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Single men
July 08 2012
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RHP User
13 years ago
Supply and demand.What does a man do to impress a woman? Chocolates, flowers, dinner, and if he's desperate, pretend to listen.What does a woman do to impress a man? Show up naked.I'm sure you have some great qualities, but whining ain't one.
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RHP User
13 years ago
There are a plethora of single ladies looking single guys! You just have to wait to be someone's cup of tea!
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RHP User
13 years ago
It's not so easy to find swinging couples or adventurous females outside of these sites or clubs set up to cater for the scene. Single blokes are every where and also make up the majority of RHP's membership. The women, who are the unsilent minority here, get to pick and choose. No need to give up just yet but you will definitely need to be patient.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Is locked OP,so it is hard to give you feedback.However as other posters have said,there is quite a few single men on this site for single women to choose from. Read profiles,tailor messages accordingly,and eventually as ApolloThirteen has said,you may find someone...perhaps she will read your post...but at the moment you can neither receive or send messages.x Hugs H
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RHP User
13 years ago
2 things.... Safe sex - If required. That means 99.999% of people on here won't go near you. (However there is a lovely young African American gent whose traveling here shortly who would relish that prospect!!! - But, I digress...) 2nd thing - there's nothing in your profile! And that little intro - I've read that 100 times.
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RHP User
13 years ago
have changed our search to only looking for women or couples because (at the risk of sounding up ourselves) we were bombarded with messages from guys who weren't even close to matching what we were looking for and it became impossible to manage (we try to respond to every message). So we changed it and now we look for guys and contact them, or some will read through our profile and find the section about single men and then contact us. So, my point is, some couples may actually be looking for single guys but they wont show up in search results because of my reasons above. Hang in there and stay positive! XXX
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RHP User
13 years ago
Its a fact most females on here hold the superior hand. Saying pass or next is so much a everyday habit they hardly blink unless you look like Brad Pitt.. Girls love to play this game same as in the real world. Thats just the way it is..Personally' Im more successful in the real world. I find chatting face to face brings good results and more rewarding. I think this is because the real you is on show and not the cyber you... Jay...
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RHP User
13 years ago
We often play with single men! We find it next to impossible to find the 4 way attraction of couples, and neither of us will take one for the team ! Single heterosexual women who want to play in a non bi threesome are like unicorns , so that leaves us with the guys. Hubby is straight , he is more passive in the swinging scene than I am, so my choice is two guys and me :) I know lots of couples who love playing with single men ! Standing out from the crowd is the hard part .
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RHP User
13 years ago
To deliciouscple - if you play with single men - then you might be able to indicate what it is about me that stops people from contacting me. I have sent you an email in the past and have had no response. Is it too much to ask for some response from people these days.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Fletch - are you only hearing what you want to hear??Almost every post has said why - the people you have contacted don't find you attractive for one reason or another. Bottom line.In relation to DeliciousCplBris - I would suggest that they could have the creme of the crop, and with some truly stunning men on here, sorry man - but it's a no-brainer.They don't owe you any explanation, you're just not attractive to them! It really is just that simple! If they find you attractive you will know - trust me, they will let you know.If they haven't let you know - They're just not that into you!!!
