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PLEASE READ PROFILES BEFORE WRITING OR FLIRTING
September 17 2009
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RHP User
16 years ago
We understand you completely it's so frustrating when people don't read the profiles first! It says we would like to meet up before doing anything because we don't feel comfortable playing with someone without even knowing them and we put ages 18-25 on there for a reason too yet we still get msgs/flirts from people a lot older than us and people wanting to jump straight into things. We know majority of the people on here are 30 and above that's why we put the age limit on so we don't waste anyones time so why can't people not waste ours? We're sure everyone on here can read so why can't people respect each other's choices.
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RHP User
16 years ago
The only people who may take heed to what you are saying are the ones that read or respond to these forums. Not many do, its the same old same old people. So looks like your out of luck. It takes half a second to block someone.
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RHP User
16 years ago
I completely agree with your post regarding reading profiles Donna_Brett... I really enjoy reading them and try to respect what people write. My question is though... what does everyone seem to have against flirts? I'd love just to send a flirt to say "loved your profile" or "you're hot" (I'm looking at you MissBJ ;-)) but most people seem to consider them a waste of time unless they're getting followed up... can't a girl send a compliment these days anymore? LOL
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RHP User
16 years ago
Sometimes I see a profile where that person or couple has said, posted or done something that prompts me to want to communicate with them privately. Not about hooking up... just about being social. perhaps to simply compliment without any expectation of reciprosity. But then I read the profile with the don't this and the scowling negativity and for some of them I think... meah. Why would I want to communicate with that fugly mind. Don't get me wrong, I understand the problem of being barraged with people effectively saying 'you wanna root' and the need to discourage it, but some of these profiles forget to communicate anything about themselves except all the discouragements.... and this makes them come across as self centred piggies. Yeah, people should read profiles.... But start with reading their own carefully! Hugs Gaz
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RHP User
16 years ago
I agree totally, the amount of messages we get about single guys wanting to hook up is so annoying, especialy when our profile clearly states on our profile " No single guys".It then amazes us when they get their noses out of joint when you respond to them telling them they should read profiles before wasting their messages and flirts.Leesa
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RHP User
16 years ago
like gazza says, sometimes u just want to say hello and pursue a friendship and not sex...Naturally one tries and respects someone's wishes, but sometimes i accidentally hit the SEND MESSAGE... and then somehow my fingers just type away without me knowing......heheso, sue me!!!, or is that soo me!!!...cheers...jose
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RHP User
16 years ago
We read the profiles thoroughly and I often find it confusing. Example - Last night found two profile pics that were of interest to us. Up the top it said interested in Single Ladies and Couples.....but the read the text at the bottom and they say single ladies only. So why put couples up the top???? Are they hoping the lady will play seperately???? Well don't list freaking couples then cause you just wasted 10min of my time. Profiles annoy me! K.
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RHP User
16 years ago
BUT I"LL BET THIS IS ONE WAY TO GET EVERYONE TO LOOK AT YOUR PROFILE HUH I TOOK NOTE OF THE FIRST NOTE ON YOUR PROFILE... SORRY! and despite deciding then that the attitude would never suit us I read on to note the rest of your 'friendly' profile mmmmph.I noted that you had men in your looking for preferences (probably why they waste time looking at your profile to start with) but next are the mentions of guys in your profile: FIRST...IF YOU ARE A MALE WHO IS BI, BI CURIOUS or EXPERIMENTAL READ NO FURTHER...WE ARE NOT INTERESTED!All others please read on..... GUYS... we now have enough to choose from for the Gang Bang..thanks for the great response!!! : ) However we WILL contact you if we want you. Anyone who keeps messaging asking over & over if they can come will be blocked! Thank you!How about putting the poor suckers out of their misery if you've decided you don't want them at your gang bang and REPLY to the messages they sent you at your request??? It's not at all hard to set up a template to show some manners by saying thnx but no thnx... We make sure reply to every person that contacts us with respect and have only ever had one seriously asshole message in reply! (I admit we are a bit behind in replying atm but do have an update that we're currently not looking so as not to waste peoples time or messages).How many times must it be said??? Say it as often as you like... people are not machines!Anyhow, it was interesting reading your post today, it made a change to hear someone complaining that they get too much attention lmfao rather than me feeling sorry for the guys that post here wondering why they never get responses to the messages they send with good intent... sophie_74... you can send us a flirt anytime ;-) We'll reply with 'Thnx, flattery will get you everywhere' to say thnx although it won't really get you anywhere hehehe. I would so love a simple thank you flirt to save confusion. I gave up on sending 'Hot or What' flirts cos it generated too much confusion despite the UPDATE on our profile lol. Part of the reason we are behind on replies atm lol. We are interested but our dance card is full and we don't like to send the 'raincheck' flirt after reading on another post what RHPers think it means... I couldn't agree more with Gaz!!! CI... If you are not interested in single guys it would prob help if you take them off your seeking preferences to save wasting men's time who are looking for couples that ARE seeking single men... From reading your profile you're not looking to play at all, yet you are seeking everyone, perhaps your business profile and your personal profiles COULD be kept separate to save confusing people that are seeking players... and not trying to access a club? Hehehehe COMEANDGETME, you are a vewy vewy nawty boy hehehe HugsMrs P
