Swinging evolution

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  Awesome post idea...Cant wait to see the results ;) ...I can help you next year...but evolution hasnt happened yet...maybe after our second play date? lol

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  justus246

  15 years ago

  hi we are comming up to our second year we have had some good and bad meets but have changed a few things and we seam to have more hits from guys than couples but thats ok as some of them have been very good

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  We intially thought swinging was about making friends and doing heaps of straight things together all four. Now we reliase its about variety with couples on the same page as you, that perfect couple does not exist. The whole experiance is fun...looking at the profile, making contact , the phone calls, then the meet to play. Meeting for coffees and see if there is a spark normally leads to dissapointment.

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  how has this lifestyle changed things for you? (be it good or bad) For myself - it has made me more confident and more comfortable with myself, it has given me better social skills before swinging I sucked at small talk, I am a better typist, it has made me happier and enjoy life more.... on the bad side it has made me a big time flirt something that I can't turn off even when I am with non-swingers ( some of my work mates were not happy with how much I flirted with their husbands at the work party)for my husband - it has given him more confidence, he now knows when women are looking at him it is not because he has something on his face but because he is a very good looking man, i hope he does not mind me saying this but he has become a much better lover ( he was good before but now he is great), for us as couple - we are closer, we communicate better with each other, we enjoy more time together, we have both become more accepting of other people, we pevre more we both point out hot ladies for each other and my husband is even starting to point out men he knows I'll like ...oh and we have a much better sex lifewhat things do you feel differently about now than when you started? uh I really want a mmf now which I don;t think I did when I first started. we have less rules and are more understanding that rules can be brokenDo you continue to change and evolve as the years go on or do you reach a comfort spot where things just stay the same? (i really hope not, otherwise what is the point?)We have evolved and will continue to do so but i think at them same time we are very happy with were we are now.

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  funny, for a second there i thought i was reading about us I totally get what you mean about the confidence thing for you and hubby we are both like that, i was hopeless before we started in this lifestyle at knowing that a guy was hitting on me and sadly Mr was not much better clueing in on when a woman was interested but thankfully on here it is plain to see communication as a couple seems to be the key in our short time here we have met some couples where they are obviously not both on the same page as each other and we tend to not 'click' with them.Sorry Swingersnsw but i have to disagree with you on the meeting for coffee leading to disappointment, for us meeting new people is all part of the fun even if it doesn't lead to sex, it is nice to make friends with people that you can talk openly with, flirt and joke with and if over time it leads to more then woohhoooo having said that we do enjoy the thrill of meet and play in certain settings and i think ultimately we just go with the flow and have a great time with no expectations, that way there is no room for disappointment.Justus sorry you have had some not so great meets, we have been pretty lucky in that regard and we don't actually get a lot of guys message us (i guess because hubby and i both have individual profiles too) lolMrandMrsH i look forward to hearing your tales in the future ok so for us some of the things we have changed are:We tend to go into meetings with less expectations, when we first started out we were looking mostly for couples fun but the logistics of getting away all the time when you have 3 kids means that we soon opened to the idea of solo meets and that in itself has lead to some lovely times for both of us and leads to very saucy pillow talk and well............ i guess you can gather the rest We also didn't think that the party scene would be for us but after our first party we decided we had a great time and it is something that we would like to do more of although we have found that actually getting to one has proved to be difficult as every time we get one we are interested in we seem to get something else clash with it (bit hard to tell your 'straight' friends you cant attend their party because you are going to a swingers party lol)Anyway look forward to more points of view on this one..............Mrs GC

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  I think where you guys are at is where we aim to be! It sounds like you have had a blast...and yes I agree when you have a family its sometimes hard to find time for both :( Will be happy to post our journey on the forums...Though its hard to give to many saucy details without being indiscrete. Let the good times roll! My only complaint is all the amazing people on the forums & sexy beasts in Perth but hardly any in our area seem to like us :( Oh well, we are nothing if not persistant!

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  DonnaBrett

  15 years ago

  We have been in this scene for 11 years now. So we guess you can call us seasoned LOL. We have seen a lot...good and bad but have enjoyed the ride and have no intention of getting off it. The good aspects....fun times, meeting great people and we have seen and done things that still amaze us. The bad aspects....people with issues who should not be in this scene, people taking drugs and unreliable people. But luckily the good has far out weighed the bad. Our advice to anyone who has a less than perfect experience with someone...don't dwell on it..just take the attitude, it's their problem not yours and move on! Happy Humping!!

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  Yes i guess you could say you are 'seasoned' after 11 years lolFunny thing is that when we started out on this journey we actually viewed it as a temporary situation, when it stopped working for us we would stop doing it, however as time goes on we dont really see an 'end date' and hearing that you guys have been in it for so long and still have such positive things to say makes me think that it would be nice to be where you are 10 years from now.Mr and Mrs H, don't be too disheartened i am sure there are lots of people in your area who 'like' you, just takes a while to find the right ones. we found it a rather slow process in the beginning to start to meet people or to even get any interest or positive responses but we found that over time as we 'tweaked' our profile and changed our pics we did get more interest (mind you our profile was pretty ordinary in the early days, not at all like yours).

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  DonnaBrett

  15 years ago

  ...if you are thinking along the lines of GC above and you are only treating this as a temporary phase...it rarely ends up that way...we don't do drugs but we're pretty sure swinging is like a drug....once you've had a little bit..you then want a bit more..and more...and more... until you're hooked (but in a good way). So, be prepared for the long haul ! LOL

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  Yes indeedy hook me with this drug of fun (not into drugs as a rule either btw)It was a pleasant surprise to us just how addictive the lifestyle can be and while i wouldn't say we live and breath it we are certainly here for a long time as well as a good time, i think that is probably one of the biggest changes in us really going from 'lets give it a go for a while' to 'wow not sure we will ever quit' lol funny thing is that we have met other couples who said the same in the beginning and are now (as Donna_Brett suggested) in for the long haul and quite addicted lol A happy (slightly addicted)Mrs GC

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