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Overcoming Jealousy?

March 31 2025

Has anyone, females in particular, been able to overcome their jealousy issues and how did you manage to overcome them? We've been Hotwifing for years now and it goes very well and we have a lot of fun with no issues at all. Occasionally over the years we've tried entertaining women or other couples but it's never ended well! Just this past weekend we were enjoying drinks at a couple of pubs with two other blokes and one female, wife seemed keen for some fun so we headed back to our unit, the girls got started with some play together, the other blokes seemed unsure of how to get into it so I got naked and with my wife and the other girl making out my wife began so suck my cock, shortly after she suggested to me that our female guest needed a bit of dickin' so I was giving it to her with my wife straddled on top of her, seemed to be going ok and then other blokes eventually joined in on the fun, a bit of swapping ensued and all seemed to be going ok, both lads enjoyed my wife and she too was enjoying them, then things went south! With my wife on the bed and the other girl going down on her the other lads were hanging back so I decided to give it to the other girl from behind while she was going down on my wife, seconds later my wife flicked me the bird and the fun quickly come to a screaming halt! An uncomfortable night and next day ensued but we're all good now thankfully. Be real keen to know if and how any ladies out there were to overcome their jealousy..... Thanks in advance!

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boobsandbusted

one year ago

Was it jealousy or did you do something that pissed her off ,maybe like not checking in with her first before you and the working word here is YOU DECIDED to in your words give it to the other lady ,something tells me we aren’t hearing the full story Mr b

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Alex_Lover

one year ago

Have you asked your wife what she was thinking/feeling when she became unhappy with you fucking the other woman late in the play session? Jealousy can be overcome, but it takes intention and work, by the person wanting to be less jealous. Even after doing the work, it can still hit at random times, for random reasons. It's also a good idea to have a signal, or otherwise be able to communicate that she's not enjoying what's going on, without necessarily saying it out loud in front of strangers. I know Margo won't say it out loud, as she doesn't want to feel she's ruined the experience for everyone else. - Alex.

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rightontime37

one year ago

I hope you guys don’t have any ongoing issues at all. You’re cool AF and deserve to be happy.

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FeistyFatty

one year ago

Wow. This is pretty poor behaviour from your wife. I would have been absolutely mortified if my husband ever carried on like that .... And vice versa. Sounds like she just wants it all about her, which is really selfish for a "swinging couple". Doesn't sound like you've done anything "wrong" in the exchange and she definitely needs to work on herself before you involve others again. Maybe some solo plays for you? Seems you're owed a few 😂 I wish I could give advice but neither of us have these issues, we both get crazy turned on watching others enjoy. We have sadly been in a few situations with couples like yourselves where the wife snaps and its really unpleasant. I hope your wife realises how her actions may have affected the other parties and your enjoyment negatively..... Curious, does she care?

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MrandMrsEss

one year ago

I find it difficult to understand what you are after here as you’ve not explained why your wife was happy for you to give her a dickin initially then changed her mind. Is there a why here? My wife is an extremely jealous person. If she sees me deep in conversation I can see her turn green but if I’m balls deep in another woman she loves nothing more than to sit back and enjoy the show! We both laugh at the absurdity of when the little green monster appears and I’ll often provoke it in a light hearted way. I guess in your situation your wife was just overloaded and needed a break and that’s all good but we need more information!

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NeoAndTrin

one year ago

Hey mate I've seen you guys on cam before so I'm aware of your situation. I always refer to your wife as Evangeline if you remember... I guess the biggest part is it kinda of feels like a double standard for you. She gets to be with other men with no drama on either part and on the rare occasion you manage to be with a female it's a completely different story. To me that doesn't seem fair. I get your dynamic is hotwifing but surely that means that you completely trust her and it seems she doesn't trust you. She needs to really look at that whole situation and ask if roles reversed ask her would that be fair?

