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Our 1st RHP Encounter.....
April 13 2014
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RHP User
12 years ago
Hey guys, it took us 6 weeks to do it. We really wanted to but she was still nervice. Once it happend we both loved it - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
Ok I dont feel so bad then haha.... how was it meeting up? I always think your heart is thumping, nerves and all but oh well, but obviously you get over it :) Mrs_AJ
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madotara69
12 years ago
Our first experience was a disaster. It started off some guy messaging us, saying all the right things, (could not read people so well then, did not pick up on the nature he showed, it was all in his words though) later to be found out, so it was my fault, but he was a player and it began to show once we started getting into things. Basically he wanted Tara all to himself, ignored my hints that it was not how things go, eventually I had to stop things and send him on his way. He tried so hard to speak to Tara all by herself to explain why I had these insecurity issues, and that there was four stages I had to pass before understanding how swinging works. One was to see Tara getting gang banged while I watch, the other three were blurry, as he was agitating me a little. So We sent him on his way. Not long after he left, our phone was on silent and messages began filling the thingy watsy, later we noticed the messages flashing and listened to one every hour on the hour until midnight from a friend, who was trying to tell us that guy had been posting our names and what he was doing with us on facebook. Turned out the one person we thought would be the last anyone we knew would know, was well known and not very popular. Things did not work out for him in a few ways, but that's how it goes if you talk out of school. We did not let it turn us off, just a lesson learnt, the next guy we met soon after on this site, well he was what it is all about. He left since then, so did the validation all messages and everything. capoof gone. A while ago he joined again for a moment messaged us saying he missed us and then left again. Just be careful what to believe with the messages from potential playmates. Little things make all the difference. Mado Tara xx
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'madotara69' Our first experience was a disaster. It started off some guy messaging us, saying all the right things, (could not read people so well then, did not pick up on the nature he showed, it was all in his words though) later to be found out, so it was my fault, but he was a player and it began to show once we started getting into things. Basically he wanted Tara all to himself, ignored my hints that it was not how things go, eventually I had to stop things and send him on his way. He tried so hard to speak to Tara all by herself to explain why I had these insecurity issues, and that there was four stages I had to pass before understanding how swinging works. One was to see Tara getting gang banged while I watch, the other three were blurry, as he was agitating me a little. So We sent him on his way. Not long after he left, our phone was on silent and messages began filling the thingy watsy, later we noticed the messages flashing and listened to one every hour on the hour until midnight from a friend, who was trying to tell us that guy had been posting our names and what he was doing with us on facebook. Turned out the one person we thought would be the last anyone we knew would know, was well known and not very popular. Things did not work out for him in a few ways, but that's how it goes if you talk out of school. We did not let it turn us off, just a lesson learnt, the next guy we met soon after on this site, well he was what it is all about. He left since then, so did the validation all messages and everything. capoof gone. A while ago he joined again for a moment messaged us saying he missed us and then left again. Just be careful what to believe with the messages from potential playmates. Little things make all the difference. Mado Tara xx WOW! Thank you for sharing....that guy though?!(what a douche) Mrs_AJ
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RHP User
12 years ago
Rather than rush in, not screen properly, or not comfortable and be disappointed. Best of luck. Before you know it, you will be veterans at swinging ;) - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
That's horrible mado, sorry to hear... To the op, remember that you two are a team, and you make the rules... No one else. Set up a code word, watch each other for any signs of discomfort, and be prepared to stop... At any time. My first time with a couple... I was so nervous, I was actually shaking, and that was at the bar ! Lucky for me they were an experienced no pushy couple... And let's just say it was memorable... 😄😈😋 Hp xo💋 Because you're worth it...
