Ummm...do I know you?

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  RHP User

  7 years ago

  Poor facial recognition so if everyone is nekkid then I would have absolutely no idea who they might be sans their Armanis .:) Hugs Q

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  ReyandJean

  7 years ago

  Yes. More than once. My stock response to at a venue is, "it's our first time", but her honesty has leaked the truth that we are regulars. Saw one couple afterwards often in vanilla world and it's very normal, but we sometimes have a quiet word when no one else is around. We did end up playing a couple of times.

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  BacioCouple

  7 years ago

  We've come across vanilla (who obviously aren't so vanilla) friends and work colleagues now a couple of times. First time was OMG what are we going to say? Now it's walk straight up, have a chat and find out how long they've been around.... we're honest with them if we see them at a meet or club. Never played with any of them but have seen them playing and pretty sure they've seen us. It does make the conversations back in the 'real' world so much more interesting!

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  MsSuperFoxy

  7 years ago

  I have seen quite a few of my work mates here. Quite a few say they are single, when in fact they are married. I know cause I have met their partners. Their partners have stated their marriage is all happy families. Little do they know. I have even seen their penises too. Does it worry me? Not really. Is it awkard? Nope as it is never discussed. It is not my place to say anything. Have I been out and been noticed. Sure have. One time I was in a grocery line with my daughter and that person called me Foxy. I just ignored, moved on, as it was inappropriate and not cool. Ms Foxy

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  Im_Shiny

  7 years ago

  ive had two separate new client meetings where the person im meeting has previously been a voyeur at a swingers club watching me have sex whilst cross dressed... we never mention it in real world setting

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  Rosali

  7 years ago

  Within the first couple of minutes, to our first visit to a Swingers Club in Perth.

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  RHP User

  7 years ago

  I was so worried we would see someone we knew online or at a party. Hunter wasn't as concerned because they couldn't really hold being there against us as they were also. I was also worried about my universes colliding, but have met some amazing people in this lifestyle who I am sure would be just as amazing in their day to day lives. Everyone has secrets. All good.

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  RHP User

  7 years ago

  Thanks all. I, Mr, bumped into someone I did business with a year or so previously at a meet and greet in Canberra. We just smiled at each other and that was it. I wonder what it would be like with peeps I/we see regularly. I find some people, especially work people(I guess because I interact with them on the daily) , give off a 'swinger vibe'. I'm especially concerned about seeing them at a party. I guess it's a part of the excitement of swinging :)

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  Samnite

  7 years ago

  I used to worry about encountering people I know at swingers events when I first became involved in the scene. A wise friend said this to me: "There is no need to feel worried about meeting people you know because if they tell someone else that they saw you then the first question will be...Well, what were you doing there in the first place?" This made me realise that almost everyone in the scene expects discretion. So, to those people who are worried that your swinging secret will come out of the closet, understand that the people whom you meet are in the same boat. Everyone expects everyone else to use discretion.

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  RHP User

  7 years ago

  I guess it's bound to happen one day. Am I wrong to think the 'Vegas Rules' should apply? When you're at a swingers party or club you're all complicit to one degree or another. Its out of the bubble that gives me the clench. Like on a sexy date. Just when I've let my guard down, flirting is in undeniable full swing, the horny-meter is approaching the red zone, there's a different hand in my skirt then BANG! some vanilla folks pop out of the woodwork. This is what makes clacker pucker!

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  FunLoving

  7 years ago

  Happened to us twice in a club. Two from work. All good so far.

