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No-Shows
July 19 2015
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RHP User
10 years ago
It would be annoying. But it will always happen in. Even if its a simple meet and greet event, not everyone will turn up. Play parties are the same. Cant be avoided, just have to expect it. A friend of mine held a party, confirmed numbers was 12, only 2 showed up. Texts and calls went unanswered but they had all confirmed that morning. Pot luck
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RHP User
10 years ago
or perspective.... We all know you can't make people act with integrity.... So as part of your planning - like a stock controller - allow for shrinkage....pardon the pun 😊 - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
Only happened to us once. A few hours out they txt and cancelled. Thereafter they removed their profile from rhp. Other than that we've been very fortunately as we can't host and can only visit other's house. Once we've obtained their address there is less chance that they can't show up. Lol.
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Huntswingyou
10 years ago
Quoting 'Stirry' or perspective.... We all know you can't make people act with integrity.... So as part of your planning - like a stock controller - allow for shrinkage....pardon the pun 😊 - Posted from rhpmobile LOL, Stirry. Thanks, guys. What you're saying makes sense. It's just something that gives me the sighs. It's like that with any event, really: vanilla or swinging.
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RHP User
10 years ago
The QUEEN of England has a huge bash.. Approximately 1.5% of "Confirmed" do NOT show up...WHY would WE score better??Just saying....
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RHP User
10 years ago
Often you have to assume that 25-30% of people who say will turn up will. There are lots of people who register their interest but have no real intention of coming along. You would be surprised to know how hard it is to get guys to come to a root!
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RHP User
10 years ago
I assume by event you are talking about an actual event, like a drinks night or gang bang, not just meeting up with people for dates.
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rupamohan
10 years ago
Where as most will feel it is courteous to update a plan change. We have to respect diversity who may not agree with this. Some people may feel when they say they will come it means they will come if they can or even if they can remember. Many here may disagree with this attitude but we are comfortable with it. We just want to respect people diversity. If I am organising a meet and expect to be informed any no show. I will make it clear upfront that it is mandatory to inform changes. Failure to do so will be considered not honouring rules of engagement. Please note these are my views I am not trying to judge or suggest how you or others should organise a meet.
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asiacouple
10 years ago
Well, it just happens for all sorts of reasons I guess. The weather, footie, cricket, missus got a last minute date with her BFF, lost of sex mojo, bad day at job, the list goes on. Or maybe people are just scared to show up and meet total strangers, which is more than likely.
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Myjourney
10 years ago
Shit happens! - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
At meet and greets about two-thirds of people who have registered actually turn up, I've learned to take that into account when booking a place.
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Huntswingyou
10 years ago
Yes, I am talking actual play party event. Quoting 'rupamohan' Where as most will feel it is courteous to update a plan change. We have to respect diversity who may not agree with this. Some people may feel when they say they will come it means they will come if they can or even if they can remember. Many here may disagree with this attitude but we are comfortable with it. We just want to respect people diversity. If I am organising a meet and expect to be informed any no show. I will make it clear upfront that it is mandatory to inform changes. Failure to do so will be considered not honouring rules of engagement. Please note these are my views I am not trying to judge or suggest how you or others should organise a meet.
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Huntswingyou
10 years ago
Thanks, guys. That will help me with planning my next event. I'm thinking of stipulating in the ad should people change their minds, or be unable to attend, a note to advise accordingly would be greatly appreciated.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Happens all the time :)
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him_and_me
10 years ago
I know that we've registered our interest in RHP listed events previously but as that often happens weeks in advance...circumstances can change. Is there anyway to remove your "interest" in an event to show that you can no longer attend? We messaged the organisers to let them know we couldn't make one for this weekend just past...but everyone else would have still assumed we were "interested" as I don't think you can take your name off the list. Him - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
Is just that. The hosts will then message those they wish to attend and advise details. I've never charged for my parties, but the last one was limited to 20 people. The couples that I wanted there but I didn't know were asked to prepay $20, that's an incentive to get them there! ! - Posted from rhpmobile
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RHP User
10 years ago
When we host a party everyone invited gets asked to let us know if they cannot attend but it doesn't stop it, we have a party policy that if invitees do not show up twice then they no longer get an invite, cancellations can and will happen to anybody and that cannot be helped.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Not sure about other peoples adverts but ours states that names showing are only an expression of interest in attending and that it is invite only, so it is of no benefit to others looking to see who is attending as that doesn't show but as long as we get a message from people saying they cannot attend that is fine with us.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Quoting 'Huntswingyou'I'm thinking of stipulating in the ad should people change their minds, or be unable to attend, a note to advise accordingly would be greatly appreciated. I'd actually advise you to became paying members, so you can message everyone who has registered individually. You can include details of the event and add that if people don't confirm via message/sms/whatever on the morning of the event, you will assume they have lost interest and remove them from the guest list. (And you won't let anyone not on the list in.)
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RHP User
10 years ago
No-Show 101....pick the right people. 102... qualify their interest when setting plans.... before committing to leaving the house to meet them.
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Taby_DK
10 years ago
I use to be a co-organiser of a ladies only social group on the Gold Coast (dinners, lunches, cocktails nights, adventure actives, day's out and shows etc) let me tell you that no shows are one of the most annoying, frustrating things I have ever encountered, especially when you go out of your way to organise an event and then only half or less of the people who 'guaranteed' they would be there actually show up. It's even worse for booked events we do at restaurants etc when you book a table for a set number or pay a booking fee and then only a few people show up, so you have an angry restaurant manager who put on extra staff to manage your 'large group' and only 4 or 5 people of 20 show up, not cool! Not only that but as the host your also the one being left out of pocket! For this reason I recently stopped being an organiser and am now simply just another member who attends events. I couldn't deal with the stress of trying to organise an event with countless no shows all the time while studying full-time and working. It sort of makes you wonder why people are just so inconsiderate to other people who go out their way to try and help them out/do stuff for them. Also hosted an event on RHP a while back and had the same issue so it's just people in general regardless of what type of event it is. If I can't make an event for any reason I'm always certain to let the host know as soon as i do that I can't attend and I never cancel on the day of an event. Taby x
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newyboy70
10 years ago
Even worse when you book a hotel room and it's a no-show. Few hundred dollars and a heap of time down the drain.
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RHP User
10 years ago
Do you confirm with these people on the day?
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newyboy70
10 years ago
Quoting 'Meander' Do you confirm with these people on the day? Yes, its GUYS only though. They are all keen etc etc and when it comes time to put up or shut up, they can't deliver.
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Huntswingyou
10 years ago
I totally understand where you're coming from, Taby_DK. I don't want to give up on hosting YET, after all, you'll only find success before work in the dictionary! ;-) Yes, it's so inconsiderate if you've organised a restaurant etc. Just wondering if you organise a restaurant, make sure those who registered interest KNOW there is a flow-on effect like extra hospitality staff etc. They probably wouldn't care, if they don't have the courtesy to not let you know they're bailing!
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mikesplace01
10 years ago
It happens all over guys.....i guess its just part of the landscape.....sometimes people have genuine things that come up . I guess its up to them. But I agree manners are always a good thing.
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