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Safe Sex
February 18 2013
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RHP User
13 years ago
Yeah im with u on that....why the hell would u want to have unprotected sex with someone you've met thru a sex site....who is clearly going to be having unprotected sex with others?? You may as well buy a tshirt stating "STDS WANTED". There are unfortunately a large number of very dishonest people on here. I have one simple rule....IF IT'S NOT ON, IT'S NOT ON!!
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RedHotCoast
13 years ago
What if four consenting adults decided to get tested in the week before play? We like this idea but its too difficult for most.
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RHP User
13 years ago
the "if required" option could mean a couple of things and I think it's poorly worded. If required could mean that if the other person wants safe sex then they will practice safe sex. If required could also mean "with new partners or with partners other than my husband/wife". It could also mean not for things like oral but for full sex. It's an ambiguous term and problematic. I can't understand the "never" people, it's like holding a gun to your head and pulling the trigger without knowing whether it's loaded or not.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Our preference is to play bareback for reasons of our own BUT we would never play with an unknown. We have regular STI checks at 580 Swanston st, Melbourne, thats the sexual health clinic here in Melbourne and we insist on any prospective player/partners attending with us. Condoms are NOT foolproof, just ask anyone that has HSV2, the sores can appear anywhere near to and around the genitalia and no condom will protect you, not even a female condom (dam). It surprises me how many people don't know what to look for, herpes isn't always a huge mass of sores it can be one small sore that looks like a pimple that has been picked. We are amazed by the number of people/swingers that have never had an STI check because they practice "safe sex" and nearly all of them preform oral without a condom on the female and some on the male as well. Because of our preference for bareback it does limit who we can/will play with and lots of people think we are weird, some because we want bareback and some because we insist on STI checks. If you want to scare yourself check the Health Dept website for the increases in STI's in Australia, some are up nearly 1800 percent and they put that down in part to swinging couples.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Safe sex isn't black and white, is it?There is unsafe, safe, really safe, and abstinence. I guess those angling for unsafe (unprotected) sex think they are lucky or that the risks are low... I'm not sure.But on the flip side, how far would you go to be safe? Condoms - sure. (Dental) Dams - maybe, probably not. Gloves - unlikely, 'cept for that one fetish I have.........
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RHP User
13 years ago
I always practice safe sex.. Nothing better than skin to skin, but that's a thing of the past. Until you have a steady relationship and you know both are clean.. why take the chance.. ? I don't know the ratio of STD carriers vs the non carriers. If we knew' we still could'nt be too sure anyway.. so my attitude is wear it and enjoy the moment.. protect your partner and yourself...
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RHP User
13 years ago
I'm freakishly paranoid about sti's. way I figure it, the pleasure of unprotected sex is not worth the risk involved. Long term monogamous partners are a different story of course
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'slm114' Our preference is to play bareback for reasons of our own BUT we would never play with an unknown. We have regular STI checks at 580 Swanston st, Melbourne, thats the sexual health clinic here in Melbourne and we insist on any prospective player/partners attending with us. Condoms are NOT foolproof, just ask anyone that has HSV2, the sores can appear anywhere near to and around the genitalia and no condom will protect you, not even a female condom (dam). It surprises me how many people don't know what to look for, herpes isn't always a huge mass of sores it can be one small sore that looks like a pimple that has been picked. We are amazed by the number of people/swingers that have never had an STI check because they practice "safe sex" and nearly all of them preform oral without a condom on the female and some on the male as well. Because of our preference for bareback it does limit who we can/will play with and lots of people think we are weird, some because we want bareback and some because we insist on STI checks. If you want to scare yourself check the Health Dept website for the increases in STI's in Australia, some are up nearly 1800 percent and they put that down in part to swinging couples. Great post, very interesting...
