Quiet one

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  RHP User

  12 years ago

  I was also pretty quiet but learn't that partners aren't mind reader and you just have to let go and express it verbally. Good luck Mel

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  RHP User

  12 years ago

  To a quiet place,a deserted beach for preference.....and gaze at the sky...then shout....Yes,yes,yes,or Oh god yes...Whatever words....even fuck yeah.....I promise this will he a liberating thing to do....the sounds will resonate through your being......and then the next time you are having sex,let it rip xx Q

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  RHP User

  12 years ago

  You are both suggesting Melanie change her behaviour when she hasn't said she wants to. Hi OP, everyone is different, some are better at expressing themselves than others (and some are too good at it, making them bloody annoying!) If you are with a lover that needs you to make noise to see you are having a great time, he is not paying attention.I agree, it's important to let a lover know what you want, but that doesn't necessarily have to be verbal. Are you looking for ways to express yourself verbally or was it a forum to find out if guys like quiet women? x

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  RHP User

  12 years ago

  She said she was shy to speak.....I am a naturally reserved person ,so I know how that feels but I have overcome some of my reserve and I know that vocalising helps......good for opening the chakras too..so hence my reply....and of course some men like women to be quiet:-) xx Q

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  RHP User

  12 years ago

  I don't think it matters if you are quiet or noisy. However for me for the sex to be more enjoyable I do like some sign or feed back that you are enjoying it. And there are many non verbal ways to do this that are fine by me. And I'm sure you find an appreacative lover that will enjoy your silent sex and boy will he get a thrill when you are relaxed and bold enough to become vocal.

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  RHP User

  12 years ago

  you are all right.....each to there own.......NOTHING is wrong in the bedroom.....silence or exhilaration vocalised.sometimes silence is intense and intensely orgasmic. sometimes it is great to play a load.depends on the moment.....the couple.....Kx

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  RHP User

  12 years ago

  Is it shyness to make noise or are you just a quiet person? I'm a naturally quiet person - in and out of the sack. Not to say I'm completely silent, but compared to others I know that I'm relatively quiet (and I'm not an actor, so forcing the noises just feels silly). I'm relatively quiet because I'm quiet, it isn't a shyness issue, I'm not afraid to make noise.

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  RHP User

  12 years ago

  I don't recall a specific forum thread about your question recently but I do recall various comments about it across different threads over time. The general consensus seems to be that lovers like to hear noises from their partners, because it indicates enjoyment and often because it spurs on the lust and activity. Interestingly, there have been many comments from women in the past lamenting the fact that few men make noises. I agree - few men I've slept with have really vocalised their pleasure and I've wished for more sounds at times. Sounds represent feedback and help lovers continue/adjust what they're doing etc. And, to keep it simple, they can be really hot. But I don't think they're essential - practices such as Tantra explore silent sex (among much more) and the intensity of this. A lover can attune themselves to many other cues from you, other than sounds (though it might take a skilled lover for this). I don't orgasm vaginally (dammit!) and I know those times I've felt it was close I just wanted to be dead silent and focused inwards on myself. I'm not shy though, I'm usually rather noisy! So I guess it's up to you and whether you want to embrace the way things are, including finding lovers able to do the same, or whether you want to build your confidence and start vocalising your desire. If you would like to start, one thing you could consider is how much you hold your breath during sex. This is a pretty common thing - that, and tensing muscles - and can make vocalising very difficult. People usually hold their breath instinctively during sex to increase the physical tension and bring on orgasm. My theory is that this is why so many men are silent - holding their breath, tensing their muscles, getting on with the job, focused on the activity their performing and building up to cumming. Ancient schools of thought around sex suggest not holding the breath, staying physical relaxed, breathing deep and spreading sensations all through your body, and using the out breath to vocalise etc. It can take a lot of practice but it's said there are full-bodied, multiple orgasms at the end - for men and women ;) - Posted from rhpmobile

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  erotictouch4u

  12 years ago

  OP, you don't HAVE to be verbal for your partner to know you are enjoying the experience as he should be able to pick up signals from your body...tightening of your stomach region, lifting of your hips, opening of your legs, increased rate of your breathing, etc. Mea, yes some can be annoying with their excessively expressive vocalising, like a porn movie, and it does detract from the pleasure. Q, yes it can allow some of the sexual tensions to flow through the body easier with a little vocalising and it doesn't need to be loud or crass. Maybe a previous experience with an old boyfriend being caught by parents or kids or hearing her parents one night has made you shy or just timid by nature, not wanting to draw attention to yourself. Time and a patient lover will help you to be as expressive as you want to be, not what others say you should be. ET xox

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  Smilingwithfun

  12 years ago

  Usually vocalisation is the easiest way to let a partner know what you like or don't like. When one hits the spot, so to speak. As long as you are able to do this in other ways then I can't see being not a screamer a problem.

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  Smilingwithfun

  12 years ago

  You could always practise the Harry met Sally scenario.

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  RHP User

  12 years ago

  If this is what you are comfortable with, then don't change just grow.... You say your shy, but not in bed, it might be that when you are comfortable with a person it might change and you want to become more vocal....... I know one specific RHPr (not me) who does soft moans, however her body language is exquisite to watch and whoever she is with follows those leads easily........... As I said, let yourself grow with your experiences and comfort levels, never change to keep someone else happy. Enjoy

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  RHP User

  12 years ago

  If you are at ease with someone who makes you feel comfortable you will lose the shyness :)

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  RHP User

  12 years ago

  Quoting 'Meander' You are both suggesting Melanie change her behaviour when she hasn't said she wants to. Hi OP, everyone is different, some are better at expressing themselves than others (and some are too good at it, making them bloody annoying!) If you are with a lover that needs you to make noise to see you are having a great time, he is not paying attention.I agree, it's important to let a lover know what you want, but that doesn't necessarily have to be verbal. Are you looking for ways to express yourself verbally or was it a forum to find out if guys like quiet women? x But wasn't trying to suggest that the Op has to behave in a certain way. Was just saying that I used to be shy and quiet .... so I know where she is coming from and adding a point that (for me anyway) its a lot easier to read women's cues on what feels good for her when she is giving a bit of verbal cue's - groans, I like that etc etc Cheers, W

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  RHP User

  12 years ago

  and nobody ever complained - that said now I am on the more vocal end of the spectrum it has made it easier to connect at times. but i also like being quiet at times do what feels right to you at the time xx Wren

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  RHP User

  12 years ago

  First thing to remember..... You are never going to make everyone happy with every aspect of you. So.... Don't feel like you have to conform to a mould that is anything other than you.... We as adults worry way too much about about how we're perceived that we forget that it matters not about how others see us, but how WE see us...... Fuck.....now I need a tampon for that nose bleed ;) - Posted from rhpmobile

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