Partners in Crime

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  RHP User

  14 years ago

  Several of 'em.

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  RHP User

  14 years ago

  There are friends and there are friends... I have my friends that I talk normal everyday shit with, and then I have just 2 that I can tell absolutely anything to... ranging from how godamn horny I am to the best way to depilate my nether region. In fact I was just telling one of my girlfriends a few intimate details of a get together the other day, when I stopped and said, 'oooh maybe thats a little TMI?' she burst out laughing and replied that nothing I could say would surprise her any more... I do indeed tell these two women everything, it's wonderful to have that connection with someone, and to know that you are not going to be judged for something that you enjoy doing, and that doesn't harm anyone else, which is bottom line all that really matters. Yep a girls gotta have a couple of those friends where nothing is taboo.

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  RHP User

  14 years ago

  I have a few circles of friends, some very close, others that I see rarely. I talk about anything and everything... except for sex! I'm insanely private about my sex life. I think it's a combination of revulsion at braggers, and a desire not to be seen as a 'slut' (the types I like tend not to go for the man-whores.) I'll happily talk about their sex life if they want to, but I won't bring it up.I think it's why I've taken so much to RHP here, and the online friends I've made through it. Starting friendships where sex has been the initial draw-card has been great! Sex is on the table (in the shower, on the washing machine etc.)I think guys tend to either have jockeying banter about sex, or keep it light on details. It always amazes me how much girls share with each other (and makes me put in that little bit extra effort, in the hypocritical hope word gets out!)

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  RHP User

  14 years ago

  I recently got into a spot of strife regarding being on this site, and as I was a bit down in the dumps, my best girlfriend of 10 years asked me what was going on. In the last couple of years she's joined her local church, and while it has put a bit of a fence up regarding what I tell her about my dating life, she gets offended when I don't keep her up to date on what I get up to.. Anyway, so I told her a general gist of the type of site this is, I just said it was an 'adult dating' site rather than a 'swingers site and place to find hot, sexy, threesomes and groups site'.   Then comes the barrage of texts going, 'it wouldn't be such a bad thing giving up the site to avoid conflict', and 'I'm worried about your safety', and 'People on those sites form short, selfish relationships and I don't understand how people can do that for sex'. I was quite close to throwing my phone on the floor, if I only wasn't on the train into work at the time.   I did hesitate for a very long time before mentioning this side of my life to any of my close friends, but for security reasons I ended up telling two other girlfriends, both of whom surprisingly take it all in, teasingly ask for details, and check up on me the morning after play dates. They're absolutely gorgeous girls...

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  RHP User

  14 years ago

  Im the type of woman who doesnt make female friends very easily....apparently its got something to do with being too openly sexual for most women - or maybe Im just too much of a slut for most women to handle - anyhoo....there a few ladies in my life (yes I did just call you ladies mwahahahaha) that I can say anything to and know that its not going to be a problem.   Of course my male friends just find my antics too amusing and weirdly it make me one of the boys because they can then discuss their own antics infront of me without feeling embarrassed or that I might take offence to whats being discussed.   Kisses Focus   PS Yes some of these special women in my life are on RHP and do read/contribute to the forums. Some I knew before RHP and a very special lady I met on here, even during my hiatus we still kept in touch and I value her friendship even more than some people I have known most of my life.

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  RHP User

  14 years ago

  Just gotta love those born again christians! I find them to be mostly Self righteous and judgemental.A bit like reformed smokers sometimes are.I hardly see sections of my family anymore because I can't stand their attitude.Cheers Felonius...not a god botherer

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  RHP User

  14 years ago

  ... Krissy_G said :-) There's a mixed bunch for me. I have one girlfriend which encourages my "wickedness", another who blushes at the mere mention of anything slightly saucy (but gawd she's just gorgeous) & one "partner-in-crime" for sexy banter. KK xx

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  RHP User

  14 years ago

  I got told by an ex employer, years ago (and he was half my age back then), everyone should have at least One friend, who they tell anything and everything to, no matter what the subject. He also said that this person doesn't necessarily have to agree with your point of view, its just important to have that avenue to vent.I am blessed to now have 3 of such friends, 2 ladies and a guy. One lady I went to school with, and I do suspect she wants more than just the very open friendship we share, but alas, distance is an issue, what with over 800 kms between us. The other lady is a relative newbie in the friends department. Met her on a cruise. And the guy, well, we met during my time as a man in uniform (he still is) but its only recently that we have both arrived at a place in our lives, where sharing *anything* is possible.I value all 3 highly. Unless one has friends like this, it is very hard indeed to cope with some of the things life sends us, or we go searching for.

