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Relationships and RHP, could you ??
June 11 2017
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RHP User
9 years ago
I fail to see how meeting via a site like rhp would make any difference. Perhaps, though, the chances of meeting relationship material are a lot lower than a dating sites where algorithms are used to match people on criteria that transcend cup size and dick length. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
I do find it rather pretentious when people judge those on "adult" sites and think they couldn't possibly be good for a relationship because they enjoy sex etc. But different strokes for different folks I suppose. Sadly not all of us are so liberal with what nature gave us, just as with everyone else, not exactly something sacred. Not that I'm suggesting we all go flap around naked in the streets, but you have to admire other places that openly embrace sexuality and see it as just another basic human desire, to be enjoyed but at all times, respected of course. Maybe I veered off on a tangent there, but I embrace my strengths :P - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
I think if someone is open to a relationship, they should be open to finding that anywhere. Here or on 'vanilla' sites or - don't die of shock - IRL. I've chatted to men here and asked them the same question. The general consensus is that they will use RHP for sex but look for a relationship elsewhere. They want a partner that is a 'good girl' without a past. Haven't we come a long way since the middle ages. Peace and free love anyone? I have called a couple of guys out as they are on a 'vanilla' site saying they are looking for the one and want a relationship but here on RHP, it's all NSA and casual. Oh and my profile on the vanilla site said I wasn't looking for a relationship - before anyone gets on their high horse ;) Then I got told by one it was none of my business. Well - it kinda is. He said that he uses RHP for sex while he looks for a relationship on the other site. Other guys are quite open about their reason to be here. They just want to get laid. If they meet anyone outside RHP, they stay on RHP until they get sex in the relationship. They don't even consider that they might just meet someone here, sparks fly and bam! Obviously they believe a woman who is in touch with her sexual side and here on RHP is not a 'good girl' and worthy of their affection. Considering how many men complain that they don't get enough sex or their partner is not into the things they are, cutting to the chase and being up front from the beginning would surely help to see if they are sexually compatible. Do they want a good girl? Or someone who's good at it? Oh well. Good thing I'm not after a relationship - just yet. Thank goodness for being able to keep my face pics private as well. KH
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RHP User
9 years ago
I don't see why not.I mean....what sort of relationship would your friend be expecting from a "non sex" site? Lots of holding hands..?
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RHP User
9 years ago
My expectation is that people on a site like this will be comfortable talking about and expressing their sexual interests, and are open minded / willing to consider things outside of mainstream culture. Those are pluses in my books. So it seems like just as logical a place to find someone as any other.
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RHP User
9 years ago
Everyone likes sex...it's just they're more open about their wants and desires on a "sex site". Which to me is less hypocritical than some people who do things the 'old fashioned' way, meet politely, hold out until you've had a certain amount of acceptible dates..and then get your freak on sexually (And yes, I actually have friends like this) And you know what...they still get ghosted after they finally "put out", so it's not like their way is the most successful road to a relationship anyway!! - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
Remember those days? Now people meet at a laptop or a desktop or on a smart phone. no different. Except these days everything is to be known about themselves because they post everything on Facebook and think everything is true on Google.
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RHP User
9 years ago
I've also had this as killerheelz said "The general consensus is that they will use RHP for sex but look for a relationship elsewhere. They want a partner that is a 'good girl' without a past". Yes, unfortunately, they then look to satisfy their needs outside that relationship, cue me to fill that spot, while the perfect specimen they choose as a life partner, gets shown off to mates and taken home to meet the family lol What they should be doing is listening to my advice grrr they never listen, to find a partner on here, who is on the same page sexually. Not uncommon for them to enjoy rough kinky sex with a play partner, but they can't do that with their gf's, it seems disrespectful, their words not mine. I don't believe everyone likes sex, to some it's a minor annoyance lol to others it's the most important factor, as important as breathing, as it is for me. Problem with meeting in RL, unless they've been in this scene, for want of a better word, most will be quite vanilla and funny about sharing 😊 Plenty have found partners on here and I think they're the smart ones whether the relationship lasts or not, at least they have fun and satisfy their needs along the way. RL well let's just say I don't have a good track record, I tend to shock men 😀 most aren't used to forward women. I find that strange because so many fantasise about it, but transferring that isn't so easy for them. But I'm not looking for a relationship either, I think being honest on our profiles is the best way forward, update as we change. Here or RL though, I imagine one day when I'm ready, it will be here. Find some guy who wants to keep his dirty little slut 😉
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RHP User
9 years ago
that was a bit long, sorry
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RHP User
9 years ago
A regular fwb, certainly!
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RHP User
9 years ago
Personally I do not see why not. I have to question the mindset of those who think differently. Why do they have the necessity to judge open and very honest people about their sexuality? I have found it is mostly ***men who think like this. They want to explore their own sexuality and in doing so come here. They KNOW that a majority of woman in here are sexually adventurous creatures. What bamboozles me is they'll enter a relatiinship with a probable "vanilla" and then in a few years find the sex is boring and guess what...... theyre back here... Go Figure. ***Not ALL men and perhaps some woman. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
I know four couples who met on RHP.........two of the relationships have involved one of them moving location to be with their partner. I met my guy on another adult site. We were on RHP as a couple and still meet RHPers socially through the PerthSocialites. I dont get the guys with 2 agendas. Looking for a vanilla wife but still looking for something else that he cant get at home. If he meets someone off a vanilla site then the chances are he will end up cheating down the line. We are all different with different desires and fantasies, and if you meet someone likeminded then why wouldnt you give it a go? I did try and distance myself at the start when it was getting serious, but that damned man got under my skin!
