F55
What was I thinking!
April 14 2015
Comments
-
RHP User
11 years ago
My ex and are still quite friendly, probably because she's not married any more! We meet once a week to discuss what our boy's been up to, good and bad, as we have him week on week off and we want to make sure we're on the same page. Occasionally when I hear her speaking to her new BF though, it's difficult to hide a little smile..... She was and is a lovely person, but it makes me wonder why I put up with it for so long. I make sure to give the new boy a quick wink and a smile on the way out. And I reckon he knows why too! - Posted from rhpmobile
-
RHP User
11 years ago
...with my ex wife. That's a real head-scratcher. But not with any ex-girlfriends, or even ex-flings. I'm still good friends with a lot of them, and those I don't see I have good feelings towards.
-
RHP User
11 years ago
Clearly whenever I've left a relationship, it was to regain my sanity! And, the last guy I broke up with, his parting words were, "You'll be sorry! You'll never find another guy like me!!" My parting shot, as I picked up my bat and ball was, "I F&*%KING hope not!." I'm not one to swear, but in the heat of the moment it just had to be said! I don't think I shed a single tear from memory....... Never, in my wildest dreams even on my worst experiences on RHP, have I ever, ever been tempted to meet, or hook up with him again, or any other ex for that matter. Not even for a milli-second! I'd rather be put in a pen, and be made to spend the rest of my life counting sheep.
-
RHP User
11 years ago
Opportunity and sensibility sometimes battle it out. Which wins... is often a case of previous history. DG
-
RHP User
11 years ago
having your eyes open.... Whereas when you're in lust you see not a balance; but instead a means to make it a success. - Posted from rhpmobile
-
RHP User
11 years ago
And even their smell seems different..a few months after we separated my ex was in a new relationship and we met up to talk about divorce...I sat there wondering if I ever really knew him after nine years..he seemed like such a complete stranger...and nine years previously I had been totally in love with him...there was no animosity between us,just a mild indifference..."this is the way the world ends not with a bang but a whimper" TS Eliot xx Freya
-
teejaylongsword
11 years ago
I met up with an ex earlier this year. She was my first love. It had been 20 years since we had last seen each other. She still looked very much the same. She talked and talked and talked and talked... Eventually I felt my smile fade away as she was very excited about her own life but not interested in me at all. She had become very paranoid and superstitious and she started to scare me just a bit. I felt like grabbing her by the shoulders and asking her 'What happened? The girl I used to know must be still inside there some where!" Like Freya, I realised we had become complete strangers. When leaving I basically jumped out of her car and wanted to disappear. Only problem was that I couldn't spot my car and must have looked stupid peering about the place. Finally I spotted my car and jogged back to it. I think I insulted her with this abruptness but I knew she was too much into herself to have any genuine interest in my life. In the past we had a very lustful and exciting relationship. Pity the end note made me feel so limp and disappointed.
-
RHP User
11 years ago
Only 3 weeks ago to spend a week doing a training course here We hadn't seen each other in 3 years I picked him up at the airport which was nice and saw him every night whilst he was here, drinks, dinner, strolling around Melbourne chatting His last night, I accompanied him out to the airport and we had a fair bit of time to kill before his flight so the bar was hit. A few martinis were drunk and a few home truths emerged. Regrets, misunderstandings etc He told me that he was surprised I hadn't come onto him during the week. I looked hard at him and said "its just not there" and it wasn't. We have a shared history of course and we have known each other a long time, but love needs to be nurtured to sustain it. Plus the rose coloured glasses are off. You know this person intimately including all their bad shit and who needs that again. In the time that you have been apart you have experienced different situations, people and places, other people have usually come into your life to help make you grow in a new direction and in my case, I found I had well and truly left my ex behind I don't think its a switch that's flicked that you suddenly find you aren't into each other, its just the passage of time and self development I think lack of pheromones plays a part as well Plus there's always that undeniable reality They are a ex, for a reason and should be remember for that
-
RHP User
11 years ago
My oldest son got married recently :) best wishes for him n his bride I say. Anyway chatting with the ex wife and couple drinks later we found our selfs out side her knickers around her ankles holding into a tree as I pounded her from behind.... Yep shouldn't have done that
-
compressor
11 years ago
you change as you grow older plus when you are apart you grow in a different direction
-
RHP User
11 years ago
Someone I once hooked up with wasn't my type physically, but I was won over by his words and charisma. We had fun, until it started to dawn on me that some of the things he was doing and telling me were rehearsed and phony.Biggest turn-off ever and all trust was gone. Afterwards I felt like a total dimwit for falling for what was in hindsight obvious pick-up artistry. You live, you learn.
-
RHP User
11 years ago
This is a question best answered by my exs.