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RHP User
12 years ago
3 years and counting lol - Posted from rhpmobile
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imupinthesky2
12 years ago
the first time ...when I was young and naive I was traveling thru Europe and was approached by the wife of a coupleI was gobsmacked and couldnt get my head around it, needless to say I am still kicking myself !!when my first eventually happened it was with another newbie couple, there was a lot of fumbling and nerves flying around, we had a spa and a few drinks and that seemed to calm the nerveswe had a fantastic time and I hope for them also, it opened up a path of fun and adventure Mr & Mrs AJ, take your time, there is no hurry to make it "happen"its like loosing your virginity, make sure it is with the right person/s and at the right timeit may take a couple of meets with one or several person/s before you feel comfortableyou BOTH have to be comfortable with the whole situation and progress, baby stepsthen you will look back on it all, hopefully having had a great experience and wonder what all the fuss was aboutthen you will be anxiously waiting for the next but be ware, like Madotara has mentioned, there are some unscrupulous individuals out therekeep your wits about yourself and go with your gut feelingsif it doesnt feel right for any reason, dont be afraid to speak up and express yourselvesif the individual is respectful, they will be patient and understanding to your position and maybe you can all work it out and have that first time of your life - with another person !! good luck in your venturesjust saying ..... if you wanted to meet up at the Casino over the Easter break then let me know, I am more than happy to have a drink with NO expectations ;)can help you open your eyes, not that I am that experienced myself !!x
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RHP User
12 years ago
Some practicalities as I assume you are new to the online dating world?? You should always meet up with people in a public place first for a drink. I personally prefer to say that I don't play on the first meet, that way some awkwardness is minimised if you don't hit it off with the guy or couple as they were not hopefully thinking this was a sure thing. Lots of people bullshit about themselves and have fake pictures, or ones that were taken 10 years ago, etc. So again it is always best to meet up in a public place first to make sure they are who they say they are. Also if you both haven't swung before I would just like to say that it can be very different to your expectations and fantasies. You may think you will be totally fine with it but the first time can be a little overwhelming. Also jealousy can also creep in when you least expect it too. Therefore you and hubby should discuss strategies about how you will handle that if it happens. Maybe have prearranged safe words or a signin case one of you decides they want to stop, etc, etc.
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RHP User
12 years ago
You should also discuss boundaries between yourselves and who ever you decided to swing with. Lots of couples have different rules about what they will and will not do. Do you know what yours are?
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RHP User
12 years ago
Thank you so much for the input, I have taken notes lol but seriously it does give a bit of relief to hear real stories and that it's not always (if that) a "picture perfect movie scene" lol @sir_stir - LOL Mrs_AJ - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
with no pressure, just to get to know each other. Chat and drinks, etc. Because there is no pressure, its easy to step to the next level.....for example, just watching the couple or just foreplay etc.....then the next level if the couple is ok, etc. Its the best way to start - keeping the couple in complete control at every stage. Just make sure you establish the ground rules prior to any meet and always choose NON-PUSHY people. I believe that couples can be a bit more tricky than just a single male, as they have their own set of boundaries which may or may not be the same as yours, whereas a single male should always want to work in with you both. Just take your time and remember its supposed to be FUN
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RHP User
12 years ago
But what's the difference between a short list or hot list, I'm still clueless how to find things on here but getting there lol.....are they more or less the same thing? Mrs_AJ - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'Meeka100' Some practicalities as I assume you are new to the online dating world?? You should always meet up with people in a public place first for a drink. I personally prefer to say that I don't play on the first meet, that way some awkwardness is minimised if you don't hit it off with the guy or couple as they were not hopefully thinking this was a sure thing. Lots of people bullshit about themselves and have fake pictures, or ones that were taken 10 years ago, etc. So again it is always best to meet up in a public place first to make sure they are who they say they are. Also a lot of ""couples" are actually men, so make sure you speak with the wife before meeting and don't accept any "but she's in the shower" etc. excuses.) Don't give your last name, you don't want people Googling you or looking you up on Facebook. (Or in the phone directory!) Meet in public, like Meeka said and make clear you are looking to "meet first, play later" in advance. Meet for coffee or drinks. If you have dinner you're stuck if you decide after 10 minutes it really isn't happening. And consider getting a "play phone" that you only use for RHP. You don't want your kids grabbing your phone to play games and ... :-/ Good luck, and of course communication before and after is key!
