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Orgasms
October 16 2012
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RHP User
13 years ago
You are not alone in this area.. Only recently I was with a group of friends who were discussing this very subject... Only 2 of the women there ( of about 8 ) said they could cum with nookie.. The rest say even with a marathon session it just dont happen.... yet with direct stimulation , no problem.. Personally ' I have experienced both, some can, most cant.. Just my observation.. Jay
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RHP User
13 years ago
Would love to orgasm with a dick, but it has never happened.. Direct stimulation , no problem.. Why is the clit just outta reach from the action ? so close' yet so far.... someone stuffed up with our design...
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RHP User
13 years ago
Of course being a man you would know... tsk...
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RHP User
13 years ago
Haha, I wasn't really "trained" for my first C orgasm either, it just felt good and it happened. Why can't the same happen there?!
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Paradisepair
13 years ago
And depending on which article you're reading we women have between 5 and 11 different types of orgasms, rather than focusing on the kind I'm not having I prefer to try and discover some new ones. It works for me...
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RHP User
13 years ago
In particular his comments about neural pathways. Ponder for a moment that maybe, just maybe, in order to have a vaginal orgasm you will need to research, identify some particular techniques, practise them, and be committed to the task. Add to that the need to relax while practising and maybe, just maybe, you'll have a new experience AND develop some new neural pathways which will make it much easier to have that experience again. Of course, maybe a vaginal orgasm will happen spontaneously one day for those of us who haven't had the pleasure yet, but in the meantime, what's a little bit of research and practise going to hurt? Good luck - and have fun!!!
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RHP User
13 years ago
You need to train your man and if you don't plan on keeping him long enough to train, make sure that you do it for yourself. I have been practicing years and it just does not happen that way for me either.........but when I get it my way (and I do).. ... it is un believeable.
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RHP User
13 years ago
As not owning one, my advice maybe somewhat disregarded here. But I'm with mischevious all the way. Every woman has the ability to experience a vaginal orgasm. A combination of a few exercises like pelvic floor muscles, and if I may throw this about, but total submission to your own body. Being comfortable with it, and letting it do what it does best, will soon see you well on the way to achieving your goal.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Heya, After reading this post... I thought I should inject my 10 cents worth! Next time you have oral sex, get your partner or partners... To stimulate your clit and your g spot in a slight hook like motion at the same time... This will work in your favour two ways. One you'll have a massive oral orgasm... And two you'll increase the excitement of your pleasure sensors (A spot and g spot) inside your pussy... When your partners cock rubs against the roof of your oust, where these pleasure sensors are... Your pussy will become more and more sensitive and the likelihood of a vaginal orgasm increases significantly... The science is the physical stimulation points... But unfortunately... The art of stimulating these areas is often lost! I suggest you coach and direct the next guy.. Or go on a self exploration journey of your pussy... As vaginal orgasms are something else.... Good luck! I hope it all works out for you!!!!'
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RHP User
13 years ago
I have been fortunate and always achieved vaginal orgasm with my long term partner...I remember the very first time and I cried, powerful stuff. I think this actually is a very valid link (the one below) and in spite of achieving 'vaginal' orgasm.. I believe the clitoris is the masterkey. The vagina has very few nerve endings so.., without much to stimulate..it's a no brainer that not a lot is going to happen in that vicinity if your focus is the vagina alone. I believe 'vaginal' orgasm is the indirect stimulation of the clitoris either by employing the 'coital alignment technique' or, in some women, an overflow of clitoral tissue which extends into the wall of the vagina (said g spot). Only my opinion and like most of the information on this kind of thing, without any decent scientific evidence. http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Coital_alignment_techniqueHope the link helps somewhat PassionFruits..
