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Not Getting Wet During Sex?
June 03 2015
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On_Safari
11 years ago
Both valid concerns but I stumbled at the "when I was younger" comment. (Eyebrows raised you're only 2 years older than my daughter *newsflash* you're still younger) Not a judgement but I think you are confused. Why would you be wanting to coerce your partner into more swinging when he's not as interested anymore and why would you want to continue if you're experiencing pain 70% of the time? Are you hoping to meet someone who can miraculously make you wet? Squirt? Or cure your primary partner's current aversion to your efforts of organising a swingfest for him? Maybe his reluctance to stimulate you sufficiently is based on this current obsession you have for getting wet and his inability to get you wet enough to your sarisfaction is weighing on his mind and your lemming-like approach to painful intercourse with others? I'd be questioning your motivations, emotional, physical and psychological. Have you spoken to a Doctor, take him with you for support AND so he can discuss his thoughts? ~ curious more than interested.
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On_Safari
11 years ago
Hers was caused by a multitude of urinary tract complications. She grew out of it around 30. Hope that helps
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RHP User
11 years ago
I will PM you as I don't need the whole world to read about mine lol Any other ladies welcome to PM me if interested also
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RHP User
11 years ago
the best person to speak to. It could be that you are low in estrogen. Dryness and pain during intercourse in common after menopause but it can happen at a much younger age too. Hope you find the cause. HugsLG
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Seachange73
11 years ago
I can see how people can mistake your question and take offense. Just the nature of the forum... each one comes into the forum with different set of morals and background. The nuance of your inquiry, I believe is genuine but has gotten lost in translation. don't take it personally but i do not blame you after reading the posts. The women here in the forum are quite intelligent and sensible. Unfortunately, many of us have also been exposed to some disrespect and abuse from some dickheads here and you may be catching the tail end of the wrath of us women when we had enough of being treated like free whores. The stick that broke the camel's back so to speak. Lol. Just bad timing. To answer your question, I say YES. I am sure they exist. Why not. Statistically, it is more than likely. They exist on here as in real life - bars, clubs, etc. It is just in RHP, this is an adult dating site that facilitates that hook-up with 'like-minded' people of varying tastes and objectives. Your idea of meet is not for everyone, like myself, as you have gathered by the response. Hehe. Hard audience, eh? All I can say, take it easy. Take your time. Patience. And treat each woman here with respect. Read their profile and check if that is what they are looking for. But read their profile before contacting the women with any suggestion of a quick hook-up. Otherwise, you know what is coming. What I also would suggest, get to know women with some chats with them.. Not expecting to sleep with them early on.. sow the seed of friendship and trust so to speak. Invest some time with them. Then keep a catalogue of these 'friends' of yours. Am sure if you do build a list of like-minded friends, you can call on them or they on you, when the itch needs to be scratch at short notice? A good strategy? Wishing you luck. Keep a level-headed approach to things. Just remember that when you post in the forum, there will be more than likely, people who will disagree with your thoughts, ideas and beliefs. Meh... Accept that and move on.. Keep a sense of humour here. Important if you want to stay sane.... Good luck.
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Seachange73
11 years ago
sorry.... wrong forum ... Doh!!!! I should stop taking those purple pills... Sorry Op. Lol
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RHP User
11 years ago
that was a big response too lmfao - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'lilyorchid' sorry.... wrong forum ... Doh!!!! I should stop taking those purple pills... Sorry Op. Lol
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Baysidecouple214
11 years ago
Have you tried a different type of lube? I know it doesn't solve your problem, but you may also have a skin allergy to the current one you are using. Me i am allergic to everything besides Pjur.... great lube....really expensive... It is dermatology tested. All other lubes actually make me swell (not in a sexy kind of way) and it burns.... Don't feel bad about your situation I am the same age (well actually 26 tomorrow) I am having a similiar problem, except mine is a side affect from my recent hysterectomy :| So I have no way to fix my problem, but accepted it is what it is... and always have a good supply of lube
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RHP User
11 years ago
OP - I dun know. Read your other post and it is all too confusing for me.
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AnnieWhichway
11 years ago
Hope she's got enough to go around. Sounds like some great gear. Woo hooo
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RHP User
11 years ago
I was watching a hodgetwins video on YouTube the other week (for anyone who doesn't know who they are they are twins who make fitness and health videos) and they were answering a question similar to this. Apparently there's a female Viagra type pill for women to help aid the production of female lubricant. So I would definitely speak to your doctor about it and see if it's available in Australia.
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tylannister
11 years ago
But in the U.S., the purple pill only does anything for guys ;)
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RHP User
11 years ago
but I'm treading carefully here because this is more than likely a medical issue, definitely go see a doctor, get hormones checked, but how can I put this, juices flow when you're really, really, really turned on. With a partner you've been with for however long, particularly when you're so young and no offence but you don't know yet what good sex is, speaking from experience, no malice intended, have you played with any guys who really do it for you, but without your partner present. That would be my first move, and okay, we all know I'm a big slut, but before you go worrying about medical issues, try the natural order of things. I had a problem with natural lubrication when I was married, so much so I always had to use oil, grapeseed oil because it lasts longer, lube of choice but whatever, doesn't matter, it lived by the bed and I've have to get my husband to repeatedly put it on during sex, it was really annoying but too dry otherwise. Thought it was my age, well let me tell you, I haven't used it for normal sexual activity once with other men, and I make sure I'm really really really turned on by them before I make the decision to get with this, then you need to let yourself go, relax and don't tense up, worrying about it used to make me worse. Now I have natural juices flowing, but I have to be very aroused, if the guy doesn't turn me on, forget it and long term partners quite often just don't do it for you, just my thought but definitely get medically checked and good luck, it must be so hard to have this to deal with when you just want to have fun
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Seachange73
11 years ago
Quoting 'sir_stir' that was a big response too lmfao - Posted from rhpmobile I know, I know... Massive Faux pas. Lol. My blond moment... or is that early onset of Dementia? I forget. A side effect of the purple pills.... sometimes things get hazy.... each trip is like a free ticket into my own Tardis... just drops me where it wants and away I go...
