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RHP AS A RELATIONSHIP TOOL .
April 03 2017
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RHP User
9 years ago
Please, let's leave the ''after a life partner'' types to other, more traditional dating services. I am a member of another well-known ''sex dating'' app, which I could have sworn was for casual relationships only but seems to have been hijacked in recent times by the ''not after hookups, not after one-nighters, after the real deal'' types. There really should be a nice, separate camp for the two types of dating apps. Should you happen to strike it lucky and have a casual relationship from here turn into something more committed then great, best of luck. Otherwise, please don't shit in the pool.
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RHP User
9 years ago
I am actually looking for a relationship and hoping to form one eventually. And maybe through this site I might be lucky. I'll be intrested to see if I'm not alone with this. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
I would've said 'hell no, I am NOT looking for a relationship.' And I honestly, truly, reeeeally wasn't. But then Mr and I met through the site and now we're living together and stupidly happy. I resisted for a while because I genuinely wanted to stay single, but you can't fight damn chemistry... I don't see why people think others shouldn't be able to find partners through here? I know many that have met on the site and coupled up. Sexual compatibility is a huge factor in relationship success (and failures), so this is a great medium to find someone similarly-minded, I think. It annoys me when people try and dictate what this site is for and say everyone else should go elsewhere. It's for whatever the hell you want it to be, and if you find someone that is here for the same thing, then it's served its purpose and best of luck to you. Miss Little xx
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AnnieWhichway
9 years ago
To some of us, sex is important and a vital part to life. Get that part right up front and then tick the rest of the boxes. Better that way in my book than fall in love and put up with an average sex life. I recently finished an 18 month relationship in here and made me realise you can find it all here. And you have some great experience and adventures in the process. So it's very possible.
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RHP User
9 years ago
I'm not looking for a relationship, but I'm always open to the possibility if I meet the right woman. And that's as likely to happen here as anywhere, maybe more likely. What form that relationship might take is anyone's guess.
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RHP User
9 years ago
...the unexpected and personally I believe that if it's meant to be it will all work out. Several years ago, I met a lovely young woman on this site and at first we took it on face value, then guess what? Yes that very scary ''L'' word started creeping into our conversations...and we became very best friends! Just on two years later and quite happily monogamous, we mutually agreed to move on as our worlds were very much different and keeping it short...could have become quite complicated. On the upside, I found something perhaps more unique and valuable...a true life-long friend and confidant! To this day we still speak at least once a week so depending on your definition of ''success'' and ''relationship'', I could not have hoped for much more. Best........ CM
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RHP User
9 years ago
Yes nearly 8 years and still going strong. Pusscat xxx
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RHP User
9 years ago
We'll stick with Eharmony for relationships and this one for sex eh? What if you want great, exploratory, naughty, kinky, BDSM, or swinging style sex in a relationship? Isn't this the perfect place to look for mutually interested partner? No, then maybe I'll just quit all this sex business and look for a long term date in a church perhaps and maybe have my naughty sex while cheating on the side... :P
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RHP User
9 years ago
im an old rhp member that has returned after a few yrs self imposed excile ,,,in the time ive been a member ,,i recasll 3 couples that met on here and got married ,,
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RHP User
9 years ago
A lot of the singles I met through here are in relationships with others from here. Moreso than have remained single actually. One couple recently got engaged and are getting married next year. Having said that I've also seen many relationships end from here as well as start but I guess thats the same anywhere in the world.
