Swinger Fails. Couple breaks up.

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  Flirty2020

  3 years ago

  We have a few golden rules & safeguards in place, for when we meet up with others from this site: 1. Guys message guys. Girls message girls (via this site) . This is to prevent a male messaging me & trying his luck to get me alone. . They have tried so many times to get me alone without my husband. 2. We never give out our mobile numbers. Ditto for reasons in #1 above 3. We never give them our full names , certainly never our surnames. We don’t want them looking us up (Facebook , social media, white pages etc) and from there trying to contact me behind my husbands back. They have tried this in the past 4. If we play with others, it’s always together in the same room . Never apart. That’s to prevent the above 3 points happening. 5. We don’t let swinging control our real lives and we keep swinging very separate from our real lives. We don’t play with real life friends. 6. We will never play with others at our home - for the above reasons. This has worked well for us. We are happily married and have been for decades and plan to stay that way.

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  BubblesnMalt

  3 years ago

  We can't speak for others but for us, the prevention we use is Honest Communication, Respect, Compersion and Compromise. These qualities have always been present in our relationship but the lifestyle really makes you use them. It is nice when others notice how we are closer now than ever. If only they new!

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  RHP User

  3 years ago

  Over the years we've been in the lifestyle, we've seen many relationships fail. I would say most of the people we have met have split. That's not to say swinging caused the break-up as their circumstances were their own business. Some clearly had issues that they thought would be solved by playing with others. We've maintained a strong relationship throughout because we don't value swinging more than our relationship. Having an understanding partner is paramount as is both seeking to please their partner and working together not competing. Jealousy is a killer.

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  RHP User

  3 years ago

  It is all about communication and being open. At one stage I did play a few times with our friends without MrsO but with her full knowledge. We realised it was not for us. It just caused friction. Now we only play together as a couple. And as others have said, guys seem to think they can somehow sneakily get one away with MrsO. Not happening boys. In the past, I had a bi girlfriend and we met a gorgeous unicorn and we used to play. Sometimes the girls just played together and even slept over together. But the "other woman" wanted to be my girlfriend's partner and move in together. My girlfriend and I had a number of conversations about scenarios and what to do. In the end we agreed we had to stop sexual relationships with her and just be friends. It seemed hard on her as she had been treated badly by a previous partner. But it was the right thing to do at the time. if you cannot find a way forward together then it is a sign you need, as a couple, to step back or maybe it is time to move on,

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  ElectricDreamers

  3 years ago

  Swinging couples we've known who broke up did so for non-swinging reasons, issues that would have been thorns in a monogamous relationship too.

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  Mrs_Deep_Love

  3 years ago

  Exactly what @ElectricDreamers said. Relationship problems often exist before, during, after. Ie, lack of respect or lack of communication

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