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'fletch19680'To deliciouscple - if you play with single men - then you might be able to indicate what it is about me that stops people from contacting me. I have sent you an email in the past and have had no response. Is it too much to ask for some response from people these days. You did not even bother to read the whole profile of DeliciousCpl....If you had...then you would not need to ask "why" at all! Go back and read the WHOLE thing and it will be clear why she didn't respond! xFunlovingx
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RHP User
13 years ago
I hate to state the obvious here but maybe you are aiming a little high? I mean deliciouscplbris---- are well.....DELICIOUS.... and in your profile you stated ( and its obvious in your pics) that you are a little overweight.... if you would not walk up to someone in a bar... don't bother contacting them here ... just because people are on a site such as this it doesn't mean they should lower their standards for every tom, dick and harry.... so maybe you should have more real expectations of who you should be contacting?? By the way I'm not saying this to be mean but I am being honest, best of luck to you x
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'xFunlovingx' Quoting 'fletch19680'To deliciouscple - if you play with single men - then you might be able to indicate what it is about me that stops people from contacting me. I have sent you an email in the past and have had no response. Is it too much to ask for some response from people these days. You did not even bother to read the whole profile of DeliciousCpl....If you had...then you would not need to ask "why" at all! Go back and read the WHOLE thing and it will be clear why she didn't respond! xFunlovingx Remember folks men don't read profiles!!! Pusscat xxx
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RHP User
13 years ago
I just noticed this response :) thanks guys for filling in the blanks , I find it difficult and confronting to tell men I am just not into them especially when they continuously ask why I won't fuck them . We are on a swingers site , that doesn't mean I'm a hooker or desperate , I am kind but I am also fussy..... ....I'm sorry I didn't respond to you , I'm trying to get better at that x
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RHP User
13 years ago
What's with the African American Apollo13? Friend of yours?
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RHP User
13 years ago
hmm another 'i sent u an email u must fuck me' member.. grow on trees around hereforgot for a second you lovely ladies dont just sit around waiting for us men to grunt at you :PBudda
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'xFunlovingx' Quoting 'fletch19680'To deliciouscple - if you play with single men - then you might be able to indicate what it is about me that stops people from contacting me. I have sent you an email in the past and have had no response. Is it too much to ask for some response from people these days. You did not even bother to read the whole profile of DeliciousCpl....If you had...then you would not need to ask "why" at all! Go back and read the WHOLE thing and it will be clear why she didn't respond! xFunlovingx I was not talking about your looks at alll...You indeed are not an ugly guy at all! I was more talking about the no bisexual men on their profile and also fit men (you admit in your profile that you do carry extra weight) and also they are wanting "well hung" men! Do not take this personal but all of us (you included) have our likes and dislikes! Don't give up, keep trying...You never know! My only advice is to really read the profile before contacting a couple/woman to see that you are what they are looking for! Good luck with it all! xox Hugs...xFunlovingx
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'ApolloThirteen' There are a plethora of single ladies looking single guys! You just have to wait to be someone's cup of tea! There ar some of us that actually prefer beverages other than tea and we are happy within ourselves without too many evident insecurities. x lol
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RHP User
13 years ago
Just referring to "Charming Profiles". Thought it'd be a nice gesture to let the OP know that there are couples out there who don't require safe sex!
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RHP User
13 years ago
I am not a guy that expects sex from a contact. I would like friendships from singles and or couples. If it was to progress further than hey I am all for it. To also set the records straight. I do nit contact members unless I have read the profile in full. If the age group is wrong or the do not state at top if profile they are looking for a man I do not contact. My whole point if this thread was to point out that so many couples want couples or single ladies as per the start of their profile. This is where the first information is given and if the match is not there I move forward. I was just highlighting this fact and asking why, not expecting people to assume that I read a profile send a message to someone outside the parameters of the profile and as one of the responses above so eloquently put it expect a Fuck. Sorry guys. You have me all wrong.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'fletch19680' I am not a guy that expects sex from a contact. I would like friendships from singles and or couples. If it was to progress further than hey I am all for it. To also set the records straight. I do nit contact members unless I have read the profile in full. If the age group is wrong or the do not state at top if profile they are looking for a man I do not contact. My whole point if this thread was to point out that so many couples want couples or single ladies as per the start of their profile. This is where the first information is given and if the match is not there I move forward. I was just highlighting this fact and asking why, not expecting people to assume that I read a profile send a message to someone outside the parameters of the profile and as one of the responses above so eloquently put it expect a Fuck. Sorry guys. You have me all wrong. I'm guessing most couples want to play with other couples, the single ladies come into play because the lady half of the couple want to explore their bi side.... and in most cases the male half of a couple may not be comfortable with another man in the mix, for the one's that are.... the single guy would have to be a special kinda guy!given the over supply of single men on this site.... it's simply a numbers game.
