M60 F53
Who Started It?
August 08 2011
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RHP User
14 years ago
How'd we start?Well early in our courting days we were talking about past experiences and I casually mentioned I'd had a threesome or two with a past serious girlfriend. I kinda just blurted it out not meaning to and quickly tried to change the subject but it was too late. Mrs Pup got that mischievous look in her eye and she said she'd like to try it. So who was I to object?
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RHP User
14 years ago
From your opening comments follows, Why? To explore ones sexuality....What does that really mean? For us swinging meant: After decades of being faithful to each other, we thought why not have sex with another couple swapping partners for the excitement of sex with others? There was no inner desire from either of us to explore bisexual tendencies, neither of us homophobic either. Our impression of modern swinging is to explore alternative sexualities? That is leaving with the conclusion not to try too hard and put it on the back burner.
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RHP User
14 years ago
by mutual agreement as the result of an open ended discussion of what our fantasies were and if we'd ever like to explore them...........so it was both of us....
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RHP User
14 years ago
The female here is all to blame How it came up.... When i was single and on dating web sites i meet some very nice guys and some very weird (any single will know what i mean). I had always had the curious side of wanting to be with a woman but never had the nerve to follow through with it. When i meet my darling other half we spoke of our previous experience with others on the dating side and the sex side of things (general topic for a new couple finding what we each like) that is where the subject came into it. I was honest in saying i didn't know how to approach a female but could easy approach a guySo we spoke of 'swinging' and here we are With his support i find it easier to connect to other like minded people.Miss playmatewanted
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RHP User
14 years ago
It was my sexy wife who introduced us to swinging, I was overseas working for two years and we both gave each other permission to play while separated and it went from there and we have never looked back. Have met some great ppl who are now great friends. Yes maybe not for everyone and you both have to be open and honest and go for it
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RHP User
14 years ago
The female of this couple. I have always been the driving force in instigating any unusual sexual activities in our relationship. Our first night together we were listening to the sounds his housemate having sex . I was the one who dragged him outside to watch it. He is passionate and adventurous, but he is much more grounded than me. I have been interested and facinated by men and sex since puberty. It's not coming from a dysfunctional place, just a general love for the opposite sex. I love watching men, I wonder what they look like masturbating, or fucking. I love seeing men naked, I'm just really into men. I even like watching gay porn, just so i see two of them! We have been married for 21 years, the man rocks my socks off in bed ( seriously he is 44 and he fucked me 8 times on Saturday, not bad for and old boy ) However I have always needed ( had) craved, the touch of a stranger. It's the excitement of the first new kiss and touch that I love. He loves it too, of course he enjoys the sex ( he is very straight so it's mfm or couples , he has little interest in alone F's) , he knew I was not cookie baking material when he married me, however he could live without it. For me, giving up the occasional extra , would be a huge compromise. I'd make it, but I'd not be true to myself. I wish sometimes I wasn't so sexual. We both have really full on career's, in positions that would be affected if people knew what we did. I get tired of the double life, as I like to live wide open in every other way. I can't tame myself though, I have been the same my entire life, maybe when I hit 60 it will go away and I can be that cookie baking wife. I do look at our normal friends, spliting up, having affairs, being unsatisfied, hating their partners etc so normalacy isn't the bee's knee's either. We are happy, normal, loving, swingers.