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'Mischeviouslad' My belief, is that women who have yet to experience vaginal orgasms... have a subconscious mental barrier of control that they feel they need to maintain, perhaps, to protect themselves from the vulnerability that comes from losing that control to another person. This is where her partner must take that control, and make everything OK for her through gentle dominance, reassurance, and encouragement. DG, it can be an unpopular view, I think, that female orgasms require effort. You and I have talked, so you know a little about my situation and I'm increasingly passionate about this topic. Just like pregnancy and giving birth, both of which you could argue should be natural and simple and automatic - (but neither of which actually is for a lot of women) - female orgasms don't always come easily. For that matter, there's a whole different range of orgasms available to men which few men know anything about, and which generally take some effort to learn and experience, so the challenge is not just for women. I've been fortunate enough to love a man very deeply, and to lose all of my inhibitions with him. Still, no vaginal orgasm. He used to say, from time to time, 'relax honey'. I don't know what he was sensing, or what I could have done differently, because I was sure I was completely relaxed, but I think he was onto something. Between that and not having a great deal of physical sensitivity and having such deeply ingrained habits around clitoral orgasms and no doubt a myriad of other hang ups and barriers, it has seemed insurmountable. For women who don't have this challenge, it's almost impossible to understand I imagine. I can say for sure that if the day comes when I do have a vaginal/full body orgasm, it will be an extraordinary emotional release. I can feel that in every fibre of my being. I also feel deeply - similar to your comments DG - that the loving guidance of a man who knows what he's doing, or is at least completely open to exploring with me and has the patience to just do whatever it takes, is essential. They say women are responsible for their own orgasms and I agree with this, however there is something about the exchange of energy between me and the right man which takes me to a whole new place. And now I feel emotionally laid bare ... ouch!
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'Mischeviouslad' Mrs Just.... your design is juuuuuust fine. (...) Again, I say.... if other women can, and you're essentially designed with the same physiology, theres no reason why you cant too. DG and Brave_heart have really said it all, but this part in particular reminded me of a foreign friend who wanted to learn how to whistle. He told me he was keen to learn after hearing me whistle a song, and he tried for weeks, only succeeding in blowing out air. I tried to teach him how to do it, without much success. Then, one day something clicked, and it just happened. He suprised himself more than me. And he was able to whistle every time thereafter. Conclusion: Keep trying, you may just surprise yourself.
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RHP User
13 years ago
an unpopular point of view....orgasm shmorgasm,.....so much striving for the holy grails,to squirt,to body orgasm,OMG what am I doing wrong,what is he doing wrong,....IMHO ...so what....enjoy your body ,enjoy your lovers,enjoy the sensual erotic journey...sometimes the journey is more important than the destination....unlike Erica I have no fear of flyingxR
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RHP User
13 years ago
A good sexual encounter, one that is constructed around substance, can be easily planned by the male to put the spotlight on for the rest of the night. For example, a). Planning a date that not only involves the woman, but also makes her feel as it wholly ABOUT her. B). Take your time and enjoy the journey of the courtship not jump on the express train to the destination. C). Understand that women are aroused not just by what they see, but smell, taste, touch and think. All of these ingredients triggered in the right way and combination will allow her to let down her guard and give herself completely to her body and partner.
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RHP User
13 years ago
we were fortunate to meet with a tantric teacher and discovered a whole new world of spiritual orgasm. We had read about full body orgasm but never really understood what it meant. We both experienced what could only be described as mind numbing, out of this world experience which lasted for well over 30 mins. While totally blown away, you also experience a sense of calmness which is indescribable. Well worth the try if you can find the right teacher.
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RHP User
13 years ago
kYour posts are very interesting. Mr JJ has always held a interest with Tantric and mine more flipant than anything. But after reding your post it triggered my interest. Probally the most intriging tantric explaination ever. You are the type of person we would love to chat with. Seems you know what your talking about...
