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Once a cheater
July 23 2015
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RHP User
10 years ago
Not always. Depends on the person, the situation, if the cheating was on going or a one off, etc etc. Although, once a liar, ALWAYS a liar.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Tiger Woods
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RHP User
10 years ago
I don't think its true. At least I know I haven't always cheated.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Hmmmm....not sure if there's a one-size -suits-all answer to that. Definitely true for some but not for others. KK 😊 - Posted from rhpmobile
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madotara69
10 years ago
However, I did hear crossing a lesbian with a hippopotamus can bring the uncanny chances of a Lickalotapus. Mado Mado Tara xx
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RHP User
10 years ago
I wouldn't say there's a blanket rule as everyone is different. But if you have been cheated on in the past, there will no doubt be some level of trust issues with each new relationship.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Take these shoes.Walk 1.6 Kilometres.Exercise your freedom of speech.IIWII.Shoot the horse.Give it a flogging.
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RHP User
10 years ago
I failed geography because of it...meh no biggie 😝 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
..... probably as it points to a persons morality settings, which tend not to change in the 'driven snow' direction .. if they change at all .... .... why do you ask Grasshopper ?
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RHP User
10 years ago
... I'm no Cheeta .... ... 'Im a stallion babbeee' ....... (that'll do donkey .. that'll do!)
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Smilingwithfun
10 years ago
To err is human, to forgive divine. Interesting world if we couldn't make a mistake or error of judgement.
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RHP User
10 years ago
I strongly believe chronic cheaters are generally socio-paths, and are probably never going to change. So for these guys and gals the saying stays true, and should be avoided. There are so many different reasons for cheating - and I think for the vast majority, it is not valid to label them as a cheater because of a single or a couple of occurrences.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Our respective partners left us for cheaters only to be cheated on once they themselves re married on more than one occasion having one ex contact us several times in distress over a cheating partner lol ??? Like we could give a shit, you reap what you sow, good riddance to bad rubbish we say and suffer in you jocks. Something fundamentally wrong with those individuals, sad thing is both of us if approached would have been open to working with our exes ie being on here, hence here we are disputed needing nothing more. We understand that there might be medical reasons etc but if agreed upon is it cheating? Those that do the cheating will justify it noatrer what, some only live for the " Indian games" and once it's " ok" don't want it a note, go figure. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
Gawd, you have to love phone preemptive text 😔 you get the idea lol - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
My son's father cheated on me throughout our relationship. I would confronted him and he would turn it around and accuse me of being jealous and insecure. After we split up I found out that every time I had thought he was cheating, he most certainly was. There's a lot to be said for having a gut feeling lol. Sadly he's repeated that behaviour with every other woman that he's been with in the 13 years that we've been apart, so he's definitely someone to whom the phrase 'once a cheater, always a cheater' applies. And unfortunately it's left me with major trust issues as a result.
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RHP User
10 years ago
I think that statement is far too general. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
Depends on the person. But I believe people can change, especially if they want, and have support. So depends on the reasons for cheating, and if they've been resolved.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Cheat because they are bored and they love the thrill of it all...some because they are no longer haviing sex with their partner but they love their partner and or don't want to shake up their lives...they are often consumed with guilt but quickly move on to a new person to cheat with....some people cheat because they have been cheated on..the revenge cheat..Some people have a partner with mega health problems and having a sex life with them is now out of the question...everyone has an excuse or a story ,I certainly do..xxFreya
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'Astrild' My son's father cheated on me throughout our relationship. I would confronted him and he would turn it around and accuse me of being jealous and insecure. After we split up I found out that every time I had thought he was cheating, he most certainly was. There's a lot to be said for having a gut feeling lol. Sadly he's repeated that behaviour with every other woman that he's been with in the 13 years that we've been apart, so he's definitely someone to whom the phrase 'once a cheater, always a cheater' applies. And unfortunately it's left me with major trust issues as a result. My ex's previous husband cheated on her. She then never trusted me (even though I have never cheated on anyone in my life), contributed to our break-up from trust issues. I know it is hard to have been cheated on, and then try and accept / trust a new partner, have no answers as it is a hard question, but distrusting a new partner because on trust issues with a previous partner does not seem to work, for me anyway..
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RHP User
10 years ago
That's always stood me in good stead when looking for relationships previously is the old saying... 'If she cheats WITH you, she'll cheat ON you.' - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
Agreed, there can be valid, remote reasons - and then there are the cunts. I was married to a cunt. Why lord why did I let that happen?
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RHP User
10 years ago
My wife has currently had 3 affairs that I can confirm ,only still there for the kids, I agree with the op
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RHP User
10 years ago
Fundamentally people don't change but they can choose to try. Your gut feeling should tell you so you should always listen. Don't listen to what they say just look to what they do. I don't think I have ever met a cheater who was able to admit it to their partner (unless caught or found out). I can handle the cheating side of it but can't deal with the lying. HONESTY means everything.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Cheated on me a few times, and will probably do it with his new partner, because he thinks hes done nothing wrong. If they get away with it (as he did a few times before I found out) they will keep doing it, it feeds their ego. I agree with Astrild, gut feeling counts for a lot, although you have no proof, then they turn it round on you for being jealous and insecure. Im not tarring all guys with the same brush, but my answer to the question would have to be yes.
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RHP User
10 years ago
There are many reasons for it and different situations that cause it If you are with someone you don't love and you cheat ..but then this same person could be with someone they do love and won't cheat But if you are with someone you do love and u cheat on then you are a scumbag
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RHP User
10 years ago
is more often than not; the act of infidelity isn't what hurts.... It's the betrayal from someone that was trusted to act with integrity..... - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
Not true.Depends on the person and their situation.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'Kisskiss80' Generally yes, but.....Not always. Depends on the person, the situation, if the cheating was on going or a one off, etc etc. Although, once a liar, ALWAYS a liar. Totally.
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RHP User
10 years ago
You're right, it is sad. I've worked hard to repair the damage that he did, and this is the last piece that I need to sort out. I know that until I do, I won't have a chance of having a successful relationship. And while that's not high on my agenda right now, things change and I know that eventually I will want to go there.
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Cheekyarses
10 years ago
Depends on the person and the situation. There are people who can change because they want too and there are people who choose not to change. Everyone is different and each situation different - but there is a saying ' the first time is or can be a mistake, however the second time is a choice'. Food for thought x - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
not a black and white subject but cheating is always wrong except a few situations where sometimes it's not (as in all situations where some are different and one persons perspective can be much difference to another's) That being said I would say that some people are just not cut out for manogomy and the ways of incorporating ethical non manogamy should be talked about and hopefully an agreement reached before cheating being considered as a viable option. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
I don't believe so.
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RHP User
10 years ago
It's behavioural, dependent on any number of underlying factors. Any behaviour can be modified.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Cheaters and liars are one and the same and a leopard doesnt change its spots. They do it once to you, you are kidding yourself if you think it wont happen again. NEVER trust a liar and a cheat. I feel for Astrild - I know EXACTLY the type of dipshit she was dealing with. Quoting 'Astrild' My son's father cheated on me throughout our relationship. I would confronted him and he would turn it around and accuse me of being jealous and insecure. After we split up I found out that every time I had thought he was cheating, he most certainly was. There's a lot to be said for having a gut feeling lol. Sadly he's repeated that behaviour with every other woman that he's been with in the 13 years that we've been apart, so he's definitely someone to whom the phrase 'once a cheater, always a cheater' applies. And unfortunately it's left me with major trust issues as a result.
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