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RHP User
13 years ago
GENTLEMEN - PLEASE TAKE NOTE.SKANNER is the exact reason so many women don't bother even responding to your messages or flirts."But why do you say that Apollo?" I hear you ask?? Let me tell you why.We all know there are many time-wasting fuckheads on this site, and the reason the ladies often don't respond is because of receiving flirts and messages from total tools - such as the above poster SKANNER.Here's what he thought would be amusing to do:Received by me Jul 10 ; "Loved your profile. Want to meet and see where it goes?"I then have a look at his profile...... It has nothing in it. NOTHING!!! No photo, "Äsk me" for everything, not even the slightest hint of any information in the about me or looking for section - just the mandatory red-hot fantasy proforma filled in at the bottom.I flirt respond -"The short answer is NO, the long answer is NOOOOOOO" (As you would)He then messages this : " Ha, thanks Apollo, Its exactly what was predicted of you. ha take care and appreciate the response"I respond : "What other response would you expect with a completely blank profile?? "Ooooh yeah, you look and sound so sexy and intelligent - I could tell by the way you described.......well, nothing, in your profile that we'd get along."? That how it's supposed to go down? Or did you think I'm hard up for contact and would drop trou at anything that showed interest?"He messages this : "Ha, thank you Apollo i appreciate your comments"To which I respond : "Congratulations on falling into the 99% of game playing, time wasting boys on here. You must be proud."THAT is why all you genuine guys don't get responses. Because time and time again the ladies have to sift through rubbish from people like SKANNER. SKANNER gents is why feel you waste your money on memebership and messages and get nothing in return. He's monitering this thread - so thank him in person.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'Skanner' Quoting 'ApolloThirteen' There are a plethora of single ladies looking single guys! You just have to wait to be someone's cup of tea! There ar some of us that actually prefer beverages other than tea and we are happy within ourselves without too many evident insecurities. x lol
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RHP User
13 years ago
most girls wouldnt return my texts and flirts if I sent them OP.. why? because they are not into old hairy oppinionated jaded and cranky caveman with poor hygeine and fckd attitudes.. BUT.. those who ARE into that???? Fck YEAH!!!! they are worth the wait.. Chill out fella.. and stop being a sookie bitch get on the chat rooms.. start being a decent regular on here and show any good form you may have - NOT your bitch! caveman (loves the CLUB)
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RHP User
13 years ago
i often message delish .....but only to compliment her on the absolute stunning pics she and hubby put up on their profile.... if there was a fan club let me join..... i dont expect replies cos i know im not what they seek....you need a lot of patience if you are a "single" guy on RHP or any site.....its a buyers market.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'coodi_yowie' in most cases the male half of a couple may not be comfortable with another man in the mix, for the one's that are.... the single guy would have to be a special kinda guy!it'll have to be a special kinda guy, indeed!
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RHP User
13 years ago
And thank you John you are always lovely and polite without asking a thing x
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RHP User
13 years ago
While there is definitely a distinct lack of women on this site – that is the hand you’re dealt with before you start sending messages… so get used to it. Women are bombarded with messages, that’s a given. Why, because there are too many MEN send inappropriate messages… So make them count. Now I look at my stats, 82% reply rate. In-truth you send 10 messages you get 10 replies, so in reality, it’s probably closer to 40-50%... which I’m good with. The reason my reply rate is high – I don’t send inappropriate messages to women expecting a reply. I do however, send the occasional message/flirt when I like someone’s profile but it’s just to be nice. I don’t expect a reply. … You have to work for it!! They don’t come easy… In reality… I wouldn’t send a message to Delicious why, obvious really. Profile say minimum 5-9 (I make the cut) read between the lines, husband is 6-4. Hmm not likely but people do win lotto… Attractive vs Very Attractive – it is best to send message to women within your range (Be honest about it). You do yourself no favours. And they are many more --- but you need to read the forums to figure that out. … and yes, quoting women’s forum articles usually gets a response – so do your research! (I sound like a stalker) I’m a nice guy I promise J For single men, RHP is very competitive… you need to stand out. And remember, even the lucky single men don’t get a lot of action here.