Sending that first message

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  RHP User

  7 years ago

  To suit the profile - mention something in your message that shows you’ve read their profile - whether it’s a common interest, a fantasy you both share, compliment them on a pic that caught your eye - but do something to show you’ve actually read their profile and consider yourself matching to their interests.. If they want females or couples - don’t send a message hoping you can get them to change their mind - respect that you aren’t what they are looking for and move on to someone who is looking for you (ie single male) Don’t be dirty or pornographic - just because it’s a sex site doesn’t give automatic right to open with these types of messages. If they barely have any info ask for some more.. Put a little thought into it - remember single women are highly desirable - they’d receive copious amounts of messages and through your profile and your first msg you need to find something to spark some return interest.. - Posted from rhpmobile

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  DynamicCouple36

  7 years ago

  Our advice is to be subtle and respectful in your first messsge. First impressions certainly do count, given the nature of this site and some of the resultant interactions on here. Best to have no expectations, entitlements and make no assumptions. Yes, this is an adult sex site and yes some may display erotic images. However that does not mean that we are all sluts who will open our legs on command and jump into bed at every given opportunity. Have a good wank (and ejaculate) before messaging someone . That way you will tend to not think with your penis. - Posted from rhpmobile

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  BungCpl

  7 years ago

  Dont send them unless they are asked for 🤔 - Posted from rhpmobile

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  RHP User

  7 years ago

  That are in alignment with me, while displaying a practical demonstration of the difference between fun, funny, and fun.. - Posted from rhpmobile

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  AnnieWhichway

  7 years ago

  What works? That's up to you to work out from your lifes experience. If you dont have that life experience then you shouldn't be here because the place will chew you up and spit you out. Mature minded people have a chance. If the profile is too explicit, l give it a wide berth. A mature person will know why.... If you see assume anything about a lady, you havnt that life experience of which l speak. The profiles with very little information are fake. That's not from life experience, that's from online experience. A woman that is worth messaging will have enough Information for you to decide to message or not.

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  LetsFrolic

  7 years ago

  Because in the real world I'd say hey or hi.. and that's not accepted.. then if you do say more usually you're ignored anyway or they say it's too much. People just have to grow up and stop being so pretentious!! Just talk meet and hook up. Internet dating is crap enough as is without these dumb rules. Same as the ... well you're single so you message first childish crap. Doesnt mean you're royal ffs - Posted from rhpmobile

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  RHP User

  7 years ago

  Frolic..... frustrated a bit there ol chap?! There are no rules, and most people are not pretentious There are only an individuals preferences and expectations, and those can be influenced by their experiences Not everyone has the same level of communication skill..... or the ability to command someone’s attention..... build rapport and inspire interest and attraction Some sail ahead, others are left behind ......and that’s just how life goes To expect it to be any different because of some set of *rules* is just naive 😎 - Posted from rhpmobile

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  technologic

  7 years ago

  I think honestly is best policy (surprised?). If you hadn't read their profile then naturally you won't have much more to say other than 'hi'. If you have & there wasn't much on their profile but you're still curious enough to get in touch then express that curiosity in a genuine way. The more genuine you are (even if you're genuinely the 'show us your tits' kind of guy) the faster you'll find out if they're the right people for you or vice versa. Then we'd get through the time wasters a lot faster and meet the ones who do get you faster ('show me your dick' girls DO exist) If you are being genuine but they always disappear or reject you after that initial stage then maybe you have some underlying psychological issues that freak people out... In which case you might want to seek professional help and look into being a (genuinely) nicer person. OR you have an incurable but minor STD (like yours truly 😂)... In which case perseverence could pay off in the long run. Fingers crossed!! - Posted from rhpmobile

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  RHP User

  7 years ago

  For me, I reply to people who are laid back, send a medium length message of some substance, they’ve made sure I know they think I’m attractive- nothing too over the top, and show some kind of wit or banter. If there is attraction present that’s all I personally require. Short messages are boring, long messages are hard to reply to or can loose your attention, very forward messages are up to personal taste, pushing for a meet can be overwhelming. The fact is when it’s right, it’s right. There’s no point going after someone who isn’t as interested as you are, or vise versa. It’s a minefield, what can I say?! Good luck, LD :) P.s. in general (I didn’t look at your page op), open some pictures, I don’t reply to people who I can’t see the face of. You may still get nothing back but at least you gave your message the best odds first off. 👍🏼 - Posted from rhpmobile

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