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  kenetic

  5 years ago

  up grade your membership and you can explore more profiles, send messages and chat with other members about your desires and kinks

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  SpicyKale

  5 years ago

  If you're up for meeting new people, try a meet'n'greet or club when everything is open again. Kids can make organising a bit harder, it can also put pressure on you to play straight up, just hold your ground until you're comfortable with your new friends. Just being in a sexy environment can be a fun start and you might find what you're looking for in the process. We find that meeting for a quick coffee or wine during the day while there kids are at school works for us. Doesn't work for everyone, but a lot don't work 9-5 these days. Adding shiftwork to the equation is even worse.... we only get the chance to indulge occasionally, there's no rush!

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  Tall74nHard9

  5 years ago

  Also fill in a few blanks in your profile. People generally hate a row of "ask me" filled in on profiles - let others know a bit more about you. Tall

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  RHP User

  5 years ago

  It will happen, we have all had some false starts as well, probably add a bit more to your profile, have a look at other peoples profiles and what they have written. If your looking at other profiles, which ones strike your interest? We all try and create some interest with our profile to start with. Good luck its a fun lifestyle

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  teamaj2

  5 years ago

  Andrewclare Be patient , be cautious and follow your gut instincts . If you ever feel alarms bells or discomfort during chat , don’t feel bad about ceasing the chat . False starts and a slow burn I think is normal . As spicy suggested a party or club is a good way to be amongst like minded people and get a feel for the lifestyle . There is never any pressure to play . We have met some great people , whom we remain friends with , by attending a regular event . We’ve learnt a lot from others thru chat . As time goes on and you get a feel for what you seek it is best to give a bit more information in the profile . Even stating dislikes , likes , the fact you are time poor with kids etc . For example - we can only meet Saturday nights . As it’s early days , you maybe unsure exactly what you seek . Always go at your own pace , don’t be pressured to meet , play or do anything you are not comfortable with . Good luck and enjoy the ride .

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  RHP User

  5 years ago

  Getting to events are the best way, that’s where you meet genuine people. You don’t have to partake in activities, if there are any, you fo whatever you feel comfortable with. It’s a great way to meet people and discover what you want to try first...

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  RHP User

  5 years ago

  would suggest a little more detail on profile ... might help people with similar interests find you.we have also gone with the attitude of when its meant to happen ... it will. when we have rushed things its usually not turned out how we may have liked

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