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  Two_Tarts

  7 years ago

  Over 8 years on RHP it has happened out in regular bar once when we were on a "couples date" and clearly got carried away and behaved in a way that would raise more than eyebrows and it turned out another school parent was in the room. Luckily they were very good vanilla friends and quite openminded so they were intrigued but couldn't care less and we are still good vanilla friends to this day. Once was at an RHP meet and greet at Crown when a bored single RHP guy in attendance started chatting to some guys at the public bar and thought it was cool to show off by telling them he was with the swingers party and pointing the group out. Trouble was one of the guys he was showing off to happened to be the father of our daughters best friend from primary school and we just happened to be in the group identified to him as the swingers meet n greet. Again this was not a problem and by sheer luck he was again a good enough friend that he thought it was more funny than anything else. Twice online when we have swapped pictures and recognised each other and had that awkward moment of recognition, and four times in clubs with couples that were acquaintances from either sport or work. You would think those instances might have caused a problem but none ever did. The most worrysome of course where when it was the uninitiated school parent ones in a bar while with friends, but we got lucky with who that was and that we were good friends already. (no we didn't subsequently ever try to convert them or make it a point of conversation) With couples we have recognised at clubs or online we figure that we are all in the same boat and have never had a problem saying hi, and fancy seeing you here ;-) We have also never though playing with them was a good idea. In that dynamic everyone is very good at guarding each others secrets and behaving in a normal way, patrticularly if we subsequently bump into each other in the real world again. We all understand the importance of keeping each other's secrets. Having said all of the above we did however have one instance that was very badly handled by a single lady on RHP and upset us greatly because of her stupid behaviour. A party that we hosted at our home some years ago was for couples only, but one of the couples that we knew very well asked if a middle aged single male playmate of their's could also attend as a favour to them. We agreed and then subsequently agreed that he could also bring a single lady playmate with him to balance numbers. All vouched for by friends and the party went fine with no reason to expect there would be an issue..... About two months later just as the last of our children was finishing up at primary school some lovely RHP friends with younger children at the same school tell us that an active rumour started doing the rounds amongst the year 3 mums about swinger parents at the school and the rumour went so far as to include our names (at least the shortened versions we used for the party). Clearly our friends knew it was talking about us but luckily being a number of years further progressed at the shool the year 3 mums (other than our friends) had no idea who we, or our children, actually were. Within weeks the school year was over and we were onto the anonymous world of high school parents without being directly identified in person. It turns out that the single lady invited to our home for the party had no discretion, had a friend who lived in the same area, and blabbed to her all about the swingers party she attended around the corner and the hosts with children that went to the same school as hers. Her friend apparently had no reservation in re telling at school the wonderful story of the swingers party her friend had attended and including names and how it was believed the swingers had children at the school. Boom!......there you go and thanks bitch, we hope you enjoyed our hospitality and the party! We were very lucky that we we told about the rumour so we could manage our last couple of weeks at the school without being outed but we learn't a very clear lesson. We can trust other genuine long term couples who have children because we all have the same things to gain and lose from this lifestyle and we guard each others secrets voraciously. Others with life experience and children who are part of RHP for any length also get the very real importance of not telling others secrets. These people have never caused any issues for us ever. The same does not necessarily apply to single people who do not have children or the fuck buddy RHP couples. They just don't have the same things at stake as we do. The only times we have had pointless issues caused by others big mouth's have come from singles people without children. It is a shame to generalise, but people without children simply do not seem to understand the implications that their foolish interest in showing off to their mates can potentially cause. Now the only people we invite to be involved in any way in our RHP world are couples or mature singles with children that we have already come to meet and trust through meeting at clubs or private parties. We haven't hosted another large party at our home and the small ones only included people we completely trust with no outside invites, and we rarely do meet n greets in public bars if we expect that there will be any number singles in attendance. It is a real shame, but for us it is not worth the risk or hassle of including people in our version of the RHP world unless we know they can be trusted.

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  RHP User

  7 years ago

  It's unfortunate that some people don't get the discretion thing and just want to gossip. It's like my workplace, there's always someone gossiping about bladdy blah and so-and-so having an affair etc so I guess it's no different in this life as well. We live in Canberra and of course we're public servants 🙂 so the wrong comment at the wrong time and the wrong place can have a detrimental effect on our careers. Thanks again all for your input!

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  witty_lovers

  7 years ago

  Yes! My first Saints and Sinners - met someone who looked familiar. After a while we worked out that she had sent me overseas as a travel client! She freaked out a little, walked off quickly... then came back and gave me some head on the dance floor, then a few weeks later had a MFM with her partner. Turned out well!

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  JohnAnn2227

  7 years ago

  We have bumped into people we know a few times over the years. The first time was when we were at Couples Club and in the hot tub meeting new friends. I noticed a lady kept looking across at me and had a feeling I recognised her. John and I went off to play with friends but later we bumped into her and her husband again in the spa and we started talking. It turns out that she taught at a nearby school to mine and we recognised each other from shared pupil free teacher learning days. We have never played but always give each other a secret smile when we see each other at conferences.Another time at Couples Club I looked across the room and saw two parents from my school enter the bar. Never got out of a place as quick as that night!We were at a pool party which had quickly moved on to a nude pool party when John brought up a couple, who had just arrived and were still dressed, to say hi...his parents' next door neighbours! I am standing there naked but for my sunglasses, jewellery and wedges thinking if my in-laws could see us now. At the same party we also met a couple who it turned out we had also met before and had sat at the same table at a work colleagues wedding. We have since had them over to our house for dinner and hotubbing a few times.Probably the biggest one was at a house party in February where I looked up to see my friend from work, who I thought was vanilla, standing naked at the door watching me in the middle of a MFM with neither partner being John. I screamed and leapt up scaring the daylights out of my partners and John who was next to us with a lady. Eventually I calmed down and we sat in the lounge had a few glasses of wine and a laugh. It turned out that they had been swinging for 6 months and actually lived next door to the hosts who had introduced them to swinging. She had seen our car parked there a few nights when she knew there was a party and quickly worked out that we were swingers but didn't know how to bring it up with me. Since then we have partied with them a few times and have swapped partners but unfortunately she is not bi.As far as discretion we had one real scare a few years ago at my kids little athletics on a Saturday morning. A couple of mums came up and started a conversation and soon came out with "We recognise you both from Couples Club". " Our group plays there regularly and would you like to join us next Saturday night?" Sitting next to us was one of our vanilla friends who was only catching half of the conversation but her ears still pricked. i quickly changed the conversation and gave them my greatest glare. They walked off and I caught up with them later and explained our vanilla friend etc. They were very apologetic and thought she was in the lifestyle as well as she was always with us and as they had seen at parties I was bi, logically thought she was my girlfriend. Their whole group who sat together was also their playgroup.Our friend asked me what was this couples club that they were talking about. I said they were mixed up and it was the Coffee Club. A few weeks later she brought the subject up again and said that he had googled "Couples Club" and asked if we were swingers. I respected her too much to lie and had to admit we were and then answer most of her questions. Thankfully she doesn't have a problem with it and our secret is safe. Just shows how loose lips sink ships!So long as it isn't a parent from my school we are not bothered about running into someone we know because they are there to do the same thing we are. XXAnn & John

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