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Womans Bodys
September 18 2009
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RHP User
16 years ago
hi libbie well ive taken a look at your pic and huni i dont think you really have anything to worry about. actually i wish i had a lady in my life that like you mal
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RHP User
16 years ago
Hi libbie, I can't see it being a turn off for guys. If everything else is well toned (which by the look of your pic it is) I can't see it being an issue. I guess it's like anything though, everyone has their own individual tastes. Stephen.
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RHP User
16 years ago
With a hot sexy body like you have sexy lady, you're delicious curves only add to a mans viewing pleasure. Mmm mmmm Mac
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RHP User
16 years ago
Who cares if u still hav ur baby belly its natural to hav that after u hav given birth ;p and if any guy dont understand that then fuk him!
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RHP User
16 years ago
hiya libbi well to be truthfull untill a girl has children shes still just a girl but with children comes motherhood and defines a woman and a real man will look well beyond a baby belly stretch marks or any other marks on a womans body just remember we all want perfection but there is no shuch thing be happy with who you are
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RHP User
16 years ago
have you had a good look at the average male form latelyanyway boys are usually looking at your boobsif your so worried about it get a boob job or a tummy tuck or do 600 situps a day
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RHP User
16 years ago
If you look at any women's magazines (and I try not to), they're all telling women how there are thousands of ways they can improve themselves to "get a man".... on the other hand, if you look at any men's magazines (again, better not to) the articles are all about how great men are... and if they could just find that perfect woman... LOL So it's unsurprising that women feel insecure about their "inability to be perfect" when it's mostly other women that are telling them this!!! I agree with the Mad Scotsman... who doesn't seem crazy to me lol..."a real man will look well beyond a baby belly" so be on the lookout for a real man libbie... and Good Luck!
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RHP User
16 years ago
Well I think you must be suffering from the same afflication that most women suffer from and that is lack of self confidence. I generally look at the overall package, then start with the main points of interest but always end up with the personality. I suppose there are a lot of men that are supeficial but they are not worth considering in the first place. From my perspective, you are a total hottie! enjoy your body, flaunt it if you want to (like hotazice, lol) and remember that there is no point in not doing things now just to end up saying later"I wish I hadda". Have fun and enjoy life.
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RHP User
16 years ago
I disagree, look at a mens mag and much of them now are full of tips on how to make yourself more of a catch - be it dressing sophie: better, how to approach women, or *shock horror* making yourself look better by losing fat and getting a siz-pack abs and chiseled chest.Both male and female targeted media are always feeding both sexes ideas of what we should be to be attractive, in days gone by it was like you describe - but I think that is changing. Women's mags are also very full of "oh you're wonderful as you are, revel in whatever size you are, any man should feel special to be in your presence" and then turn the page and you'll get "how to get in bikini shape'.But either way, libbie you look smoking hot in the profile pic.
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RHP User
16 years ago
Of course you are right Sydneyboy... guilty as charged of over-generalizations... there are some truly shocking articles on both sides and my "I blame the Media" was a bit tongue-in-cheek ;-)
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RHP User
16 years ago
but it just spins around in the same bullshit all the time. HotazIce, I remember you posting in another forum about how unattractive you thought it was when people didn't make the ultimate effort to look their best. They didn't hold themselves up to your high standards. You haven't had a baby yet, you where very cutting in some of your comments regarding fat women, but your ok if someone still has a bit of a baby bump. Babies are an excuse, then. These forums decend into ego boosting at times, it gets so disgusting.
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RHP User
16 years ago
Snap out of it Libbie ~ your profile pic says "Hawt". Nice bike too. Do you ride it? (that would be even hawter)! Frack_me... That's a bitter comment, hon. Have a cup of green tea... the antioxidents work wonders for yur temperiment. It's quite obvious to me, hanging out as I do at fashion catwalks on every opportunity, that people with bodies made for the rest of us to be envious of have moments where they actually feel insecure. True! Wonderfully human moments. Warming moments that say.. that super model is no different to me... I can talk to her! Well, no different apart from the 6'4" legs and the swishy hindquarters and a few other details.. you get the idea..... but what's so wrong about that? What's so wrong about ego boosting a super model? Flattery bebe. There's nothing wrong with doing it ..... give it a go! Hugs Gazza
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RHP User
16 years ago
We're all just afflicted with this condition of being human - too big a brain to cover just the essentials of survival so we have a ridiculously large part of it laying dormant, this part gets bored so goes off on tangents. Luckily we get some great fantasies from it but also too much time to ponder on useless stuff like "does my bum look big in this".Now I replied to another topic crudely asking about "fat chicks" and posted from a health point of view but here we're talking about the natural aging process.I happen to work closely with a lot of women and I'm sick to death of them talking about Ristalyn this and botox that, I continually beg them to just grow old gracefully. I think the whole media thing started off with men dictating what women should be, this then moved into women dictating what women should be (and much harsher I think) and now we're into men's body image too. I tell all the "well it's my body and if I want to pay a fortune to nip and tuck it then why not" people I talk with to maybe take a holiday, go and volunteer in a children's hospital in a developing country and see what life is really about, if they still have money left