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  RHP User

  14 years ago

  It really is difficult to be great friends with someone if you're actively working to keep your sex life from them. Casual friends? Who cares?

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  RHP User

  14 years ago

  Felonius   I have a few born agains in my family and they respect me for who I am.   One of them told me he loves readibg my facebook page because its so interesting and he never knows what Im going to get up to next.   Guess Im lucky that my family accepts me for who I am and those that dont like it avoid me.

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  RHP User

  14 years ago

  Agree with neptune_drift, I am always surprise how much stuffs girls are telling each other. They are always more open sexually than men, which I think is really cool.   To reply to the post, yeah it's nice to have someone who you can talk about everything to. But relationships take tim to develop, you want to know whether you can trust the person that he/she won't be telling your stories to everyone. Maybe your friends don't feel that they are close enough to be talking about such things.

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  RHP User

  14 years ago

  Once again I am reminded how truly lucky I am in my life and with the people I share my life with. I have an amazing bunch of sexually open friends who don't gasp or tut-tut when I mention any escapades and who, at the most, roll their eyes when I fill them in on something dirty and debauched I've done.Of course, I'm a nice girl who happens to like sex, a lot. I think my open and honest nature can be detrimental to other areas of my life, for example, I'm not exactly girlfriend material despite being independant, great career, nurturing and caring personality, fun hobbies and having great boobs.I could just lie about what I like and what I get up to, but why should I? Discreet really isn't in my vocabulary.I <3 my friends though who keep me sane through it all.

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  14 years ago

  Quoting 'City_Kitty' I recently got into a spot of strife regarding being on this site, and as I was a bit down in the dumps, my best girlfriend of 10 years asked me what was going on. In the last couple of years she's joined her local church, and while it has put a bit of a fence up regarding what I tell her about my dating life, she gets offended when I don't keep her up to date on what I get up to.. Anyway, so I told her a general gist of the type of site this is, I just said it was an 'adult dating' site rather than a 'swingers site and place to find hot, sexy, threesomes and groups site'.   Then comes the barrage of texts going, 'it wouldn't be such a bad thing giving up the site to avoid conflict', and 'I'm worried about your safety', and 'People on those sites form short, selfish relationships and I don't understand how people can do that for sex'. I was quite close to throwing my phone on the floor, if I only wasn't on the train into work at the time.   I did hesitate for a very long time before mentioning this side of my life to any of my close friends, but for security reasons I ended up telling two other girlfriends, both of whom surprisingly take it all in, teasingly ask for details, and check up on me the morning after play dates. They're absolutely gorgeous girls...

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  RHP User

  14 years ago

  I had two close friends, Ms A who was closely involved with the church and Ms B who was sexually open. When I opened up to them about what I did Ms B found it rather distasteful and yet Ms A was fine with it and happy to know how I was going and to listen to all the gory details of my activities. In the end Ms B didn't want to associate with me but Ms A and I became very close friends. Just goes to show that you can't judge a book by the cover (or the label).It is nice to have someone who isn't judgemental that we can confide in, not have to watch what we say or "vanillarise" experiences. It's also nice to be able to leave the dungeon door open. We have quite a few people who are intrigued by the fact that we have a large area for "personal space" that we never open.

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  14 years ago

  I had two close friends, Ms A who was closely involved with the church and Ms B who was sexually open. When I opened up to them about what I did Ms B found it rather distasteful and yet Ms A was fine with it and happy to know how I was going and to listen to all the gory details of my activities. In the end Ms B didn't want to associate with me but Ms A and I became very close friends. Just goes to show that you can't judge a book by the cover (or the label).It is nice to have someone who isn't judgemental that we can confide in, not have to watch what we say or "vanillarise" experiences. It's also nice to be able to leave the dungeon door open. We have quite a few people who are intrigued by the fact that we have a large area for "personal space" that we never open.

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  RHP User

  14 years ago

  I have a couple of friends who know we live this lifestyle but it's certainly not something I would share with just anyone.Those with whom I've shared our secret have been supportive, not judgemental at all and very happy to let me be myself. Truth be told, even though I don't declare it from the roof-top, I think my personality and general openness with sexual topics meant that they really weren't at all surprised when I told them. Of course, there were lots of questions that I answered openly and without embarrassment.And now, we love it that we have a couple of very special muggle friends that we can just be ourselves with and I'd feel saddened if those friendships were lost.Powerminxx...so long as you chose your new friends carefully and allow a bit of time for them to get to know you, I'm sure you can find people to share yourself with openly again. Good friends are entirely precious and like anything precious, can be hard to find - but worth it when you do.Kisses,Jak

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