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RHP User
14 years ago
Yep, I started it. You know that ONE person who, when in a vanilla relationship, you would be allowed to have sex with if the opportunity arose? We called it our "free pass". Well, I actually got the opportunity to have sex with my "free pass" when on an interstate trip with a friend. It wasn't actually as good as I'd imagined.... but that's another story. Anyway, I rang Mr W the next day to tell him all about it, knowing how excited he would be for me! Anyway, we both got very horny during the retelling and I didn't want to be interstate for one second more. When I got home we had sex every spare second we had, and it was great! We then seriously discussed having encounters like this on a regular basis, and then took it from there. Mrs W xx
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RHP User
14 years ago
After 14 years together i asked hubby last year if he was interested in swinging....we are both very sexual and have needs that i felt could be met better in a swinging environment...so far we have had fun and have had some hookups and also ventured to our first cpls club. hubby was not sure how he would be jealous wise, and also didnt know how he felt about me as a female feeling the same sexual needs ie wanting sex with others as he did....after i explained that his double standards would have to cease it was easier for him to understand from my point of view. so here we are....he is about to have his first one on one without me and we have been very open and honest about it...have rules put in place...and then i will have my one on one without him... People have to see it as just sex...NO INTIMACY...eg..dinner, holding hands, these things you save for just your partner. we actually saw a marriage therapist who helped us discuss what we wanted out of this lifestyle and he also helped hubby get around the fact that another male/female would be having sex with me...he was a wonderful help and very possitive about cpls who are strong in their relationship being able to fulfill all their desires through this lifestyle...when you search it on the web there is alot of negative messages out there...so seeing a professional who has dealt with cpls wanting to do swinging was the best choice for us and proved very worthwhile. Some cpls we speak to find it strange/unusual that i was the one to suggest this to hubby...but hey...us girls can be just as horny as our men lol goodluck to everyone who is enjoying swinging! mrs..xx
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RHP User
14 years ago
yup always the women that rule the roost in swinging, although sometimes we get the odd guy who calls and says, how can i talk my wife into coming to the club. we say dont do that ,if you have to talk her into it , you should not be here.Leesaxx
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RHP User
14 years ago
Quoting 'couplesint'yup always the women that rule the roost in swinging, although sometimes we get the odd guy who calls and says, how can i talk my wife into coming to the club. we say dont do that ,if you have to talk her into it , you should not be here. Leesaxxi second that ;-)
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RHP User
14 years ago
In my m/f relationship.. im trying to encourage my male partner to swing.. i want variety, and i miss the multitudes of cock i used to have at hand.. i get bored easily.. and i miss the excitement .. xxx J
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Mr_MrsJones
14 years ago
Thanks guys for your great feedback. I loved reading all your answers. Mr and Mrs Wilko love your pics and your story. Mmmmm. CouplesInt: Couldn't agree more. If you have to talk them into it then you are not in the right place. Charles: Women want FMM don't worry. Maybe not all of us all of the time.
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RHP User
14 years ago
Quoting 'Charles_Dickens' this is so interesting. ...love the replies in here......but how come women don't want FMM..?? Hi Charles, that would be me! I am not into the FF thing so it is all mfm for me if the opportunity arises. I have been the initiator in two of my relationships to do the swinging thing. It happened in one and ultimately ended the relationship. In the other he just said 'go and do your thing', which I did. He chose not to play and after a few months we mutually decided on my becoming monogamous once again. Not sure if that technically is swinging though. It does appear that it is the women who make the decisions. Kisses all,L
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RHP User
14 years ago
Quoting 'Charles_Dickens' this is so interesting. ...love the replies in here......but how come women don't want FMM..?? im hanging for more FMM...and hopefully soon...FMMM...FMMMMMMMMMM....lol
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RHP User
14 years ago
I have FMM everyday of my life,hehe
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RHP User
14 years ago
Quoting 'Charles_Dickens' I always thought this was the situtation......its always the men ....as it seems... .... Mr puppy - you suggested it...LOL... "guilty"... Ha yes I knew someone would think that but actually no! I didn't "suggest" it and was quite worried when I let it slip as I thought Mrs Pup was a very good and very sweet girl. Well she was and still is. I had many gfs between my 3some dabblings and never suggested it. Once the cat was out of the bag with Mrs Pup though then her curiosity was unstoppable. She's also the one who will make the first move on someone when we're out as I always go all shy!
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N4November
14 years ago
Quoting 'Charles_Dickens' this is so interesting. ...love the replies in here......but how come women don't want FMM..?? FMM? You need to search that topic because I think you will be happily surprised! . Or perhaps the answer to your question is actually all about you Charles...
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RHP User
14 years ago
I think we were watching a movie or something, don't really remember how the topic got in the air. But once we realised we were on the same page we decided to make it happen! I think meeting someone has been much harder than sorting out what we would like to try since we've always been very open and comfortable with each other.I'm more curious as to how your wants and needs have changed since you got into the scene... ;)We're still new to this so nothing much have changed but we've heard great stories about all the things people get up to haha
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RHP User
14 years ago
Research has found that, in the majority of cases, it is the male partner who first raises the idea and the female is often hesitant but after the initial experience it is usually the female that maintains the interest.
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RHP User
14 years ago
Those low life males with one thing on their mind....sex Leading the gentle innocent lovely ladies astray, corrupting them!............terrible arnt they lol! Would you want to change anything? Love it......
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