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RHP User
9 years ago
Whether you view RHP as "Just a sex site," for dating and/or relationships, or as a social networking site... in my experience by joining and participating in any (or all) of the activities provided here, the likelihood of meeting others with similar views, opinions, interests, hobbies, humour, sexual outlook/kinks, likes and dislikes and relationship goals (or lack thereof) is increased. Just as by joining any group, club or social networking site, meeting new people and expanding your social circle will increase the possibility of meeting someone whom you share a connection with and would like to pursue that connection with further. I'm not saying that every contact is going to be a positive one, or that it'll happen right away... if at all... but by being open and engaging the possibilities are there... just as they are everywhere... at work, the supermarket, at a pub/club, a friend's Birthday party/Wedding... how we meet people and strike up conversations can happen anywhere... this site just gives us a common interest/topic of discussion to start with... one that can be difficult to be open about elsewhere.As Annie said:Quoting 'AnnieWhichway' To some of us, sex is important and a vital part to life. Get that part right up front and then tick the rest of the boxes. Better that way in my book than fall in love and put up with an average sex life. During my time(s) on RHP I've met and formed some great friendships... some of them I've even met! Though I've been terrible at maintaining them and have lost contact with many... I do hope that communication could pick up where it left off with a lot of them... the experiences and shared parts of our lives will always be a positive memory for me. Plus, they know too much about me. In terms of relationships... Once, and indirectly via RHP.Regular attendance at a club and meeting friends of a friend I'd met via RHP opened up a whole new social circle for me.Through meeting these people whom I probably never would've met otherwise... I ended up being set up on a blind meet and greet with someone's workmate... locked eyes, instant chemistry, and though both of us were adamant about keeping it exclusively casual... after a few months the L word changed from Like to Love.Though we drifted apart 18 months later and have had other relationships since, I still value her friendship and enjoy catching up for a chat. If and when I get around to actively seeking something serious again... I'd certainly use RHP as a tool to facilitate that... along with other site's and the more "traditional" methods. CheersRusty
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RHP User
9 years ago
You do realise that most people on those "relationship" sites are also here....Why is it necessary to compartmentalise ? We meet people in all sorts of different situations,here is just one of them. Q
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RHP User
9 years ago
roflmao
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RHP User
9 years ago
It perplexes me why some people are so adamant that the 'looking for sex' and 'looking for a relationship' endeavours must be completely separate. They seem almost angry at the idea of people using this site for anything other than sex, as demonstrated by OkeyDoke above. I also suspect that those people make up quite a large proportion of those who partner up with someone they are not sexually compatible with, and who then end up back on sites like RHP to find a bit on the side. Sex is very important to me when I'm in a relationship so the question is really, why wouldn't I consider a relationship with someone from RHP? Particularly given that a traditional, monogamous relationship doesn't really appeal to me anymore, I've got a much better chance of finding someone like-minded on here than I do on eharmony. Like Miss Little I also get annoyed when people tell others how they should be using this site and what they should and shouldn't be looking for here. There is no one correct way to use RHP and if someone is looking for something you don't want to offer then just skip over their profile. Simple.
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RHP User
9 years ago
... but that's because I'm not looking to meet anyone for anything other than friendship. My track record with RHP and meeting people for casual sex is abysmal. I acknowledge that's largely down to me, and not due to a lack of gorgeous men on here. And it's the same with any of the more vanilla dating sites out there that I've tried. I'm just hopeless at it. My two current lovers are people that I've met organically in IRL... I seem to be much more successful at that. However, I agree with the majority of others who have commented... why not use RHP to look for a long term realationship? If I wasn't so hopeless at online dating in general, I would pick RHP to look for a LTR. As Ms_Dragon said, why the need to separate 'looking for sex' and 'looking for a relationship'? And why insist that this is only a sex site and people should only use it as such? For me, it's a platform to meet people first and foremost. If you're just looking for NSA, then skip over those profiles that are open to more and are looking for some strings? It really is that easy.
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RHP User
9 years ago
I suspect you will find more honesty here than with "vanilla" dating sites.And honesty is a good starting point for any relationship.So why not?
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RHP User
9 years ago
I don't think that's such a preposterous suggestion, to keep those after more traditional/committed relationships to your eHarmony and their ilk. Your case is different, yes you're more likely to find BDSM/kink or swinging partners on here and if you want a full-on relationship based around that then, again, yes, here would be better. You are far more likely to be successful here than on (say) eHarmony, where you looking for such things would probably be seen as inappropriate and the only responses you would likely get would be to look for such things on more appropriate sites i.e. this one. Which was kind of the point of my post. And church? Please. Although, having had to endure a Christian girlfriend for way too many years I can tell you some strange shit goes on in religious circles. Not nearly as pure as they make themselves out to be. In fact, countrytouch, you might just find what you're looking for there.
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RHP User
9 years ago
Sorry to hear about the one lady that slipped away. 😔 Would have to agree with everything you said. Rhp is definitely a tool for whatever your looking for. Regardless if it's just to talk on the forum's. 😊 You never know when Love cum's to town.😉 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
I have no worries with skipping over profiles that do not appeal to me, do that all the time as do others. My point is that dating sites and apps seem to be either aimed at those looking for a proper relationship or those looking for more casual relationships or even fleeting encounters. RHP to my eyes sells itself as a ''sex dating'' site, you only need to look at the predominance of sexual imagery and topics on the homepage. Country touch made the same point as you, and I'll concede that those that are after a relationship but not of the traditional (I want love, I want marriage etc etc) variety, like yourself in that you don't want a monogamous relationship are more suited to here than your eHarmony and other such. But what you are seeking is still based around sex, same as country touch. My point was more in reference to the original post in which she refers to looking for a relationship ''other than a sexual one''.