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RHP User
13 years ago
I'm in agreeance with the posters that mention training your body to respond to certain types of stimulation. And it can happen for us males aswell as females. Due to masturbation techniques I used while younger I've trained my body to only reach orgasm if I squeeze the muscles in my legs and pelvic area tight enough to squish my prostate and surrounding area. This is unfortunate because I cant just relax and enjoy someone else pleasuring me to orgasm (particularly orally). And afterwards I'm sore and stiff in the muscles mentioned above. The silver lining is that I can control exactly when I do orgasm. I remember as a teenager that almost any prolonged stimulation would get me off whether i 'squeezed' or not, do you think it's possible to get back to that relaxed and unfocused kind of enjoyment, or have I hardwired myself to only get there with the method I've used for years?
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RHP User
13 years ago
ShadesorRed "I now have full body, 'Valley', multiple orgasms that can go on for 45mins." I would die!!! Thank god we are not all the same, the walls would blow out and roof would fall in if I had and an orgasm that lasted 45 minutes. And just for variety boys; I moan, I grunt, I roar, I spasm and then I ....... GIGGLE. Gales of helpless, hysterical giggling. No tears for me. Been known to frighten the bejeezus out of men the first time they hear me do it, now I warn them beforehand because it can shatter fragile egos to be laughed at.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Well I am not one of those guys that will say come with me and I’ll give you an orgasm even though no guy ever has before and I won’t try to tell you I know more about a women’s body than they do how can this be possible? I also don’t believe that every women is the same that’s like saying every guy has the same penis we are all individuals very different in every way physically and emotionally and all of these will affect how we enjoy sex. But I do agree that we train our selfs to enjoy sex in our own way for example my wife can only orgasm from penetration and only when she is on top and in control she has had probably one of the best guys at oral we have meet play with her and while she enjoys it immensely she still can only come in the way she has trained herself, and the way she has trained me to let her do what she needs to do without me thinking I’m less of a man for not being able to do it for her even though I enjoy trying so much!! I would add this all of her best orgasms start hours before she ever gets her cloths of the romance foreplay the suspense the build up is needed for her to really enjoy it, Grabbing her on the tits or arse and saying how about just doesn’t cut it. Mr2n2
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RHP User
13 years ago
My ex was 27, and had never had an orgasm. Ever! It took 6 months after I bought her first little vibe, for her to say she had one on her own, then we brought the toy into the bed, and combining oral/vibe/penis we got there. And towards the end it was no toy, just tongue and fingers. She loved it and I was proud to share that with her. Proud that she slowly got more comfy with letting go in front of me, tears and all sorts. But I loved her and would let her cry on her shoulder anytime anywhere
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RHP User
13 years ago
So right! Im with you on this. I was always exploring my body since a young age and anything would do it for me and over the years I trained my body to achieve orgasm in a certain way.. and now it's the only way I can do it.. Need to undo need to undo!
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RHP User
13 years ago
I WANT SOME TANTRIC IN MY LIFE NOW! Woohoo
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RHP User
13 years ago
Me too! Thought I'd spent to much time down south and was desensitized...but am yet to really really get there without clit stimulation :( Thanks passion
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RHP User
13 years ago
Hi there sweet lady, Without doubt it can be hard unless you have an extremely large clit, however i have found that geting ladies off with the tonge easy it should be done with the tongue up to almost being ready and then enter the female and guide it in and out on an angle taking in the g spot which is located approx 30mm just inside from the clit and is smooth in texture. The orgasms are always more intense and pleasureable. Would you like a demo??
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RHP User
13 years ago
Hmmm. Thinking time
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RHP User
13 years ago
How's your thinking going bobby?
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RHP User
13 years ago
It is definately possible to have vaginal orgasms and YES they definately feel totally different to clitoral ones. The first thing you need to do is know exactly where your G Spot is and how to stimulate it on your own to orgasm. Once you have perfected it, you can then ensure you use a position where your partner's penis is stimulating the G Spot such as doggy... I find that G Spot stimulation as well as clitoral stimulation creates a long, really deep orgasm, which is different to just a vaginal one or clitoral one alone.