after their donation then go throw it away on chasing youth!OK personally (and it's MrPup here as usual), we Puppies have been getting our life sorted for way too long and the baby bump has been pushed back but is not too far off in the future. Mrs Pup has just about the sexiest pre-baby belly I've ever seen (no washboard here just one of her more subtle womanly curves). Now with her genetic make-up I'm pretty certain that the dreaded stretch marks will herald the continuing of the species and her belly will be changed forever. Alas I'd be lying if I said I welcome the change wholeheartedly but it makes me sad that a thought like this would even enter my head. We're all affected by this perfect body we're all supposed to have. I don't get it though, popular culture has our ideals as women looking like 12 year old boys and men looking like 12 year old boys on steroids. Looking through profile photos of "hot" couples it often takes a few moments to figure out who is who!!So I push these stupid thoughts of perfection out of my mind (i'm so far from it myself that it's even more pathetic to ponder expecting it from my partner) and I focus on stronger thoughts of what I really want. I can't wait to see Mrs Pups body change and grow with the wonder of procreation if that results in a few stretch marks then so be it, I'm just glad she loves my hairy chest as I'm a waxing wimp! I remember in my early 20's working at a hospital I'd have lunch outside on a sunny, grassy patch where more often than not expectant mothers would also be catching some rays. I can remember even at this age noting how they glowed and just exuded calmness, beauty and a certain sensuality. It's a memory that has stayed strong with me for a very long time.I've also spent some time living in different cultures and found myself attracted to unusual elements that seemed to be a part of the cultures norms, from skin colour to a different scent, an accent to a missing tooth here or there!!!!Damn I've prattled on again so will round it up and get out into the sunshine!Libbie - you look hot babeHotazice - you've been called a hypocrite but don't worry we all are!!Sophie - umm WE want you!!! hahaFrack_me - am I a hypocrite too? I do believe that a large proportion of our larger people are there more through bad habits than medical reasons. But again we're only human and we'll always find youthful, healthy bods as attractive but I don't think we should put as much focus on all looking perfect. It's good to look your best and be your healthiest and yes that's different for us all. It'd be nice if the more fortunate would help the less fortunate - what a world it'd be then! The fact is that we're a horrible species that doesn't mind living off others suffering so long as our lives are ok.Gee I'm knocking my self off this damn soap box right now!!!
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RHP User
16 years ago
well libbie, i had a look, can't see what your complaint would be...did u take a fancy to a guy and he made a comment about your tummy...how shallow is that...get rid of him....QUICK! or any other dork who thinks in such a pathetic way...When u meet a guy who likes u for u...for your intellect, your wit, your inspirations etc...then what you have to offer physically is a bonus...so...BE PROUD!! of who u are and what you got...mwah and cheersJoseps...uhm Frack_Me...like WTF!!!...what's got your knickers in a twist, huh?
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RHP User
16 years ago
Who hurt you recently, hun?? Message me!
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RHP User
16 years ago
I actualy dont have my knickers in a twist. I have a lap band around my stomach fixing it so that I too, fit in with this perfect ideal of what society expects a woman to look like. I made mention of HoTazIce because of some cutting and downright rude comments she made about overweight people in a previous forum post. Yes, I think it's very hypocritical of someone to give a certain section of society a break and not others, when their reasons may be as legetimate. I suggest you read "do many guys like fat chicks" in the guys ask sectioon of the forums.
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RHP User
16 years ago
yep, read the post...happened to notice the apology that hotazice posted directly below your comments...hope the op is a success and great that u r getting on with your life again...*blows a small kiss in your direction*...Now, let's get on with the topic at hand...cheersjose
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RHP User
16 years ago
Libbie, You look beautiful and the common thread is right...any man that would be turned off by that is an imbecile that isn't worth your time. Be proud of the fact that you're a mother and stay true to yourself. :) Wow Frack_Me...you actually had an opinion that went against the 'majority' :o Tut tut LOL Notice you got shot down in flames pretty quick? I guess now is where i 'apparently' justify your comment by saying good onya for noticing and commenting on hypocrisy in here...cause thats what squeakers do hahaha Then I realised you were a guest...so expect to cop more flak for that too :) Good for you for saying what you think...should be more of it!! Squeak squeak :P Cheers Elljae x
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RHP User
16 years ago
I don't mind if your opinion differs to mine Elljae.... that's what sets us apart... lmfao... so go ahead and squeak as much as you want to..... but if you want to get your jollies off putting other people down, I am going to disagree with you, 'cause I'm such a nice guy. :p Hugs Gazza
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tamworthguy46
16 years ago
Lets not turn this post into a personal slinging match........libbie just asked a simple question, wheather she thought men would still be attracted to her, you know a bit of a complex, and probably just wants everyone to tell her she looks fine ? Well libbie....I'd honestly happily lick and kiss you all over, and id pay special attention to your tummy....And Frack_Me I'd do the same to you to!......I know i will suffer ramifications from what I'm about to say but Frack_me.....you so need someone to give you a good fuck .mate !b
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RHP User
16 years ago
