Women & Polyamory

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  Hottie1

  8 years ago

  I just know I ‘do relationships’ better than both my men, lol 😂 I can love two people simultaneously and give them the time, effort and love that they need respectively. At times I have to remind my men that they may just need to check that I’m travellin ok too :) Mary xx

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  RHP User

  8 years ago

  one thing just occured to me. Women get the knives out when I suggest most are jealous which affects their partners freedom to do what they really want to do. So to highlight this, flip this around and have men being in two relationships 😉 Even if it has happened successfully, more likely that would be when the female partners want their own freedom, so don't care what he does. Different story I'm sure if he'd made the same request first, leaving her at home supporting him and his other relationship? Mary I have openly supported you but let me ask you that question. What if your husband wanted another relationship, long before you ever considered it. Would you have supported him? So on topic, women IMO are obviously more into it because they get to have their cake and eat it too. Men look elsewhere on the sly because they're always concealing from their wives what it is they really fantasise about. Double standards is my take, certainly initially anyway. I'm into full freedom for both partners, from the get go, no labels required

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  Hottie1

  8 years ago

  I was a serial monogamist for over 20 years of our marriage :) it was hubby who wanted me to go and explore ... he’s never been as active as I have since we began swinging over 3 years ago, even though he first suggested swinging over 12 years ago ... it took me over 10 years to come to grips with the very idea he wanted to share me. That whole idea was anathema to the very fibre of my core beliefs and values at the time. Knowing I struggled with that concept, I would have struggled with the concept of him having another significant relationship .... absolutely :) TBH ... I would struggle (and do struggle) with anything that compromises my relationships, even with the guys other FB or FWB lol 😆 I do like that my men see other people and am seriously not jealous of ‘them fucking others’ because ATM I am the only person they both ‘love’ ... I would however lose my tiny mind if in fact ‘they neglect’ the ‘us’ so to speak. This is what I think I do better lol 😂 I’m very much a relational person first and ‘think with my vagina second’ lol 😂 So I nurture, love and build us up first (here’s the very key to polyamory for me, loving more than one) and also add amazing sex (lol) to maintain our relationships. Not intending to offend either of my gorgeous men, or men in general, but I think they think with the little head rather than the big head on their shoulders first, then the heart follows lol. Many people look at our situation and think ‘she’s lucky, she gets so much sex’ ... and she does lol ... BUT I am the linchpin for both my relationships because it’s inherently who I am ... I’m not more into it, just more attuned to the relational aspects of it all ... and as a nurturer and pleaser, I work very hard at maintaining healthy, balanced relationships. Mary xx

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  RHP User

  8 years ago

  I’ve got no idea. I don’t think I really know anyone who truly follows the lifestyle in its purest form. Well, sort of kinda. :)

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