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RHP User
9 years ago
Quoting 'KillerHeelz'I've chatted to men here and asked them the same question. The general consensus is that they will use RHP for sex but look for a relationship elsewhere. They want a partner that is a 'good girl' without a past. Those guys will then be back on here in 5 years time whinging about their non-existent sex lives and how non-adventurous their partners are, as well as whinging about how the picky bitches on here won't fuck them
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RHP User
9 years ago
You nailed it! - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
I'd date a man I met via this website. Being on a site that most folks might view as a "sex site" does not mean that every member should be tarred with the same brush. Unfortunately, that happens and there's nothing one can do to change other people's perspective. It seems that most men would be guilty of double standards - they'd happily fuck a lady they met on RHP, but will only accept vanilla females as potential dates and mates. They'd fuck hotwives and unicorns, but they expect their wives to fuck them only. I often wonder why this is so. Perhaps, a woman's sexual liberation and comfort with her own sexuality is intimidating to most men? Maybe, most guys have not spent much time dwelling on the fact that real women exist on this site and not all who are here have loose moral values and hence should not be inferred as incapable of staying faithful in a real relationship? Maybe it's more primal than that? Men invest a lot in taking care of and protecting their families and they want to ensure that their offspring is definitely theirs and anything that might suggest that a woman might enjoy sexual liaisons outside the marriage and thus increase the possibility of him bringing up kids who aren't his own, he will avoid like the plaque? It's probably hardwired into the genes and very instinctive, preserving the bloodline and all that. :P I'm sorta laughing as I type this because the concept is very archaic but then again, it still exists and is very real and unchangeable for the silent male majority. The RHP crowd tends to be more open-minded and "liberated" but it is not reflective of the views of everyone else out of the circle, and this is a very very very small circle in the grand scheme of things. Sometimes, I ask my FWB's the uneasy question - "If you had a daughter, will you approve of her dating a man like yourself?" Their answers are often very very revealing. Sometimes, they are rendered speechless. These men, like most men, have no qualms fucking someone else's daughter, but their double standards come to the forefront and they'll fight to protect the "chastity" of their own daughters. Double standards abound, and has existed since caveman days, I think. Not saying it's right, not saying I like it, hell I really hate it, but it's reality. Men have always thought it ok to go around fucking whichever woman avails themselves to his sexual desires, but it won't be ok for other men to touch his wife and his daughters. Most men think it's ok to "use" a woman for his sexual needs, but that's because he can then walk away and have nothing to do with her, don't have to account for her, don't have to care for her. It's their most ideal scenario. Conversely, would we like our sons to date women like ourselves? Ah... that question, turned onto ourselves, can draw very visceral responses too. Would we be ok with our daughter(s)-in-law being sexually liberated? Things can change when it hits too close to home. The message that most men are sending out is almost unanimously this - I'll fuck whoever I can fuck. It's "free" afterall. But the woman who becomes my wife shall be untainted and "pure". This is a real middle finger up to the feminist movement and to the sexually liberated females who think that there's sexual equality. Smart men do not protest over those declarations - they keep their real thoughts quiet and hidden and they get all the fuck they want with no accountability needed, no price paid, nothing... free. Why not? They stand to gain much and give little to nothing in return. Great deal. Longevity to the feminist movement. Sometimes, we need to know what the other party thinks and maybe rethink our strategies or game plans. If we make our rules, but no one's playing by our rules, then something's wrong, modifications are needed, or maybe there's something just fundamentally wrong with the entire philosophy in the first place. Maybe, the majority of the male species is still stuck in the good ol' values whilst most females are surging ahead with new ways of thinking and so there's a huge imbalance and mismatch. Maybe the smarter men are paying lip service to women having equal sexual freedom but they are quietly tapping their feet to a different tune simply because they can't be bothered to lock horns with an argumentative female and face the fury of women. Far better and smarter to give the illusion of agreeing, getting all the fuck you want, and then living life by your own rules anyway. Action speaks louder than words. It's truly disturbing that a lot of men seem to disregard women they meet here as potential dates but therein lies a very real albeit disguised non-endorsement of the female sexual freedom movement. We may scream bloody murder and protest about the unfairness of it all, but at the end of the day, one cannot force anyone to change their perspective. Very very sad. :| Here's the time-honoured "truth" though - women continue to be judged according to how promiscuous the behaviour is. Not endorsing it, not agreeing nor disagreeing with it, but it seems to be the way the world in general works. Sexual liberation / freedom has meant that men can have sex without giving up anything in exchange for it. Swipe left, swipe right, get a different woman every night. Too easy. The entire fabric of society is being changed by this brave new world with brave new rules. Social studies textbooks and curriculum probably has to undergo major changes to deal with the new scenario. We live in very interesting times indeed!
