M45
Whats the GO?
April 19 2026
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Flirty2020
one month ago
This subject has been debated “Ad nauseam” on here. Males outnumber females 100 to 1. In our experience a polite “no thanks, not interested”, in response to an unsolicited message, often results in an interrogation of sorts followed by a barrage of insults and hostility. It is thus often, and certainly less stressful, to not reply / respond at all.
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MrandMrsEss
one month ago
Are these women local to you? Could it be you’re just too far away?
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MsSuperFoxy
one month ago
Women are pretty tired over the demands and expectations that we owe replies. When we don't. Our inboxes, our choice. No response usually is the answer. It’s not about being rude, it’s volume. If you’re getting 1 in 20, that’s fairly normal. Focus on standing out, improve your profile, upload better pics (smiling ones holding a puppy go a long way/ absolutely no dead fish!), rather than focusing on expecting a “no thanks” from everyone. Ms Foxy
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mysterious_soul
one month ago
Imagine getting 80 messages a day, every single day over and over again. At first, it’s exciting 😀… then it becomes normal 😐… then exhausting ☹️… and eventually overwhelming 😭, especially when every message expects a reply. People (men) often think online dating is the easiest way to meet someone. In reality, it can be one of the hardest, especially with so much competition. Sending messages alone isn’t enough anymore. If you want to stand out, diversify your approach. Don’t just rely on DMs, join discussions, contribute to forums, share a creative story or participate in the chat rooms. Let people see your personality in different ways. When you show that you’re interesting, genuine, and a little different (in a good way 😏) from the crowd, you give others a reason to notice you. And sooner or later, someone might reach out and say, “Hey, I noticed you because of… want to chat?”
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OpalRose
one month ago
A simple and respectful reply often leads to being questioned, abused, or dick pic’d. Sometimes I’m ignored and they just keep messaging. I get 15-20 messages a day. All of them didn’t bother reading my profile. I cannot spend the time politely replying to them. The messages get too overwhelming and I often just turn my profile to hidden.
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Deetsy
one month ago
I love a cheeky opener, something that makes you stand out. I definitely love a face pic sent right away too, but please set the timer for at least a week, so it’s not expired by the time we get to your message. Seeing your face is important as attraction, humour and fun are key for me and so many others. I looked over your profile, it looks good, but not enticing enough. Your about and looking for needs to be more cheeky and fun with a little bit of mystery thrown in. I’d also maybe add another profile pic or two. Show us ladies who you are, what your life looks like. If privacy is an issue, only show a small portion of your face and cover or cut off the rest. This goes a long way. You need to remember, there are a lot more men on this site then there are of us women, and we get flooded with messages. You need to stand out and be enticing enough for us to want to reply. We only get x amount of replies to new messages per day, so we select the stand outs. I might also add, one message will suffice, never send multiple messages. We don’t like that. Good luck out there.
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Newbietwosome
one month ago
I almost deleted RHP a few times because the volume of messages was so overwhelming. Now our messages are closed for that reason. I always want to give each message the courtesy of a reply but that isn’t possible when the messages swamp your inbox.
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RHP User
one month ago
That’s about right. Also most of the profiles fall into the category of outright fake, fake but managed to fudge the verification (typically the one photo, no bio and minimal fields filled in) or looking for money. Then you’ve got attention seekers and those who lack even the most basic of communication standards. After that, there’s not a huge amount to choose from and half the time messages aren’t read. Maybe 75% of the time. It’s a patience game and it helps to be specific about your intentions in messages. Show you’ve read a profile and ask a question which provokes a conversation rather than a yes/no answer. In short, invest in the no’s to discover the yes.