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'MrandMrs_AJ' But what's the difference between a short list or hot list, I'm still clueless how to find things on here but getting there lol.....are they more or less the same thing? Mrs_AJ - Posted from rhpmobile I think when you click on someone as HOT they appear on your hot list and any activity they do... such as logging in or contributing into the forum will appear on your feed. You can keep track of them. Short list... I guess you can use that for when you don't want to contact someone immediately but want to remember who they are?? It is up to you how you use this list.
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RHP User
12 years ago
I made quite a few rookie mistakes the first time I was with a couple. I didn't ask the right questions or even enough questions. Anyway, I met them for a drink, then I went back to their house and we were all naked on the bed when she tells me that they have a rule. That me and the hubby could share kisses and oral sex...... but no penetration. Oh nuts, If I had known that I wouldn't have even met up with them to begin with!! So questions to ask could be how long have they been swinging (newbies often do not have their shit sorted out) and what are their boundaries or what don't they do. Otherwise it was a good first experience........... wasn't too keen on the dog watching though.
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madotara69
12 years ago
Is the Mr and Mrs AJ creeping into the idea like a bulldozer, bahahaha It's like a fantasy come true, like Cinderella as we wait in anticipation for the "oh yeah, that was nice" You can put yourself on your hotlist then you come up in the home page stream, it comes in handy, once you are addicted, which you are now, hehe
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bliss2
12 years ago
We've been on for about a month now, but still unable to take the plunge, so far just cant find the courage to do it. Maybe that might change after the syd drinks night where me might meet others in a similar position to ourselves. Perhaps Meander might be able to help here and "break us in" gently.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'Meeka100' I made quite a few rookie mistakes the first time I was with a couple. I didn't ask the right questions or even enough questions. Anyway, I met them for a drink, then I went back to their house and we were all naked on the bed when she tells me that they have a rule. That me and the hubby could share kisses and oral sex...... but no penetration. Oh nuts, If I had known that I wouldn't have even met up with them to begin with!! So questions to ask could be how long have they been swinging (newbies often do not have their shit sorted out) and what are their boundaries or what don't they do. Otherwise it was a good first experience........... wasn't too keen on the dog watching though. OMGosh, Id be so paranoid with a dog watching...lol
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'Meeka100' Quoting 'MrandMrs_AJ' But what's the difference between a short list or hot list, I'm still clueless how to find things on here but getting there lol.....are they more or less the same thing? Mrs_AJ - Posted from rhpmobile I think when you click on someone as HOT they appear on your hot list and any activity they do... such as logging in or contributing into the forum will appear on your feed. You can keep track of them. Short list... I guess you can use that for when you don't want to contact someone immediately but want to remember who they are?? It is up to you how you use this list. Ah ok for stalking purposes then .....but for us to remember people ive just put them on the short list
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RHP User
12 years ago
I had the pleasure of meeting couples who are new to swinging. Poor thing felt nervous as hell! But the husband told me that they needed this as their first step into swinging. From then I knew that I had to work with the husband together to make sure that the wife's first time was good, hot and sexy. If from your messaging, the guy is already pushy and disrespectful of your husband, forget it then. You know exactly what he is after. Also, ask for recommendations :-). Hope this helps you. Btw, i just joined this site ( from another swingers website ) and hopefully my naughty pics get approved.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'madotara69' He tried so hard to speak to Tara all by herself to explain why I had these insecurity issues, and that there was four stages I had to pass before understanding how swinging works. One was to see Tara getting gang banged while I watch, the other three were blurry, as he was agitating me a little. So We sent him on his way. Not long after he left, our phone was on silent and messages began filling the thingy watsy, later we noticed the messages flashing and listened to one every hour on the hour until midnight from a friend, who was trying to tell us that guy had been posting our names and what he was doing with us on facebook. Turned out the one person we thought would be the last anyone we knew would know, was well known and not very popular. Mado Tara xx Wow, that guy is a real creep...