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Not_A_Unicorn
9 years ago
Virtually any website designed to meet a person of the same or opposite sex is essentially a sex site just as much as it is a dating site, some just market the sexual side of life a bit more openly than others. We met on a site designed for "dating" yet my experiences on there with single guys was more of a sexual one than anything else. So here we are 6 years later and still going strong. I find this no different to the can you make friends with someone on a "sex" site without actually having sex with them? We have found a great group of people to be social with and while we've all seen each other in various states of undress, no physical contact has occurred. So many people get agitated when we say that we're here to make friends first and if there's a connection and mutual attraction we progress from there, while if there isn't we still have the friendship. This site is what YOU choose to make of it. Looking for NSA fun? Great. Looking for that special someone? Kudos to you! So what you want to do, but make sure you have fun doing it! ❤️❤️❤️ - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
I will never say "never" I can't see why you (I) couldn't give it a go - Posted from rhpmobile
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Sawadee
9 years ago
If you're the chosen one and Cupid shoots his arrow in your heart .. What are you suppose to do... ?
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RHP User
9 years ago
Desire is very important. If it was there and now desire is dead, get out. It will only get less desirable if you do not speak up. That is my motto. If it aint broken dont fix it. If it is broke, deal with it As a jockey, Hard to flogg a dead horse in this horse race we call LIFE.
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EarthQueen
9 years ago
What an interesting question to pose, "Sometimes, I ask my FWB's the uneasy question - "If you had a daughter, will you approve of her dating a man like yourself?" Their answers are often very very revealing. Sometimes, they are rendered speechless. These men, like most men, have no qualms fucking someone else's daughter, but their double standards come to the forefront and they'll fight to protect the "chastity" of their own daughters." Thats a whole new topic
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EarthQueen
9 years ago
Interesting to hear everyones points of view. Waiting for the ones who don't agreeI know you are out there....Be brave....Cmon
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RHP User
9 years ago
As if the folks that meet up on sites like eHarmony and RSVP aren't dancing the horizontal boogie together as soon as the time is right? Of course they are...so what's the difference? Sometimes timing, opportunity and chance are everything...here's a very short saying I like: "She was the one I wasn't looking for." And guess what...I'm going to keep right on not looking and road testing a few new models! Best........ CM
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RHP User
9 years ago
Resist resist resist haha 😉
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RHP User
9 years ago
I do believe I am one half of those couples that you mentioned :P I LOVE the fact that my other half and I met on this site. For us, it has meant that our relationship started for more honest and open that any previous one has. Ot also meant that we knew eachothers 'various selves'. I knew him as a single male, then as a FB, then a friend, as FWB and then as my partner. Its a more open relationship in the sense that we dont feel the need to hide if find someone else attractive, and the normal jealousy that tends to happen in 'vanilla' relationships isnt there. As we grew as a couple, so did the boundaries of our relationship, in a much more comfortable manner that I have experienced in previous relationships. I wouldnt have it any other way.
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EarthQueen
9 years ago
Quoting 'KillerHeelz' I've chatted to men here and asked them the same question. The general consensus is that they will use RHP for sex but look for a relationship elsewhere. They want a partner that is a 'good girl' without a past. Haven't we come a long way since the middle ages. Peace and free love anyone? I have called a couple of guys out as they are on a 'vanilla' site saying they are looking for the one and want a relationship but here on RHP, it's all NSA and casual. Oh and my profile on the vanilla site said I wasn't looking for a relationship - before anyone gets on their high horse ;) Then I got told by one it was none of my business. Well - it kinda is. He said that he uses RHP for sex while he looks for a relationship on the other site. Other guys are quite open about their reason to be here. They just want to get laid. If they meet anyone outside RHP, they stay on RHP until they get sex in the relationship. That whole good girl thing is so archaic. Considering some of the kinks people have on here I find it weird. Isn't getting what you want, or like, in your sex life more important to you than that? Are they going to shut that side down or are they just going to cheat on that girl eventually if she doesn't do what they like? Or just never bring it up with her because she is a "good girl". Also wondering if there could be a perception by some that people that they meet on this site are going to be less honest/trustworthy? For eg. If she is on here she will fuck anyone? Which is obviously not true.
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MissBishere
9 years ago
Absolutely
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RHP User
9 years ago
Love the collingwood supporter note haha 😀😉
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RHP User
9 years ago
Why not, if you were single that is. You know you're already on the same page and no problems discussing your desires and limitations for the relationship.