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RHP User
11 years ago
The main problem: Ouch. Sounds to me it might your birth control. Follow unicorns advice. The other problem: Your situation might not be a 'quick' fix, in which case you are left with your other problem. Sex is painful for you right now. Your lover doesn't seem to fully understand your situation. From a guys perspective - if going down 'hurts', then a guy may assume other forms of 'foreplay' may hurt more. If your man wants you to enjoy sex his going to have to respect your wishes to go down a couple gears and gently build into the motions.
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RHP User
11 years ago
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RHP User
11 years ago
I was on the pill for 17 years and experienced driest which got progressively worse. Although annoying at times it was combated with lubricant. Came off the pill and BINGO problem was gone. As convenient at the pill is, I am a strong advocate of using other methods of contraception - artificially controlling your hormones changes who you are, your sex drive and your emotions. Come off for a couple of months and you should feel a difference. - A
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RHP User
11 years ago
Being male I dont have a wetness issue but I could imagine how this problem could effect you and your lifestyle. Obvious it manifests when you feel you have to perform and become anxious. I guess its somewhat like a man who cant get a erection.. The more you think about it the bigger the devil.. It may be physical or emotional or even both. Like any problem , if you dont deal with it ' it wont just disappear by its self .. The only starting points I know of are, a Urologist or Sex therapist , both who I believe you need a referral from your doctor ... I feel confident you will find the right way in the end.. good luck... Jay
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RHP User
11 years ago
quoting JayMe "Being male I dont have a wetness issue" - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
ITs called Niagra
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RHP User
11 years ago
Thanks everyone who has committed, my wife has just start to have this problem, I didn't understand what she was talking about. Well now I do, thank you. Now it's time to figure out what ki d of foreplay doesn't hurt...
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RHP User
11 years ago
It might pay to chat with your GP. Post Hysterectomy you may be in need of hormone cream to ease the dryness that can occur.
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RHP User
11 years ago
Orhers have made good suggestions so i wont double up. Another possibility is the condoms and/or lube. You may have an alergic reaction and need to experiment. Pjur is v good lube (from sex shops and websites) and any flavoured or soermicide condoms give me a bad reaction (soreness during sex and next day). Another suggestion is it could be low grade chronic thrush? Also it could be pressure u are puttin g on yourself. If you enjoy sex and partner (s) care about your pleasure then that is what matters. - Posted from rhpmobile
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Seachange73
11 years ago
Quoting 'tylannister' But in the U.S., the purple pill only does anything for guys ;) I believe it is blue in Aus. Not that I know... Lol..
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RHP User
11 years ago
The other day I thought of you when I came across a bottle of " Dill Water " in the supermarket..
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RHP User
11 years ago
Quoting 'Mattann' I was on the pill for 17 years and experienced driest which got progressively worse. Although annoying at times it was combated with lubricant. Came off the pill and BINGO problem was gone. As convenient at the pill is, I am a strong advocate of using other methods of contraception - artificially controlling your hormones changes who you are, your sex drive and your emotions. Come off for a couple of months and you should feel a difference. - A My sexual response now compared to when on hormonal birth control (and I tried them all: pill, implanon, mirena, mini-pill) is like night and day. Or should I say rainforest and desert....
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RHP User
11 years ago
I'll stick to coming across women and not water bottles....😝 But if it floats your boat, then I'm right here to lend an encouraging word or two 😊 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
11 years ago
lol
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RHP User
11 years ago
COCONUT OIL
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'whyterabbit' COCONUT OIL Keep mine in the shower... excellent hair treatment and excellent for anal sex.. pressed up against the glass.. yes please - Ann
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RHP User
10 years ago
Advice from an old codger... You just are not into the guys you are fucking... Fingers are for typing at any rate. If you are... which I doubt, get him to rapidly rub the head of his dick between your labials and think of you not his pleasure.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Tearing and pain during sex. Get a referal to a gyno, typically they will prescribe an estrogen pessary, this should help with lubrication and thickening of the vaginal wall, this is only a short termfix and may resolveyour issue. Keep using a good lube as prescribed previously. The mona Lisa touch is a laser treatment that can help as well. Blood flow can help with lubrication so pc muscle training can also help. Good luck, it will get better with a little intervention. Been there to, Love Mrs Funcouplexxx
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RHP User
10 years ago
Have you recently had a baby or are you breastfeeding? I had this while feeding my daughter. I'd see your gp, there are pessaries that may help. - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
1- See your GP if you haven't already, ask for a referral to a gyno and get your box fully serviced. 2- Ditch your boyfriend, sexual needs falling on deaf ears is a Deal-Breaker Ladies!
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RHP User
10 years ago
But hard to resolve.First you need to see a doctor and have tests done as you may have an imbalance.If no result then see a shrink as you might have had a strict upbringing or someissue happened in your life.If this does not resolve the issue you might be just unlucky so carry a purse size lube bottle.Last of all the more you worry the more the issue gets bigger.
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