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RHP User
12 years ago
Love this post Mrs! So many awesome insights into the scary 'first time'! Lots of great tips too from the more seasoned of the group... Its great to know it's not always all we imagine for the first few times! What are people's opinions about wether it's better for 'Virgin' couples to play with other virgins first or well experienced people first? I would possibly be less nervous with another virgin as both are in the same boat nerves wise but also both teams have little clue to what they are doing.... I think I might be scared to look like a goose in front of those who've played often?! - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
Hi AJ's. Welcome to RHP! I spent about 12 months online chatting before feeling ready to embark on my first swinging adventure (I had already met one woman after a healthy self imposed bout of celibacy prior to this). I responded to a couple in datefinder and did some basic messaging before meeting, such as making sure they were both invested in the experience (not just one keen and one taking it for the team), but there wasn't too much getting to know you content of chatting before the meet. I expected this might happen if we met for a drink beforehand to see if we clicked enough to play, but they were homebodies and didn't drink, nor go out much, so I agreed to meet them at their home. I groomed myself and dressed very well, and when I arrived, was greeted at the door by the Mrs, who was in casual dressy attire, and beckoned to come in cheerily. The Mr was sitting on the lounge in gear that looked like he just got back from fishing, dividing his attention between the TV and the laptop on his knee. He didn't rise to meet me, nor really acknowledge me too much other than Shake my hand when presented to him. We all sat down, and the she was chatty and engaging, and with prompting and enquiry, I managed to engage him on topics of interest to him as well, while he was still multitasking on his computer and TV with divided attention. I interpreted this as being overly casual as opposed to being rude. They were comfortable no frills sort of people, and I felt comfortable enough because of it. We chatted like this for hours perhaps, at which stage the conversation turned to music, and the Mrs finding the shirtless guitarist in Def Leppard attractive. She put on Def Leppard live in concert, and we sat around the TV watching the DVD, which still seems humourous to me, but Def Leppard was the first CD I ever bought in my teens, so it was somewhat nostalgic for me! I was the only one drinking. Seemed unconventional, but it was a Friday night, and this would be something is do with my mates at home. As the night drew on, I suggested that I am very happy to just chill for socializing, or if they had planned to play, that we make a move cause I was watching the clock. It turned out this was their first time and it was very relaxed, with the man continually checking in on his partner to make sure she was ok and what she would like next. It was quite tender, and nice to be a part of, just funny in how it came about. These days, I chat heaps before meeting, making sure we have enough common interests to talk about over dinner, and normally do the full gig when entertaining. I enjoy a shared meal and conversation. If that doesn't happen, there's not much that sex could add to the equation to make it worthwhile. Take your time to get to know people. My playmates have become very worthwhile friends.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'luvthehorizontal' the syd drinks night where me might meet others in a similar position to ourselves. Perhaps Meander might be able to help here and "break us in" gently. I was going to second Shy's comment about saying hi at the Drinks night, but you're way ahead of me!
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'Meeka100' we were all naked on the bed when she tells me that they have a rule. That me and the hubby could share kisses and oral sex...... but no penetration. My profile says I want threesomes where everyone participates equally, and always check. I'm not into "girls play, while guys watch only" sex. Once I received a first message from a wife, asking me to join her and her husband. It included a list of things I was not allowed to do. Oh, how fun for me!