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'ApolloThirteen'GENTLEMEN - PLEASE TAKE NOTE. SKANNER is the exact reason so many women don't bother even responding to your messages or flirts. "But why do you say that Apollo?" I hear you ask?? Let me tell you why. We all know there are many time-wasting fuckheads on this site, and the reason the ladies often don't respond is because of receiving flirts and messages from total tools - such as the above poster SKANNER. Here's what he thought would be amusing to do: Received by me Jul 10 ; "Loved your profile. Want to meet and see where it goes?" I then have a look at his profile...... It has nothing in it. NOTHING!!! No photo, "Äsk me" for everything, not even the slightest hint of any information in the about me or looking for section - just the mandatory red-hot fantasy proforma filled in at the bottom. I flirt respond -"The short answer is NO, the long answer is NOOOOOOO" (As you would) He then messages this : " Ha, thanks Apollo, Its exactly what was predicted of you. ha take care and appreciate the response" I respond : "What other response would you expect with a completely blank profile?? "Ooooh yeah, you look and sound so sexy and intelligent - I could tell by the way you described.......well, nothing, in your profile that we'd get along."? That how it's supposed to go down? Or did you think I'm hard up for contact and would drop trou at anything that showed interest?" He messages this : "Ha, thank you Apollo i appreciate your comments" To which I respond : "Congratulations on falling into the 99% of game playing, time wasting boys on here. You must be proud." THAT is why all you genuine guys don't get responses. Because time and time again the ladies have to sift through rubbish from people like SKANNER. SKANNER gents is why feel you waste your money on memebership and messages and get nothing in return. He's monitering this thread - so thank him in person. This guy has a full profile with pics and everything filled in...Maybe he didn't have a full profile when he first flirted you...but why cut and paste your messages from him? He was polite, he didn't swear and he can spell! The only thing I can see is a woman that is very cynical and makes many scratch their head as to why you are even on a site like this! Apollo, this is a Forum...not someplace where you shame people for no profile or profile pics that are fake...Sheesh, lighten up woman! xFunlovingx
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RHP User
13 years ago
The question was bought up again from a male : Why don't people respond? That's why. Because of the jerks out there who waste time. And for Skammer to have done it so intentionally? Hell yeah i'll bring him to task! Nothing wrong with putting it out there. Question asked - question answered by example given.
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RHP User
13 years ago
If they want you they will find you
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RHP User
13 years ago
I think its all about marketing yourself 1. On RHP - lots of dickheads on site do us single guys no favours.... so one needs to communicate that you are different.... so one needs to update there profile and make it exciting. (Ive been quite lazy on this front myself but thats ok - I get layed lots from point 2.) The other thing to bear in mind is that we all have different preferences.. 2. Get down to David Jones - grab some new slacks, shoes, a Canali shirt and reimage yourself. There are a heap of ladies out there in there early, mid and late 30's....with there body clocks ticking..... dieing to find a guy.... Target some of the bars that professional ladies will drop in for an after work drink (eg around the legal precinct) All the best of luck
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RHP User
13 years ago
fletch19680, on a site like RHP you have a huge amount of competition. Like others have said already. I have never gotten anywhere with a girl on a site like this, it's just terrible odds. But I have gotten MUCH better results in real life - when you talk to a girl in real life it is just you and her for that moment. As long as you keep eye contact and conversation going, she can't go and check out 20 other guys like she can when chatting to you on RHP.Plus, looks don't matter in real life. What matters is how you portray yourself - confidence and playfulness will get you everywhere. Looks matter much more on RHP because girls will judge you by your picture first. In real life, they will judge you by how you open the conversation.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'Briley'Plus, looks don't matter in real life. What matters is how you portray yourself - confidence and playfulness will get you everywhere. Looks matter much more on RHP because girls will judge you by your picture first. In real life, they will judge you by how you open the conversation. Two guys.Both exude the same level of confidence, both happy, welcoming and lovely to talk to - superb personalities!Man 1 - 5ft 0in. Obese. A bad comb-over toupee. Extremely unattractive facially and dresses badly.Man 2 - 6ft 2in. Muscular. Thick, dark shiny hair. Chiselled abs showing through his clean white t-shirt. Ruggedly good-looking.Who is going to be the chick-magnet?Looks matter in real life as much as they do in here.How you open the conversation might get a conversation started, but how you look will dictate where the conversation goes.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'triunity'Supply and demand. What does a man do to impress a woman? Chocolates, flowers, dinner, and if he's desperate, pretend to listen. What does a woman do to impress a man? Show up naked. And bring beer!
