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September 09 2009
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RHP User
16 years ago
Really it doesn't matter to me, and really its none of my business, and personally as far as women are concerned, i think it is a huge double standard, but then i always stick up for girls who get called sluts because of their promiscuity. Cheers Nev
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RHP User
16 years ago
A good person is a good person. And maybe another generalisation but rather than 'used goods' I'd be more likely to think 'experienced lover' mmmm... HugsMrs P
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RHP User
16 years ago
I'm with you there Mrs P.
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RHP User
16 years ago
and me with you casava!HugsDeb:-*
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RHP User
16 years ago
When I was younger (and stupider) I'd lie shamelessly about my "number" :-) (if you're going to lie, make it worthwhile I reckon haha) I was afraid of being judged, criticized and rejected by men who have no idea what a woman's sex drive even is. Now that I know better, I would never even consider being with someone who thought that was a good reason not to be with me. I don't think anyone who's had only a few partners deserves more respect than another who has had lots. Sex is natural, fun, and should be explored, what's not to respect? Personally, I'd prefer a guy who's left 100s of happy girls behind him rather than 10 miserable ones lol
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RHP User
16 years ago
The number of lovers a person has had has absolutely nothing to do with the respectability of the person......if we're all grown ups! And the basic response would be.........who on earth's business is it anyway, except for your own. I would think that anyone asking "how many" must be a little insecure.....because really.....it's none of their business!As Mrs P says......a good person is a good person....and the way I see it....if they come with a plethora of experiences, then that can sometimes make them all the better! Have a beautiful day. H x
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RHP User
16 years ago
About to become very unpopular here.This is RHP and not RSVP. I believe this to be an adult site with grown up enlightened individuals who are on the same level. We are here or so I believe as individuals who seek like minded people. Call me liberated or call me a modern girl but people who entertain multiple partner are who RHP are. Hell if you think that a person who has had sexual encounters with more than say for arguments sake 5 people then I believe you are on the wrong site. If not then I am on the wrong site. So let me know and I will move on. This is my opinion and I am entitled to it!!!
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RHP User
16 years ago
Does it matter at the end of the day. I thought that sexual fun was an adult thing to do, so does it matter how many encounters one has in life??
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RHP User
16 years ago
"most guys would not date a girl with a massive sexual history" "Nobody wants to dedicate their lives to a woman who spent years fucking around" "id buy a used car sure but not a beaten up bomb that needs reboaring" You are entitled to your opinion of course but the above are 3 comments found on a forum question YESTERDAY by guys on RHP who should really know better... so I don't think Casava is the one with the problem! Also, take note that I haven't yet read ONE reply from a guy... is it because they are all so enlightened??? or is it because they are afraid of the reaction if they say what they really feel?????? something to think about....
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RHP User
16 years ago
who are you getting defensive at?
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RHP User
16 years ago
I can't imagine that a number is relevant to anyone but a complete knob. Frankly, I'm glad that guys are not queing up to give you a number. Clearly, the majority of men think the whole "used car" scenario lacks maturity. That is, only a pimple faced moronic mummy's boy would thinks such things are important. :) Warm hugs Gazza
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RHP User
16 years ago
I hope you're right Gaz... and thank god for guys like you... ;-)
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RHP User
16 years ago
Personally...I think some guys want to know how many peeps a girl has been with because they want to know how many previous lovers they are going to be compared to. Usually... coz they suck in bed...and the more experience she has....the more likely he is to be found out.A sexually mature and experienced man would welcome a woman that has the experience of good and fun lovin'.As long as she (and he) have been careful with their sexual health...then its all good!Just my opinion...BJxxxbtw....I am a quite experienced and fun lover....hehehehehe! And I make no bones about it. LOL!
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RHP User
16 years ago
Gazza, I am with you. Miss K
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RHP User
16 years ago
If some guy doesnt want to date a girl who has had lots of partners then that is his right. There is no double standard. Just like you have the right to not be with a guy for whatever reason. If I went around sleeping with hundreds of women then I would accept that some girls would find that a turn off.
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RHP User
16 years ago
Both the Dr and myself have a colourful history. Hell, we met at a swingers club. (both of us were single at the time and having an absolute ball!!) I have never asked how many partners he has had and in turn he has never asked me. If he did I would not lie (I might have to guess the answer though) but I'm not sure I'd want to know his answer in turn. I prefer to think that he's had enough to give him the experience needed to make me scream and not so many that he has done and tried everything, there are still some things we can do together for the first time.