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madotara69
12 years ago
Unrushed, sparked some memories. Sounds just like us in a lot of ways, this is the good story, though in both cases the same thing happened, we were in a small place, a hot water earn to fill a bath, not even a shower, there were no gutters to catch water so regularily I would take the truck down the road to get a 1000 litres of water at a time and then syphon it into our tank. That first foolish guy (missed out big time) was already at our place as I returned with water ( we like to fuck for some time and a thousand litres of water covers that pretty well, lots of clean sweaty sex) he he. The friend we have now and this is all about him, well he met me on his way through and helped me fill the tank with water and followed me home in my shorts thongs and flannelette collared attire, even a pocket it has. Tara was looking......hmmm well our pics give good memories. Oh we were moving too, and that is when Tara shortly after we arrived, somehow clean just not flustered at all fell into a packing box in her path of circleshence the love-heart briuse that soon after appeared (her sign, we laughed) Then spent hours laughing, playing our favourite songs, chatting, fucking, sweating, bathing and more fucking and that is what it is all about, DP was just part of it, can't remember how many times we did cum, but at least we knew Tara did many times. in many ways. Fucking is fun.
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bliss2
12 years ago
All done and settled, see you both on the drinks night. We will be the ones wearing the L PLATES unless of course we dive in the deep end over the next two weeks. given that we are both pretty keen.
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RHP User
12 years ago
You and Tara literally fell into swinging? ;-D
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MsSuperFoxy
12 years ago
I just wanted to poke my head in here and give you both a warm Hello and Welcome to the Forums. I know I am not into the swinging side of things yet...maybe one day...who knows??? I would imagine it would be quite nerve racking the first time. I know I would have to be with someone that I totally trust, before I go there. Yet to met anyone that fits that. :( As others have said, a great way to meet others in local Meet and Greet nights. For me I feel safe in that environment, as a single woman. I have met some pretty awesome people that way. Trust your instincts and gut. There is some locals who post in the forums, who may be able to meet up with you both to give you some great tips and advice, who swing. I am reading this Forum with interest...for when the time is right for me. Good Luck and I hope all goes well for you both. Foxy
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RHP User
12 years ago
Also loving the experiences/tips/advice given in this thread by different posters, it's really interesting & we don't feel so weird now for not having done anything yet lol. Mrs_AJ P.s Thank-you S-Foxxxy - Posted from rhpmobile
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luvsilver
12 years ago
We were on here for 12 months before we did anything.We always thought we would just stay with our own partners but in the same room as another couple for our first time round.After 12 months we decided to just go for it. I got home from work and Mrs Luv had arranged drinks at a bar with 2 other couples and 2 single guys she had her eye on. The 2 couples came back to our hotel and we all had a great time (Mrs Luv chickened out with the 2 single guys for our first encounter so they went home)Certainly more than we thought we would do on our first night but no regrets about it. Mr Luvsilver
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RHP User
12 years ago
Mr and Mrs AJ - weve been on here for over a year and taking out time working out what it is it we both are seeking - with that in mind we are hoping for a pleasant experience for a MFM option as we are not ready for a couple swap. We have been to a couple of swingers clubs to take in the swinger scene and met with 4 chaps individually - however it hasn't eventuated yet (for a number of reasons - most no shows once we planned a date but that's a whole different story LOL)...we aren't in any rush though as it needs to be right for BOTH of us (and the additional M of course) and communication is the ultimate key between you and your partner. Setting the boundaries of what you like and don't like - that way are hope we are not setting unrealistic expectations of all those involved - one day itll happen but while we are on this journey it has certainly bought us a lot closer than ever (and we have been married for 25 years) so its been positive having fun, taking it easy and meeting some nice people along the way....good luck with your journey guys ....enjoy the RHP ride :)
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RHP User
12 years ago
I had chatted with lady for some time (several weeks) via here & txt then eventually on phone alll going well and She wanted to meet for drink & bite to eat in City so i travelled few hours via train Kept in contact during day then 10 mins before actually meeting I heard nothing back via txt & her phone rang out few times No replies No excuses NOTHING My Night & past week building up to that point were all Ruined ! Felt used & dumb not to mention very sad & embarrassed as was so looking forward to meeting this British Nurse new to the City & wanting to meet a kind Easygoing guy to share some Outdoor experiences & share fun with Hope I get courage to meet someone GENUINE & Genuinely KIND & HINEST next time xx sorry if this is a downer guys