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RHP User
13 years ago
find the G, learn what works for you as far as stimulating this sacred spot and nirvana awaits
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RHP User
13 years ago
Mr Dolphin here. It is definitely a possibility, for the first time it will help to be nicely relaxed and you may need to ban hands on your clit for a week or two. It is just such a strong form of stimulation that all else struggles to match it. I suggest getting really horny with some great oral until just before you orgasm and then move to penetration and you might need to go back to that point with oral a few times; alternating with penetration. It helps if the penetration hits the G spot (which is part of the clit). It helps if the lady is on her back and roles her hips upwards towards her body and the guy gets his hips really low and thrusts upwards. (This is not the only way). It can be achieved, I hope you have fun trying. I have experienced this occasionally with a few ladies since I was 20.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Hi, I had not had my first orgasm till I was 28 yrs old, long story but in saying that I found my first to be unbelievable,then they became few and far between and since I found my soul mate in my husband, every time without a doubt he’ll give me orgasm’s that are out of this world,full body orgasm’s,vaginal you name it…. I found since letting go of my brain,stopped thinking bout everything and just felt through my feelings,my body etc every thing worked a treat… My husband knows all the spots that pleasure and create hours upon hours of orgasmic sex and has no problem at all in giving me multiple full body convulsions of ecstasy and multiple orgasms upon multiple…. Seriously girls you have to fully let go and stop worrying bout it and feel, so many people don’t do that anymore for some reason,but I think for me any ways it’s the key!!!!!
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RHP User
13 years ago
I am the same! no matter what i need clit stimulation to get there,, but from lots of 'research' :) we discovered i can come during sex if im on top and in control. you have to get real close, with the clit always rubbing against him and sort off instead of 'in out, up down motion' rock back & forwards pretty much get the clit stimulation from the rubbing and the deep rocking motion feels good as. it takes a bit to get the right motion but its worth it.. My bf cums just watching me get off on him xx
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DTE_couple
13 years ago
If your in a 2 x couple situation. The two girls are in a 69er position. The girl in question is on top. Her partner does her doggy style. When she gets close to orgasm. The female underneath stops licking. And then trys to see if she can orgasm that way. If she does keep shortening the length of time the female under neath is licking. I believe this could work. Let me know how this goes. Cheers Michelle & Gil
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RHP User
13 years ago
It all comes down to how you conect with the person your with! deep down if you feel like your not in a situation you want to be in your body responds to that so if you have partner who respects and responds to you mind body and soul then it all comes about with little effort
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RHP User
13 years ago
Like your profile suggests "the roof the roof is on fire" I have no problems generally giving orgasms through penetration. And I believe it is all to do with a very stiff cock that rubs the g spot area You see............ My cock bends like a banana and the harder I am the harder I can force the head of penis up onto the G spot area which seems to bring on orgasm. Well that's my theory :-)
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RHP User
13 years ago
Sweetheart you all aboslutely fine down there and just as pretty, it just comes down to you just relaxing and not even thinking or stressing about, and when the star's and Moon align along with the right 'SIZE & EQUIPMENT' You will see star's Babe. Have a Great Weekend
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RHP User
13 years ago
Hoping I don't come off sounding like a broken record here but, as a male, I think the female orgasm is an absolutely beautiful thing of nature. To make love to a woman and have her achieve an orgasm solely from intercounrse, without any other stimulation, is what we men strive for. My current partner is an incredible woman, whose orgasms are the most intense I have ever felt and I love bringing her to them if I can. For a truly vaginal climax, the male must know his lover and know what she likes. Only then can he position himself just right so that all moment is bringing immense pleasure to her.