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RHP User
16 years ago
Attitude is more important than mileage. Attitude to self: Are you prepared to show confidence and acceptance of who you are and what you are willing to contribute to a relationship whether it be 20 years or 20 minutes long. Attitude to others: Do you show acceptance of the other person/people involved allowing them to be genuine and passionate? Are you prepared to trust the other person to show the same acceptance of your genuine self as you reveal it? Attitude to the situation: Are you prepared to deliver what you say you want, when and how you want it? Attitude to communication: Are prepared to communicate your feelings about what is happening as it happens? Are you open to trying new things and pushing your boundaries? A passionate open mind prepared to live in the moment and push the envelope leaves issues such as: how old are you? how many partners have you had? what car do you drive? what do you do for a job? and similar questions where they belong .. ignored.
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RHP User
16 years ago
To be honest I really don't care. As long as the girl I am with wants to be with me and enjoys being with me then what difference does it make in the long run? Osiris And I have not had that many partners but have been with each one a long time...for some I was the first or second lover and for some I was the who knows how manyth partner...as long as I could satisfy her that was enough
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RHP User
16 years ago
Quoting 'sophie_74' "most guys would not date a girl with a massive sexual history" "Nobody wants to dedicate their lives to a woman who spent years fucking around" "id buy a used car sure but not a beaten up bomb that needs reboaring" You are entitled to your opinion of course but the above are 3 comments found on a forum question YESTERDAY by guys on RHP who should really know better... so I don't think Casava is the one with the problem! Also, take note that I haven't yet read ONE reply from a guy... is it because they are all so enlightened??? or is it because they are afraid of the reaction if they say what they really feel?????? something to think about.... Cheers Sophie, Those same comments are the reasons why it inspired me in the first place to ask such a question. You would think that this would be the wrong site to ask, since people would most likely be open minded, being on an adult site. But the evidence from those other threads, it seems to be anything but, and it seems mostly the males here are still adhering to the old double standards. Yes, there are notable exceptions. I'm so grateful for that, Gazza you rock, you too nev if you're the dude.
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RHP User
16 years ago
Or maybe 48...... any more than that and you're just gutter trash. haha kidding of course. you're allowed 53 for free!It's true. I read it somewhere!
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RHP User
16 years ago
... I did re-read the other forum topic, as well as this one, and re-reading the comments made by the "un-enlightened" guys they really do seem to be the idiot minority.... also because of their amazing generalizations in speaking for the entire male population e.g. "most guys" "nobody wants"... well, they're already showing their ignorance right there really....so let us waste no more time on these idiots MissBJ... you always get it right ;-)
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RHP User
16 years ago
Did anyone ever see the gameshow skit on the TV show "Balls of Steel" ?? They put couples on a lie detector that is doctored up and one of the questions is about how many partners it is an absolute classic!!! http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Y1-34ceiYzg
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RHP User
16 years ago
Personally I don't give two hoots how many lovers my partner/squeeze/beneficial friend has had. If we connect and we make each other happy and can sexually satify each other then great. personally, I would rather have a partner sho is experienced and has had many lovers becuase at least I know she is going to be comfortable in her own skin and is more likely to be more uninhibited and that makes for better passion and relationships - no matter what type of relationship it is....If you are going to be constantly worried about how you compare to previous lovers then maybe solo sex is for you! or look for the 40 year old virgin.......anyway, that is just my opinion, but numbers......who cares.....a bit like age reallly! it only matters if you make it matter
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RHP User
16 years ago
I was reading some studies on the number of sex partners a human has over a lifetime done by Sigmund Freud in 1890s with focus on Psychosexual development. It seems based on statistical studies of the population the same way quality counts so does quantity. And it appears people who deny it may often be trying to hide some form of addiction or obsession they may have with something or some activity which in this case is sexual encounters.We often (including myself) fail to see both sides of the equation and as soon as a topic is discussed , consider it to be an attack at our character. While it can indeed be a medium for exposing some of our insecurities or obsessions to our very own self.Well that was other people's ideas. If I was asked , my opinion would be , "the number of people one has slept with over years may not be a judgment of ones character and sexual integrity. However, the number of different people unknown to each other one sleeps with in similar unit of time does." In other worlds if we are addicted to sex to the degree that we see a person in the morning , different at night time and another over the weekend. They do not know about it and we feel it's ok as many people who feel sex is like going to timezone or having a drink and "just another activity", then we have an issue , whither we deny it, defend it or not.Now forget the conversation and get back to whatever "we're" doing here. Yeah ?!