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RHP User
16 years ago
....I have been very politely informed by RHP that I am not in your Gender Group, Age Group or Relationship Group preferences.. so I chose "send anyway" anyway.... flirt sent ;-) Your profile is absolutely hands down the politest way I've ever seen to say "Bugger off ... we're not interested" ....and so much NICER to read :-) please please please tell me what "raincheck" means to RHPers, I must have been busy sending annoying random flirts to people and missed it LOL
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RHP User
16 years ago
now if we got the new seeking preference 'friends' I mentioned on the Suggestion thread this morning, that would solve that wouldn't it hehehe Thank you... I think lololol. Nah, glad you enjoyed the read, our profile is meant to attract people not drive them away hahahaha. It's meant to be fun ain't it I think we can call on Miss Honey when she's online later to properly moderate your improper behaviour rofl!!! But cos ya asked soooo nicely, check out Gaz' thread on 'rainchecks @ http://www.redhotpie.com.au/Forum/What-does-take-a-rain-check-mean-exactly-to-you-24242 Big hugs Deb
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RHP User
16 years ago
I disagree with Blue_Movies that you're wasting your time posting here though I think your post is a waste of time as we answered this one by you just over a month ago.@ http://www.redhotpie.com.au/Forum/Does-anyone-actually-read-profiles-before-flirting-or-messaging-24401 Hundreds of people at the very least post, some more often than others and there's bound to be a huge proportion more that read and never post. I noticed that when I first posted the 'Hot or What? thread. The stats on the pics rose immediately and abruptly which said to me that people had at least read the thread even if they hadn't posted on it.And frankly, we get lots of messages that don't match. Rather than taking it negatively, we appreciate the implied compliment and send a template as we say we will on our profile saying...Hi,it was lovely to receive your mail, thank you.But some of the details on your profile are not quite what we were looking for.Again, thank you & all the best with your search ;-)peachypear How hard is that? And if that really doesn't work... like Blue_Movies said... it only takes half a second to block someone!CheersMrs P
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RHP User
16 years ago
I love reading your posts MrsP xooxoxoxoxoxoxoxoxox MWAHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHHH. Meh.....I am going through a phase atm with these messages..Can't be bothered anymore letting them annoy me..I just send a nice reply and heaps are saying thanks for my reply..Keeps it all calm and polite.
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DonnaBrett
16 years ago
Hey Peachypear..with all due respect...we didn't say we did not want single guys contacting us. The issue is sending msgs looking to hook up but not having a photo available (that includes couples too). And for the record when we were looking for gang bang guys we DID answer every single reply..either for or against. Some people here have said what's wrong with simple compliment flirts..nothing. Maybe we should have clarified.."msgs & flirts with the intention of hooking up". Also having a photo has got to greatly increase your chance of success we would think? We don't think it's asking too much???
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RHP User
16 years ago
on that point... we like to see photos too and say so on our profile but in saying that our best meet up didn't involve photos at all lol. Still, I absolutely agree that is yours and our right to ask for pics and we expect people to have one available on the site in either their public or private pg. I agree with you that we won't give out any contact details or go into msn without seeing who we're talking too either. One of our worst moments in msn was talking to a faceless couple who saw us on cam... dreadful silence for aaages... then told looks were an issue and that was it!!! We're not putting ourselves out there for that again and not interested in putting anyone else in that position.It might interest you to know that most of our friends have been sent our gallery so they have a face which is what I usually tell them when we send it lol. Sorry to those we haven't made contact with yet... getting there ;-)Re the gang bang... I apologise again, this time for my misunderstanding of the part of your profile that said... However we WILL contact you if we want you. Anyone who keeps messaging asking over & over if they can come will be blocked! Thank you! Perhaps it needs updating Lastly, on friendly flirts etc, I wish it could be made more obvious that it is just a friendly compliment rather than a hook up contact!Having a photo absolutely increases your chance of success considering you get more views to start with and there are a decent amount of profiles that do say they want to see pics... still, I also have respect for those that don't want it known that they are on here, for professional or family reasons maybe, we have come across peeps that have no idea we know they're on here... but we're not everyone...Well, there ya go... I hope I put that all together properly. Thnx for explaining that I had it wrong!HugsMrs PMy mind is waaaay too busy! PS: Sweeet... well thnx! N bak at ya, but I hope I got it right this time Isn't it fantastic getting thank you replies,(we get at least 10% response) makes you see things in a much more positive way!
