Poly amorous life

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  RHP User

  10 years ago

  You may have worded it badly, but if you find it hard to put up with others for any length of time then I think that you may have some trouble with Poly relationships as well. They are still relationships and are ethically based. You still care for the other person, but they know that there are others involved. It is not about meeting only your own needs. The whole idea (in whatever type of relationship) is to find people with compatible needs and wants. If you are open and honest about yours (both to yourself and others) then you have a far greater chance of finding what you want. Being able to communicate with someone about your needs and listening to them about theirs may enable the jealousy to be minimised. It is this type of communication that is essential. Often in a monogamous relationship people are afraid to communicate their thoughts/feelings about others as they think it will offend their partner. However this has to be on the table in a poly relationship. Being able to do so and then work through those discussions is (I believe) essential in ensuring the success of a relationship. And wanting each other to be happy goes a long way to ensuring a Poly relationship works.

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  RHP User

  10 years ago

  I couldnt stand being in a polyamirous relationship, it just wouldnt work. But I am lucky enough to be in an open relationship which allows me to have my man and primary relationship and play with guys for fun. Have you considered an open relationship? And will it be ok for your partner to play with others too? - Posted from rhpmobile

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  RHP User

  10 years ago

  Ds, poly really isn't about spending less time on or putting less effort into your relationships. Poly would only magnify your current issues. If you're needing to 'deal' with your partners I'd personally avoid close relationships all together. When you are ready to prioritize your partner, their needs will not be any kind of chore to meet. - Posted from rhpmobile

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