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RHP User
16 years ago
Personally it isn't an issue with me, my wife was more experienced than me when we met (She taught me a few things )and since has had a few more but it's never bothered me, she was a caring loving soul who I am lucky to be with. It would have been my great lose if I had been stupid enough to let a number put me off her. Good on her I say. I was previously in a job where the culture engouraged the guys to try and sleep with as many ladies as they could and if a new lady started work look out as most of the guys were trying to get into their pants and if they did, couldn't wait to brag about it. Funny thing was most of these guys were married/relationship and if another guy so much as looked at their wives/girlfriends they would want to kill them but they could never see the double standards. Unfortunatly there a quite a few guys out there like but karma gets them in the end.
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RHP User
16 years ago
Quoting 'EscapePod'IIn other worlds if we are addicted to sex to the degree that we see a person in the morning , different at night time and another over the weekend. They do not know about it and we feel it's ok as many people who feel sex is like going to timezone or having a drink and "just another activity", then we have an issue , whither we deny it, defend it or not. Errr... The term "addiction" is used in many contexts to describe an obsession, compulsion, or excessive psychological dependence. Therefore just because a person enjoys frequent sexual encounters with numerous individuals, it is no indication of an addiction. An addiction is a chronic neurobiologic disorder that has genetic, psychosocial, and environmental dimensions and is characterized by one of the following: the continued sexual activity despite its detrimental effects, impaired control over the sexual activity, and preoccupation with sexual activity. So, sleeping with just three different people over a weekend causes an issue? Too right it does.... that's a Friday afternoon activity isn't it? :p Hugs Gazza
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RHP User
16 years ago
I'm not concern about the number of partners as long we connect and we enjoy 'the pleasure of each others company'. I don't even mind sharing as long as I know I get and give what we both want and we are healthy and safe about it. Oh... that excludes of course the whole domination/ownership thing... but that's a whole different story!
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tamworthguy46
16 years ago
I would definatly have to draw the line at 2522.....as 2523 would be just sick...eeuwwee......lmao Quite frankly who realy counts......exept for maybee geene simmons from kiss, didn't he go on record as having slept with over 10,000 women....so he says !
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RHP User
16 years ago
If the guy is gona care, Look for someone else... LOL
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RHP User
16 years ago
The other attributes are more important than how many sexual partners they have hadAs long as I'm the last number
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RHP User
16 years ago
There is no number of people my prospective partner has slept with that would make me feel that they were "used goods" or somehow unworthy of getting to know, or going out with, or marrying for that matter. Even the thought of that of that makes me feel angry. Everyone has a past. Some may not be as pretty as others, but i dont believe anybody should be judged or condemed for things that happen in a previous time or environment (war crimes, murder, etc, excepted of course). Life is not easy, and i know people (including myself) who have done things they wish they hadn't, but whether you're caught in a difficult situation, an unhealthy relationship or whether your actions were just part of a learning, carefree experience... it doesnt fucking matter. Who is one person to judge another's life or morals when they have know idea of the circumstances around it. And if we're talking about boys with zillions of partners judging girls with zillions of partners and thinking of them as sluts, well thats just caveman stuff. Im not into feminism as an ideology, but i can remember Fiona Mckee and i in grade 9 hiding in the corner of the school library, reading the dirty parts of "The Female Eunuch" and coming across the part where Ms Greer writes about the male determined injustice of how the penis has to be big and huge and thick and massive. Whereas the vagina has to be small and tiny and tight and virtually non existent. Being a sex crazed and curious 14 year old, my thoughts were pretty much centered on the existence of Ms Mckee's private parts (alas, i never discovered any proof), but, i did begin to understand the unfairness of men judging women when it came to sex and from then on have questioned anyone trying to do so. Casava, There is no number, nor should there be. G
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RHP User
16 years ago
omg do people really keep count? ...FFS pmsl
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