-
RHP User
11 years ago
To be honest I have never thought that upon meeting with an ex. I have generally ended on ok terms with all exe's. Even though I may not currently be sexually attracted to them, I can still see what attracted me to them at the time. As for hook-ups, I never hook up with someone i'm not physically attracted to so I would never say 'what was I thinking' about any of them
-
couplefairride
11 years ago
thankfully my self esteem grew exponentially and I deserved someone amazing. Thinking back some of the half wits I dated I cringe recalling it. - Posted from rhpmobile
-
RHP User
11 years ago
I have an excellent ongoing relationship with my ex, totally centred around our children of course but when I see what some of my friends go through to see their kids, I feel good. As for ex lovers, similar deal, all on good terms some of whom I still chat with. I had one embarrassing night at a local music venue when a popular act attracted my ex wife and several ex lovers, my companion was quite amused watching me squirm ! But hey everyones ego needs a toot now and again !
-
RHP User
11 years ago
While I still maintain contact with my ex ...... An ex is an ex for a reason. I am a vastly different person (thank god) to the person I was at that point in my life compared to now. - Posted from rhpmobile
-
gazpacho
11 years ago
I'm friends with a number of my ex's.. well, at least they come and visit me with their kids. xx HugsGaz
-
RHP User
11 years ago
Just recently I've been in contact with three guys I variously dated / slept with (none seriously), and I have absolutely zero sexual attraction to any of them anymore. But in my case, all of those liaisons occurred during a time when I was in a pretty bad place and was using men and sex to try and make myself feel better, which obviously is not a good thing to do and leads to some pretty bad decisions. I can't think of any guy I was with during that time - and there were quite a few - that I would even consider having sex with now, and most I would be very happy to never see or speak to again (including a couple of longer term relationships).
-
RHP User
11 years ago
I always find my exs sexual attractive still, until I remember why we broke up. I just have to recall that there is a reason they are an ex.
-
RHP User
11 years ago
Regards to my ex-husband You look like someone I used to know. Still friendly with any ex lovers.
-
RHP User
11 years ago
this is a simple thing one of the main reasons are basically they know parts of you better than u can hide or printed and same thing goes the other way around, so all the cute stuff that you put on naturally when u trying to attract a new person the excitement of the unknowns about them, the limits boundaries possible experiences and adventures... its all already explored and exhausted. you have both got to know what u dont like in the other person and doesnt work for you.. what you will and wont tolerate you may even have developed sensitivity to attributes in the other person that may even be attributes that attracted u to them in the 1st place but u realized you can not put up with them in the long run and wanted to change that in them !! "something very silly people keep trying to change others!!" for example If u been out with a supper hot model u may now hate how much plastic and maintanace / appointments for hair nail, makeup tan etc etc etc one of them can be and how hard it is to take them out for adventures, eat with them or even have insainely wild sex as u cant pull this u cant scratch that.. this hurts dont touch my face ur pulling my brow lift or my ass implant etc etc.. what attracted u and got your attention in 1st place becomes what repels you off that person "very physical example but same works on other levels"
-
RHP User
11 years ago
I am the best ex ever...For me tho', I am on talking terms with my exes, when necessary. Only one has remained as much (if not more) a beloved friend now as when I first met him.
-
PartyOrg
11 years ago
Let me pose a very similar question, but from a different angle. Have you ever met up with an EX and gone........ Oh I wish I could get back with him/her again? Generally it never happens, of course there are exceptions, but on a general level, for me at least the answer has always been, never again.
-
RHP User
11 years ago
You see in them... Saw an ex out once many years back. 3hrs later we're having wild winter time sex on her dinning room table. Thing was though her female flat mate was watching us up close and personal......round 2 next morning my sweet ex asked her friend to join in..... Hmmmmmmmmmm bugger if I'd have only known 3years prior.... YUM!
-
RHP User
9 years ago
Yes My ex was mean crazy and violent We hade 2 kids and still have one on the way since leving her she's completely changed and its been a good 6 months iv been weak a couple times and felt shit afterwards evey time - Posted from rhpmobile
Boards
-
Hot Topics
Topics: 15100 Comments: 88183
-
Girls Ask
Topics: 1416 Comments: 10243
-
Guys Ask
Topics: 2520 Comments: 11714
-
Couples' Corner
Topics: 2503 Comments: 9778
-
Swingers Lifestyle
Topics: 998 Comments: 5078
-
Fetish & Fantasy
Topics: 1301 Comments: 5761
-
Hot Travel
Topics: 780 Comments: 1984
-
LGBT
Topics: 170 Comments: 869
Forum help
-
Something related with that
-
Going somewhere & want to hook up?
-
Hasn't that topic been posted before?
RHP's popular dating tool
-
Where the heck did that topic go?
Discover what RHP is doing offline
-
RHP member's RL secrets
reply
like
Share