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boobsandbusted
9 years ago
And each to their own to use what ever tools they want for how they want ,that's what makes here so refreshing , very few places left that you don't have to be politically correct and watch people speak their mind Mr b - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
Quoting 'OkeyDoke45' But what you are seeking is still based around sex, same as country touch. My point was more in reference to the original post in which she refers to looking for a relationship ''other than a sexual one''. I said sex is very important to me in a relationship, I didn't say the relationship would be based around sex. You seem to have quite a black and white view of relationships...that they are either based on sex or consist of a traditional pairing in which sex is not really important or considered. Well, I think that view is very limiting and I myself would want a relationship that has both a kickarse sexual component, as well as all the non-sexual aspects that go along with a long term partnership. I daresay that may be what the OP is looking for as well, along with many others here including Country Touch. This idea that once you're looking for a long term relationship you need to forego your sexual interests, and not consider them at all when evaluating a potential partner, is just so self defeating and, well, silly IMO. As the ad says, why not have both?
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EarthQueen
9 years ago
You are a couple so obviously not looking. Is the possibility of two people meeting for sex, possibly connecting, then it changing to something more really that improbable? Quoting 'oralcpl' Seriously a relationship to be found on Rhp ,i think not its the last i would look if i wanted a relationship. - Posted from rhpmobile
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AnnieWhichway
9 years ago
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RHP User
9 years ago
I don't know what profiles you are looking at OP, but pretty much all of the ones I read here (of those with an individualised profile) revolve around sex positivity and related interests, regardless of whether they are seeking a partner or not. I can't see many at all seeking long term monogamy except perhaps with niche sexual interests and variety included, and others would consider with a suitable person. There are generic profiles around but there are also fakes. You are right, if I want a relationship with an amazing sex life this is one of the best places to look. Who seriously is on this site with sex not of any interest to them? In short, I cant see the typical eharmony type profiles on here. Especially when their interests are listed including things like MMF, BDSM, etc etc. On other sites maybe 1 in 100 mention sex in any way. PS I'm an atheist ;) - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
My reply above was to Okeydoke not the OP. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
Quoting 'EarthQueen' You are a couple so obviously not looking. Is the possibility of two people meeting for sex, possibly connecting, then it changing to something more really that improbable? Quoting 'oralcpl' Seriously a relationship to be found on Rhp ,i think not its the last i would look if i wanted a relationship. - Posted from rhpmobile Going by oralcpl's previous forum comments, I'd say it's more a reflection of how they view most of the people on RHP. I'm really not sure what they're doing here considering they are so disgusted by so many of us. They do mirror a view that is still held by many outside RHP though, unfortunately.
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RHP User
9 years ago
...will give you better odds at finding a long lasting relationship. But I'm a heathen. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
...is called friendship.
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RHP User
9 years ago
... that everyone on RHP is here for the same reason. My last two long-term/serious relationships were disastrous and/or lacklustre when it came to sex. The lesson I learnt was - sex, good sex and plenty of regular sex, meant a helluva lot to me. I can feel very stifled and claustrophobic with overly lovey-dovey gestures so sex is one of my love language. It's fun, it releases endorphins, and after a good orgasm...or two...or three, I'm just unbelievably happy and suddenly, no problem is insurmountable. =D So I see nothing wrong with prioritizing sex before jumping into a relationship. I want to know that there's strong sexual chemistry, that we can dance the horizontal tango in perfect synchronization and that sex is not going to be as rare as carpaccio / sashimi. :P I'd go mental without frequent sex so why not be upfront and honest about my libido and acknowledge that if a man's not going to whip out his truncheon to keep me in place often, then I'm not going to stick around and wait for crumbs. For me, regular good sex with someone I'm attracted to is the prelude to a more serious relationship. Here on RHP, I can declare that frankly and unashamedly. On vanilla dating sites, I'd end up wasting a lot of time (again) and sex might not be brought up till the next century and I just can't be excited about that. Don't ask for the bounty when the booty is kept waiting! LOL!
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RHP User
9 years ago
If I were too compartmentalise RHP and eHarmony into "Dating" and "Non-dating", say...then how is that being liberal and one minded..?