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RHP User
9 years ago
Quoting 'EarthQueen' Interesting to hear everyones points of view. Waiting for the ones who don't agreeI know you are out there....Be brave....Cmon Psst, EarthQueen! I love your openness to differing views. I, too, was hoping that a few men who are proponents of, "No, I'll never date a woman who is on RHP" would be brave enough to step up and share their frank views. Sadly, that probably won't happen as : - that might ruin their chances of potential sexual liaisons; - the wiser ones learn via observation and might not want to be ripped to shreds by sharing their frank views in the forums, and it's really not worth the angst, hostility and attacks; and - the men who want a quick fuck, hookups and NSAs wouldn't even bother with the forums... unless it somehow guarantees them a quick fuck, hookups and NSAs! Hahaha! You've got to admire their erm... single-mindedness in pursuing their goals. LOL!!! I think this remains an area where women are blazing a revolutionary trail, but most men are still lagging behind tradition and convention. Unfortunate, eh? Sometimes, the men do not even have to state the obvious - if they are only interested in a quick fuck, and do not really want to expend any time nor energy nor effort in getting to know you, it's a clear sign that they don't see the woman beyond the breasts and vagina. If they typically disappear after cumming, only to reappear when they are in desperate need for yet another cum emptying session because they are busting at their balls, then let's be wise enough to discern it for what it is - a hook up / NSA / casual sex... and then make the informed decision of Yes, that's what I want as well or Nope, not on my agenda, I'm not interested. That's true empowerment - never allowing yourself to be duped and seeing the situation clearly for what it is and then saying Yes / No firmly and with confidence. Just like the men, we can learn to separate the candidates for a fun fuck from the candidates for a serious, loving relationship where we give it our all. Just never short change ourselves and end up giving the fun fuck candidates our love and affection because they are just going to disappear and not treasure what we give anyway. The bloody hard lessons I've learnt in my naive early years of believing in "love conquers all"! Bwaharhar! For me, that's what true feminine power is about - seeing things with clarity, not being gullible, not allowing ourselves to be lied to and duped, and playing the game like a courageous lioness. Too often we've allowed our need to be in a relationship to rule us. We end up compromising, and before you know it, we've traded in way too much and end up stuck in a bad deal / situation that might be tricky to extricate oneself from. I've challenged myself to become independant - financially, emotionally and psychologically, so that unless I meet a man who is on par with me when it comes to mental, spiritual and emotional fortitude, I won't allow myself to be in a position of weakness. Let's enter in a position of strength and increase the likelihood of meeting our equals. Only gentlemen need apply... cads, please step aside! Anyway OP, just wanted to let you know that you are a champ!
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RHP User
9 years ago
I would have a relationship with someone I met on a 'sex site'
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RHP User
9 years ago
thanks for putting it in point form though 👍 they can run through your checklist of reasons not to post on the forum 😏
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RHP User
9 years ago
And ask if you would be happy having your son fuck a women like you ?
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RHP User
9 years ago
You do know that I am probably one of the few that actually look at how much some of your posts weigh in terms of On-line Intelligence. Okay so here's the real truth... I have never been with or invested time in an Asian woman and for no damn reason and more so in your case. Yes, your post could challenge Steinbeck at times but that is one of the things I like I about you. I'll never ask for a second chance but maybe third would be appropriate. Try reading a book called a 'A stranger in a strange land''. That's me. I know now that I'd be quite happy to walk down Collins St. with you on my arm. I take some time to convince but actually do get through all of your posts and appreciate your intelligence. Fuck me dead if our children wouldn't be ugly and and smarter than the Britannica. Win loose or draw... put your best gun belt on and challenge me. Love always....... CM
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RHP User
9 years ago
Quoting 'Sailbadthesinner' And ask if you would be happy having your son fuck a women like you ? are you referring to here?
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RHP User
9 years ago
It isn't just some men who would say no to a relationship from a sex site, but women as well. Does it matter that some people are here just for a quick fuck? It doesn't make them less of a person. If they don't believe sex/adult sites are the places to find a relationship for them, so what? We all have our ways of finding love and happiness and I'm sure they have theirs. I am a little disappointed at some people's condescending remarks and labelling of people who don't share their views. Views can be stated without the need to put others down. Be mindful that not all minds are as stable as yours. In reply to the OP, I am in a relationship with someone I met on here. It's been the best 4 years of my life 🌷 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
Quoting 'Luck_Dragon' Quoting 'Sailbadthesinner' And ask if you would be happy having your son fuck a women like you ? are you referring to here? Anyone who cares to ask themselves the question. As to the op, yes and am, my marriage became sexless so when it ended the internet was the new way and it worked for me.
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RHP User
9 years ago
...if you are anything in the rack like are when you can put ''a few words'' together here, there's every chance that I'd be a dead man before I got a word in sideways or edgewise. What a way to die! You are a beautiful woman and I think I'd have to invest in bigger pillows for the beloved ''pillow talk''. Ignore the snoring, I''m really listening! I'm now convinced that I got my PhD just to keep up! Luv ya...... CM
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RHP User
9 years ago
For me probably not. I met a girl on here who said the same, we got on really well, hooked up and had fun but at the end of the day she was going to find a guy in a more traditional way, tell him she'd been with under ten guys and live happly ever after.
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RHP User
9 years ago
Lookin' for love in all the wrong places...
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EarthQueen
9 years ago
Not wanting to go in for the jugular. Just interested? Women or men. Re. Comments about sons and daughters I hope both my kids, a boy and a girl feel free to express their sexuality in any way they choose as long as they are safe and respectful to others and themselves. We are very open about talking about sex at our place it's a natural part of life. - Posted from rhpmobile
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EarthQueen
9 years ago
Thanks lovely, I enjoy your posts too ... but I think you have blown Chasin's mind 😄 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
I meet on here that I met and definitely chased a relationship with with if my head was in that space at the time. Luck for them it wasn't.
