M40
Want to swing
November 21 2019
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FeistyFatty
6 years ago
Wait for it.......
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RHP User
6 years ago
Can you please clarify, do you mean your partner wouldn’t be interested but would be happy for you to check it out?
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AnnieWhichway
6 years ago
Find another partner who would go to parties but.... 1. Try not to get caught by partner A though 2. Try not to get caught by partner B either 3. Perhaps line up partner C so you have somewhere to stay when partner B rings up partner A for a "chat".
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FeistyFatty
6 years ago
Listen to Annie, she knows her ABCs😋
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RHP User
6 years ago
So....... read your topic out loud to your best mate And report back We’re you my mate, is slap you seven ways Lucky you aren’t my mate. 😎
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RHP User
6 years ago
So.... That’s it eh?? Ask the missus, she says no, and no more talk, just action ? Mr Dragon
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FredAndGinger2
6 years ago
Talk to your partner about your thoughts and desires. Don't rush it. There are books, websites and podcasts that cover this topic.
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RHP User
6 years ago
I know, if you want to root around and your partner doesn't want to but you do. Just let them go and you move on. Cheating is not an option. Too easy
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teamaj2
6 years ago
Just up for Fun Listen to the previous responses . In our experience patience , respect for your partner and honesty are the key to a good , long term relationship. As was said , speak to your partner about your fantasies and your inner most thoughts . It’s just my opinion but if she hasn’t any interest that’s not a green light to find someone that is . Unless of course she’s agreeable to that . As I’ve stated previously on the forums ..my partner ( that then became my husband ) was honest and open about his wanting to explore from the day I met him . I , like others had no idea about this lifestyle and my response was always no. Eleven years after we met . We dipped ours toes in the water . The wait was worth it . Our relationship is solid , honest and strong . My husband was patient and respectful of my resistance . Goodluck !
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RHP User
6 years ago
I take it you havent spoken to your partner about this and what u have made is an assumption? If true, then your need to have an open and honest conversation with her about it, with full understanding of the possible consequences of might flow from that. You might consider using a professional to facilitate the conversations or talk to one first to help you understand where u are coming from befire talking to your partner.
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RHP User
6 years ago
As a couple actively playing and looking for couples we find it hard to match 4 people up so i kind of hear where they're coming from..when you find a couple off any site usually the girls hot and the guys let himself go so it can be very frustrating on any guy as we are limited on women supplies as the ratios are significantly different and girls by far have unlimited resources of men to chose from. But patience is the way and real true unicorns are hard to find so hang on to the ones you find guys
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Deep_Love
6 years ago
Buy your wife a book by Esther Perrel - Mating in captivity or watch her talks on youtube. She talks about how the human spirit craves sexual excitement and novelty. Women moreso than men ;) ~ Mrs Deep_love
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teamaj2
6 years ago
Deep love Just to add to my post , I agree with your sentiments . We did LOTs of talking over scenarios , reading and podcasts . It all added up to peaking my interest . The more we talked I was reassured that it was just another adventure to add to our wonderful life .
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NightToRemember
6 years ago
Push reset. What you’re proposing is called ‘cheating’ not ‘swinging’.
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RHP User
6 years ago
Like 'just up for fun', I to find myself in this situation. We used to have a really great sex life ncluding threesomes and foursomes, but over the years and bringing up a few kids her interest in anything other than straight sex diminished. I tried very hard to keep the spark there and keep that lifestyle or at least just taking about our experiences but now she is not even interested in toys or any other activity, just missionary. Anytime I tried to talk about it she made me feel like some pervert. So I just accepted that and have been faithful for the last 20 years. We still love each other and have a great marriage, except in bed. I really don't know what to do about it. I am on here simply to see what's around with the thought that perhaps I would do something about it but so far no interest. I have been up front about being married so I guess that has not helped. I am a good person and not bad to look at i think but the yearnings are there. I doubt I will renew my membership on RHP and at 59 I best just except it given the comments on this forum. Maybe I am a prick!
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Jackson1811
6 years ago
We were in a similar position less than 2 years ago, now very active in the scene. We’d always discussed a ffm threesome but she was absolutely disgusted with the thought of another man touching her. As mentioned above, I planted the seed and a whopping big tree grew in its place. Now, not only have we had some amazing she’s happy to play alone with an amazing couple we’ve become quite close friends with. A huge leap forward from where we were only 18 months ago. If you’re going to cheat then you might meet others on this site in the same situation as yourself, just don’t expect any respectful couples to have a bar of it. So have the talk, do the research. Is your relationship worth risking?
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RHP User
6 years ago
We can’t find anyone in Melbourne to play with and break our swinging virginity
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RHP User
6 years ago
Quoting 'Jackson1811' We were in a similar position less than 2 years ago, now very active in the scene. We’d always discussed a ffm threesome but she was absolutely disgusted with the thought of another man touching her. As mentioned above, I planted the seed and a whopping big tree grew in its place. Now, not only have we had some amazing she’s happy to play alone with an amazing couple we’ve become quite close friends with. A huge leap forward from where we were only 18 months ago. If you’re going to cheat then you might meet others on this site in the same situation as yourself, just don’t expect any respectful couples to have a bar of it. So have the talk, do the research. Is your relationship worth risking? Great answer you's gave. Ourselves we were wanting a couple for our first time swap WE talked about MFM and FMF If couldn't find any couples. Well imagine our shock when we only got replies from single males and a couple pretending to be a couple okay wife asked should we try a threesome with one. We did she talked to him prior on the phone and I could see her excitement meeting him at our motel room first time he was not shy at all jumped straight on the bed started rubbing her pussie and taking her top off both naked in five minutes with his quick lick of her bald pussie witch was already wet he hop on top pulling her legs up to his shoulders he then pushed his cock balls deep in her started to get a pace up saying fuck her pussie is so tight then in five minutes he's cumming deep inside her pussie getting soft quick she tried sucking his cock never worked he apologized saying next time he wont cum so quick there is no next time once only was my reply. What he fucked her in and gone in less than half hour wasn't expected wife said she was so close to orgasm as he cum in her so i fucked her for over two hours in that time she again asked can we try again. after five encounters with strangers some were not good for me to watch her been controlled by them and told her that now she's saying im jealous and I only tried to join in with one of them. Well thats a lie I was not invited by them or her even giving one the pleasure of fucking her virgin arse telling me to look at where his cock is going and i might add that no condoms were used by any of them after the last one a week later i said im going to find a female like we planned so you can watch me with her. Her reply was thats not going to happen im all the woman you need and there is no more of me fucking other men I can see now how you felt watching me acting like I didn't care but it was just sex some was good some bad thats the end of it obvious it was only going to be MFM encounters im not at all bi curious so wouldn't enjoy females company now it was my stupidity falling for her deceit watched her getting fucked hard treated at times with no respect but it was what she wanted all along
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RHP User
6 years ago
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