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Quality or Quantity
January 19 2022
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Ex007
4 years ago
You’re right Shells everyone changes and goes through different stages. I just updated my profile accordingly.
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RHP User
4 years ago
Always have and always will look for quality special time with one single person over quantity. I don't judge those who have differing opinions on the matter, everyone has their phases and stages. Just don't approach what you want with me, if it's not what I want.
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Sawadee
4 years ago
l am both adventurous and cautious. The one thing this lifestyle taught me is time waits for no one .. The more you procastinate the less you experience. Not saying go gung ho ( this is the causious me ) but overthinking can destroy the things you could be enjoying....
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Snafandherman
4 years ago
As we are new to this it’s about quality for us, somebody that we can have a connection with ! Once we’ve had some more experience that might change 🤣
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ElectricDreamers
4 years ago
I've always loved a quality adventure. Sometimes I find that in a journey, sometimes in a person and sometimes by being open to changing my perspective on something that never changes itself.
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FeistyFatty
4 years ago
I am in a Quality phase at the moment. But I must admit, I do still have my weeks where I absolutely cut sick. These periods I'm just totally insatiable and frenzied, inviting men to play purely on physical attraction and the size of their cock.... Both phases have pro's and cons but it's all enjoyable.
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Cucknshells
4 years ago
Loving all your responses. Food for thought. xx
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RHP User
4 years ago
I am def about quality. The whole learning/discovery experience of what makes someone tick is really something that I enjoy. however there have been times I have had one night stands, flings what ever you call them (I hate these phrases) where a genuine connection has been felt between both but for one reason or another ( normally when I was travelling 40 plus weeks a year) it was going to be hard to maintain. I look back on these still has quality not quantity because of the connections felt??
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countrytouch82
4 years ago
I've always been looking for long term (quality), pre 30 shied away from the idea of what people might call quick and easy, but in any case either didn't eventuate. Post 30 after new experience/s, I decided short term, or one off, or parties or single invites, for fantasy experiences could reasonably be achieved *while still looking and seeking for LTR or quality. In any case, some physical and emotional connection experiences either in quality or quantity, would serve as useful to put into long term connections. I felt that one might wait forever if only waiting for the ideal quality and ongoing experience, and end up experiencing nothing in the meantime. And having no experience may sometimes seen by others as worse than having only short quantity based experiences. Even while seeking both types, the ones with a real quality have been the ones that naturally endure, in a physical sense and/or in strength of memory.
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Yellowpenguins
4 years ago
Quality here
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RHP User
4 years ago
Can't say I have every gone through different phases. I've never had a short term lover or ONS. The build up of getting to know someone personally, their likes, needs and wants is worth the wait.
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RHP User
4 years ago
I’m all for quality, the nature of the quality time however can change quite dramatically. After the last two years in particular I find preferences have of course changed, It’s greatly reduced the number of people I’m willing to exchange bodily fluids with but the people I do spend time with are my people who of course I consider to be of good quality and I’m absolutely loving it, thanks covid 😊
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teamaj2
4 years ago
Good topic- We are definitely a quality couple . Years ago when we first dipped our toes ( and everything else ) into the waters of exploration we perhaps were hasty in quick meetups before knowing people and took some risks . We possibly wanted or thought we wanted quantity . We found out , for us , very quickly being cautious and perhaps a little more selective in our choices turns out for a better outcome . All experiences are worthwhile even if they are a learning curve . Life as it’s been for the past two years has definitely made us even more cautious. We are not willing to risk our health and well being . There is definitely a few things on our ‘bucket list ‘ . We are happy to be patient and wait for quality encounters . The past two years mean we miss events, the social side and meeting new people . Going to events enabled us to be impulsive , experience different people that we may have overlooked. Sadly we aren’t ready to go there once again . Ax
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Alex_Lover
4 years ago
We only started last May, so all our experience has been during a pandemic, which has made things difficult at times. We've had 10+ dates (some play dates) cancelled because of lock downs, and outbreaks. We didn't choose the best time to head down this path. Given we're still new, we're in a taking things slow, looking for quality experiences, with good people mode. As I say that, I don't see us moving into a quantity with rando's mode anytime... but who knows. Much of what has happened the past year wasn't the direction we planned to go. - Alex.
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RHP User
4 years ago
I feel that I've experienced alot since joining 9 yrs ago. It has been positive mostly and lots of fun. Now though I'd only like to explore more if I was in a secure relationship. Being single at my age see's you getting treated poorly quite alot just by how others view you. So I hang on for the right person and enjoy the quality of company in every aspect. I'm just not tolerant of being treated less than what I desire.
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blix_and_queen
4 years ago
Always quality. rather go without then just go for quantity.
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RHP User
4 years ago
Enduring passionate love, emotional, intellectual and physical intimacy, without complications, insecurities or guilt. Not asking for much, hey. But I am grateful that I've experienced different combinations of those elements at different times with some wonderful people. When I first joined this site I felt like a dog let off a leash. I thought I am a very experimental person. But after a few conversations with people here and the prospect of some fantasies becoming reality, I realised that the casual, nsa thing is really not for me. I'd rather be alone and keep to myself. I'm even quite squeamish about bodily fluids where there's no love. So this is no doubt the wrong site for me, although it's interesting to see how different people can be. I don't think love is very likely to be found through any web site, or by looking for it in general. It happens by chance or fate when the stars align the right way, if you're open to it. Finding communities of people with similar interests and values can be a big help, although this hasn't been possible during the lockdowns.
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nightingale8
4 years ago
Can we just say that no one is looking for low quality and that the choice is never binary? (What about lots of great sex lol). “Seeking quality” is often code for “I won’t lower my standards”. Sure. But would you? Ahaha
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Cucknshells
4 years ago
Thank you all for your responses. All awesome. When I started this journey I was 42 and it was like being a kid in a candy store. I wanted to tick off multiple things on my fucked list. I wanted to experience a lot and felt like I had a limited amount of time before I got too old. However now being nearly 54 and going through menopause and suffering from anxiety I am not as adventitious as I once was. Being in lock down hasn't help. So for me now I am happy with very limited great experiences. I am not keen on taking risks or putting myself out there. My confidence isn't what it used to be. Hopefully though after this stage I will blossom again. There is still a lot I want to experience. Shells xx
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RHP User
4 years ago
Quality. For me that is...😘
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2EssesExploring
4 years ago
I am paying more attention to just how fucked up our civilisation is and although I’d love to be god and fix all the evil I am getting some contentment in trying to live a more self sufficient life, helping people and raising two wonderful little men to be future positive forces. I have things I want to acquire or do or see but really I have all I need and I’m thankful for that.
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RHP User
4 years ago
... to meet someone who awakens passion and longing. To love and to be loved passionately.
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MsJonesy
4 years ago
Well I have had a pretty torrid time over the last 2+ years (since the beginning of January 2020), with a hugely stressful load in both my personal and professional life. I pretty much shut up shop in reference to my 'fun' life (which is what RHP usually provides in a variety of ways 😁). In the last 3-4 months I've managed to significantly reduce my professional workload and therefore my stress levels, and family members who were in such a bad state have stabilised and are not needing such high levels of support any more. But that doesn't mean I am ready to jump into the ring again. I've still got the brake on, idling in neutral. Don't even know if that will change. I've been on this site for many years, firstly with a partner, and then for a long time by myself. I've had a bloody magnificent time! But am I ready to launch again.... no...... not yet. And that is absolutely fine.
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