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RHP User
13 years ago
Think alot of guys get clingy/harass, and scare women off.Also noted that guys are very rude to women in chat room"s.And you wonder why there are not to many single women here.It's because some guys are like "sexy ass wanna root"Cmon guys pick your game up,treat people how you want to be treated,show common courtesy and some respect towards women and members of this site.Also accept NO for an answer,if you send someone mail,and they do not reply,don't take it to heart,its not meant to be.Your probably a nice bloke fletch, be yourself ,people see you for who you are in the long run.Smile at the world and the world smiles back.Show some character as a person in your mail.And remember people are not here to please your urges ,life is bigger than that.Good luck fletch ,we are all the same we want to be loved and give love(lust ect)the hard part is finding the right lover/partner.Nothing that has worth ever comes easy Regards
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RHP User
13 years ago
I have read everything, I see original posters point, but it kinda got lost, also I see how ladies become jadded, choice is nice until you can't see the forrest for the trees.However it is frustrating, I am a nice guy, i know this to be true. I also know given the chance most ladies here would see that. There is a need for RHP101, where guys like me who are a good catch can be shown how to give that impression in a brief profile. Go to hard and pump yourself up you are a tool, go to understated and you don't stick out. Pictures help sure, but the only help identify you, they don't show the guy inside, anyway, I got distracted. All I can say is good luck mate, be patient. perhaps also to all, hot guys look good on your arm, but few can stimulate your mind. Just a thought. Yeah its a sex site but seriously you have to at least be able to hold a conversation while your "batteries" recharge
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RHP User
13 years ago
It's the kiss of death. Good girls like bad boys. It's the challenge that attracts them. They like to believe that they can be the one to tame the exciting beast. Hehehehe, it's soooo good to be bad.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Yeah I know mate, can't help it, honest to so I'm way screwed
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RHP User
13 years ago
i say its harder to find another couple! we have no problem with single men in which we are seeking also and also single woman are hard to find too! alot of them just like to dick tease on here and when it comes to actually meeting they never show and then you never see them again on here! i think majority of woman on here are just on here for ego boosts they either sit on cam with their tits out doing nothing or just sit there what happened to general conversation try to to have a talk to them but they just ignore you but as soon as some dick sits there and says your so fucking hot etc they jump all over it! even majority of men on here i find to just want fun on cam they dont actually want to meet we want to meet genuine couples, and singles for fun meet ups not just fun on cam!!
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RHP User
13 years ago
We are happy to play with single men (infact that is what we seem to look for more than anything else). The problem for us is that we get so many messages from men saying something along the lines of " Hey, I think your hot, wanna fuck" Now call me crazy but I like to be able to hold a conversation with someone before getting into bed with them. So many men do not read the age limit we have on our profile, or what we are looking for. They see the pics and that we are looking for men and send a message before thinking. We try to give every guy a fair go and see how we get along, but sometimes even if they tick all the boxes... sexually, physically etc. They might be missing something that will tip them over the edge and go from a maybe.. to a "COME HERE NOW!!"