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RHP User
9 years ago
I am actually with a guy I met on a vanilla site atm. We established our friendship before jumping into sex and to be honest it has been disappointing so far. I have tried to discuss what I enjoy and wanting to make the whole sexual experience last longer....but next time round nothing changes. So will be ending things which is sad as we are great together in so many ways... I don't want to go back to sex sites and meeting for meaningless sex so I will just concentrate on friends and family. At least with people I have met through sex sites, you usually know how the sex side is pretty early on but of course nothing else is usually available, maybe a odd meal out now and then if you are fwb. So yes to look at building a relationship with someone you met from sex site, I can't be in a relationship if the sex is average, so maybe a sex site guy could have a more open, experimental view on sex...but not sure how many of those guys would ever want a relationship lol 😲😜😨
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AnnieWhichway
9 years ago
Quoting 'EarthQueen' Thanks lovely, I enjoy your posts too ... but I think you have blown Chasin's mind 😄 - Posted from rhpmobile That PP has CM blocked..........lol
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AnnieWhichway
9 years ago
And therefore technically limited to the sex and fetish sites. But putting that aside, I find the people on sites like this are more genuine and open about their lives and what is important within that life. Sex is important to me and finding a partner that shares that interest is high up there. About time people dropped their pretend morality and thought about true happiness for their soul that might just help find a relationship that ticked more than bank accounts and appearance to their stuck up vanilla friends. For those that choose traditional methods, perhaps get rid of the box of ropes, gimp mask and ball tags before the new half stumbles across them in the garage.
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RHP User
9 years ago
I'd be proud if my son fucked a woman like me, shit to be clear, that doesn't sound right, forget it 😕
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RHP User
9 years ago
My best relationships with most depth has come from meeting on a sex site. What can I say? I have to know that we're compatible in bed because when we break up, a few times we'll have make up sex until it just won't work anymore. It's the sexual connection I miss the most. The harder stuff, I can tempt the guy into. I don't know why it is for me, guess I'm just lucky and when I find what I want... maybe they are just lucky or unlucky 😈 well if my offer isn't good enough, they wouldn't stay I guess. I'm myself all the time, unashamed and encourage the guy to be the same. I've learnt, if it's to last, then slow is ok. As I get older, I'm more aware of myself and I pick my battles. The hardest thing for me is to be vulnerable, to ask and admit I'm wrong. I do love to learn more from someone though. I'm forever curious. But it's easy for me to be completely into my partner when in bed, as with most loyal females. I wanted NSA as an excuse to fob off duds, but really I do want a connection with a guy and then ravage each other in hot, lustful sex romps several times a week!! (let's not lie to ourselves now...) I've been with dudes that tell me they had stalkers and then we end up being one-offs because I go in thinking "he's not all that and I'm not going to go crazy over him". And they are suddenly busy too haha go figure. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
I don't wanna be a starfish!!! I may as well be reading a book or watching tv. Web cams? Oh, forget it... zzzzz - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
My ex bf who found me a decade ago on another sex site, wondered why I recently got curious about the swing scene and he's always known me to be "wholesome". I didn't expect that statement! But he's known me pretty well as he was the one that showed me not to be scared of confrontation. So guys of RHP, women are generally more real on here than you will find on those vanilla sites. I've also found the same when I meet guys from here and have probably converted a few guys to think that a relationship is possible from a site like this with someone real- a good girl with a naughty streak lol. It's one of the best sites out there, for Australia, at least. So tell your friends you met through other friends, who cares? Partners just want upfront honesty and reassurance. If he cheats, he will only cheat himself of true happiness. Is it worth it afterwards? If you feel rotten, there's a reason for that...
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RHP User
9 years ago
I posted another comment but I don't think it worked 😀 This, quoting you "the wiser ones learn via observation and might not want to be ripped to shreds by sharing their frank views in the forums, and it's really not worth the angst, hostility and attacks; and - the men who want a quick fuck, hookups and NSAs wouldn't even bother with the forums... unless it somehow guarantees them a quick fuck, hookups and NSAs! Hahaha! You've got to admire their erm... single-mindedness in pursuing their goals. LOL!!!" Thanks for putting this into point form, makes it so much easier to follow 😏
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MissRedFox
9 years ago
Who doesn't accept the whole of who I am? I find embracing my sexuality and sensuality incredibly empowering and respect men who accept that and help nuture it. So yes if I was looking for a relationship I believe they can be found in all places. My circle of friends are mostly in the kink or swingers scene so it's not unusual to know couples who met through these means. I am what I am, I enjoy what I do and want to spend time with those who are the same. What I may find challenging is someone who can accept my love of karaoke 😂 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
Having previously been on here as part of a couple's profile I definitely wouldn't say no to a relationship with the right person on here.I've been away from the site for the best part of a year and have met quite a few women IRL and on sites like Tinder and POF but have always found them to be way too vanilla for what I want
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RHP User
9 years ago
I don't disagree, but I tried to explain why anyone who might hasn't posted. It didn't pass moderation.
