No Pressure???

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  RHP User

  16 years ago

  We do not see a problem with the owners comment you both should play, or both should not play. But that is your decision alone not the club owners but give the owner top marks for bringing it up. We have the same rule, we only play couple to couple if one does not play we both dont play. It ruins the atmosphere for us if our approach or invites to play only includes one partner. We feel swinging is about partner swapping, a gang bang is something different. Cheers

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  RHP User

  16 years ago

  Some clubs are destined for success, some customer service providers are good with people.... others not so much. HUgs Stalky

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  RHP User

  16 years ago

  It was in New Zealand (great club called Club SE) and they had a rule "Come as a couple, play as a couple" As I had never seen such a rule I asked the host of the night about it and he explained that because prostitution was legal men would hire a hooker for the night so that they could get in and the hooker would spend all night in the spa or just drinking (over there swingers clubs ruin like normal nightclubs and you can buy alochol). SO the rule was to stop that. We thought it was a bit odd seeing if you are paying a hooker why not just have sex with her???? Anyway the night we were there a guy did come in with a prostitute and yeah she spent a few hours just drinking and having a spa - he played with other couples - all those couple were told that if he was a problem then they would ask him to leave but no one did. I spoke with her and it was a common event. The host of the night also explained that other men will play a female friend to come with him and just sit and drink all night while he played.

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  RHP User

  16 years ago

  Clubs are clubs & hopefully are all a bit different. Some are crap some are heaven. At least you found out before going & had the chance to decide for yourself. We went to a club where it was couples & ladies night. But after paying & entering were told that special singles guys were allowed in ( because they paid extra) It didnt really bother us, ....hahaha always up for fun. BUT: it really was a case of paying to go in & enjoy our time as we had decided, then Debbie being asked to attend to single guys as the operator of the place wanted to make $$$$. Piss off unpaid prostitution was not our choice of role play! XXXXX

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  RHP User

  16 years ago

  I'm assuming it was a couples club?? The reason why they have this rule is cos too many women go along just to keep hubby happy. At the Sydney "Couples Club" and I think also at "The lotus Lounge" the male can not be in the playing area unless his wife/partner is there. Whether or not she actually plays is up to her, I guess, but there can not be the male in the playing area without the female and perhaps this club owner really meant that. Who knows??

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  RHP User

  16 years ago

  Hey guys .. I guess the way it was communicated to you was a little harsh - maybe as a business owner the individual should learn how to pass on their rules without sounding aggressive or judgemental.As for the rule itself it is really only to protect couples who don't want single guys dragging a female along simply so they can get in then abandoning her after entry .. many couples (not us by the way) have issue with unaccompanied guys being around while playing as they feel pressure from them.The club's motivation may be ok.. but many pass on this rule with no delicacy. We know of couple of organisers of nights in Melbourne who are not known for being very diplomatic .. it harms their revenue at the end of the day even if they feel they are doing the right thing.It rarely is the message one is passing on that upsets .. but how it's done can upset anyone if done without thought.

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  RHP User

  16 years ago

  Tastietwo, sorry if I offend but what a load of bollocks. I'm a voyeur and my girl loves the attention. If I feel in the mood and attracted to the female I will play. I won't take one for the team just to make my girl happy and she won't take one for me either. We would like to think we have a little more appreciation for ourselves. It's not always possible to get four people with mutual attraction either. I have different tastes than my partner, but I would not stop her from having fun because I'm not attracted to the female. I'm more than happy to hold the camera.Couple play can have many variations, it does not have a set rule of each partner has to be involved in actual fucking.

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  RHP User

  16 years ago

  Taking one for the team we will not do, and would not expect another couple to do either. It only leads to dissapointment. We dont have expectations of "that perfect couple either" we both have to like, if we dont play with others that is no big deal we have each other to play with. Clubs offer swings etc that can be fun as well as both of us watching others. But not having a string of guys chasing the girls with partners, (which is what the rule is trying to prevent) for us it has to be couples approach or a couples invitation. Too often we come across couples then we get asked how about a mfm, and also been asked by the other couple for a mfm. Our responce is allways we only play as a couple with equal play/ interaction / rules for the four of us. We have no ambition for just one of us to play while the other watches or hold a camera. We like to watch each other/ all 4 playing in one hot encounter.....swinging Cheers

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  RHP User

  16 years ago

  I really don't think that the club you were going to visit, literally meant she had to play. What they probably meant was that they don't like couples where the wife doesn't go into the play area at all and stays in the bar/lounge while hubby does go to the play area. They want you both in the play area.

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  redhotozz

  15 years ago

  Quoting 'unreal22000'Clubs are clubs & hopefully are all a bit different. Some are crap some are heaven. At least you found out before going & had the chance to decide for yourself. We went to a club where it was couples & ladies night. But after paying & entering were told that special singles guys were allowed in ( because they paid extra) It didnt really bother us, ....hahaha always up for fun. BUT: it really was a case of paying to go in & enjoy our time as we had decided, then Debbie being asked to attend to single guys as the operator of the place wanted to make $$$$. Piss off unpaid prostitution was not our choice of role play! XXXXX

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  RHP User

  15 years ago

  We have been and watched this happen ...... oh what happen you say ...... hubby brings along wife or even girlfriend and we have also seen what I am still very sure was a guy bringing along a prostitute for the night at clubs! (yeah go figure why not just get a root and be off??????) It can be annoying for other so I can understand ...... random bloke coming along inviting himself into a group .... I have seen other men hit them up " Where your partner mate " ??? They roam around touching and trying a bit here and there while girlfriend/wife/partner who has no intent or even interest in being there sit by herself in the bar ! We also saw it happen why a couple of very noisy guys rocked up and were really rude and inappropriate saying offensive things to couples women etc ..... "oh sure you'd fuck that" was one such comment ! While dolly bird girlfriends sat in the corner of the bar. So we understand to an extent its gotta be sexy its gotta be fun ....... but yes it can be confronting Brae and sexy miss sarah !

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