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'polys' Mr and Mrs AJ - weve been on here for over a year and taking out time working out what it is it we both are seeking - with that in mind we are hoping for a pleasant experience for a MFM option as we are not ready for a couple swap. We have been to a couple of swingers clubs to take in the swinger scene and met with 4 chaps individually - however it hasn't eventuated yet (for a number of reasons - most no shows once we planned a date but that's a whole different story LOL)...we aren't in any rush though as it needs to be right for BOTH of us (and the additional M of course) and communication is the ultimate key between you and your partner. Setting the boundaries of what you like and don't like - that way were hoping we are not setting unrealistic expectations of all those involved - one day itll happen but while we are on this journey it has certainly brought us a lot closer than ever (and we have been married for 25 years) so its been positive having fun, taking it easy and meeting some nice people along the way....good luck with your journey guys ....enjoy the RHP ride :) Apologies for the original response - came off the cuff without re-reading the response :)
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MsSuperFoxy
12 years ago
Quoting 'laugh_anytime' I had chatted with lady for some time (several weeks) via here & txt then eventually on phone alll going well and She wanted to meet for drink & bite to eat in City so i travelled few hours via train Kept in contact during day then 10 mins before actually meeting I heard nothing back via txt & her phone rang out few times No replies No excuses NOTHING My Night & past week building up to that point were all Ruined ! Felt used & dumb not to mention very sad & embarrassed as was so looking forward to meeting this British Nurse new to the City & wanting to meet a kind Easygoing guy to share some Outdoor experiences & share fun with Hope I get courage to meet someone GENUINE & Genuinely KIND & HINEST next time xx sorry if this is a downer guys Sorry to hear that and I feel for you....no one deserves that kind of treatment - it's so dam rude! It's sad to hear some people behave like that...there is no excuse why someone can not pick up the phone and dial if they can not met the arrangements..especially after you had traveled all that way and had contact 10 mins prior. One never knows who they are messaging/making arrangements with until they actually meet face-to-face. Please don't feel embarrassed or anything like that...it was NOT you, it was HER! Foxy xx
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madotara69
12 years ago
Quoting 'Unrushed1' You and Tara literally fell into swinging? ;-D comical, he he
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Forus1234
12 years ago
We lost our swinging virginity at a private party in Las Vegas. We chose to do this, while overseas for fear of being recognised in Australia & primarily, we both were unsure whether swinging was for us. So glad we did...those Americans really know how to party! Now, 18 months later still enjoying the lifestyle, we don't think we could ever go back to a vanilla life, we enjoy the sexual & the social part of the lifestyle!
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RHP User
12 years ago
I didn't even know about RHP the only thing I had seen was about 5 years previously a site for the Couples Club...... So it took all of those 5 years to finally visit there.... We didn't play with anyone else the first time and we weren't planning to the next visit either, however...... There was this one guy that took the time to sit and have drinks with us, just relax and chat with no pressure at all. Then when he did go to put his arm around me the first time (and thereafter) he always checked with hubby and myself first and included my man throughout the entire experience..... It felt so natural, which after 23 years of marriage was surprising to us both.... After, hubby and I talked and talked about EVERY details, to work out what we felt comfortable with or not.... It's now our 1 yr anniversary of swinging :)
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RHP User
12 years ago
Take your time , meet for a drink and a chat after a few emails , see how you feel . Before meeting let them know if your not all comfortable that you reserve the right to say thanks for the drink and chat but you don't think it will work out . Respectful people will understand .
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RHP User
12 years ago
Make sure you're comfortable and do it when you feel ready. I was on here for 3 months until I met a couple for some fun. We messaged a number of times to make sure everyone was on the same page. We then met a couple times for drinks. When we did play it was an amazing experience. We met for a drink then decided to go back to my place for some fun. Respecting peoples boundaries is essential and I found that a slow and steady approach with couples helps. I have had many enjoyable experiences from the site and look forward to many more. But always take your time and find the right person/people/group.
