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  RHP User

  16 years ago

  My dear friend, I'm afraid you may be delusional...there are no females on this site, only men and a few couples...

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  RHP User

  16 years ago

  definitely a photo how else are we to determine if there is an attraction and secondly something anything about yourself and what your looking for i hate the standard responses its all in the details and be honest ...women also hate it when guys say something then mean another we dont need to be handled with kid gloves say what u mean and mean what u say i say....xx

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  RHP User

  16 years ago

  I posted this a year or so ago but under the local victorian section under "How to be Successfull on this site for men". It's a bit of a read, but hopefully you get the idea.   Of course there are always going to be some exceptions, like with a lot of things. ie. some woman love blatant cock shots and photos of you playing with another woman, and others don't. Some like lots of details, others like more ambiguity. This is just a general guideline if you like.   hope it's some help.       Ok, I've noticed lately a few men asking where they're going wrong, why aren't they getting any kind of success with women on this site... The fact of the matter is, there's just way too many men for every one woman. Look at the number of people online, and the number of women looking for men, compared to the number of men looking for women...it works out roughly to be around about 10 men for every 1 woman. It's stiff competition. Anyway, I came across a post from a similar forum from a lady who addressed the issues more succinctly and articulately than anything I could ever write... I'm aware the reality is that the people who need to read this won't, or aren't even aware of this section of rhp, but to those that have somehow filtered through...hope this is of some help... ***************************************************** ***************************************************** ***************************************************** There are so many questions posted by members on how to improve their chances of meeting up potential partners that I thought I'd share some insights for the guys, from a womans point of view. after all, our view counts as we're the ones your trying to make an impression on! take them or leave them as you will. THE PROFILE your profile is the first impression a woman will have of you. if you look at your profile, would you be interested in you? Take a few minutes and give it some thought. You have to not think like a guy. after all you're not attracting guys. and If you are, then keep thinking like a guy. this is basic marketing- writing TO YOUR AUDIENCE. not to yourself. Saying "yea I'm god's gift to women" might impress you, it wont impress her. enough said. Be yourself. be upfront and honest. share some things about you that doesn't pertain to your sexual preferences. any hobbies? anecdotes? pets? let some of your personality come through. Women know this is a site to find sex partners. we know you want to have sex, thats a given. what we Do want to find out is if youre also a good person, sane, not a psycho axe murderer. just stating "your here to have fun and sex" isn't enough foreplay for us to want to write you back. THE PHOTO ok this can be a deal maker or breaker, and here's where you should put in a little effort. Man there are some awful photos on this site. for the most part, guys think right up front in your face. women tend to be more creative romantic thinkers. its just the way the two brains are wired. Putting a photo of a close up of your dick head so we can see every pore and freckle isn't going to have the same impact as your naked form silhouetted against a window. if you're more inclined to a face shot, make sure we can see your face! take off glasses and hats. Un-clutter the area so we can clearly see you. smile. look alive. see what angles your face looks best at and use that angle! double chins shouldn't be taken full on as it makes the face look bigger, for example. the body shot can be more particular. if you aren't in the best of shapes (round not being a shape here), consider angles to show off your best attributes. have a cute butt? great legs? show us! standing like a schlub with a belly hanging over a cock is never ever going to be attractive, neither is obviously sucking your stomach in to disguise the fact that your chest has slipped majorly. try lying down. or on your side. the spread leg thing either on your back or bend over from behind will have you viewed by every gay/bi guy on the site. you've been warned. THE DICK PHOTO I'm sure some women feel differently than this but unless you have a truly superior dick, be very careful about these shots. some NO-NO's: - so close that we can see hair follicles and pores - just the head, or barely sticking out from a thick thatch of hair - the underside of your dick. - Any photo that includes you doing ANYTHING to another woman. (if you have her, what do you need us for? it turns YOU on, it doesn't turn us on) - having 4-5 dick shots on your profile is also an overkill. Again, women are more creative romantic thinkers. not IN YOUR FACE. There is something to be said for a little mystery. a good pose. THE SEARCH So, you've found someone who interests you. PAY ATTENTION TO THEIR PROFILE. we say what we mean on it. if it states no guys under 30 and you're 24, DON'T WRITE. unless of course, you like rejection letters or not getting responses at all. if she says she's looking for women, DON'T WRITE. if she says she's looking for single guys and your married, DON'T WRITE. getting the picture here? regardless of how hot she is, RESPECT what she's looking for. if you've signed on with a standard membership and are sitting back wondering why women don't write, its because most women don't really browse men. women get so many emails they can for the most part, pick and choose. there are very few woman who actually have a paid memberships so cant initiate email contact. sorry, thats just the way it is. you need to be able to initiate contact with us! winking is fine, but if she cant email you, you're winking up a dead end. THE EMAIL now. first of all, BE POLITE! jeez. regardless of what sort of site this is, a little politeness goes a long way. very rarely will a "WANNA FUCK TONITE" email get responded to in the way you want. most women aren't sitting around with their legs spread waiting for the first dick wagged in their direction! You want to think of communicating via email like a ping pong game. The idea is to get the conversation flowing back and forth between the players. Open-ended questions are the types where the other person can answer with more than a yes or no. For example, "I see you enjoy bungee jumping. how long have you been doing that for? where's your favorite place to jump?" closed ended questions only require yes or no for an answer and you've dropped the ball. conversation closed. You want to avoid them. Statements that dont require any sort of response are also best avoided. Don't send personal information in a first email. no phone numbers, no instant messengers, no regular email addresses. it comes across as being desperate which is in no way attractive to women. You also don't know if the woman who seems good on paper is actually a desperate stalker. If you get a decline of any form, move on graciously. calling her a slut or bitch or lesbian because she's not attracted to you only confirms that you weren't her type anyway. there are tons of fish in the sea. You men have so much competition you need to make yourselves stand out in a crowd and stand out to the women you're trying to attract. You MUST put forth the effort if you want success. It's very one sided, but that's how things are on here. yes this is a site to find sexual partners among other things. However, it is not your "right" to get laid once you get on the site. nor is it our "obligation" to spread legs to any guy who writes to us. Regardless of what sort of photo a woman has up DO NOT THINK FOR ONE MINUTE that this woman is a whore. you aren't going to be paying her anything. she'll only meet you if she's attracted to your photo, profile and messages. And she's better at advertising herself than you are because she put up what attracted YOU to her profile. (remember men=in your face women=creative romantic) WOMEN ALSO NEED TO FEEL A CERTAIN SENSE OF SAFETY WITH ANY MAN WE DECIDE TO MEET. just something to keep in mind. And we've come to the conclusion of how to be successful 101. Your homework is to revamp your profiles and take a better photo than the one you have up by next week. yes there will be a test. ok no there wont, but I do hope y'all have picked up enough to tweak your own profiles and have some success on this site. best of luck finding what you're looking for

