Wife's playing hard to get until ?

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  DynamicCouple36

  8 years ago

  Why she is reluctant to start with ? And why after a few drinks she is more open to the idea ?

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  Katkat

  8 years ago

  I'd ask a couple if they can play a little scenario why nots she won't find out until u tell her she might even like it never know if u don't try. I remember I was dating this guy b4 he likes to talk dirty while we're having sex he said he would like to invite a young guy & ravage me in front of him I'm ok why not it's something I have always dream of another one is watching or 2 guys ravaging me at the same time mmmmmmn. But after sex I tell him so can we set it up then he says sorry babe I was just horny I'm like wtf damn I wanted it badly, I was gonna invite my ex fuck buddy to do me 😂. Cut to the story may be it's a moment thing for her but try it! - Posted from rhpmobile

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  Haleakala

  8 years ago

  When you are out and have had a couple of drinks and the idea seems good why not move on to a swingers club? - Posted from rhpmobile

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  RHP User

  8 years ago

  That you should use phrases such as *play hard to get* and*set her up* are major red flags for me.... and I shall refrain from further comment as it won't be taken very well. DG

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  MsJonesy

  8 years ago

  The alcohol is dutch courage. Perhaps she really isn't into it as much as you think and needs the alcohol to overcome her resistance to the whole idea. What I am trying to say is your partner may not be "up for it" as much as you think. I'd suggest some reflection may be in order to establish clearly whose idea it was to start this journey...and who is still in the driving seat. That may give you the answer you seek.

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  RHP User

  8 years ago

  with MsJonesy and DG. I was reluctant to comment but these 2 comments pretty much cover it. I would also question her interest level, I don't think she's into it at all to be honest. Just my thoughts

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  RHP User

  8 years ago

  and create awkward scenarios? Seriously, you think that's the answer?

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  RHP User

  8 years ago

  I largely agree with others who advise against a set-up. But if you're determined to do it, it shouldn't be a blind date for her. My experience with swinging suggests that you would need to be sure beforehand that your wife finds the male half of the other couple to be very attractive, and also that she's unlikely to feel threatened by your interest in the other woman. - Posted from rhpmobile

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  RHP User

  8 years ago

  Have you talked to your partner (while she's sober) and confirmed with her that this is something she is actually into? Because if you haven't, going behind her back and 'setting her up' to do something when you have no idea whether it is something she is into would make you an arsehole. You don't want to be an arsehole do you? You need to talk to your partner about why she needs the alcohol to be into it. Also, stop using phrases like 'playing hard to get', it's creepy AF.

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  RHP User

  8 years ago

  a few people mentioned , that perhaps she's "not really into it"...and needs those few drinks as dutch courage...that's of course a very real possibility:)but what if perhaps it's the other way around...and although she gets excited by the idea of it in general...she needs those few drinks to let go of her inhibitions and be brave enough, to try those experiences for real? i know that usually drunk people are honest...they will say those things that they have been bottling up, and perhaps never would have had the courage to say out loud, had it not been for the well known effects of alcohol loosening inhibitions...perhaps the same is true for naughty fantasies? having an open, honest chat would probably be in order either way though:)

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  RHP User

  8 years ago

  Comunication, try it, let her know you want to share this experience, she will surely comunicate her feelings, key is, listen wth your eyes as carefully as with your ears.. If she says she is into it, time to share your feelings about team sports being a team effort.. - Posted from rhpmobile

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