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RHP User
9 years ago
I'll see if I can come up with anything at all. I did think about this last night but didn't feel collected enough to try to say it. One thing could well be the worry, fear, expectation of the reaction in return. Also, that there is a fair chance, a lot of the people who think that way don't even hang out in the forum. Sorry, I'm not all that imaginative but those are my thoughts based basically on what I have seen and read in the forum over time. Peachy
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RHP User
9 years ago
I hope so I'm looking for a relationship ☺ - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
Youre a nice bloke, Im sure you will find a good woman on here xx
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RHP User
9 years ago
I most defiantly could. Gasp! I like sex hahaha would any guy be really be surprised about that? Would I judge him because he liked sex? No way. If it happened it happened that way, this "sex" site vs vanilla sites makes no difference to me. I prefer this site for the honesty guys tend to share here more than on vanilla for the pressure of them trying to be a certain type of guy to get the girl on those sites. It's 2017 :) just saying 👍🏻 - Posted from rhpmobile
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EarthQueen
9 years ago
👍 know the feeling, a few of mine don't get through either - Posted from rhpmobile
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EarthQueen
9 years ago
For all your interesting and informative replies so far. Can't name you all but some are so in depth and have really taken the time to think it through. Appreciate it 🙏. I guess that's why I would consider a relationship with someone on here. It's such an interesting mix and so many open minded people that you don't find often find in my (sometimes dull) little corner of suburbia. It's opened my world up for the better that's for sure. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
That they still think "Christian" values count. Dear GODS when will they learn. Sex is a part of who we are. I could probably guarantee 99% of people on here are very sexual beings and understand their sexuality to the CORE. Just be open and have no judgements of others. Sheesh. :-) For those who know me......... ta - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
Quoting 'Sailbadthesinner' And ask if you would be happy having your son fuck a women like you ? But of course! Actually, that question sounds so very wrong... very incest. I'd rather change it to this : Hell, YES! YES! And YES!!! I'd be so very happy if my son DATED a woman like me! Want me to list the reasons why? I'm a chronic list maker so be careful what you ask for!
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RHP User
9 years ago
Quoting 'AnnieWhichway' Quoting 'EarthQueen' Thanks lovely, I enjoy your posts too ... but I think you have blown Chasin's mind 😄 - Posted from rhpmobile That PP has CM blocked..........lol My block list is so darn short, and it's mostly a passive reciprocal thang, that one has got to try reeeelly reeeeelly hard to get listed! LOL!!! Midnight's a kewl guy except he sings the same song to almost every woman in here. Can't blame a man for casting his net far and wide, I suppose. But to catch a Mermaid, now, that requires precision, strategy and impressive equipment. The bait has to be large and thick enough to attract a Mermaid from afar - small itty bitty worms cannot be seen by the Mermaid from a distance, and they don't look juicy enough! Now before a protest march takes place in defence of poor itty bitty worms, the Mermaid is short-sighted and cannot spot itty bitty worms. Be careful of the Mermaid's siren song! It's easy to be lured by what's glitzy and sparkly but if one cannot match the Mermaid's chutzpah and quick wit, one shall easily get entangled in one's own lure. Bwaharhar! I'm a mischief maker tonight!
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RHP User
9 years ago
... it's a matter of pure science? Women's brains have more connections between the left side and the right side of the brain. Men's brains aren't so richly connected. Therefore, women can often think about several things at once. Our thought patterns are like pellet guns - one trigger and all the pebbles go helter-skelter and covers an extensive area. If our thought patterns were represented in charts, we'd soon run out of space and the linkages women can make can be pretty astounding! Men on the other hand, are very single-minded and focused. They think more like a rocket launcher. One shot, the rocket zooms in on the one target and *boom! Target achieved! So if we extrapolate that fact into the RHP scenario... Man wants sex. Man thinks, where to get sex? Man googles. Ah ha! RHP! Man registers profile on RHP to get sex. Man wants wife. Man thinks, where to find a good lady? Ah ha! Vanilla sites! Man registers profile on vanilla site to find wife. The few men who manage to evolve beyond this one-track way of thinking, are the precious guys we find in the forums. And the treasures are those who have observed and learnt and are wise enough to realise that there can be a new world equation : Man wants sex. Man also wants good wife. Man thinks RHP has good women for great sex. And after great sex, have great pillow talk to find out more about the woman. Possible to find good wife who's an angel on the outside, but a devil in the bedroom on RHP! Man very fulfilled and satisfied and happy! So... now, we sit and wait for evolution to catch up with the male species. EVENTUALLY, they will get it. Just in case the great idea gets lost in too many words, let me sum it up here : Dream Wives (new and improved versions, not available on vanilla sites): - Smart - Beautiful - Healthy - Multi-talented - Open and frank - Sex fiend in the bedroom (only available in the new and improved versions!) Find them here on RHP!!! Only while stocks last! But wait! Sometimes, you buy one, you get one free! Yes, that's right! You ask for kinky sex, you get a threesome! Only on RHP!