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'slm114' Our preference is to play bareback for reasons of our own BUT we would never play with an unknown. We have regular STI checks at 580 Swanston st, Melbourne, thats the sexual health clinic here in Melbourne and we insist on any prospective player/partners attending with us. Condoms are NOT foolproof, just ask anyone that has HSV2, the sores can appear anywhere near to and around the genitalia and no condom will protect you, not even a female condom (dam). It surprises me how many people don't know what to look for, herpes isn't always a huge mass of sores it can be one small sore that looks like a pimple that has been picked. We are amazed by the number of people/swingers that have never had an STI check because they practice "safe sex" and nearly all of them preform oral without a condom on the female and some on the male as well. Because of our preference for bareback it does limit who we can/will play with and lots of people think we are weird, some because we want bareback and some because we insist on STI checks. If you want to scare yourself check the Health Dept website for the increases in STI's in Australia, some are up nearly 1800 percent and they put that down in part to swinging couples. We would like to add, when you go to the sex clinic they ask about 10 questions which is accessing your risk profile. One might decide . our safety net might be not to induldge with others who tick yes to certain other lifestyles / lifestyles. But they will be first first to condemn you if happen to not see condoms the way they do.
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RHP User
13 years ago
"Always for all activities" surprises me when men have this - do you really want to be sucked off with a condom on? Didn't think so.
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RHP User
13 years ago
I always have used and will always use a condom, too risky not too. But you can never guard against the one that might have a hole in it or the one that breaks. However not all people will see it that way.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Keep It Simple Stupid...No glove, No Love. As we're not out to make friends with the Grim Reaper!
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RHP User
13 years ago
That's a strange one, I think I'd rather avoid any person who I'd be so worried as to need a condom for a BJ. I've never been asked to wear one for a BJ, that'd be an interesting convo I think
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RHP User
13 years ago
Last friday we had our first MFM in Marriott Hotel in Sydney. LEading to that we were talking to several guys and were asking for medical clearance from a sex clinic - My wife had secured hers and were all good, but apparently it became hard for us to force playmates to secure theirs.We ended up playing with condom - to take the worry out. Im sure its not 100% but what can we do :)The only thing Shay would not be able to do is the cum on the mouth which would have been awesome...
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'slm114' Our preference is to play bareback for reasons of our own BUT we would never play with an unknown. We have regular STI checks at 580 Swanston st, Melbourne, thats the sexual health clinic here in Melbourne and we insist on any prospective player/partners attending with us. Condoms are NOT foolproof, just ask anyone that has HSV2, the sores can appear anywhere near to and around the genitalia and no condom will protect you, not even a female condom (dam). It surprises me how many people don't know what to look for, herpes isn't always a huge mass of sores it can be one small sore that looks like a pimple that has been picked. We are amazed by the number of people/swingers that have never had an STI check because they practice "safe sex" and nearly all of them preform oral without a condom on the female and some on the male as well. Because of our preference for bareback it does limit who we can/will play with and lots of people think we are weird, some because we want bareback and some because we insist on STI checks. If you want to scare yourself check the Health Dept website for the increases in STI's in Australia, some are up nearly 1800 percent and they put that down in part to swinging couples. Totally agree with this. As I have mentioned in similar posts, the only STD you cannot get by doing oral is chlamydia.
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RHP User
13 years ago
A few days ago I received a pleasant email (not from anyone on this forum) containing the following: "We both prefer not to use condoms so if your still interested then we would like to chat some more. We both love to cum inside, as well as playing with no rubbers. We are very clean and only play with ppl that are the same." My first reaction was shock, also because my profile is clear on the matter. However, after a few minutes of breathing into a paper bag, I actually appreciated this couple's honesty. Still, the fact that they would not use condome with complete strangers is something I find unsettling. Each to their own I say, but please keep it far from me. Having said that, Thank you couples preferring bare-back for posting. It's great to hear both sides express their thoughts.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'jimandshayene76'Last friday we had our first MFM in Marriott Hotel in Sydney. LEading to that we were talking to several guys and were asking for medical clearance from a sex clinic - My wife had secured hers and were all good, but apparently it became hard for us to force playmates to secure theirs. We ended up playing with condom - to take the worry out. Im sure its not 100% but what can we do :) The only thing Shay would not be able to do is the cum on the mouth which would have been awesome... Am surprised... getting the test is easy.. 5 mins with the doc, 5 mins at the pathology and 4 days wait (about)... plenty of time to prepare. Quoting 'buttsylicious'"Always for all activities" surprises me when men have this - do you really want to be sucked off with a condom on? Didn't think so. We need an optional extra... "None for all activities with clean ticket" As a guy who doesn't like receiving but loves giving in the oral department this is not such a pain... except if a dam is demanded... that gets a bit distracting.
