Work/Family against Play?

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  RHP User

  7 years ago

  You’re the best one to answer this. It’s an individual couple thing whether you choose to take the step to meet as an individual or take the step as a couple. There’s no right or wrong answer here but a what works for you answer. Opportunities are hard to make come to fruition when there’s work and family involved...It is worth being patient to make sure whatever path you choose is going to be with the right single or couple - that shouldn’t be negotiable. That aside - it’s a you decision to make. I don’t play alone but that’s my choice. There are profiles where the couples are happy to play as a couple or is singles and that’s their choice that they’ve made together. Be patient and good luck with it!!

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  RHP User

  7 years ago

  Thankyou Redmustang, it’s a true statement but good to get others opinion to make my descion. I’m more inclined to wait but if we/I found the right couple that could also change my mind Xxx

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  Roll_In_The_Hay

  7 years ago

  We would suggest that THE most important thing to be mindful of is communication. Openness and honesty are paramount to ward off the green eyed monster. Discuss your boundaries, hard limits, expectations and play devil’s advocate with each other. Explore “what if” scenarios and remember...... patience is the key! Don’t ever “take one for the team” nor expect anyone else to do so. There are plenty of choices on the menu and you should be free and confident to explore your kinks & desires without any pressures! Hope this helps & good luck 😉 M&K

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  RHP User

  7 years ago

  discussed it all, and she surprised me with the fem half of a couple we (Sort-of) knew for my birthday.After that, being the gentleman I was never going to be, nor ever will be, suggested she go have fun with the couple if she wishes.Which she did... The skanky bitch.. .. Short story is, I was away often, and often for months, so it was reasonable to expect my dear ex had needs.. She played if she had the chance, and didn't always tell me about the details, OR the actual events. We enjoyed each other when I was home, and sometimes she would tease me, or suggest/organise a surprise meet - We did have fun, and even so long after we split, we still "Catch-up" if there are no others in each of our personal lives to get pissed about it.. Point is:You make the choices that work for you, and follow any rules which maybe in place.. or bloody well discuss any changes to those rules.. preferably BEFORE you change them.. Have fun girl, and I do hope you find some awesome fuckfriends.. cavedweller

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  boobsandbusted

  7 years ago

  you and your partner are the best to know the answers to these questions ,discuss discus and discus some more know one here knows your relationship and desires like you do , mr b ,

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  RHP User

  7 years ago

  Thanks Mr B..........We have trust and honesty so nothing will not be spoken about before and after

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  RHP User

  7 years ago

  Roll In The Hay you have the best profile pic ever.

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  bonefide

  7 years ago

  “And the award goes to... Roll In The Hay you have the best profile pic ever”

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  Roll_In_The_Hay

  7 years ago

  My girl lo❤️es her shoes!! 👠

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  MsSuperFoxy

  7 years ago

  It is important you recognize the difference between compromising your relationship and compromising yourself for a something you want/desire. The key is communicating with each other. If you can not find the time, it's up to you to manage. Only YOU can decide. YOU and your happiness come first before others. If you want to meet people alone, you have to find the courage and have self-confidence. A 1st meet in a public place is ideal and safe. Best of Luck. Ms Foxy

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  RHP User

  7 years ago

  Hi there KT, Great profile pics by the way. Very classy. You certainly take care of yourself. Mr Bris was very impressed as was I. We too agree with most others that have commented that you have to be the one to decide on this. If I Mrs Bris, decided that I liked a guy or couple and wanted to play on my own I would discuss this with Mr Bris and as much as he would have a sulk if it was a couple, he knows that we have our own adventures and he would have a similar chance at a later time. We mostly play on own because I am a shift worker and Mr Bris works Mon-Fri. We also have a young family so it is really difficult to coordinate a meet as a couple, but we still get our chances together. We got around this by taking set days off on leave and have our young one go to Grandparents so that we can host in our place. So like you both, time is a big factor here. We also have found just talking about it with each other and also making sure that you are looking out for negative feelings and thoughts is discussed and agreed. Playing on our own as well as together makes it so much easier for us to get our individual needs met. My needs are very different from Mr Bris.I also love setting Mr Bris up with a single lady or couple, as much as he does not need this, I know that this makes life easier for me when I need to get my needs met too...Ha Ha. I love to get the responses back from them that say "wow you are both really open", and I say back "makes for a healthy open relationship".

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  MsSuperFoxy

  7 years ago

  You guys are not alone. There's many in Brissy (and across Australia) in the same situation as yourselves. As mentioned above by Brisnorth, many are shift workers (myself included). My advice is, get yourselves a diary, coordinate, be organised (plan ahead) and use your time management wisely. That's what I do. It works for me. 😊 Ms Foxy

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  twowithnolimits

  7 years ago

  This is a frequent question and daily i hear many similar questions, all revolving around the don't have time/I'm always away theme. Why? Why do people chase fifo jobs, overseas contracts, long periods away? The consequences are seen everywhere, every day. You don't have to keep your kids at home till they are 35 and you've bought them a car. You don't have to have an Audi as your runabout. You don't need 6 bedrooms, a spa and a theater room. I posit the root cause of all these difficulties, missed opportunities, compromises and conflicting schedules is...wait for it..... greed and consumerism. Every opportunity missed cannot come again, every compromise made sows a seed and cannot be undone, every hour apart is an hour you will never have. Tomorrow you could be divorced, widowed, cheated on, dead. Just saying {awaiting the torrent from the defensive consumerists...)

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  RHP User

  7 years ago

  The connection between fifo, working away, working overseas, working long hours, having children is that it was more than likely there before people ventured on this journey. This journey - as amazing as it is - is secondary to normal day to day lives. It doesn’t define us nor does it become priority so much that we feel the need to adapt our normal work family lives to make this life easier to accommodate. It’s just life. Life is busy. But the best things in life are worth exercising patience for and waiting for.

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  RHP User

  7 years ago

  Quoting 'twowithnolimits' This is a frequent question and daily i hear many similar questions, all revolving around the don't have time/I'm always away theme. Why? Why do people chase fifo jobs, overseas contracts, long periods away? The consequences are seen everywhere, every day. You don't have to keep your kids at home till they are 35 and you've bought them a car. You don't have to have an Audi as your runabout. You don't need 6 bedrooms, a spa and a theater room. I posit the root cause of all these difficulties, missed opportunities, compromises and conflicting schedules is...wait for it..... greed and consumerism. Every opportunity missed cannot come again, every compromise made sows a seed and cannot be undone, every hour apart is an hour you will never have. Tomorrow you could be divorced, widowed, cheated on, dead. Just saying {awaiting the torrent from the defensive consumerists...)

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  RHP User

  7 years ago

  Totally true RedMustang, we don't have a FIFO role, we have a hubby with a national and international job that was here way before this and the fun. Maybe thus is a product of the travel and us wanting to spice our love/sex and fun life up. we are totally honest and we both know what the other lies and gets off on. But we make time for us outside of work, family and life

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