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  RHP User

  16 years ago

  Yep.. A good pix always a start... Boys shy away from cock pix... Seen 1 seen em all.. Lol.. Also the bulk of fem profiles on here are guests so if your pix are restricted we can't see them.. Start with a body or face pic.. Then with your profile shy away from the profile builder... That just shows how slack you are.. Take the time and tell us a bit about your self.. what you like to do!! what your aim is on here, Looking for and hoping to find... I'm soo tired of reading... I have a high sex drive... To me and maybe others that just translates to "I will fuck just about anything"... Oh and if you really want to add cock pix... there's 2 pg's for those!!   And remember.. Be you, be real and be honest...   Pixie xxx

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  RHP User

  16 years ago

  Wow that pretty much sums it up!  Personally, I don't mind too much having msn addresses included in the first or second message though.  Then again, I hadn't considered the stalker issue....plus I guess you'd have to be careful that the profile was validated and it was actually a woman you were talking to.   One thing that I'm going to put out there though which I am curious to hear other peoples viewpoints on.... Don't be pushy or seriously expect to arrange a meet after 5 mins of chatting - go in without any expectations at all!    I get that this is a 'sex site' and I get that people are here expecting & wanting different things, but the other day I was full on abused by a guy and called a '*(#$& time waster' because 'he wasn't on RHP to chat but to get laid' all because I politely declined his offer to meet him in a couple of days time but said I was happy to keep chatting!  I am hoping that this guy was in the minority, but FFS just because you actually get a positive response to a message or an msn addy in the chat room it doesn't mean that's it, your work is done & you're going to get your end wet!  Grrrrr!   S xox

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  RHP User

  16 years ago

  I am part of a couple but as a female what I do and do not like in a profile varies quite a bit from Andy. Please keep in mind I am only speaking for myself here, not all females, but there will probably be some similarities with others.   Main Photo...Face or Torso (I think dicks are best left in PG)   Humour is always great but as not everyone has the same idea of what is funny it can be tricky. I prefer clever or cheeky to cras.   I always read a profile in full before messaging or flirting. be open about what you want and be sexy rather than lewd. taking the time to write something on your profile that is more than one or two lines is preferable and I really do not like those generic one liners provided by RHP, it shows no effort.   Hmm, what else?...Oh yeah...answer everything do not just put ask me, or if you do explain why.   xxSal

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  RHP User

  16 years ago

  Honesty is a good start for a profile and something different to the profile builder that shows your personalitypet hate is all the "ask me" in the multiple choice part about youas for pics...an up to date one is always a bonus

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  RHP User

  16 years ago

  Photo is most important thing. Bugs me when people say they will email one as I don't want to give my email out to every Tom or Richard. The other thing for me is kind of petty I guess, but spelling. Please check you have spelt correctly. Just my thing perhaps but when someone says they can be discriet, kind of makes me wonder if they actually know what that means.

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