I don't get off on making a point of someone being hypricritical. Yes HotazIce makes an apology, you will notice, that, straight after her post.... someone...hang on.... me!... makes it very clear that her attitiude does nothing to encourage fat people to do anything positive. If someone hadn't said something, she would have continued on with that viewpoint, missing out on growth as a person, and people like me would have just thought she was a complete tosspot for her attitude. She's clearly not, but still needs to continue on with growing as a person, accepting all people as they are, rather than what they look like. This is gonna denegrate into the fatties versus the thinnies. Gaz, no one can be nice to all the people all the time, your always gonna come up against someone with the differing opinion. It might be nice to flatter a woman, feel as though you add to her sexiness and appeal, but if someone constantly seeks validation from an outside source, how does that help a person's confidence when no one is around to validate them? Puppy, I asume that large post came from the male of the couple. If you hold strong to the view that larger people only get fat through bad habits, then yes, you are being a tad hypocritical. White western society holds an ideal completely different to other cultures, based on what you look like, rather than what you do or the person you are. I'm not telling you anything you don't aleady know. Comeandgetme, what is the topic at hand? Libbie asked for an opinion on how her body looked. She wanted men to tell her she looked great. By defination, she's asking to be judged and complimented. Thats what this site is all about. Flattery and trickery by men taking advantage of women without the confidence to simply believe in themselves at times. Not all the time, but some of the time. We all lose our hold on our confidence at times. Maybe it's just that I never get complimented, at least not by the men I really want to. Give me a man who actually reads my profile first before he sends me a flirt, not a flirt from some bloke who lives 2500kms from me and has no or little intention of ever coming to Darwin, but seems to think that I'm gonna be happy carrying on a long distance cyber relationship. PFFFFFFT.
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RHP User
16 years ago
Frack, Ive been a very large woman and Ive been a very slim woman. I have seen and experienced first hand the hypocrisy that society throws at larger women. And I've also experienced it on this site as well. To be honest, Im in between being large and slim right now and I am so much more comfortable iwth who I am now. Stretch marks, jelly belly, large ass, saggy boobs are all a part of who I am and who I have been. I dont need validations from anyone to prove to me that I am a WOMAN! And I believe most women my age feel the same way. We put our bodies through alot of shit and to come out the other end still looking great and feeling great is an awesome feeling. OP - be proud of what you have achieved by giving birth. That is all you need to concern yourself with.
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RHP User
16 years ago
I think I know how you feel... I worried about how other people besides hubby would feel about my belly when we first joined RHP, something people never understood when I mentioned it... but it was something that I came to realise was only important to me hehehehehe. It might indeed be a turn off for some men cos everyone is different but I think you'll find there's plenty that will absolutely love your gorgeous belly ;-)CheersMrs P
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RHP User
16 years ago
im a big sexi confident horny sexual seductive smiley cheeky woman i love my bodie my looks my pussy n love life ............mrsfuncouplefun be confident love yourself
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RHP User
16 years ago
Hey ladies Women's bodies are beautiful, baby or no baby. I am very attracted to older women because they have the curves. Don't be worried about something like that, and anyone who can't see past a little detail like your belly isn't worth the time of day
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RHP User
16 years ago
Everyone notices a beautiful face on a hot body. The body could be male or female. Just because people notice them does not mean they desire them. But it usually does. Health and vitality is attractive. Once upon a time a person could only look really good for a decade or so - now we have a bit more time to play with - thanks to all the magic potions and wizards with scalpels. In a land of abundance people have the opportunity to be able select their partner with looks as a key criteria - usually they just have a low bar they are not prepared to go below. The prettier the person is - the higher the bar is for other parties. If the relationship is a short term fling the bar is set even higher. Looks isn't the only feature being measured - most people have them for personalities, wealth, status, intelligence, cooking skill, dance style and important things like shoe selection. The low bars are important to help make sense of the world - but set it too high and all you end up with is looks and no substance. Too low and you go through a lot of ugly to find the hot, rich, smart, eloquent masterchef - with good shoes. Remember the difference between cute and hot is muscle tone and body fat. Cute is good but it depends where you set the low bar. (P.S. there is a low bar for body fat as well - too little and you have a meat decorated skeleton)
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RHP User
16 years ago
are you sure your a boy as you articulate like a woman
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RHP User
16 years ago
I know I need a great fuck. I need a guy who likes me for me, to want to make me deliriously happy whenever I need it. Sex, sex, sex, cuddles, kising, cuddles, more sex, date nights, dinners, romance, all that bullshit that goes with being in a good well balanced relationship. Someone who doesn't care if I have a large arse that wobbles when i'm training, but loves the fact that I'm working hard to improve myself. Unfortunately, there is nothing really balanced about todays' relationships. If a guy or a girl isn't complaining about the amount of money your not bringing home, it's the amount of time you don't spend with them, the lack if size of your cock or the wobbles you have since you had to let something slide in order to fit everything in. If a chick, or a guy, isn't "perfect" to look at to start with, s/he doesn't get a look in. I'm sorry, but my experience has had men tell me that I'm not relationship worthy because of how fat I am. So sue me for being hurt and being bitter about it. Libbie is asking if men would have a problem with her tummy after her body has created life. God forbid that men should have the right to judge anyone. Maybe once I've lost my weight, men will start to see me for me, not for the body I inhabit. I am a hell of a lot more than my nice looking tits, I am also my great smile and my sense of humour. Men don't see those though, do they? Not on RHP. Only the Pic's. Only my bitterness at being treated like shit beneath the feet of men who aren't all that to start with and have no right judging anyone anyway! I need a drink, and I'd have one if I was able to..... going back to my corner now and not coming back out until I am normal.