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RHP User
9 years ago
In here about Christianity and the flowers. I mean followers. It got deleted but you guys get my drift ;-) - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
Inspirit, there is a post by you at the top of page 4 about christian values. Is that the one you mean? Peachy xo - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
There are lots of benefits of meeting a new partner on a site like RHP. You will already know the type of sex they like, their fetid he fantasies etc. Its a win win! ;)
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RHP User
9 years ago
Both vanilla and non-vanilla for me... I look on sites like this for all of the above reasons. Having some common interests in (or out of) bed etc. However I still look on vanilla sites because there are many more single profiles there, and I assume many are sexualy interestedl beings like any. I still desire the type of relationship that I see looking around in day-to-day life, namely the type of simple mutual interest/love that sees couples walking hand in hand (or arm around each other) down the street. This is not always appropriate with someone else's partner... :P
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RHP User
9 years ago
with meeting someone from a dating site is the jealousy. For me, it's been on a whole new level and I don't regret going through it. This can iron itself out once you start to trust each other and communicate properly. Just make sure it comes from a place of love, care and protection rather than hate. Ask the questions and be vulnerable is what I've learnt. With each relationship, inside the swing scene and outside, I met my boyfriend's ex-flings. Man... was that the toughest thing ever to look them in the eye, introduce myself as I would with anyone and be the most friendliest person in the world to them. The guys look back now and realise what they put me through, but it's never as bad as your mind makes it out to be if you know they are good people. As with any relationship, know your deal breakers cos when the spell wears off, there's no way in hell you'd put up with those for too long I would hope. Negotiate or get out now! Lol I find guys from vanilla sites tend to hide stuff that could create arguments. From time to time, a bit of jealousy is necessary and a confidence booster to your partner. Each to their own.
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RHP User
9 years ago
Correction above: meeting someone on a *sex site.
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RHP User
9 years ago
Quoting 'EarthQueen' Interesting to hear everyones points of view. Waiting for the ones who don't agreeI know you are out there....Be brave....Cmon Considering quite a few comments here seem to have tipped well and truly into ''men are mindless sex fiends'', only a fool would blunder into that trap. Yet another topic descends into gender politics. No thanks.
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RHP User
9 years ago
hi iam in my early 70s have tried most dating agencies spoke to a lot of women but thats all it was i never thought of meeting some one on this site but when i read of the success stories i will stay on this site as we all need and want sex thank you
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RHP User
9 years ago
Coulda been. Too much Vodka last night trying to solve first world problems :-) - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
You assume they're sexually interested? Big mistake. Take them out for a very big test drive, about 10 years lol then decide which model you want 😉
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RHP User
9 years ago
There could be a million reasons why some men would want to separate Rhp from other sites when meeting women, but there is an equal number of reasons why a woman would choose to be here. Fear is usually at the core of why men would choose Rhp for casual meetings only. Fear of not being enough or fear of not having much to offer. Someone so sexually adventurous could hardly have space for those who fail occasionally...for those who are not only for something purely physical or hedonistic, as there are other things in life besides sex. Fear of becoming attached to someone who might not be loyal... someone who only sees sex as fun, but their heart is not open and therefore can't give unconditionally. Men look strong and capable, but on the inside, they're insecure like everybody else. They're searching and looking for somebody to build them up to make them feel valued. Please Earth Queen, do not take my comments in any way as disrespect just my fragmented thoughts. (Ms)
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RHP User
9 years ago
Quoting 'I_touch_myself2' You assume they're sexually interested? Big mistake. Take them out for a very big test drive, about 10 years lol then decide which model you want 😉 Quoting 'countrytouch' I assume many are sexually interested beings like any. I have quoted myself for a reason. I said I assume many are sexually interested, not all, or even the majority. But many of the members writing here (including myself) have stated openly that they are on vanilla sites, so that shows there are some sex positive people on vanilla sites.
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EarthQueen
9 years ago
Quoting 'OkeyDoke45' Quoting 'EarthQueen' Interesting to hear everyones points of view. Waiting for the ones who don't agreeI know you are out there....Be brave....Cmon Considering quite a few comments here seem to have tipped well and truly into ''men are mindless sex fiends'', only a fool would blunder into that trap. Yet another topic descends into gender politics. No thanks. The first rule of Fight Club is: You do not talk about Fight Club. The second rule of Fight Club is: You do not talk about Fight Club.
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EarthQueen
9 years ago
Mindless Sex Fiends sounds like a great name for a band. I'd go and watch them for sure. If they played well enough, that is.
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RHP User
9 years ago
I'm in a great many relationships from RHP. Some lifelong friends, a few people who are/have been FWB's along the way, and one amazing guy who will be mine for the rest of my life. Another poster commented on the openness in communication from her relationship after meeting someone on here, and I completely agree. It's the thing I value most about my relationship with Ty - that we can, and do, talk about anything and everything, with nothing off limits. I think that'd very much a product of the mindset we both approached RHP with, and what we value about the forums in general.
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EarthQueen
9 years ago
Your relationship and the openness. Thats awesome. Love it. I haven't had a relationship on here but I also like how the level of conversation can quickly become very intimate and deep with someone you haven't know for that long. Maybe barriers get let down faster in some ways? I have had more intimate and open conversations about some subjects with a FWB than I have had with my ex. Which is a bit sad really .... but there you are.