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RHP User
9 years ago
correction.... ** Open minded **
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MsBrunette
9 years ago
Relationships are certainly possible from this site. I had 1 for a year. Know many friends on here who date, this site can be whatever u want it to be. Ms Desire 💋 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
...if you have (and should have) some sort of ''grounding'' before messing up the sheets with anyone then there is always the possibility that whatever you have could grow into a relationship. Sex is easy...two or more nekkers people is all it takes. A friendship and/or or a relationship of value is something we all need and want. Try walking around today without breathing...friendships and relationships are like that air. Good luck in your quest. Best......... CM
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RHP User
9 years ago
Would totally use this platform to meet one which I hope will be a enduring relationship. I greet every meet as a potential for it to develop into something more permanent. I never write off any meet as just a "one off" unless that is what the lady wants. I have been fortunate to have met some amazing partners from here before, one long term lasted 9 years and I hope to meet that special one again, unless real life has other ideas for me.
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RHP User
9 years ago
I met my hubby on a train (a red rattler) and to this date people are still surprised and shocked how 'unconventional' that was. Why wouldn't you use RHP, which is an adult dating site, to meet people for whatever reason, including a relationship. In today's day and age it's not uncommon to say 'we met online'. I find RHP far more reliable and appropriate because it is more 'sexual' in nature for most and some of those more challenging concepts of sex and sexuality can be discussed more readily with fellow RHPers :) I've met some amazing people, who I later discovered were on here, sex and friendship, how good is that :) My BF is also on here .... I've started a wonderful relationship with someone from RHP. It's not just for sex but really good people are on here and I've been fortunate to meet so many, a lot of whom I haven't had sex with lol 😂 Mary xx Ps: as an aside, is oralcpl the old Bella?
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86Vintage
9 years ago
Why do we have to be looking for just one type of thing here? And why are sex and a relationship seperate searches? I'm presently single... and whilst my main purpose of being here is to find women I enjoy sharing endless nights of orgasms and naughtyness with... I wouldn't say no to a meaningful relationship if the right woman stumbled across my path. As it happens I've wound up in incredibly serious relationships through here (or somewhere similar) previously. One that we both intended to be a one night stand, wound up with us living together from the first night we met for the next 18 months. I would have married her had our careers not kept us on opposite sides of the country. Another just last year started with every intention of being casual and we wound up realising we enjoyed each other's company out of the bedroom as much as in it. So what started as booty call buddies wound up with us seeing each other every night until life got in the way. Whilst what I look for in a casual sex partner isn't necessarily the same attributes I want in someone for a meaningful relationship... The one doesn't preclude the other in my mind. You never know who you're going to come across in your life, so why limit yourself just because this site happens to be marketed as a place to meet and bang?
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RHP User
9 years ago
RHP people don't take kindly to being told what they should and shouldn't do. It's one of the things I like about them.
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RHP User
9 years ago
Sex and intimacy is so important in a relationship. I can't do the normal boring relationship sites. I like balanced guys like me who live a bit of this and that, have a zest for life. I'm currently in a relationship thanks to RHP and met a few that have successfully found someone on here. It is not without hard work, thought, consciousness and knowing your boundaries. Saying it is easy. Maintaining it is difficult because emotions are all over the place and quite highly likely, there will be miscommunication and misunderstandings but if you can work through it and the person is worth it, then you might just find a treasure to be cherished and who will cherish you back :D - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
If you think sex is important in a relationship, why not? It's a good place to find like-minded individuals. At least you know the other person loves sex too 😁 I started on here not looking, but I found someone on the same level and we're still together and going strong after 4 years. Be open to it and it will come when you least expect it 😊 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
If your that dumb or nieve to think that you can't find someone like minded from rhp regardless of what type of relationship, then I'd suggest you go back into the shed full of shovels an take your pick. ⛏⛏⛏😂😂😂 I've meet some people from here that want a relationship and some that don't. At the end of the day it's finding the right people/friends lover/s that suit you and it's what you want from here.? Have also meet couples who were single on rhp with single profiles before getting married so that myth is broken in my eye's. Why rule anything or anyone out. If it feels right go with it. 😎 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
I been looking for a female partner to have a relationship with me for thr past few months to no avail. Not sharing my partner just sharing me - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
9 years ago
Just read your profile, hope you don't mind the intrusion 😊 but I'm glad I did because that clarified what you meant. I think you are perfectly poised to have that happen, given that your partner is on board, given the thumbs up I mean, perfect situation, just a matter of waiting for that right person to come along. Regardless of the exact dynamic, I think you'd be the envy of many. She'll be worth the wait when you do find her 😃
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Robo355
9 years ago
Quoting 'beczbi' I been looking for a female partner to have a relationship with me for thr past few months to no avail. Not sharing my partner just sharing me - Posted from rhpmobile Your profile say's looking for Woman or Couple FF, have you thought of expanding it to Couple MF, there are a lot of couples with a Bi female in the same situation with a female half who would be happy see you alone, presently you might not appear when they search if they put "looking for me.
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