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RHP User
16 years ago
Since when has other peoples opinion on rhp mattered? If you are happy in your own skin, then enjoy. Opinions are like ass holes... everyone has one, but what matters most is how u feel frack.... Keep ya chin up girl and to hell with what other women think or feel....
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RHP User
16 years ago
Yours was quick Elljae... but the way I see it, Frack_Me didn't just have an opinion but entered the thread with an attitude that passed judgements on a lot of other honest opinions (including yours) as well as taking a pot shot at HotAzIce in particular for a past post that she had already apologised for. I'm not surprised peeps reacted... there seems to be a fine line between support, which is ok and validation, which is not.I thought Gaz' post after that was his usual from the left field, apparently light hearted, f***ing funny post. And he was right in his intimation that even the most beautiful have moments where they actually feel insecure, some live every moment of their day despising themselves, it's not easy to judge a book by it's cover... I'd love to see you start a thread on how peeps that are perceived as confident sometimes feel about themselves... I'll contribute my opinion and maybe behave myself... Mr Pups post was rather beautiful... and COMEANDGETME's posts were pretty much a simple question and his response after following up on F_M's reference CheersMrs PeachyPS Frack_Me: I hope the overall outcome of your lap band surgery is successful for you!
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RHP User
16 years ago
Frack - assumption correct, male here. But I don't assume all overweight people get there through just purely bad habits. There are many reasons but it is pretty much fact that a larger and larger proportion of obesity is coming from habits - should I call it habits or great marketing with a golden M!I wish society judged people on what they did for their society and others but the fact is that western society is preoccupied with image - body image, keeping up with the Jones's and forgetting all our woes by immersing ourselves into making gods out of celebrities - sports, pop music and that damn Paris Hilton.... we're F__ked!But hey there's still some miracle workers out there to give us hopeSTOP (shortest post ever!)
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RHP User
16 years ago
I read this thread with interest......I'm certainly not a stick thin supermodel......and neither would i want to be. But the thing that got to me as I read more and more comments from Frack_Me was that maybe it has nothing to do with the body thing, but more with the attitude. If you're going to perceive the world through a victim's eyes, then that is how you'll feel......like you're being treated like crap and being overlooked by men, no matter who they are simply because of size. Some men like thin girls, some men like ones with meat on their bones.....and yes some even love bits that wobble.......but in my experience, what they like more than the physical look sometimes, is attitude. Someone who can have a laugh, has confidence in themselves, no matter what they look like and who is relaxed and comfortable with who they are. You attract what you put out there......put out a crappy attitude that all men are shit and you'll attract just that.....However if you put out an attitude that you're a cool person who deserves respect and treats others with the same respect, then that is what you will reap. Just my two cents. Have a beautiful night. H x
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RHP User
16 years ago
sum will n sum wont...who givs a fuck wot they think(u shouldnt)...if they like YOU that's all that matters in the LONG run
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tamworthguy46
16 years ago
Muso.....Thanks for that......Your Exactly on the money with what your saying !...I'm also going to add a Dr Phill Quote....." People only do to you what you let them " And being H.G wells birthday today....A quote from him to.. While there is a chance of the world getting through it's troubles,I hold it that a reasonable man has to behave as though he wer sure of it.....If at the end your cheerfulness is not justified, At any rate you will have been cheerfull. Frack_Me......I realy hope your lap banding works well for you, for health reasons, and in the future get your confidence back.....and find a partner, or partners that respect you as a beautifull person.....or lover ! XO TAM.
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RHP User
16 years ago
Wow guys Id didnt expect the great comments I got.... and yes many of you are right i should be more comfortable and excepting of the way my body is.....I guess it all got a bit hard for me when the father of my babie left me for who I thought was my best friend and it has taken a while to build my confindents back up and it just felt that he was the only man who could have loved the changes in my body...but oh how wrong i have been.So thank you all for you comments and I am going try to except the changes in my body myself. PS By the was the reason my babie belly looks good in the pic is my tummy disappear a long with my boobies when I lye down LOL Libbie
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RHP User
16 years ago
You are waaay HOT.Bodys are like wrapping paper,its whats inside that counts. By the way,you have beautiful wrapping paperand you are very much a WOMAN.