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RHP User
9 years ago
The idea itself isn't that weird. You never know when fate might step in. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
There is a degree of honesty found on this site that is not afforded on regular dating sites, Am I looking for a relationship, no but if one were to kinda eventuate from a yummy connection, why the hell not? I've made friends and lovers alike over two states and five years. I love these people, they are still in my life today. I'm not about to cast aspersions or judge someone entire character based upon their sexual preferences - there's a little more to us than whether we like our sex vanilla, left of centre of if we're swinging from the chandeliers. Connection is there or it ain't, I'm not going to judge where it was found...I'm here too after all. 💋
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RHP User
8 years ago
To find someone that you can have fantastic sex with and also have a relationship isn't easy and it's hard to have a relationship when the sex is crap so it makes sense to get the sex right which means looking in the right places aka this site, then if you click on other levels you're set... - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
We've been together over 7 years. And are both still here. Flirty x
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RHP User
8 years ago
was just having a read back through the topic and your comment resonated with me. Hard to kind of put it on here, bit private, but it's a dilemma, a bloody tough one. One of the reasons I've never had any luck with RL, always disappointed, vanilla just doesn't work for me, particularly if I go up a bit in age. 69, position not age lol, missionary and monogamy just don't do it for me 😀 Unfortunately, many men over a certain age (at this moment in history and in my experience, also referencing men because they are my target, applies to men and women) fall into that category, having not had the internet in their younger days, just one contributing factor, but if they haven't been exposed to more open sexual minds/beings, they are happy in themselves, just not compatible with me. Being in this open lifestyle certainly expands our sexual experience/brings out the kinky, and for me, I just doubt I can ever go back. Current dilemma btw
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RHP User
8 years ago
100% agree. So long as cupid's arrow doesn't strike from outside the playing field lol then we're fucked 😉
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RHP User
8 years ago
A relationship with the right person can occur no matter what site you meet. Chemistry is something we can't fight so if you happen to meet someone on here at least you already know abit about their sexual history. Too many guys want that 'good girl' to marry but they are still the same ones that will fuck around on their wives. Good sex is important in a relationship unless you are really just after a companion. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
Where you meet shouldn't make a difference. Missb
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RHP User
8 years ago
We're all the same people, regardless of what site we meet on or if we meet in person versus online. I doubt I would though because I feel like most men will judge me to not be "relationship material" for being on here.... - Posted from rhpmobile
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AnnieWhichway
8 years ago
Equality. Those that judge you for being on here are judging themselves for being on here. Those that make that judgement are themselves not worthy relationship material for having double standards.
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On_Safari
8 years ago
Be any different to meeting someone on eHarmony, who probs has a profile on tinder, AMM, grinder, sugar daddy.com and a gazillion other sites and striking up a relationship? My partner found me on eHarmony and didn't flinch when I said I was on RHP predominantly and eHarmony was just an experiment. He found me more interesting than the few women he'd encountered on eHarm.....(though they could be closet RHP'ers themselves 😳). Did he think I wasn't relationship material because of RHP's Sex Site & Swingers reputation? Nup! Guess it depends on how open people are to getting to know the person behind the profile, behind the website 😏 And yes OP I would have a relationship with someone from a Sex site. Atleast we'd have plenty to discuss 😇 ~ Indy PS Haven't read the topic just cruisin past so soz if my sentiments echo those of others 👍🏽
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On_Safari
8 years ago
You need to hang out with us for a bit 😁 the social crew are a heap of fun!
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RHP User
8 years ago
Least you can be completely honest :) one would hope at least. Being so intimate to share wild fantasies together and yet knowing you can rein it in to get a days work done is so sexy. If someone thinks compartmentalising people is sexy that's fucked! But defiantly great to seperate activities in life, as we are complex us humans and need to get stuff done for us to feel complete in life. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
* definately not defiantly lol bloody iPhone - Posted from rhpmobile
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happy0450
8 years ago
I've met some amazing people here. As others have well articulated - why wouldn't one. For me, I'm Just not wanting to commit to a partner for life relationship at present. When that changes, its possible, perhaps probable that I will meet that person here. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
8 years ago
I met someone on here over 2 years ago and it became an intensely amazing relationship and friendship which I hope will last forever 💕💕💕
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RHP User
8 years ago
The only reason I can think that people would say no, is because they don't understand the changes in society over many years. Look back at the fact that people used to meet only their neighbors//parents children/people who went to the local shop...then meeting places like town halls became somewhere to meet partners, then eventually women were actually allowed to go into bars/pubs (they were supposed to be at home making sandwiches and looking after the children while their husbands did manly things, like spend time with friends). We have evolved as a society and the internet is common place, so it's a natural thing that people now meet through all the different ways. The fact that people can meet on a "sex site" and have a fulfilling relationship from that, just shows that we have so many more opportunities these days to meet people with similar interests and the fact that it even came up in a conversation with the OP's friend is great. It just means that people are more aware of it. I am single and would be happy to meet my future partner either next door, or on a sex site...no shame in wherever you happen to meet "the one".
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