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'Bigmamma1' I didn't even know about RHP the only thing I had seen was about 5 years previously a site for the Couples Club...... So it took all of those 5 years to finally visit there.... We didn't play with anyone else the first time and we weren't planning to the next visit either, however...... There was this one guy that took the time to sit and have drinks with us, just relax and chat with no pressure at all. Then when he did go to put his arm around me the first time (and thereafter) he always checked with hubby and myself first and included my man throughout the entire experience..... It felt so natural, which after 23 years of marriage was surprising to us both.... After, hubby and I talked and talked about EVERY details, to work out what we felt comfortable with or not.... It's now our 1 yr anniversary of swinging :) This is what would make us both comfortrable, taking the time and the respect for both of us...(and of course this would be reciprocated) Happy Anny by the way Mrs_AJ
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RHP User
12 years ago
Quoting 'polys' Mr and Mrs AJ - weve been on here for over a year and taking out time working out what it is it we both are seeking - with that in mind we are hoping for a pleasant experience for a MFM option as we are not ready for a couple swap. We have been to a couple of swingers clubs to take in the swinger scene and met with 4 chaps individually - however it hasn't eventuated yet (for a number of reasons - most no shows once we planned a date but that's a whole different story LOL)...we aren't in any rush though as it needs to be right for BOTH of us (and the additional M of course) and communication is the ultimate key between you and your partner. Setting the boundaries of what you like and don't like - that way are hope we are not setting unrealistic expectations of all those involved - one day itll happen but while we are on this journey it has certainly bought us a lot closer than ever (and we have been married for 25 years) so its been positive having fun, taking it easy and meeting some nice people along the way....good luck with your journey guys ....enjoy the RHP ride :) Thanks Polys...hope you guys find your perfect "man" , when I read of "no shows" in posts, it really pisses me off, surely they can at least text they have had a change of heart or something ffs. Mrs_AJ
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RHP User
12 years ago
Hi, I have been fortunate enough to have first time couples trying threesomes through a swingers group here in Brisbane. Poor thing is usually nervous as hell, but the husband said that this is their first big step into swinging. I would highly advise that you meet in a swingers party with other couples (like we did) to soften the pressure. Try to talk to the guy beforehand and if, during this time, he is full on and neglects to respect that you are a COUPLE, not a single woman, then I would look elsewhere. Also, get references from couples here! I'm sure they're got their top pics of men.
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RHP User
12 years ago
I haven't met anyone on here yet that is keen to hook up or even meet haha. But I've had a lot of people tell me I'm too young does any other 20-18 year olds having the same problem? - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
12 years ago
Hey guys, We were the same, quite apprehensive and have had some less than desirable experiences which put us off RHP for a while. But I'd say now with getting better at reading people and sifting through the fakes and liars we have met some great people. It's definitely worth it and is kind of addictive! I just think what have you got to lose; if you don't like it, you don't have to go there again :) Good luck!
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RHP User
12 years ago
we have decided to just take our time (however long that may be lol). Ive certainly picked up alot from reading forums thats for sure ha ha Mrs_AJ
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madotara69
12 years ago
Quoting 'MrandMrs_AJ' we have decided to just take our time (however long that may be lol). Ive certainly picked up alot from reading forums thats for sure ha ha Mrs_AJ
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imupinthesky2
12 years ago
Mr and Mrs AJtime is a golden virtueyou take as much time as you needyou need to feel totally comfortablethe first time I was exposed to this type of thing was when I was living and working in Europenow I wasnt too naive but I was shocked that a wife was happy to ask me to join her (without hubby) when I knew for well she had one - I reluctantly said no as I had troubles getting my head around itI look back on that as an eye openerthe two of you are interested so the thing is now is you have to go along your little journey and perhaps there will be a stop along the waydont rush anything for rushing can make for a bad experienceI see the two of you are in Brisbane, I am on the Gold Coast so not too far awayI am more than happy to meet socially if you would like to chat to someone, without any expectations ....I will be staying in Brisbane for a few nights in May, midweek and weekendsregards as alwaysx
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