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RHP User
16 years ago
Hey TamYour H.G. Wells quote was perfect.......mmmmm a man with brains and a delicious body......could it get any better? Frack, I'm glad you got some positives out of all the comments.....look at it this way - if you're happy with YOU, then who gives a rats what other people think. :-)Have a beautiful day. H xx
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tamworthguy46
16 years ago
Aww shucks !........What a compliment......thanks !.......I still have a thing for that eye of yours Remember ?! and you look mighty fine in a teddy.......but You add intelligence, and the power of reason......Well what more can i say ! A beautifull person in a beautifull place...... XO Tam
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RHP User
16 years ago
Libbie- sexyness is attitude and confidence plays a MASSIVE part. Once you have that sorted you will be laughing.Muso-H- hit the nail on the head- It's called Karma Baby, you get what you put out.As for anone complaining about there weight or feeling victimised because of it- i got nothing!I come from the other side of the tracks- sevearly underweight during schooling due to undiagnosed illness, meant i ws an easy target for the bullies (a bloke weighing under 60kgs in year 11)A skinny person tends to get victimised just as much as an overweight person, however they are called "Lucky", and believe me there is NO support for someone trying to "Put" on weight. After years of working out and eating right, i am now a healthy and very trim 75kg. Not blowing my trumpet, mearly suggesting that it took years of sustained effort. Whether you are trying to lose it or put it on, set realistic goals. and sustained effort is just that- Sustained, day in day out- year in year out!
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RHP User
16 years ago
there is nothing worng with ya hun there are many guys i know that luv women for who they are wheather they have had a baby or not i have had two kids and i dont realy care what ppl think of what i look like or what my belly looks like ,they should take you for who u are ,i was self concous of what my belly looked like and still do a bit but doesnt bother me as much as thats who i am
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RHP User
16 years ago
whether it be a female or male , short or tall , fit , thin or otherwise , Our bodies are just vehicles for living, sure the boday can be attractive but an body like that will only be interesting attractive and alluring if the persona within si comfortable in its own skin and confident in who they are ........
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RHP User
16 years ago
call me old fashioned but a bit of a baby belly can be quite erotic..a sensual woman needs curves i think...and if guys don't like that then theres plenty who do...shallow ppl shit me..when you get to my age you know only too well that looks play a minor role in a successful relationship..its all about the trust, laughter, intamacy and passion
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RHP User
16 years ago
I would just like to say you look just fine to me and I am sure many other guys here also. Despite what some people think the vast majority of guys want a 'real' woman not a barbie doll lookalike. Some men may not be attracted to it, but they are the kind of men that you could do without anyway so not really an issue!
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RHP User
16 years ago
With the increasing trend towards obesity, it may become the norm. Rubenesque women were the norm once before, so it's not impossible they could be again. Except the fashion gurus and media keep pushing skinny figures. It's a case of people being accepting of the look. It's a bit rough though if BBW expect to only be with fit and trim guys with six packs. Big blokes need a fair go too. Its all about showing compassion. Okay its really all about sex too and one getting a bit. :)
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RHP User
16 years ago
Wish you the best with your endeavour... you're still a young'un in my books... so the odds must be in your favour. It's a bit hard conveying ones good qualities in a bar or RHP encounter if the chaps are just looking for sex. The workplace and associated social opportunities are a better environment, if one works for a big organisation. Otherwise you're screwing around here in expectations of finding Mr Right. I'm not saying it's impossible, but it might take a lot of screws to survey the complete scene. At least you're not missing out on a bit of nooky in the process... but is it good quality nooky... with blokes worthy and willing for a relationship? Otherwise it could leave a sour taste in the mouth.
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RHP User
16 years ago
when all is said and done, we are all created equal....that includes baby bellies, tits that tend to sag a bit after breast feeding, cellulite and all that other lovely stuff lol.....I would love to go back to my pre baby body, but i cant and the way i see it is this.....we all need to accept each other for the way we are. Libbie, your a beautiful woman be proud of who you are....your a mum, and that the greatest gift of all...but you are also a sexual being....so take your self and your baby belly out there and have fun. This comment im about to make is so off the track but anyway here goes. I always thought that I wasnt worth anybodys time because im a BBW but since being on this site i have realised that i am worth everybodys time, im sexy with curves in the right and wrong places...and best of all im loved unconditionaly.....life is great... Remember everybody life is to short to worry about fat and skinny... any way thats what i wanted to say....have fun everybody x x x
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Robo355
16 years ago
It's kind of sexy really, maybe I could rub some oil on that tummy, I've heard apricot oil is good. If you happen to be breastfeeding still, I find that dead sexy, does that make me a perv? oh but that's another fetish.
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RHP User
16 years ago
funny all these people saying all these things about other people... you dont like what you see, dont f#@%&*g look!!! you dont like what you feel, dont f#@%&*g touch VERY SIMPLE ACCEPT THEM FOR THE PERSON THEY ARE
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RHP User
16 years ago
I am yet to find a female body that I haven't absolutely adored. I think every part of a woman, no matter what shape or size, is beautiful and I love touching and kissing every bit.