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RHP User
16 years ago
uhuhuhuhuh MrsP
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RHP User
16 years ago
I totally agree with this. Nothing annoys me more than receiving flirts or messages from couples wanting FFM!!!!!! READ MY PROFILE!!!! Or married men... READ MY PROFILE!!!! So annoying!!!!!!!
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RHP User
16 years ago
now see I can sort of see where you're coming from there... but not entirely...and I'm still not getting the flirt hate...maybe I just don't get that many :P Looks like I'm the only one.... but I will admit that I actually have a bit of respect for the very few guys who totally ignore my stated preference for couples, are not scared off by my bisexuality and open relationship stuff, and send me flirts and messages anyway... men are not stupid, I would hope they're just trying to have a bit of fun like the rest of us... and I'll take this opportunity to say "thanks guys.. you knew when you sent me the flirts & messages that you likely wouldn't get a positive reply... and you had the balls to do it anyway... and to those of you that did get a positive reponse... well, can I just say.. well done you! (you know who you are :P)
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RHP User
16 years ago
OMG!..such an interesting post...good on ya Donna_Brett, this can of worms was so worth opening...love reading all the different points of view...To be honest, i don't send flirts much anymore, why not say what ya mean in a message than with a flirt?...and don;t go and jump down ma throat and say butt, i'm just a guest...yeah, yeah, i understand that...anyways...I like the template reply, but really try and avoid sending messages to someone who says quite clearly not interested in "single guys"...or "guys must be bi-curious"....or "only guys with green skin, one ball and two tongues need apply"...and yes Peachpear...noice...noticed your request, so had to chain hands to table top to stop them s-t-r-e-t-c-h-i-n-g towards that SEND MESSAGE button...*giggling*and like i said before...great post...cheersjose
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RHP User
16 years ago
Seems like some of you lot need to just CHILL..... Who cares? Just ignore them/block them. There are more important things in life than this website you know
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RHP User
16 years ago
unfortunately, the one's not reading profiles before approach, are not the ones interested in reading the forum.
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RHP User
16 years ago
Yours was the best post on here!! LOL
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RHP User
16 years ago
YOURS was the best post on here CheersMrs P
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RHP User
16 years ago
donna_brett i just attempted to read ur profile but had enough of being told what u dont want.no offence but it doesnt really seem like u all that easy going after all.chill and use the block button its easy.
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RHP User
16 years ago
Pheromone levels are rising , eye candy becomes distracting ; written boundaries and preferences all become a blurr . ...>> ... What a place to visit ! .. It's all here ! ... My preferred "search" shows 29 Pages ... Wow ... where do I start .. ! .... Check this Pic out ... Talk about wanting some action .. . . Testosterone is pumping and everyone looks HOT ! ... Let's seeeee ....... Hhmmmmnn ... oh .. ferrk reading the bits ... I'm the BEST lover & I want sum Action nowww ! ... Well as soon as I get a reply ...... >> .. Shiite sent 50 mssgs & only got 1 reply - # from someone 'looking to help her partner do the laundry occasionally' ... .. abstract possibilities .. Just too much for the average punter to comprehend ... bugger .. USUAL DISCLAIMERS .. - yadda yadda .. too .. specific .. * This site , like most others , attracts you're usual INSTANT gratification bunch , perverts , deviats , twisted , bent , shit stirrers , desperados , Wannabes , lurks , Voyeurs , clingons , fiends & self proclaimed Lurv machines ... Somewhere in all that is an occasion you wont forget ! . Nuthin like being flexible . .. ;) .. Of Course the issue of where we spend our Time can be exhilarating . Methinks ... the ability to sort the chaff from the wheat can be fun ... without the attitude .. :) .. Boundaries - loosely defined - are great to explore . DON'T forget the hormones are in full swing when browsing and logic with comprehension are NADA when reading a hot profile ! Soooo .. To all The Micks & Mikes nuthin' like being a little bit Loose , Flexible & Open minded without being Precious , Pretentious or Prudish . Loosen up , Read the # Ff ing Profile & then cast your message into the pool . Yanno the place is full of fish and the bait better be good .. haha .. What makes You so special ?? everyone wants to know ! An 'ol punter casting some thoughts onto the table with a smile & a chuckle . not in any particular order . . :)
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