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RHP User
13 years ago
And don't forget that you can not have sex with anyone from the time of the test to the play time with your couple. Also, things like HIV can take 3-6 months to show up in your blood. So playing without rubbers is added risk regardless if you have been given the all clear or not. Also you may not have cum in the mouth but what about someone that may have some on their hands and transfers it to your mouth it vagina. I have been caught out that way myself. :-/
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RHP User
13 years ago
LOL @ the paper bag. Funny. :D
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RHP User
13 years ago
Great question, I'm an if required guy, and I prefer bareback. Having said that I'm wary with new partners, and I'm regularly tested. The majority of stis can be passed through unprotected oral sex, and I haven't met a single person here that insists on a condom or dam for oral, or even requests it. So my view, why lock the front door if the back is wide open?? As for pregnancy, I've had a vasectomy, so no issue. The only thing to worry over is regular testing and prospective partners.- Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
13 years ago
The acid in your mouth and stomach kills Many viruses particularly if you are a strong healthy person with a good immune system... However sex with out protection would mean that you would most def pick something up if your sex partner has something. It's HIV which is the real worry though.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'Messolonghi' Safe sex isn't black and white, is it?There is unsafe, safe, really safe, and abstinence. I guess those angling for unsafe (unprotected) sex think they are lucky or that the risks are low... I'm not sure.But on the flip side, how far would you go to be safe? Condoms - sure. (Dental) Dams - maybe, probably not. Gloves - unlikely, 'cept for that one fetish I have.........I used to be a bit blase' on the use of condoms and just went with my gut feeling, but i soon realised that safe is the better option for myself. How safe is the other question well yes condoms for intercourse they are a must but as for during oral sex well yes have used condoms whilst performing oral sex and i must say the feeling and taste just doesn't do it, i also wear a plate and the number of times that i prick a hole in the condom with one of the wires is nearly 95% of the time, thus resulting in being unsafe again. As for receiving oral have any of you girls ever tried to purchase dams, LOL well when you live in the country. My experience when i was trying to find some, i was advised to try the family planning clinic who at the time did not have any so suggested the local sex shop so the nice lady said i will phone for you to save you the walk. Lady rings gets shop attendant "Hi can you tell me if you stock Dental Dams" shop assistant "What the hell are they" Lady at clinic "OMG have a nice day, and hangs up" So internet shopping was what was suggested. Gloves hmmmmm now my mind wanders Messolonghi maybe on the 23rd you can whisper in my ear and tell me what that fetish is
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RHP User
13 years ago
I have never not had safe sex . Is a short time of fun really worth the pain or suffering of yourself or others ? Play safe have fun :-)
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RHP User
13 years ago
For us it would have to be no rubber no hubba hubba lol we want to experience the fun but don't want to spread any unwanted cells lol its protection for all involved - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
13 years ago
But, you know.. I go the pub on a friday night and get hit on by drunken women.. MOST of them are prepared to play bareback. A condom will not stop herpes, it can come from a fella or a gal touching one self in the toilet, then getting into a bit of mutual masterbation BEFORE gloving up.. if they have a cold sore comming on their lips, and go down on you.. well.. it is contagious BEFORE it actually breaks out. So thedoctors tell us. So, I get a clearance check and DONT tell Dr.. I have herpes... he cant tell... OR, I get a clearance check.. then the afternon before I do your Wife.. I bump into an ex in a hotel and we "Do it" for old time sakes... Lo and behold.. I just got contaminated from her.. Guys, We are in a fairly cloistered environment here.. but, IF we still delve into NORMAL activities.. then we are still at a great risk... and therefore lot of what we demand, is compromised.. Just a thought I guess.
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RHP User
13 years ago
If you dont do anal
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