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Swinging: Partner swapping, same room

June 02 2012

We are wondering when if ever to bring up a better way (we think) of sex with someone elses husband / wife all 4 in the bedroom . Is it better to mention on your profile? First couple emails, 1st meet or at time? We have experianced quite often, that the other husband will move up to my wives head which is on the pillow and place his cock in her mouth, my wife will respond very favourbly then the guy will move straight to penetration blow his rocks and she misses out on recieving oral. My wife finds it hard to say No, she quite often says to me "Why dont you get oral from their wives, as often as I am being persuaded to give oral to their husbands?" I know in the case my wife if she instigates oral she will move sideways on the bed. I find I like to give the ladies oral and hopefully they will return the favour, not me pressuring someone elses wife into giving me oral, I want the lady to make that advance. We know there is some guys out there that: "dont like giving ladies oral". Or "Are not really into your wife enough to give them oral, but they will have sex and recieve oral!" After a 18 month break from swinging we are thinking about, dipping our toes in again, but how can we try to prevent the above this time, as approached the wrong way it will hurt the other husbands feelings. We are not so niave and know talking about it with others may not help anyway.

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RHP User

14 years ago

I don't know. For me foreplay is SOP, no matter whom I would be playing with.I'm struggling to think of anyone we played with that was that selfish, sure some may not have stayed down there for long, but that's a whole other discussion.I just feel sorry for your wife and yourself.....pretty dissapointing.It's probably up to you to clue the other guy in beforehand as to what's expected, of him, and hopefully he will do the same for you.Of course there is no reason why the women can't be a little bit proactive either.I once had a bloke tell me.....after...pity he didn't tell me before, told me I hadn't been rough enough with her nipples, she didn't say anything...but apparently she liked it brutual! Perhaps I should have asked....these days I would.Communication really can work!...try it Everyones meant to be getting their jollies!Cheers Felonius

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RHP User

14 years ago

In every relationship, even between swinging couples, there are dominant and subservient personalities. I'm not talking S&M here. You obviously both need to assert yourselves more. Take charge. People will take advantage of you as much you let them.

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RHP User

14 years ago

It's all in the luck of the draw.You can say as much as you like in your profile, full swap, hours of foreplay etc - but there's no way to know how people will perform on the night..

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RHP User

14 years ago

As he took it upon himself to position himself for a blow job maybe your wife should do the same, next time (if it happens again) wait for him to lay down and get her sit on his face! Fairs fair in love and war...

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RHP User

14 years ago

wash up first a big group spa, bath shower,swim, together to relax and clean upmay put another man's mind at rest maybe they think its going to be dripping with hubby's load from last week.or the bloke nuts, and its time to find a new one to play with that loves the pussy.

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Smilingwithfun

14 years ago

Have to agree when i was in a relationship we did swing a bit. Same thing, my partner would oral etc & nothing for me. Good point

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RHP User

14 years ago

Much as your reply was meant to be tit for tat funny, its actually a turn on. LOL

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RHP User

14 years ago

Must say we've never encountered that problem before. Its always been a mutual pleasure and something to look forwards to. As a side note, and I know it isn't everyone's taste/preference but we choose partners that are fully shaven. Mrs loves oral, giving and receiving female & male. Mr is the same. We like to see what we're eating ;-) as we enjoy using all our senses. Are you playing with others that are fully shaven? K & B

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RHP User

14 years ago

at a party i told my mate to go and fuck my gf in the bum and she new what was coming up for her

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RHP User

14 years ago

After a break it's time for you to be assertive now that you're gonna dip your feet back in the water & it's best to start with the profiles. Sure, there are men out there that aren't into oral but there are plenty that are, so put it upfront that the Mrs loves receiving even more than she gives/is a 'taker' as much as a 'giver'. Do whatever you can to get your message across that you do want the male to be an uninhibited oral lover & that you'll supply the snorkel. Don't keep putting up with selfish stuff. I won't be either.

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