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RHP User
16 years ago
Perhaps its not the baby belly at all....perhaps its actually what caused the baby belly in the first place? Believe it or not, some guys want to start their own families with a woman, call it a revisit of the prehistoric days if you will, but heaven forbid a man might actually shy away from/find excuses not to date a women because of a baby belly, or baby at home. Different strokes. Not all men want an instant family and to feel the pressure of provider in an instant leap (YES i no women don't EXPECT it, but most men feel a responsibility) and if they aren't ready for a family, then I believe its their right as an adult to leave that situation. Though if they are actually saying 'your baby belly is to blame' then drop that guy like a rock.I have a mental pattern that goes like this, i can build muscle/lose weight/quit smoking/get rid of any other bad habits, but your crap personality stays with you for life!So I completely disregard anyone that says ewww to smokers...or any profile that says 'I love big muscly guys and blah blah blah'. Because i like girls with a brain....and if you come the whole 'well if you were buff and didn't smoke i'd nearly be interested' logic, I'll come the whole, if you had a personality, great tits, worked out 14 times a day, ate right and had an IQ above room temperature, I could nearly see me not telling you to get the fuck out. :)cheers
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RHP User
16 years ago
I think unlike the common belief men are not drive by media stereotypes as much as females are about themselves.Almost all women are very attractive in men's view. Esp in the appreciative men's view and if a man is not the appreciative type why one bother !On the other hand a I know for a fact that many "over-weight" women get more attention and sex than their sexier slimmer unapproachable intimidating counterparts.There is an strange but amazing balance in how the Universe distributes her resources .lol
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RHP User
16 years ago
To quote Muso.....However if you put out an attitude that you're a cool person who deserves respect and treats others with the same respect, then that is what you will reap......if only that were true....sighFor the most part....I reckon Im a pretty cool chick with a good attitude to life....yet...I still get passed by because I have a big ass. Over the past couple of years....I have been involved with a few guys...that have all told me how cool I am but that they arent ready for a relationship....only to have them leave me for a thinner version of me. Now...none of these guys were anything majorly special....but all felt they had the right to reject me. Honestly....I would rather be rejected for being a total cuntwhore than for being fat. Its like kicking a guy to the kerb coz his cock is too small or his back is too hairy.So...I totally get where Frack is coming from....and Frack, Im sure once you find people that accept you for you....warts and all...then your outlook will improve. Im just hoping that when you lose weight and start attracting men....that that wont reinforce your feelings of not being attractive unless youre thin. (Im not sure I worded that right...but you know what I mean I hope!)Thank god I have met some people that are truly wonderful and accepting of all I have to offer....they have done wonders for my self confidence and attitude and I truly cherish their friendships.As always....Just my opinion...BJxxx
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RHP User
16 years ago
"I think unlike the common belief men are not driven by media stereotypes as much as females are about themselves....On the other hand a I know for a fact that many "over-weight" women get more attention and sex than their sexier slimmer unapproachable intimidating counterparts..." - EscapePod-----------Hear hear. I am a size 22, and I get more attention and sex than most of my friends who are at a more "acceptable" weight range. Libbie, your belly is as flat as a table compared to mine. But the point is.... who cares? Love your body. When you love your body, men will love your body. It doesn't happen overnight; I have a lap band and have been on countless programs trying to lose weight to look "beautiful" and I have finally realised that I'm pretty damn hot no matter what weight I am. ;)Love thyself.
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RHP User
16 years ago
Very well said!!The only flaw I see with your reasoning is that while I accept that some men don't want an instant family....there are also sadly too many of them out there not willing to care for the ones they have already made.Yet another point of rejection for me..as a single mum coz the donor decided he didnt want to be a dad...lol.Seems I'm gonna be single forever....sighOh well.....bring on the FB's!!(apparently Im good enough to fuck but not for a relationship.)Just my opinion....BJxxxbtw....this may come across a bit like a pity party...but it isnt...merely realistic. Im not bitter about how my life is....I live by the old saying....if youre given lemons....make lemonade!! So cheers...have a glass....its gooooood! ( I already put the vodka in! hehehehe!!)
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RHP User
16 years ago
(apologies in advance if this has posted twice...rhp keeps booting me and my posts keep failing!)Very well said!!The only flaw I see with your reasoning is that while I accept that some men don't want an instant family....there are also sadly too many of them out there not willing to care for the ones they have already made.Yet another point of rejection for me..single mum coz the donor decided he didnt want to be a dad...lol.Seems I'm gonna be single forever....sighOh well.....bring on the FB's!!(apparently Im good enough to fuck but not for a relationship.)Just my opinion....BJxxxbtw....this may come across a bit like a pity party...but it isnt...merely realistic. Im not bitter about how my life is....I live by the old saying....if youre given lemons....make lemonade!! So cheers....grab a glass....its goooood! (I already added the vodka!! lol!)
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RHP User
16 years ago
(apologies in advance if this has posted twice...rhp keeps booting me and my posts keep failing!) Very well said!! The only flaw I see with your reasoning is that while I accept that some men don't want an instant family....there are also sadly too many of them out there not willing to care for the ones they have already made. Yet another point of rejection for me..single mum coz the donor decided he didnt want to be a dad...lol. Seems I'm gonna be single forever....sigh Oh well.....bring on the FB's!! (apparently Im good enough to fuck but not for a relationship.) Just my opinion.... BJ xxx btw....this may come across a bit like a pity party...but it isnt...merely realistic. Im not bitter about how my life is....I live by the old saying....if youre given lemons....make lemonade!! So cheers....grab a glass....its goooood! (I already added the vodka!! lol!)
