&Mrs Av.. xoxo (together we play, together we stay.)

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  RHP User

  16 years ago

  Yeah.. and I offer no excuses for my behaviour. It is just who Ive discovered that I currently am. You can make what you will of my circumstances, I dont really care about public opinion on this as we make our own destiny. My cheating is destined to be discovered but I dont ever want that day to occur. I was marreid 25 years ago .. obviously I was a lot younger. I did not explore the depth of my sexuality as a teenager and in any case was very reluctant to. In my head I knew I had an attraction to other guys as well as women, but my body did not share my enthusiasm so this helped me choose a monogamous relationship with a beautiful and caring women who I love deeply and married. My dick knows what it likes and I simply followed my erection to that conclusion.   We have a family and a beautiful life together. However, marriages have their ups and downs over 25 years... a bit like a tide coming in and going out.. and life is full of compromises. It was no consolation for me to learn that I wasn't the first to cheat and I know exactly how that feels but cheating doesnt have to ruin a marriage, if you dont place too much emphasis on a bit of one off sexual relief. My feelings are unclear and uncertain on any developed relationships she might have with another. I suppose we cross all bridges if they confront us, if we can bear it. I was mongamous for 20 years. This is a long period of time for a swinger like me to be shagging just one person but that was the promise I made and I was hell bent on keeping it regardless of my lover's indiscretions. Ive since discovered that the moral high ground really isnt that important, by the way.     As I matured my attraction to my same sex did not wane and then they invented Viagra. I knew that my body could get over any anxiety causing erectile dysfunction when being stimulated by a same sex partner and in my mind I had matured enough, I guess, to accept that sex with men did not have to be as traumatic as I had experienced as a small child. Something was taken from me then and 40 years later, with viagra, I could claim it back. So I did. Now, a new world of sexual freedoms had opened to me. I rarely use stiffie pills these days and I'm discovering more about myself sexually than ever before possible. However, it's a journey not shared by my wife and frankly it can only end very badly.   I make no excuses for my behaviour which I personally despise but it is a journey I have had to do.  I might stop tomorrow... or maybe the next day..... I know other cheaters  from here, who have just closed their accounts to try to resolve their relationship indiscretions amicably.   Hugs Gazza

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  RHP User

  16 years ago

  My ex hubby was a lil conservative  is his ideas of sex...But me being me.....introduced him to naughty bedroom antics and he loved it!!  We talked about adding an extra in the bedroom..He would not go for another man but was nervously keen on another woman..I did not mind this as I wanted to see him with other woman..We had some fun FFM's..hehe...   I still want to explore.....Prefer with a trusting partner..I love my 1 on 1's the intimacy..dirty talk..exploring fun..and I don't mind to have the occasional extra or extra's in the bedroom...But I am finding men want the FFM  but are not willing to share me for MMF....I went through this with my ex hubby...And now in my prime I want to explore MMF..I mean only once is not enough for me lol..I can't wait for my next one!!   I don't cheat....so finding a man who want;s a relationship...doesn't want it all his way and is open minded....Well ..I doubt I will ever find him..Until then I am happy being single and exploring what I want, when I want and with whom I want...   pmsl......even that is extemly rare..!!!   kisses   sweetpetite41xxxxxxxxxxxx

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