M45 F41
Unsure About Swinging???
March 15 2011
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RHP User
15 years ago
For us it did start off as an everyday thing. The excitment of seeing who has veiwed us and who winked or emailed us but then it slowly died off to a quick check (still daily) but would only take up about 5 minutes of our day, because as time goes by you will find only 10% of profiles on here are serious. For the other question we look at swinging in 2 different ways firstly it will never work for you if 1 of you is left outta the loop. We mean keeping secrets about who you are chatting to and what about, to us it is all about trust on every level. The other way we look at it Mr Wagga and i make love we have that intimate contection where as with other couples/single (excuse my words) we look for nothing but friends and a great Fuck. But if you are not into it may be best to talk to him because if you are not comfortable it will show if the day/night comes you play with others and will not only be a bad expirence for but for the people that join you,. hope we helped Wagga_pair
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RHP User
15 years ago
My point of view is this:Generally if one person is into it more than the other (which you have stated is the case) then it never ends well. if one is doing it to please the other then again, not good.We have only been in this scene for just over a year ourselves but we have both been married before (very young and stupid) and learned a lot of lessons from those relationships and we have been together for 8 years and know eachother intimately, we had discussed it for a number of years before we gave it a go and were both EQUALLY keen to try it out, we communicated about what we were hoping to achieve by doing it and what our 'ground rules' were (though they have changed slightly throughout the journey too). It is through this mutual respect and communication that it has indeed brought us closer together and there is no bigger turn on for us than to see the other with someone else having a grand 'ol time, we don't get jealous because we trust each other completely and know that at the end of the day we want to be with each other. For us it is not an all day/everyday thing, when we are online we are often online together if we are online one at a time we tend to wait until the other has seen the profile/read a message/flirt before we respond to make sure that we are both keen (we don't beleive in 'taking one for the team')I notice that there is quite an age gap in your relationship is your hesitation due to insecurity on your part that he might find someone younger and hotter?? you need to be honest with yourselves and each other about what you want out of swinging.My belief is that swinging magnifies what you already have, if you are not rock solid when you start then cracks will form and it will drive you apart however if you have a good bond then it will only draw you nearer.We have met some absolutely fabulous couples on here who have been in the scene a long time and they are living proof of the things i have mentioned (hopefully they will pop in with thier own words of wisdom too) Bottom line if in doubt stay out!! only the two of you know what is right for you as individuals and as a couple but seriously if there is ANY doubt i would reconsider your decision to give this lifestyle a go (it is natural to have nerves or second thoughts but i think you are going beyond that here)Anyway just my thoughts, good luck,Mrs GC
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RHP User
15 years ago
This is like asking "how long is a piece of string ?" ..i do not know if there is an answer in here for you , only you will know what the right thing is to do. But this is our story if you would like to hear some views. :) We have been together 16yrs , married 10 , 3 kids , lots of ups , a few downs , many awesome memories made over the years... then basically about two years ago after lots of naughty talking and revealing some fantasies...this is where we have ended up !!! ...We really love the choice we have made. Still things we sort through now n then , when topics arise , but overall feel we have made a choice that has opened up a whole new group of people that we have great fun getting to know , and exploring new things together.( we were getting a little bored of our regular friends also :) Everyone we have come across basically have different rules that work for them , and we have things that work for us that may not work for others . I do know that YOU need to want to do this , for YOU. Not to do this because another person wants you too , or you want to to keep a partner happy . Because hey , at the end of the day , us girls know that when it comes to the crunch , sometimes we have to fake it , just a little , maybe once or twice :) , but we cant do it forever , ...and when we have to be someone we arent , fake or hide our feelings , or always live keeping other people happy and not ourselves, then resentment creeps in ..and that doesnt work in anyones favour. I hope this was interesting , ..and i hope you find the relationship you are looking for, and deserve.. x ms c x
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DonnaBrett
15 years ago
If in doubt.....DON'T !!! It will only end bad
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RHP User
15 years ago
..ok , i am going to be totally honest here and say i only glanced at your profile pic before messaging the first time. I would like to say that if your age is 69 , and you have a 30 year old boyfriend , and you have other 30 year olds willing to have sex with you , then i say ... GO FOR IT !!! Seriously , i am not sure what the shelf life is here , but i tell Mr C , that when things start saging , and bits just dont sit where they are supposed sit , then its time for me to sit back and enjoy the view from my rocking chair on the verandah.. ( he says no way!.. cause all our swinging friends will have droopy , dangly weird stuff going on also , and he has a point :) ...and i totally forgot what my point was ......but you get the point ... mrs c ... with bits still hanging in there !... x x
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RHP User
15 years ago
..what Donna and Brett said!