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RHP User
16 years ago
Looking at your photo Libbie you look sensationally sexy. Who of us has a perfect body? I'll bet your body is just full of fun bits to play with so any little "imperfection" shouldn't be an issue - get on with the enjoyment I say. Go out and find a guy and f... his lights out and I'll bet he doesn't care about your bell at all. Go Girl !!
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RHP User
16 years ago
Thats ok, it posted 3 times lol. Its unfortunate that the circumstances exist where women are left single mothers (alot of the time not of their choosing). Responsibility for your own actions has certainly died in this day and age (just in general). Im sure there's some really great guys out there who are up for it. But some men aren't, until recently (literally 6 months ago) even entertaining the thought of dating a single mum was just plain crazy......long term bachelor to serious committed relationship in one short jump? I think not, I was grown up enough to admit I wasn't mature enough for that level of responsibility. Until i met, well, one of the most gorgeous women I have ever met, a single mother of 2 girls. Now we are in the early stages of dating. So we'll see how we go.The biggest problem with everyone, you, me, that guy is, if someone doesn't fit into our predetermined box of perfection, most of the time you let the person go, whether on here, just looking at a picture and decided this person isn't good enough or whatever. Funnily enough, I've been on this site for about 4 - 5 years, I've met the sum total of 2 people, I met this girl at the local servo. While i was picking up cigarettes before heading to work. Yet if she had an ordinary looking picture on here, I probably wouldn't have given her a second look. Funny how life works hey? Sure i'll be eating my words in a few months time when it all goes to hell, but who knows hey?As for 'your good enough to fuck, but not to date'. I must admit, when i was 22 - 23 i genuinely wasn't interested in a relationship, I lived on bullshit to get myself laid, and to get rid of women when i was done, alot of guys do it. I woke up and realized i had to change, and spent the best part of 12 months doing just that, I didn't turn to god or any other stuff like that, just my head. Trust me, and this goes for everyone, these people, both men and women, will wake up one day....maybe tomorrow, maybe in 10 years time and realized how stupid they were, the bullshit reasons to dump someone. It's said alot, and its true, fuck'em.
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RHP User
16 years ago
Well, MissBJ, you are a serious hotty and having a "big arse" is one of the most attractive things about a woman. I would definitely not pass you by, honey.
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RHP User
16 years ago
I have a total forum crush on you, you're honest and well spoken.
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RHP User
16 years ago
Aw Miss BJ,There's someone out there for us all, it's just a damn big place so Mr Right might just be waiting just out of reach!My bro has actually dated a lot of single mums as he adores kids (in a very good and wholesome way). Poor fella has actaully been taken for a ride by more than one single mum leaving him home to babysit while they go out with the girls (aka rooting around). He may be your perfect match but then looking at your profile alas probably not as he was hit severely with the small man gene hahaI have a great friend going through a divorce to an asshole, at least she got a couple of great kids out of it but she's left to raise them and the poor thing wont have time to even look for a guy for another 10 years. Another forum question...why do great gals marry dickheads!!!!!Best of luck gorgeous!
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RHP User
16 years ago
I totally get the insecurity over a baby belly, breasts that have nourished two babies, stretch marks around hips etc...I have never had someone turn me down for any of these reasons and Libbie, I don't think you will have that problem either. Two reasons.... 1) You worry about these things more than the potential playmate or partner (that is why these things are called insecurities) 2) By the time you get to the point of taking all your clothes off you will have won the guy over with your personality, all the beautiful things he could see etc...I am sure "he" will be so busy admiring the good bits he wont even notice the ones you think are not so good. x Sal
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RHP User
16 years ago
Thats my big fear too... once I lose weight all these guys who said they just wanted to be friends will come sniffing around my door, and I'll be resentful and hurt, and not allow myself to be open to the possibility of a relationship with a great guy. If he likes me thin, whats the difference, right? If it's whats on the inside that counts, so what's changed? The difference is the weight. It's what his mates will say to him when I'm not there, it's him looking at other chicks and me thinking, he's gonna leave me for her because thats really what he wants, her, not me... it's him saying, "I love you hun..but I love ya more now you are thinner"... It's already happened to me.... guys saying they love me as a friends but can't see themselves with me... and go out and find a thinner version of me.... pmsl... no wonder I'm a nutbar..... Escape Pod... re your comments on men not being as confused about body image and sexiness as women are.... I had two young male students in my class yesterday paying out a girl who is bigger. Year 8 boys.... 13 and 14 year olds who are so mentally conditioned by the media as to what is sexy and what's not sexy, they are bold enough to make fun of a girl in front of a teacher and think nothing of it, not worried about the consequences of their words, especially in front of a teacher who is a larger woman. Yes, women compete to look better than other women, but it's in an effort to attract men. We make a rod for our own backs by giving men the upper hand, by needing male approval and validation to make us feel beautiful. Just to Clarify, I'm losing this weight because it's not sustrainable on my frame to be this big and it's becoming physically challenging to keep up at work, and do all the things I enjoy doing.... not specifically to attract men. That might be a bonus, but it's not the pre-eminant reason I've gotten myself banded... 8 kilo's already. Happy and healthier already.