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nutsundae
one month ago
** Sorry in advance to all for the long arsed reply. For those who don't particularly enjoy Tolstoy, best to stop reading now….. ** Ok, so yes, this has been done to death, but OP, here's a two-point summary of the reality of F vs M accounts here, which you're seeing reflected in the other responses. 1. Female accounts on RHP get smashed. An endless flood of likes, unsolicited dick pics and all manner of explicit and/or banal messages mixed in with the 'real' ones, that just makes a gal feel warm and special while she is reading them over her cornflakes. It's overwhelming and unmanageable. Responding to everything would be a FT job, so even if they wanted to, women simply can’t read and respond to every message and like. 2. Because most men don't understand 1, they get the shits. Fatigue gets misunderstood for arrogance. They get upset when women don't respond to their perfectly friendly DM. If women do take the time to respond and politely decline with thanks, many men get in a huff. Maybe because someone finally responded and they want to take their frustrations out on someone, they don't want to take no for an answer and start getting nasty in their messages, adding to the emotional toll of 1. This is why you see exasperation in profile descriptions and why you need to brace for very few responses. In fact, you need to accept that many of your DMs will never even be read. You can improve your chances though. Note: the following tips are generalisations. Not all women want the same thing (wait, omg, like really!?) but themes like respect, kindness, warmth and authenticity are somewhat universal. As is the notion that attraction and interest starts between the ears. So starting with the basics, make sure your profile is up to scratch. That bit above about attraction and interested starting between the ears - apply it to your profile. Think about what you bring to the table, not what you want, and heavily bias that way. Make it engaging. Leave an impression. It doesn't have to be OTT (though that's lots of fun, too), but put real effort in. Make someone smile when they read your profile. Same for your photos. You don't need to look like Michelangelo's David (in fact, given the tiny dick, probably not? Susca, David), but you do want your photo(s) to say something about you. Fun? Warm? Friendly? Adventurous? Passionate? Poetic? Intellectual? Artistic? etc., and smile if you’re showing your face. You're not trying to impress the bros, you're trying to look friendly and warm. Caveat here about generalisations, but I am yet to meet a lady who thinks intense creepiness is hot and a warm smile is icky. Apply the same thinking to your DMs. Put yourself in her shoes. She's getting hammered with countless messages. She's just opened 10 messages all asking to fuck her because she is a single F profile, nothing more. So be empathetic to that in your messaging. Focus on her. Show that you've read her profile. Demonstrate genuine interest (assuming you are). Make an impression. If you do all of that……response rate might improve, but you'll still get lots of non-response. Refer all the way back to 1 at the top. That's just reality. Sucks, right? Other things you can do: Datefinders. Yes, they are a bit limited and it takes effort to keep posting them, but you’d be surprised how many people do peruse them and they do actually work, even for single M accounts. Unless you come across creepy. Don't come across creepy. Refer back to advice above. Chat. Participate in the chatrooms. There's a recent thread with a lot of comments re connections that have been made from the chatrooms here. Unless you come across creepy. As above. Forums. If you're up for it, get involved in the forums. Great way to be part of the community here, and for people to get to know you a bit. Point about not being creepy definitely applies to this one. There are other avenues like groups and social meet ups, but they might be a little more difficult in smaller geo areas (looks like you’re based in Darwin) and often difficult for single men to enter, regardless, but if you stick to the above, you'll hopefully find yourself getting a bit more traction. Worst case, you'll understand that the rejection isn't personal. Sometimes, even that makes a big difference. Finally, stay positive. It can be hard to do, particularly when it feels like you’re being rejected by the entire platform, but you have to stay upbeat and not let yourself get jaded and resentful. Here's where another disclaimer on generalisations go, but most people are turned off by negativity, especially if someone is projecting bitter and twisted vibes. Good luck on your adventures.
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LiveLifeNow28
one month ago
I don’t reply to those who have not read my profile. It’s quite obvious most of the time. If you haven’t bothered reading and respecting what they are seeking, then don’t expect a reply. If you are reading and reaching out appropriately, and there’s no response, don’t take it so personally, move on
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seekandplay
one month ago
Here are my last 5 messages, all received today. This is why women don’t reply: Someone wake up horny? Do you like it when a guy takes control during sex and teases you? I will make your legs shake uncontrollably with multiple orgasms and squirt everywhere. I’d also love to pin you down with your legs wide open and pound you deep and hard with some kinky play. Like spanking, hair pulling, choking and gagging. Hey what ya doing? Heeeeyyyyyyyy. Nice pics. I’m looking for a private exclusive arrangement with lots of fun okay.
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cougarfun
one month ago
No response is a response. You’re also probably aiming a little too high.
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Arfur_Foulksake
one month ago
1 in 20??? Geez you’re actually doing pretty well mate
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JustAManNextDoor
one month ago
In my opinion, have a look at your sent messages and check if they have at least read or been viewed by the intended. There should be a little profile pic beside them. Then do the maths, for me, I have 70 sent messages and of those about 68% have been read, which in my book is a positive. Take the wins where you can. Remember patience is a virtue!
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Lifelovefun
one month ago
We have a pretty long curated welcome message, maybe too long for some but in a sea of fake profile and thirsty singles we like to make an impression, we love replies but also understand it’s not for everyone, the ending of our message usually just says if you like what you see or read drop us a reply, if not, that’s ok too, enjoy the ride within this amazing lifestyle
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Kinda_newish7
one month ago
No reply should give you your answer loud and clear
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RHP User
one month ago
I don’t want an unsolicited dick pic because it feels like sexual harassment and online violence
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BradPittsburg
27 days ago
That confirms to me that this site is not for me
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bootyDD
26 days ago
I find if a guy puts in the effort with his message, i will reply. If a guy sends a Hi...and nothing else, its not really showing anything about him . Communication is a big turn on for me.
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RichyV
23 days ago
I feel your pain brother
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Patrickchristian
22 days ago
Comment threads like these are actually more helpful to us guys than ladies often realise. A few of us do indeed spend a good amount of time trying to make our bios sound engaging, we read the profiles as carefully as possible to make sure we are relevant to who we are messaging and generally trying our best. After using up all message attempts for nearly two weeks and getting 2 replies can be a huge hit to the self esteem and can easily start slipping into the entitled poor me mindset. It is actually helpful to realise that ladies have it so much worse on the online dating front, and to know that ladies receive literally dozens of actual bottom tier men and how hard it is for ladies to also keep on top of things as well. Puts it into perspective and reminds me to not take anything personally and just keep trying to out myself out there. 90% of guys need to do better than "show tits" or "unsolicited dick picture" - you guys are fucking it up for literally everyone else
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