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Blueflamingo

one year ago

I find jealousy come out when I feel I'm not the priority or the choice of someone who I feel strongly about. Maybe your wife felt you gave the other woman more attention than you gave to her? I'm not sure if it helps, but that's my personal experience.

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HotWifeUnicorn

one year ago

That's got to be confronting after you have been so giving for so many years. I guess there's a core difference - you're tirned on by her enjoyment/lust. She's threatened by yours. Jealousy IMO is rooted in fear. I'm polyamorous and very much believe her discomfort is self development she needs to work on. You can create a safe space in which you can slowly and methodically push the boundaries of that discomfort - with the hope she'll see she's safe and nothing really changes... I say that but I've only had a handful of occasions where my buttons were pushed by my husband's interest or desires for another. It almost always involved non-performance by the other men In the room. Perhaps that's the case here. It adds a level of feeling less desirable than the other lady that wouldn't be there if there was another functional man in the room. I'm yet to be in the situation where my husband falls for and develops an ongoing relationship with another lady the way I have with guys before. I worry I won't feel as supportive as he had for me but because he has been so supportive I have promised myself I'll try to do the work to create balance. This is an opportunity for you two to grow. Start by trying to understand her discomfort- without defending your stance or adding 'buts'... that creates a safe space for her to explain why she felt triggered. From there you can explore what scenarios might not trigger a fear/anger response. It's only fair that there's balance. But to create that there needs to be emotional safety.

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FunCoupleCity

one year ago

Gotta love boobs and busted ..Soo much fun love you guys xoxox

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KittyKatKate

one year ago

From a former unicorn- this is why I don't couples- play anymore. My 2 cents worth is - Things can be 1. wife either calls the play, which can then become all about her getting and the female unicorn feeling a bit of a pawn piece and it not being overly satisfying for her. 2. You both work out together how play unfolds, which then may result in a bucket list script of scenarios that feels very empty for the non couple participants 3. You and her work out a safe word or nice non-verbal cues that are more comfortable for your guests. 4. Before play, all are able to make suggestions of what they want out of the experience over drinks, and so everyone knows Ballpark, what is ok so everyone has some level of autonomy and not waiting to be told. That makes it more free flowing is my experience. For now, you need to work out who you are as a solid couple before you proceed further, I think. Good luck

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markdaisey111

one year ago

….. the wife always….. always…. Always…. lol…. Calls the plays….!!!!

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RingoNhoneybunny

one year ago

I'd just like to add to this post that although your wife will need to work through her own insecurities, you need to check in with yourself to see if you are being a really solid, supportive, adoring fan of your wife in all aspects of your life together. If she doesn't feel totally secure, why? How can you reinforce that she's got you no matter what? That you aren't looking for an upgrade along the way. Often times I see couples who play or tease eachother in what is meant to be a fun playful way, but this type of teasing can also undermine your relationship without realising. Do you sometimes provide negative feedback? Some things are better left unsaid. I'm so blessed with a man who understands all this, so he has my total trust and I'm completely secure with him. But these are all things that I've had to learn along the way and I'm still working on myself so he too can feel that same security in me.

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Wetleg

one year ago

I’m gunna be devils advocate here and say BEFORE the play ensues that discussions need to be had about hypotheticals. Do you need to check in with your wife with EVERY interaction, no. Did the bird need to happen? No. I don’t understand sometimes why couples are in this life when they know what’s going to happen. Unless I’m reading something wrong I can’t see the problem here?

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SquirtleNOR

one year ago

So from what I took from your statement is that , you had all been playing and she was finally getting a bit of girl on girl action and here you come in and stick your dick where it wasn’t wanted , the attention was on your wife as she was enjoying getting head and you took that away by making it about you and what you could do , you do understand if you stick it in the middle girl will loose mojo and momentum and concentrate on you and the feeling you are giving her which retracts from what’s going on with and for your wife , I completely understand why she was pissed I would be to

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