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RHP User
13 years ago
I am happy to and more than able to hold a conversation, sadly, while everyone is so spoiled for choice on here (couples and single ladies) it is hard to get past an initial message sent. 95% of people don't reply. Anyone who has sent me a message, even gay gentleman whom at no point do I mention being interested in get a polite reply. Ijust think alot of profiles on here enjoy the thrill of the chase or being chased and have no real intention of doing anything face to face. I have wanted to experience a MFM threesome for a long time. I am polite, well spoken, reasonably good looking but am certainly no chiseled Adonis, but I am a discrete faithful friend and lover. All I seek is mutual respect, if I am not someones cup of tea that is fine, atleast have the manners to say so. And yeah, FFS read peoples profiles, nothing more annoying than having people like and message when if they had have just taken the time to read your profile they would realize they didn't fit into the what I am seeking catagory.
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RHP User
13 years ago
She told me timing was everything. There were plenty of times where my message would have gone either unnoticed or not been responded to. There are probably a lot of the women on this site looking for men that would respond to you or to me or to many of the men, it's a question of two things. Firstly, they have to realise that you are the kind of person they are interested in and the only way to do that is with a message. Secondly, they have to be in the right place, timing, other commitments, other relationships and all e commitments that make us so busy these days. Keep your chin up, there are some fabulous people on here and sometimes when you least expect it you may end up hearing from someone extraordinary. Just give it time, life is a journey not a race. Philosophical today I am. Learn a lot from others con this site can I. Sorry.....diehard yoda fan :)
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RHP User
13 years ago
I couldnt agree more andyg!! I certainly reply to every msg we receive whether or not we're interested or not! we're always polite!! at first i was seeking more than what i should have but my hubby pointed out to me that we arent at the top of the goodlooking list although we both are attractive in our own way i certainly needed to lower my standards and look more for those who had personality and fun about them! so now i enjoy anyone and everyone! im open to all things new and i love my new outlook on swinging!!
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RHP User
13 years ago
Thats another bug bear kpl4u, peoples elevated sense of attractivenss. I'm sure no oil painting, but I don't have to avoid mirrors either, look young for my age, can hold a conversation and go just fine in the sack ! People however are expecting to pick theselves up a supermodel or someone 20 years younger, happens, but rarely. Some of the rude replies I have received from average looking people, if they bother replying at all, are horrible. No, I'm not thinskinned either, just wonder where manners went. Seems like your attitude has added to your enjoyment, I'm happy for you guys. There is fun for everyone if people are realistic and polite.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Dont get it :( I'm a fit goodlooking guy but yet no interest ??? Ladies???? :)
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RHP User
13 years ago
Good looking or not, you need to reach and impress your target audience. You have a great deal of competition here. You've got platinum membership, make the best of it. Use the chat rooms, post more often on the forums, get known.
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Playful2looking
13 years ago
For us single guys dont bring much to the party unless they are bisexual Some not all guys just want to jump on the wife shoot and go. Not our thing. it makes the husband feel like pimp organising roots for the wife and the single guy.We prefer the guy tobe bi sexual so the three way is enjoyable for all.Or for the single guy to bring a female partner so there is no third wheel situation. Yes taking one for the team is the main problem for the lady but it can be the same for the guy. This happens more then people realise. For eample a guy has pressured his wife and or GF to swing she is not into it or doesnt fancy the the guy. You are left watching your wife having a great time with the guy while you consol his wife or girl friend . A bit off subject but yes some single guys are not very polite and just want to score a root and go bragging to their mates about how they fucked some losers wife. Its hard to find genuine single guys.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'lickandsuck123' For us single guys dont bring much to the party unless they are bisexual Some not all guys just want to jump on the wife shoot and go. Not our thing. it makes the husband feel like pimp organising roots for the wife and the single guy.We prefer the guy tobe bi sexual so the three way is enjoyable for all.Or for the single guy to bring a female partner so there is no third wheel situation. Yes taking one for the team is the main problem for the lady but it can be the same for the guy. This happens more then people realise. For eample a guy has pressured his wife and or GF to swing she is not into it or doesnt fancy the the guy. You are left watching your wife having a great time with the guy while you consol his wife or girl friend . A bit off subject but yes some single guys are not very polite and just want to score a root and go bragging to their mates about how they fucked some losers wife. Its hard to find genuine single guys.
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Cheekyarses
13 years ago
We are after single women to play with us and we are finding this near to impossible!!!!
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