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RHP User
15 years ago
Donna and Brett were spot on.You both need to be eqally comitted, and wanting to do this....Otherwise dont...
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RHP User
15 years ago
BUT.....i have to agree with Donna_brett and the puppies if you have doubts then dont do it not everyone is made to be a swinger i would never do it...ever i would kick him out before i would swing so please do it for yourself...NOT your man ohhh and another thing....you go girl a 30yo at your age....whoohooo im impressed roxxy
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'puppy' ..what Donna and Brett said! Definitely agree. Plus I also like to be positioned just underneath the Mrs Pup avatar... purrrrrfect buns.HugsS
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'stalky' Quoting 'puppy' ..what Donna and Brett said! Definitely agree. Plus I also like to be positioned just underneath the Mrs Pup avatar... purrrrrfect buns.HugsS sorry Stalky...i know mine arent as hot as Mrs Pups but i guess i will have to do roxxy
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RHP User
15 years ago
Our advice - which has pretty much already been stated by others - is if you do not feel comfortable, then it is not for you so do not do it.You should not feel pressured to do anything you do not want.Shell and Gaz
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'TassieRose' BUT.....i have to agree with Donna_brett and the puppies if you have doubts then dont do it not everyone is made to be a swinger i would never do it...ever i would kick him out before i would swing so please do it for yourself...NOT your man ohhh and another thing....you go girl a 30yo at your age....whoohooo im impressed roxxy You mean to say, the man you love, adore, the sun shines from you know where. You would not turn Bi just for him so you could bring a stray root home for him? I mean to say: Are you really that sure? Good wife and all that stuff?
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'Romancefor4' Quoting 'TassieRose' BUT.....i have to agree with Donna_brett and the puppies if you have doubts then dont do it not everyone is made to be a swinger i would never do it...ever i would kick him out before i would swing so please do it for yourself...NOT your man ohhh and another thing....you go girl a 30yo at your age....whoohooo im impressed roxxy You mean to say, the man you love, adore, the sun shines from you know where. You would not turn Bi just for him so you could bring a stray root home for him? I mean to say: Are you really that sure? Good wife and all that stuff? Wouldn't a 'good' husband just get over wanting a stray root in order to keep his wife happy? She who he adores, sun shines from her vagina... Surely a 'good' husband would rather keep it to a fantasy than try to force his lovely wife into something she KNOWS she doesn't want to try ;)
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RHP User
15 years ago
and we both thought it was a great idea! we both wanted to have a fmf threesome but then thought what the hell we only live once and swinging seemed to be so much fun i want to check out some couple clubs veryyyy soon :)
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'Romancefor4' Quoting 'TassieRose' BUT.....i have to agree with Donna_brett and the puppies if you have doubts then dont do it not everyone is made to be a swinger i would never do it...ever i would kick him out before i would swing so please do it for yourself...NOT your man ohhh and another thing....you go girl a 30yo at your age....whoohooo im impressed roxxy You mean to say, the man you love, adore, the sun shines from you know where. You would not turn Bi just for him so you could bring a stray root home for him? I mean to say: Are you really that sure? Good wife and all that stuff? if i was to turn BI id turn BI for Focus....no man no matter how shiny his arse is would EVER make me turn im a one man woman and if he wants another he can have her...but he will never have me again roxxy
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RHP User
15 years ago
Quoting 'curiousnewgirl78' Quoting 'Romancefor4' Quoting 'TassieRose' BUT.....i have to agree with Donna_brett and the puppies if you have doubts then dont do it not everyone is made to be a swinger i would never do it...ever i would kick him out before i would swing so please do it for yourself...NOT your man ohhh and another thing....you go girl a 30yo at your age....whoohooo im impressed roxxy You mean to say, the man you love, adore, the sun shines from you know where. You would not turn Bi just for him so you could bring a stray root home for him? I mean to say: Are you really that sure? Good wife and all that stuff? Wouldn't a 'good' husband just get over wanting a stray root in order to keep his wife happy? She who he adores, sun shines from her vagina... Surely a 'good' husband would rather keep it to a fantasy than try to force his lovely wife into something she KNOWS she doesn't want to try ;) why didnt i think to say that...well said Sarah roxxy
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