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RHP User
13 years ago
I find that if the man penetrates me quickly after I have a clitoral orgasm - It goes on and on and on. Once I met a hunk of a man at a night club, He penetrated me deeply and smoothly and took it all the way out each stroke. Wow, it just happened. The scream came out out the same time. I got the surprise of my life and yes I have trouble having vaginal orgasms. So technique aand size matters. Oh yeah for those ladies who don't know. There's a spot about 3 inches inside the vagina toward the belly button. Tickle that. :-)
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bikin1model
13 years ago
G-spot slow and gentle........................
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RHP User
13 years ago
with the man and women grinding together will give you your clitoris the stimulation it needs at the same time as have peneration.
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RHP User
13 years ago
For me, fingers can do things with finding the right location, speed and tempo that all seem to work together. I find it relatively easy to come via clit, possible with with the right partner for fingers and very very infrequent with a cock (no matter the fella). I suggest you don't go on a "mission" with an end in mind, just play around and see what feels good for you.
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RHP User
13 years ago
According to research, there's a physical reason why some women can have vaginal orgasms and some can't. It's to do with the distance between the clitoris and the vagina. The shorter that distance, the more likely you are to have them. Ladies, get out the ruler (yes, your turn for once) and let's see if we can confirm that...
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'ObsidianSun'According to research, there's a physical reason why some women can have vaginal orgasms and some can't. It's to do with the distance between the clitoris and the vagina. The shorter that distance, the more likely you are to have them. Ladies, get out the ruler (yes, your turn for once) and let's see if we can confirm that... Was this research done by a man with a tiny willie by any chance?
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RHP User
13 years ago
It's not that I'm too small, or too short, or don't know what I'm doing... It's because your pussy is too damn long! Now I've heard it all!
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RHP User
13 years ago
It seems to us there are several types of orgasm.. Vaginal; four types ( at least in our sex lives) Clitoral stimulation, and three types of internal orgasm. 1 being G Spot stimulation, which we find is usually is the withdrawal stroke, the lip of the head rubs across the G Spot, which definatly gets my partner to climax in no time at all.. 2 deep thrusting penetration. I can feel the difference as I apply a different stroke or thrust into different parts of my partners vagina, this will bring her to a different reaction and orgasm. I can notice the difference in her orgasmic rhythms and sounds she makes, and also the clenching and stimulation I feel on my cock when she climaxes .. not to forget the female ejeculation, which is something that is becoming very popular with the ladies, once they discover it is something they can learn to achieve, and has a much greater intensity. There is also anal orgasm, which may not be everyone's pleasure ( not for me ) but evidently is a very powerful orgasm. The sensation of that orgasm seems to be a lot more intense than a vaginal orgasm.. I have also had a partner who could climax through nipple stimulation, and then with digital stimulation with 1,2,3 or more fingers is also another way to go, for eg the Venus butterfly... We are sure there others as well with the right atmosphere and a bit of practice... The pleasure of her orgasm is something for us all to enjoy... ;-).
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'DeviousMissM'Was this research done by a man with a tiny willie by any chance? No, it was done by a professor of behavioural neuroendocrinology at Emory University.http://www.latimes.com/features/health/la-hew-ordistance11feb11,0,2763149.storyIt makes sense - the closer the clit is to the vagina, the less there is between the two sets of nerves and the more they can get stimulated together.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'DeviousMissM' It's not that I'm too small, or too short, or don't know what I'm doing... It's because your pussy is too damn long! Er, correct me if I'm wrong, but what does the length of the pussy have to do with the distance between the clit and the opening? Surely one is up/down and the other is in/out?
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RHP User
13 years ago
Yes, agreed, but it's still an interesting correlation.
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RHP User
13 years ago
Quoting 'ObsidianSun' Quoting 'DeviousMissM' It's not that I'm too small, or too short, or don't know what I'm doing... It's because your pussy is too damn long! Er, correct me if I'm wrong, but what does the length of the pussy have to do with the distance between the clit and the opening? Surely one is up/down and the other is in/out? True. I misread the OP, because SOMEONE was DISTRACTING me.
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