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MrandMrsEss
one year ago
We talk about it a lot and fantasise and think of the day the planets align and we have the free time to meet some matching people who also have the same free time :)
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Ourmalibu
one year ago
We have teenagers and we have lots of ‘birthday parties’, ‘fundraisers’, ‘drinks with friends’ or just need a break away together alone. It gets difficult to come up with different things but we manage it ok. We never host if the kids are home. It gets hard to make up things with family and friends that don’t know but it’s working ok so far!
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Jackandkay
one year ago
Hi, although my kids have grown and moved on. It’s just a matter of priority, as much as it may take some of the spontaneity out of the situation. Planning a night or two in advance with potential friends, plan a weekend child free… if possible. Good luck. 😁
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RHP User
one year ago
Friends, family, sitters. Depends how old they are too? Not much more to add but if you’re comfortable with trusting certain people with them then it should be easy enough to plan.
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Apples_N_Oranges
one year ago
Great question, like many things in this lifestyle it depends on your specific situation/family/work life etc. so many things to consider, for example: -how old are your kid/s -do they need to be looked after by someone (family member/babysitter) -can you host -can you play during the day when the kids are at daycare/school -do you have a social life/group of friends that you catch up with regularly and could possibly used as a cover story when you get up to some mischief. We have a couple of those things that you call kids, fortunately they are old enough and responsible enough to look after themselves when we occasionally head out to ‘catch up with some friends’. We have also been lucky enough to meet other couples in this lifestyle who have kids of a similar age, some of these couples are now good friends who we speak to regularly and have met up with in a more social/family setting in which our kids have met their kids.
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RHP User
one year ago
iPad, headphones, and a movie while they sit in the corner should do the trick 😉
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tradienhislady
one year ago
I think about this often.. It’s tricky! There are only so many times you can ask family to babysit before you feel like you’re pushing the friendship. We’ve considered hiring a babysitter, but I don’t really feel comfortable doing so. We do have one day a fortnight that both kids are at school and we’re free for the day, so sometimes we try to plan things for then.
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RHP User
one year ago
If the kids are at home and wanna watch...buy them a Rolex
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RHP User
one year ago
I have many funny stories about this … One couple had 2 daughters, one worked it out and fronted them and was cool about it. Another had their daughter who lived interstate walk in the door as they were, ah-hem. busy with another couple. Another had their kids asking how they knew all these people … oh on holidays … One couple said they played competitive squash and were going to different tournaments. White lies like saying Santa is real.
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FeistyFatty
one year ago
Easily. But it also depends on how open and honest you can be with them and what they can understand. Our three have known since they were young, but everyone that knows us know we are lifestylers ... So there's no secrets there. When they were younger, we'd play while they were at kindy or school during the week and while they were at sleepovers on the weekends. If it was just one of us playing, they'd be told they're going to spend time with friends. Now they're teens, they know when we have something scheduled and vacate the house for a few hours ... With the addition of some extra cash in their back pockets of course lol
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Alex_Lover
one year ago
We have teens perpetually home, so our play is always away from home. Fortunately, they're older and can look after themselves when we go out. They don't know we have an open relationship... as far as we know. So we're visiting friends, or going out to dinner etc... which is actually true. - Alex.
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HumbleDesires
one year ago
Totally depends on ages, but there are plenty of people on the site with kids that understand. Try a few coffee dates/introduction catch ups until you find some people you match with, so that when the opportunity presents, you can get right down to 'play time'
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boobsandbusted
one year ago
Put them on eBay before they get too old ,and develope attitudes that no one wants ,
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CandP
one year ago
Get a babysitter and have a few on the books so her not being available doesnt complicate planning. If you dont have family to do it, then pay for one. We've been doing that for years. As we pay for one when we need one, if we want to meet someone, we can do it. Our kids are 4 and 6, for prespective. We dont play at home usually due to the risk of the kids waking up and knocking on the door, or them hearing whats going on.
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RHP User
one year ago
3 kids with the oldest being 6 so still young. I don't really want them to know at all
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Mrs_Deep_Love
one year ago
Zip ties, electrical tape and the chickens water feeder does the trick
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MsSuperFoxy
one year ago
Same as a shift worker would.....plans ahead and compromises
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RHP User
one year ago
I think it’s about the staycations with family nearby to look after the kids…also surprisingly….instead of full swap taking turns
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RHP User
one year ago
One col friend they leave their kids with man at least 1-2 days a month for couples of hours and they specially says don’t take them home back we will come and take them if kids go crazy go to nearby mall where there is lots of games and they have me their credit card to to pay for there game. Now I have doubt why they always insist not to drop them home.
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Apples_N_Oranges
one year ago
Noticed you made some changes to your profile - pics/text, was this a reaction to the advice you have been given in response to your topic. There were some lovely pics of you both and now there is only pics of the Mr. Your profile now also mentions being poly and ‘he is free to join another couple’. Feels very one sided now and more about what the Mr wants. We think the profile pics/text you had were perfect, playful, inviting and more appealing.
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RHP User
one year ago
Not sure it's any different to liars on here . Lie that you're married without them knowing? Lying to your kids?? Is that the same?? Maybe we're all liars. In someway.
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MyHoneypot
one year ago
Pack them up and send them.
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RHP User
one year ago
We’ve made friends in the lifestyle we go away with even with the kids! Just gotta be careful and quiet sometimes which can be a challenge we’ve done cruises so the kids are in one cabin and we are in another we’ve done camping we’ve done going to a resort and having different rooms. Other than that we explain to them that we are going out with new friends or that we need a date night it’s important for kids to see you spend time as a couple together.
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realcpl4funBris
one year ago
We have managed this over the years by just saying that we are having a date night together. We'll get a hotel in the city / valley area & generally arrange to meet a 3rd there .
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