Open marriages..

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  Well we found talking about adding an extra person in our lovemaking really hot. Then we thought why not for real......... Got the surprise of my life when a younger work mate propositioned me! Had to ring hubby to get permission of course. OMFG! Amazing! Then shared what i had done with Hubby. That started us along this path and we haven't looked back. Never thought I was still attractive to other men! This in itself has been a great confidence booster! A few hiccups along the way but i think most cpls get that. It's about fun.... It's just adding to the relationship, not replacing it......

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  hi there, regarding your question, I personally believe that it is much better to have a totally honest relatonship. I would rather know and/or be there if my hubby wants to try something else, or ratrer somebody else. As well, for myself. I also can have variety in my sex life. have fun.

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  It started from day 1. When we met we were totally open with what we wanted. Luckily we were both wanted the same things. Haven't looked back. Sweet

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  Well good question in my case I've only just spoken to my wife about my needs and I got the expected response which was no communication as usual I told her again on what I was going to do and still she'd didn't say no and understood excactly what I was implying. Our sex life has been totally shit for years and I'm left frustrated as hell I miss cuddles from a woman and spooning etc. My wife is not interested in sex what so ever and this has lead me to sites such as this.The way I see it as long as I'm not hounding my wife for sex and I keep it discreet we both end up happy and our marriage is still intact. As far as I'm concerned honesty and being open about it was the best thing to do as I am a decent man. I sincerly hope that I will be able to find some ladies that I can be friends with benefits or the occassional couple that wants the extra man in play. Rainbow if you can or any other ladies can give me some advise on how to improve my possibilities for a bit of discreet fun it would be very much appreciated. cheers Adrian

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  FROM THE START MY PARTNER KNEW I WAS BISEXUAL, IN THE PAST, AS MUCH AS MEN SAID THEY LOVED IT, WHEN IT CAME TO THE CRUNCH THEY GOT JEALOUS OR POSSESSIVE. IT ALSO HELPED THAT MY HUSBAND HAD A PROBLEM WITH FIDELITY IN THE PAST, SO FOR US, IT COULDN'T BE MORE PERFECT. WE BOTH GET WHAT WE WANT, WOMEN. WE CAN HAVE A TOTALLY HONEST RELATIONSHIP WITHOUT FEELING GUILTY. TO BE QUITE FRANK THE IDEA OF MONOGOMY IS UNREALISTIC.- I'D EXPECT AROUND EIGHTY PERCENT OF MARRIAGES CONSIST OF INFIDELITY... IT IS UNREALISTIC TO EXPECT A PERSON TO BE PHYSICALLY ATTRACTED TO ONE PERSON FOR THE REST OF YOUR LIFE. I THINK IF MORE PEOPLE ACCEPTED THE REALITY OF THE SITUATION, THE INSTITUTION OF MARRIAGE WOULD BE MORE SUCCESSFUL AND NOT SO CONCTRICTING ON OUR INDIVIDUALITY

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  Quoting 'Logical47' Well good question in my case I've only just spoken to my wife about my needs and I got the expected response which was no communication as usual I told her again on what I was going to do and still she'd didn't say no and understood excactly what I was implying. Our sex life has been totally shit for years and I'm left frustrated as hell I miss cuddles from a woman and spooning etc. My wife is not interested in sex what so ever and this has lead me to sites such as this.The way I see it as long as I'm not hounding my wife for sex and I keep it discreet we both end up happy and our marriage is still intact. As far as I'm concerned honesty and being open about it was the best thing to do as I am a decent man. I sincerly hope that I will be able to find some ladies that I can be friends with benefits or the occassional couple that wants the extra man in play. Rainbow if you can or any other ladies can give me some advise on how to improve my possibilities for a bit of discreet fun it would be very much appreciated. cheers Adrian

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  StookyAndChooky

  15 years ago

  well the thing about open relationship is that they all vary in one way or another depending on individuals involved of course and depending on your relationship of course some have it totally open where both parties play with others but always come back to each other while others one party plays more than other varies so much in the scene.I enjoy being in an open relationship here its the best by farI plan on being with my man for long time yet we love each other very much we both enjoy women body weather it be a 3 sum together we both get turned on by it or I love seeing my man with another women weather I am in the room or not even there we have 100% trust/honesty/communication is secret to great open relationship, of course in the beginning we had our fair share of little ups and downs to begin with depends on other person involved or if you are both new to the scene so many factors involved. 1. beginning we spend a lot of time together alone first as a couple2. we wrote list of boundaries that we both felt totally comfortable with it 3. when one person becomes upset with a situation in the scene both parties need to sit down and maybe chat about boundaries again 4. Even if you have little signals that you give each other if other person feels totally comfortable or uncomfortable with as long as it stops any unwanted fights of course.5. Always go into open relationship slowly if one person in the relationship is new to the scene 6. Always take what your partner says seriously if they are new to the scene they only upset because they love you but at the end of day partner is one you love and rest of people in the scene are people you just socialize with and have very casual no strings attached sex with really 7. Big difference between love and lust and remember love is meant to be stronger than lust 8. In any relationship you balance of love and lust to make it work

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  Mr_MrsJones

  15 years ago

  The term Open Relationship is a bit weird and one person's definition can be different from another's. I would describe mine as 'relaxed' rather than 'open' but hey potatos vs potahtos. The key issue we have come accross is jealousy and after reading in some polyamouros websites have learned that the source of jealousy is fear. So if you have jealousy issues ask yourself what is that person afraid of and then take steps to address the fear. Basically the key to things is communication which includes expressing your honest opinion in a non confrontational way AND listening in a non-judgemental way. Not easy but essential and oh so liberating when mastered

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