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RHP User
16 years ago
You need to accept who you are and also be pretty clear about what you want and what you expect from the partner. I have played with several ladies - usually met before just for a drink - it's a time when you feel and touch eahc other up - if you think the person is not physically compatible with you then you should not go ahead or at least go very cautiously. The problem is with many men (especially the younger ones - no offence guys) that they just want to f&*k - jump in and look later... talking and assessing each other is part of foreplay which I think many ladies are not getting. People just want to stick their dicks up and then make comments about them being "larger", "older" or whatever... While I do take care of my health and fitness I do have to be aware of my age. I please those I play with and make them happy about themselves - and it is mutual, I think when libbie was in a way disappointed with an encounter or with a person when she asked - because the body is not what delivers the pleasure, it is all (or vast majority of it) in the mind;-)
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RHP User
16 years ago
yes....its true that my profile says i like big tall guys....but you know how many of them ive actually gone out with??NONE!! That's right....not a single one!That's just my "in a perfect world" man....and in that perfect world...id look like Catherine Zeta Jones!!What really gets me going is a brain.....wit....confidence.....honesty.....sense of humour.So even though physical attraction is important....intellectual attraction is WAY more important to me.Just my opinion...BJxxxps...if your bro is ever up this way....get him to look me up and we'll go have a drink! Im a friendly soul, if nothing else!
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RHP User
16 years ago
and the multiple posting was due not to rhp being silly...it was due to me being a doofus and not realising there was a second page!Gawd i hate that...makes me feel like a dill!! lmaoBJxxx
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RHP User
16 years ago
Ah in my ideal world everyone would look like Catherine Zeta Jones haha. I saw her on the street once, she was tiny (much smaller than she seems on screen) but she absolutely shone with such a great aura. Well Mrs Pup isn't CZJ but she has that same aura about her and I never get sick of being in her presence, I even get a thrill out of sneaking a peak at her photos on our profile. Now in all honesty, her body isn't quite as amazing as it was when we first met (she was 21 ffs!!!) but I find myself looking at the bits that have changed with great affection, it reminds me of how long we have been together and gives me the warm and fuzzies. Oh there's enough about her that still makes me weak at the knees too!Babies are just around the corner for us (if I am up to the task haha) and again I can't wait to see her grow and experience the ultimate in womanhood. Now fragile asian skin she has so things are never going to be the same physically but again every new "imperfection" will be a reminder of what she has achieved and should be cherished. The media has everyone looking perfect no matter what age and it's a hard thing for both sexes to put into perspective.I can understand libbie's concerns as a new partner wont have that mental attachment to the wobbly bits (not that she looks anything but hot from her pics!). But they are part of her life experience and part of what makes her the woman she is today so when she finds a fella that loves who she is he's going to love her little baby belly to bits. I must admit that a nice little baby belly can be kinda sexy!Miss BJ, i'll send my bro up. He's a kind but troubled soul. Needs an amazingly strong woman to sort him out and he'd give years of good service ;)
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RHP User
16 years ago
"Miss BJ, i'll send my bro up. He's a kind but troubled soul. Needs an amazingly strong woman to sort him out and he'd give years of good service ;)"Ahhh....kind but troubled.....a kindred spirit.Hmm....if CZJ is small in real life....then perhaps I would be more like...Xena warrior princess...yeah...like her...lol!Hai-ya! I kick your ass!! lmao!Anyway...as always...Just my opinion....BJxxx
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RHP User
16 years ago
Haha I think Zena would kick CZJ's tiny but oh so cute ass!We'd rather you just spank ours Miss BJ!
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RHP User
16 years ago
i believe that you are a very attractive woman from what I can see, the fact that you have a baby belly makes you more attractive to a man like me because you are not fake for a change . The fact that you want to be youre best for a prospective partner is highly attractive because it strokes the male ego for a woman to do her best to impress him (makes us feel very good to have a woman chase our attention) .
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perthangler
16 years ago
libbieyour too hard on yourself most people i know love a natural woman cos thats what makes em unique all the false stereotypes in the fashion mags are for all the posers in the sports magsthats probablya bit rough really cos their just people trying to survive this big bad world the way they know how. i reckon just be yourself most of the attraction is from personality and attitude to others anywayno good being with a stunner who is up herself and expects you to do all the work
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RHP User
16 years ago
Babe as Gaz says your Hawt! Personally I find that little pot belly a woman has after kids one of the sexiest things. Put it out of your mind,or should I say put it right in front people it will only make them want you more.Cheers
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RHP User
16 years ago
The thing is... Sex with a woman who's body is all toned and all that stuff is great... But personally, I prefer a full figured woman. Besides, sex is fun when its all about the bodies involved, but its a hell of a lot better when it includes the mind as well. Oh, and to the OP... I think if your naturally the way you are, then there is nothing more beautiful, and what could be more natural than having kids?
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